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I've dropped out of college a while ago and I can't buy things for myself around family because they get triggered and go on a rant about how everything I do should be for my parent and shit like that.
I understand the situation I'm in but I also understand that having entertainment and responsibilities/paying debts aren't mutually exclusive. How should I deal with this?
If you're leeching off them and using what little money you have on things you don't need, then they're in the right. Start taking responsibility for yourself
get a job
>I also understand that having entertainment and responsibilities/paying debts aren't mutually exclusive
I dropped out of Uni to pursue full-time programming on my own. I'm not making any money, yet, so I'm currently leeching off of my parents, since the little savings I had have run out. I spend all of my money on food. The only entertainment I have is going out with friends. The last time I bought anything for myself was more than a year ago.
My advice is: understand the position you're in and live accordingly....
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> Be me. 19, Semi-Chad in College.
> Living in Toronto, Canada
> Grown up playing sports to gain the respect of my father
> Unsatisfied with my current life. Really want to pursue my passion
Acting.
> Mom thinks I should follow my dreams despite not having any experience in the field.
>Dad calls me a faggot and says to get a real job in the trades or in health care.
What do? Do I continue in college and become another drone in society with a respectable pay and average life? Or do I give this thing a shot. Any advice or experience with this type of situation would be greatly appreciated.
Help me, your my only hope.
>Do I continue in college and become another drone in society
sounds like you already made your decision
You either have a choice of following what you want and it leading to success or failure and moving on, or not even trying and living the rest of your life unfulfilled. You know what you want to do.
Just know that the reason people are successful is because they work harder than everyone else. We always see the surface of success but we never see the grind. Just know that if you want to succeed in such a competitive field that it will take a lot of determination and strife.
>>16612858
It's hard. You always here of success stories of troubled people becoming multi millionaire stars. But most do work at it. Im confident in my ability to work hard and persevere, but I think living near Toronto is going to limit my exposure. I just hope I have the tools I need to succeed and I dont disappoint my family along the way.
I needed an opinion and I got one. Thank you. I needed to hear that.
Why do I fear and/or hate approaching and talking to strangers so much?
Is it just my introversion?
Like, I can talk fine with a stranger but, I rather not. When I'm out getting groceries I will find what I'm looking for by myself, or not find it at all, I won't ask a store clerk if they have it at all.
I've been thinking about this cause I feel it might be one of the many factors as to why I can't get a gf. I won't approach anyone, and I don't go to places where I might be approached, which totally kills my chances, or so it feels.
Sounds like you're just blaming a convenient scapegoat to me
Ok so, I've never been in a relationship with a guy, only girls, I'm just not emotionally attracted to guys, but I am towards girls, and there's no current doubt about that. I have though, met up with, and hooked up with other guys and actually really enjoyed it. Granted I do feel a little wierd afterwords because for the most part I would consider myself to be straight. I would though, and have, considered meeting up with guys again because I did like it. So, my question is, am I just horny and willing to have sex with anyone, or is this just the beginning of...
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>>16612817
>hook up with guys
>consider yourself straight
Sorry, man, you're bi at the very least.
If you really need a label, then you can delve into the clusterfuck that is LGBTQIA+wtfidk, but I don't think that really matters to you. Some of people that do delve into such matters separate sexuality and romantic interests. You would probably describe yourself as pansexual or bisexual, but hetereoromantic. Heteroromantic bisexual. Bisexual but hetero-amorous. I don't know, pick a term you like. Google if you want to learn more. Sexuality and romantic interests don't have to be perfectly aligned, so split them and tada! You have a shitty explanation only 25%...
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>>16612817
This sounds a lot like me around 3 years ago (I'm 21 now).
You sound bisexual to me. If the cravings for sex with men were only done once and you were not horny thinking about it again, then that would be a different situation. But you state you have done so numerous times, and would like to again.
Embrace it!
I met this girl through a hookup service... Ended up being pretty cool and have been on many dates since. This girl is in my mind a lot.
The only thing is, I have these thoughts that I'm being played and it won't work out in the end so why try hard. You'll get hurt in the end.
