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Wonder if a normal wristband would work?
>>16614763
You could use not wearing an apple watch to cover up your apple watch. Or cut off both of your wrists entirely.
>>16614796
Alright so there's one idea. Anyone else?
Don't wear a faggy apple watch if you want to hide it.
I've been considering moving to Debian or Ubuntu for a while now (from Windows 10) and the latest update which borked a bunch of stuff made me want to drop Windows right away.
At first I had intended to set up Debian but after playing around a bit with a live CD I found that it wasn't as intuitive as I thought it would be so I went with Ubuntu with the classic Gnome look (Gnome Flashback).
Anyway, even though I've tried quite a few distros via live CD's I've never actually installed anything and I'm a bit confused about how to partition...
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The installer has "advanced options" which do this exact thing.
>>16614756
>From my understanding all of the software ends up under /home by default
wrong. /home has your user configurations and the files you save in your home directory
to keep it simple: most software ends up in /usr
>Can I place /home on a different drive than the rest of the Ubuntu installation?
yes. you can put every directory on a different drive if you want to.
>tl;dr Can I place /home on a different drive than the rest of the Ubuntu installation?
yes
But if your SSDs are that damn big then I don't see why you WOULD do that; might as well just leave everything to defaults and stick your actual crap onto the HDD manually. The only thing you need to avoid doing is saving everything you see directly onto your desktop, which you should avoid doing anyway. Set your web browser to "always ask me where to save files" and save them to the HDD.
I think my confidence correlates with how my hair looks.
If my hair looks like shit, I feel like shit, but if it's looking great, then I'm more confident and I think people can notice it. My hair essentially makes or breaks my confidence.
Is there a way to fix this? I can get regular haircuts, but it's expensive and my barber doesn't always get my haircut right which makes me feel like shit again.
Wear a hat.
>>16614714
That guy does have cool hair. Dresses like a retired gay man though.
>>16614719
Hats look like shit on me, must be my face shape.
I have memories from when I was 5 years old (or somewhere around that age) of my brother (9 years older than me) waking me up in the middle of the night and telling me to come sleep in his bed. I also remember him telling me that I shouldn't tell mom and dad that he was making me do this. I blacked out anything else that happened, if anything did happen.
Now I am 28 and have deep emotional issues, especially regarding sex.
Is it possible my brother was molesting me?
Is there any way to find out? The accusation is so drastic, it's not like I could just bring...
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Totally possible. Sounds like your brain blocked it. Are you a virgin OP?
>>16614710
It's completely possible that you could have undergone something traumatic like your brother molesting you and your brain, unable to deal with it, blocked it out. I would try maybe seeing a therapist of some sort and getting yourself into some intense therapy to really try and break down the barriers to see if anything's there (which it definitely sounds like something's there). Don't go to your brother about this. Like you said, that's a very dramatic accusation and of course he'll...
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It's quite possible but there is no certain way to know. It could be that at some point you regain memories, but basically all therapy aimed at actively recovering memories gained a bad reputation for causing fictional memories. The human brain is extremely sensitive to suggestion and our memory is very much fallible. We usually just don't realize how much detail in our memories is incorrect. I am sure pretty much everyone has that one vivid memory that they factually know cannot be what truly happened... those are rare cases in which you realize that it is a reconstruction...
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Not sure where to turn, but I need advice so I guess this board will do.
Anyone have any knowledge of where I can purchase an oud from a reputable buyer (also preferably within the US or even Canada)?
There's a big Middle Eastern community in northern NJ so I tried Googling instrument sellers in that region (particularly the city of Paterson). ArabInstruments.com is apparently based out of the area and seems to have a wide selection. Ultimately though I'd never advocate buying an instrument without being there in person to check it out. Only one of my instruments was ever bought online and sure enough it was the one that needed repair within weeks out of the box.
>>16614707
Mah niggah! Ouds are cool. What ethnicity are you?
