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Is it stupid to go to college to try and make friends? And is it gay for me as a straight man to prefer hanging around women and want female friends for non sexual reasons?
>>16615985
No and no.
If you have smart guy friends they would encourage you to have more girl as friends.
>Is it stupid to go to college to try and make friends?
Kinda if that's all you're going to college for instead of furthering your education.
>And is it gay for me as a straight man to prefer hanging around women and want female friends for non sexual reasons?
Absolutely not. I have a lot of girl friends and even gay friends whom I get along really well with and don't want to have sex with them at all. It's fine.
Anyone ever have a warrant for them for an unpaid moving violation?
Long story short my defensive driving online course is not gonna be in by the due date and everyone I've asked says I'll have a warrant within the week. Can I just pay that shot off or as soon as I go into a court will I be arrested?
why dont you ask a cop or something, theyll just be glad you were honest
>Turning 24 in a week
>graduated uni, so I won't be around that many people as often anymore since I moved back home to my small town
>kissless virgin
>never been in a relationship before
Should I be worried? I feel like in the grand scheme of things I'm still young but I don't want to develop some sort of perma-wall for myself.
I'm overweight, but I'm not socially devoid. I can go up and talk to girls just fine...
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>>16615973
>Should I be worried?
Yes. It's the end of the world being a kiss less virgin at age 24.
Do I have ugly writing? How do I improve?
>>16615915
Are you writing chemistry in fucking Arabic?
>>16615938
It's English
>>16615947
You can't fool me. Probably building nukes to fuck up America.
How the fuck do I land an IT Tech position? This past year I have gone to maybe half a dozen different interviews and I have one this Wednesday at a local hospital that was set up for me by a recruiter. Aside from all the standard shit, what should I do?
Besides dressing for the position, getting a haircut and what not you should also NOT GIVE A SHIT ABOUT THE OUTCOME. Have many interviews lined up so if you don't get that one then not to worry!
Most importantly, you have to get along with the interviewer (your potential boss). This is so important I cannot stress it enough, everything else is secondary, i.e. you can train someone up, but if you can't work and get along with them everything else is much harder.
>>16615904
Also, recruiters aren't looking for your best interest. Only you do. They only do it for commission.
Find a job you actually want to go for. It will show in the interview.
It's all in how you sell yourself, OP. You've gotta give them a REASON to hire you! You've gotta have something that makes you sparkle among the the other rubble to catch their eye.
What have you done for your community? What super cool plan do you have in mind that not only improves you - but benefits the company as well?
What can you offer to them that no other loser before or after you can do?
How's your presentation? Updated and eye-pleasing resume format? Do you look like a fat slob in penny loafers, or do you look like you got your...
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My bf wanted hardly to break up with me 6 months ago. I cried, he decided to give me a chance.. But something has changed.
I was so in love with him and caring.
Now recently I was more distant and he seems to be more kind. Today he got angry with me, thursday it's new year, you think I should wait if he calls me back (generally I am calling him back and he needs coaxing)?
If he didn't it means he didn't care?
>>16615888
Honestly, he's probably not thinking about you at all right now. Other people have their own lives; things that seem important or significant to you are meaningless to them.
If I can ask, why did he want to break up with you before? That's probably the key to understanding his behavior.
>>16615901
He said I was unbearable, I was complaining for nothing and criticizing all the time (it was true but he is like me xD)
Now I'm not the same, I changed for him, I don't know if it was enough :/
when you're in a relationship, you both have to be the one calling the other (metaphorically; you need to put in the effort).
Otherwise, break up.
Now it's about a year ago that i registred an account on a certain dating site, and i still haven't had any success with it, besides.. i got a new friend.
I've realized it's adhering to the definition of madness. Im trying the same thing over and over again, expecting different results.
Time to give it all up, like forever?
>>16615881
Online dating is shit unless you're hot. Just ask girls out awkwardly IRL until you meet one who pities you enough to go out with you. That's what I'm doing.
I've had my dating site profile up for about two weeks now, and haven't made any progress at all. However, I think that is to be expected knowing how dating sites work for each gender.
Dating sites are really a supplement to real dating and encounters, not a replacement. It's something meant to fill in the cracks of an already active dating life.
If you're anything like me, it's all you have right now so it feels like failure. But it isn't, the odds are stacked against you right from the start, so why fret? People aren't horribly...
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>>16615881
people need to learn to just be content in life and just be open to something that might happen.
if you arent happy in life why would anyone (man or woman) want to date you? they dont want to be something you cling to in order to give their life meaning. the best thing you can do in life is enjoy it. other people like to enjoy things other people are enjoying.
hey /adv/. i don't know what to do. i dated this girl for a month up until this morning and she was recovering from a mentally abusive guy previously. she loved me so much, i loved her more than anything. the sex was so good, i wanted to be her husband, she wanted to be my wife. her asshole ex texted her and she left, saying she loves me but loves him more and they have "history". i feel like killing myself, and there is no one as perfect as her for me. how do i get her back?
>>16615879
> the sex was so good, i wanted to be her husband
not the only one that can give it to you like that.
that's a guarantee bro.
you've been pussy wiped. your not in love, your just infatuated because of good pussy. go out and get laid. watch, she'll fade away.
>>16615884
no you fuck, the relationship was more than sex. everything we had was mutual and in sync. our tastes, hobbies, everything. i had already lost my virginity at this point, to another girl, so i'm not pussy wiped, and if i wasnt so insular i bet i could get lots of sex. we were in love, no doubt about it.
>>16615879
It was a month bro. You need to chill. How do you know that you two could have been compatible long term? I'm sure that she is a nice girl and all but if she left you to be with another guy she's not the one for you.