Can't help you there, though, sorry. Have you tried /mu/?
>>16614990
I'm white lol but I enjoy Middle Eastern music and I've been playing guitar for five years so I figured I could try this out. I tried /mu/ but they don't have any suggestions beyond ebay.
I hate my mother as a person with a passion, but love her because she's my mother.
She fucks her boyfriend for money, does drugs, is promiscuous, can't control her spending, always victimizes herself and is generally a disgusting person.
But then she comes to me with all this motherly love and "I'm proud of you" sentimental nonsense and I can't bring myself to completely lash out at her.
I've sat her down and talked about how I hate what I hate about her, but she usually just says things that suggest she's going to...
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Leave.
Once your mother notices you'll move on without her, it may ignite something in her.
>>16614697
No matter how much regret you think you'll feel when she passes if you leave now, the amount of turmoil and hatred she'll put you through until she does pass if you stay will be even worse. She's your mother, yes, but it's time for you do everything you can to get the hell out of there until she can actually straighten up herself.
She is a person with her own life. Live your own life too.
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help please.
my mom is 57 and she's getting worse. she can fool her doctor (only sees for an hour a month on average) and friends she only sees every few months. but for us adult children, we see that she is mentally unstable. she always has to have an enemy. always has to have something to gripe about. tries to control us and the grandkids. she even gets violent at times. her tongue cuts like a razor covered in bile and acid. she refuses to admit she is ever wrong, or that she is the one causing grief unprovoked. even when she was younger and went into bitch mode once a month, she refused to admit she had PMS, now she refuses to admit that she has been or is now suffering from menopause. she lays on the couch in the common area of the house even though she has a room and bed.
tl;dr: how do i get someone who NEEDS mental help but claims not to need it?
i'm in Indiana, USA.
>>16614692
If you know for a fact she's fooling her doctor, try to get in there and talk to the doctor yourself so they know exactly what is going on.
Speaking from experience, you can only help someone if they want that help. But being mentally ill (if she is at all mentally ill) can fool you into thinking you actually have everything under control and you don't need help, when if fact you need help the most. I don't want to say forcefully commit her, mostly because she, being an adult, I don't...
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>>16614706
would her DR talk to me?
dr/patient confidentiality and all...
>>16614717
Her doctor wouldn't be able to tell you what they've talked about with your mother, but you can still go to them and tell them how your mother is actually doing, opposed to how she's been fooling them. You're not there to find out what they're talking about, you're there to tell the doctor the truth and nothing more.
How do i get a girlfriend?
No female friends, and no women at my workplace either. Im studying electric engineering, so no chicks there either
>>16614677
Dating websites and bars. Get out a little more. You might meet someone at a market. Go find them, don't wait for them to come to you.
>>16614689
How do you even meet someone in a market ?
>>16614722
I dunno. I was just spit-balling ideas.
My faggot collegues keeps inviting me to pointless activities in workplace. How can I avoid it?
>>16614633
Have you tried saying "I'm not into activities like that"? Or maybe the ever popular "No thank you"?
>>16614633
Gosh you sound like a great guy.
>>16614635
Yes. They roll their eyes.
Can you have a negative balance on PayPal? I ordered something that should have put me in the negative and it was shipped too, but then I deposited 30 bucks to make up for it and now my balance just says 30 bucks.
>>16614600
What I'm thinking is that Paypal and the site you ordered from hasn't had enough time to properly smooth out the transaction yet.
>>16614617
Seeing how it was already on it's way to my country before I deposited the amount to paypal, could that really be it?
>>16614670
Sometimes online transactions might take a while to process, especially when there are hiccups like your situation, or they're running maintenance. How long has it been since the first original transaction was made, and how long has it been since you deposited the 30 bucks?
All right, so I'm gay (yeah yeah, fag and blah blah blah) and my best friend is straight. We were having a conversation about how another friend of ours parents got divorced and then it segued into a talk about marriage. He told me supports gay people but doesn't support gay marriage. He said, "Listen, I don't care if you wanna hold hands with guys or anything, but getting married and showing it off to the world seems a little unnecessary." I immediately thought it was a hypocritical stance to take and I tried telling him that but he wouldn't listen....
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>Is there any way I can make him see how much of an idiot he's being?
Not really. Not when in his head, he's probably thinking the exact same thing about you.
You're never going to convince anyone of anything dealing from a place of moral indignation, superiority, or anger. Putting someone on the defensive is by far the most counter-productive thing you can do while trying to persuade them. Sympathy is often the most successful route.
>>16614634
>Sympathy is often the most successful route.
I misspoke. Empathy is often the most successful route.
And for empathy to work, you need to actually be willing.
>>16614634
So it sounds like I might have reached a stalemate with him then.
I have been working part-time as a groundskeeper for a beachside estate these past few months. The work is easy, I can pick my own hours, and the boss is very friendly.
There is just one problem: the neighbor's monstrous black pitbull.
The boss usually stays at one of his other properties and while he is away, that beast of a dog wanders over to the estate.
I have already told the boss about the dog and he said he would speak to the neighbor.
However, these last few days, the dog has been wandering over again. This is unsurprising as there are no...
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>>16614586
Well if the dog doesn't come after you when you go to the beach, it doesn't seem to want to attack you. It sounds like that since there aren't any fences or barriers around, that it might just happen to think your property is its territory. Maybe try telling your neighbor again, and if that doesn't work and you really feel like the dog is gonna attack you one day, or it actually does attack you one day, carry some pepper spray or something. I dunno.
In this situation a good stout stick is your best friend. Pepper spray is your buddy who occasionally pitches in. Nothing else required. If the dog attacks you then you hit the fucker and possibly spray it. Anybody gives you trouble for it, like the neighbor or the home owner you bring up the possibility of a lawsuit against one or both of them for endangerment and negligence.
Bam. I just solved your problem.
I really don't understand a fear of dogs. Have you people just never been around them or what? He's just checking you out, he's not going to rip your throat out. Bring a tennis ball or some shit. Then you have a new dog friend and you don't look like a huge fucking pussy.
so my brother plays guitar and over the years i've picked up a handful of chords and can play a decent amount of stuff. I got going on the ukulele and that's p easy but v limited and i want to learn music theory. what's the best way to go about this?
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>>16614585
Learn scales, intervals, and keys. Learn strumming patterns. Learn where the notes are on your fretboard and what notes make up a chord. Learn to transpose.
>>16614585
Here is a nice training tool:
https://www.musictheory.net/exercises
I'm a 19 year fat virgin with no really friends or social life, my problem is that I'm loud childish and I like to be different I'm very sweet hearted (i always put other people interest before mine) but i really want to change any advice videos I can watch or books I can read that will help me
>>16614584
>Lose weight
>Start putting yourself before others
>Grow up
Easy.
>>16614605
You're at the wrong age to be putting others before yourself so often. You're allowed to be a little selfish in that regard. Work on yourself. If you feel fat, go exercise. If you think you're loud and childish and you don't like that about yourself, recognize when you are actually being loud and childish and work towards changing that.
While I would recommend a life coach on Youtube named Maire Dubuque (she's an older white woman, but she says some pretty good things about relationships...
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>>16614632
thanks Anon.
Does anyone know what the average cost of an orthopedic surgery would cost with insurance? I know this is highly variable depending on type of operation and type of health insurance, but I just wanted a decent idea of what I'd be paying.
I'm wanting to get a reconstructive surgery done on my foot since I have pes cavus. In addition to reconstruction, they need to alleviate a contracture in my leg.
I'd presumably be in the hospital for a day or two then in a cast + leg brace for 6-12 months.
Any estimates how much that might cost?
I...
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It will cost your deductible.