I want to get some other perspectives on my situation.
We have been dating for over a year now.I was friend-zoned at the start but broke out of it. Throughout the relationship I've often felt cheated when she would ignore my texts and communications with the excuse of being busy with school. In the past couple weeks I've had a theory that this girl uses me to support her emotional needs and makes time for me when she feels like it.
Last night we had a small argument and as usual she dismissively insulted me and then left saying she was "tired"...
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This is what happens when you're 'friendzoned but break out of it'. She's always going to be less invested in the relationship than you are, because she wasn't all that enthusiastic about dating you in the first place. She's not going to care if you break up with her
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>>16615872
>She's not going to care if you break up with her
The relationship was a lot more involved than I've summarized in my post, and I'm pretty confident that she will care. If she doesn't it will be easier for me to get over after... first girlfriend and 22 by the way.
>>16615883
Well in that case, she's not going to be as broken up about it as you're hoping she will be.
Y does everytime i want to write a comment i have to do a goddamn captcha??
To protect the site from spam and other unwanted shit. And to shill 4chan passes so that newmoot can bath in your money. If you don't like captcha, buy a 4chan pass or leave.
>>16615867
Well, okay, guess i'll have to accept it then
>Bored, decide to use tinder
>Looking for sex not relationship
>Match a girl with massive boobs
>start talking to her, decide to meet
>Go to a bar, drink all day, talk, play pool
>end up hooking up with her on a pool table
>She pushes her boobs in my face and talks about them openly
>She admits that shes had alot of sexual partners, has mostly guy friends and basically likes dressing up in naughty outfits or just outright being naked basically every red flag in my book
>Date ends, dont get sex
>Says I can contact her the next day
>Next morning she sdnapchats me her number and says to call her aytime during the day
>Do so and say I can come over later in the arvo
>Shes says ok
>On the way there txt and then cal her. She doesn't answer
>Txts an hour later and says an emergency as occured and she cant make it
Its not day 3 and she has invited me out to drinks with her again this arvo but with her friends. I usually dont give this much rope especially considering I just wanted sex but Im seriously attracted to her and Ive already kissed her quite passionately and embraced her. Should I quit? You miss 100% of shots you dont take yeah true but then again Im not being a 3rd wheel meal ticket for some slag because shes ran out of money and wants free drinks and validation.
>>16615837
she sounds like a dirty hoe
stop putting in effort, or do whatever you want desu
>>16615837
If you're just looking for sex, drop this. Look for others in the mean while.
>>16615837
Ide also like to add that she gave me her number via snapchat the day after our date. Its not like she gave it to me at the end of the date or gave me a fake one so she could just get away from me. And she expressively asked me to contact her. However I did maybe detect a vibe of cold feet in her voice and was not surprised when she said something was up and couldn't make it. However why would she call me this morning and ask me out if she wasn't interested?
Ive been lead on by girls before and...
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As a guy, if I meet a girl and we hit it off and go on a date, I get a little excited. I tell my friends and shit about her when I hang with them.
I dont jump the gun or anything, but I have a very active mind, I think about everything, consider every angle and option.
Now, I dont date people for no reason. If I date a girl, if I even ask her out, its because I like her. I already have feelings for her. I wanna get to know her
So if we date a few times, then it doesnt quite work out, and we dont become a thing. Im fine with it. I can deal, Im a good looking...
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>>16615820
What is love if baby dont hurt me no more... jk op you seem a bit too romantic for today standards
>>16615840
I dont mean to be. Im a very Apragmatic person. I guess I just see the world as more dramatic and exciting/romantic than it actually is
>>16615840
>>16615851
I just dont understand where you draw the line
Either romance and love and feelings and all that shit are all real and alive and well and we're all on some sort of quest to find our one true love and share a magical connection
Or we're all a bunch of apes humping each other and hanging out for shared shelter and warmth and food.
Wheres the happy medium?
I'm gay but my parents don't know and i want to tell them, but they hate gays.
Any ideas on what i should do?
>>16615794
They'll find out once you get herpes.
Tell em stop being a pussy your their son they will most likely will love you and if they dont fuck em
>>16615794
Just act like a normal guy. Keep your faggotry in the bedroom. If you want to suck cocks, dont do it publicly. Dont wear heels and skirts.
Is it normal to be tweaked/agitated during an anxiety attack?
I was thinking about really puny things like happiness and mild existentialism, but it's always happening for no apparent reason.
My heart is racing really fast, I'm feeling sick right now.
I can`t calm down, I'm having an anxiety attack and I have no reason to.
I feel like I'm gonna die from a heart failure or something.
I'm feeling too agitated to go sleep, it's been 5 hours now.
It's always happening for no apparent reason.
Any tips on how to calm...
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>>16615780
Play a videogame, always helps me, or at least most of the times.
>>16615780
Do you mind sharing what was this traumatic event? It's perfectly normal having these feelings. Panic and anxiety attacks induce extreme fear in your heart. You have to reach for love, Anon. You need more love in your life. Or maybe you do have love in your life but you can't feel it. Respect yourself enough to cut the bad ties off of your life and embrace what really is dear to you.
And when you say there is no reason...well, there is always a reason for these type of situations. Don't ignore your...
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>>16615780
OP, a therapist might be able to help you figure this one out. Other than that, for immediate relief, you could try playing Tetris for a good hour. The game is proven to inhibit the formation of traumatic memories.
/adv/ I have a problem my boyfriend won't let me play wow because I should answer the door for the pizza guy when he gets here but I really really want to play wow. wut do? Also if the info helps at all he's playing some stupid games while browsing 4chan so is he just being a lil bitch?
>>16615764
>Playing WoW
>2030-15
I don't blame him.