I'm a realistic person so I feel these thoughts are accurate but they're bringing me down lol. Sort of worried it might be a negative way to be thinking of a relationship like this (as something serious, or in a way as if it's doomed).
youre afraid of failure and rejection so you attempt to rationalize that you are being played by this girl to mitigate the pain if it ever ends badly
you need to understand that rejection is a normal aspect of life
What does friendship feel like? It's been so long since I've had anything resembling friends, I don't even remember the feeling. How is it? What does it feel like?
Dunno , I haven't had friends since elementary school, and even then they were more like acquaintances.. Is there supposed to be some kind of special feeling associated with friendship? I thought being friends just meant you hung out a lot with someone and stuff.
sounds like you fags went to a big city school with so many people that they never really established a real connection
It feels like nothing. Only emptiness. Just like everything else in life.
Hi adv im 18 years old and ive always enjoyed masturbation and I masturbated a lot. One day I just lost the feeling of any pleasure and just ejaculated without any feel of orgasm which is not a big deal but now I got a girl and I just dont feel anything until the orgasm and i just lack sex drive, what do? Im currently trying not to jerk of anymore.
Just stop jerking it dude, a guy in his teen years should try to avoid ejaculating more than once every three days. When you turn twenty, four days.
Also avoid porn. When you masturbate, if you have to, use your imagination. Go through the process of sex in your head. Think of kissing your gf, taking her clothes off, etc.
You should only ejaculate if you have too much sexual energy to handle, like if you feel like you'd cum just going down on your gf. If you do it right, you should be able to get a blowjob or go jack off then be able to get hard again within...
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Started/changed any medications?
Depressed?
>>16613256 I never needed any medications so I never used them and I was depressed as a kid but last few years Im feeling pretty good.
Hi /adv/
It's the first time I am posting here.
27 yo NEET here.
Wanting to turn my life around.
Lurking /fit/ been regular at the gym for 5 weeks now
Lurking /ck/ and started eating healthy.
It's a long road and I have to take it.
>I am not interested in doing anything. Literally nothing I don't even wanna play video games and when I do, I am not invested in the game.
How do I change that? how do I motivate myself to do anything. I don't understand.
It's definitely...
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>>16612747
bump
if youre going to the gym and eating healthy i would say thats a good start
now start working
>>16612869
I am returning to uni. Classes start next month. But I don't know if I will be able to concentrate. I tried it 2 years ago and dropped out because ... I am literally motivated at nothing :(
How do you let go of pain?
>>16612712
How pain let you go?
>>16612712
By sniffing heroin.
Hey /adv/. I need some advice. I've been friends with this guy long-distance for four years. We started dating September 4th. We're engaged now. Yes, I know, this is fast. The thing is, we live in two separate countries. He's British, I'm American. I know that I'm going to have to meet his parents at some point, maybe within the next few months, and I'm scared shitless. How do you make a good impression, especially with our situation?
>>16612615
Be kind, have outstanding manners, bring a small token of appreciation to give them if they invite you to their home. A baked good, flowers, something like that. Being that they are foreign, you have an opportunity to research what is culturally appropriate/expected in such a gift. You may not think there's a big difference between UK and USA, but you'd be surprised how oddly different customs are in each.
Generally just be excited to see them, extremely gracious and kind and you'll be fine.
>>16612615
Just basic manners and friendliness are all you need, really. Eye-contact, smiling, hand-shakes or hugs, being happy to converse with them and getting to know them, always offering to help with whatever is going on, ect.
Why does this turn me on so much? I'm a straight male but I love stud lesbians.
Do you know for sure she even is a lesbian? I know straight girls who look like that.
>I work at a gym
>>16612604
>I'm a straight male
>>16612604
Probably because there are still some decently-sized/shapely boobs, as well as a clearly feminine face. If she looked like a bulldyke in the face with some floppy/gross titties, you'd likely feel different about it.
I'm a 22 year old male going out on a coffee date with a 37 year old woman soon. At first I had the whole "I want to fuck a MILF" mindset but she honestly seems like a fun person to be around. Perhaps a little immature for her age, which I like. Seems to have a lot of energy.
What should we talk about? I went out with a 47 year old once and it was awful because we couldn't relate life experiences at all. How do you date an older woman?
>>16612592
just be yourself faggot. I dated a 31 year old when I was 22, and it honestly felt normal. The age difference never became noticeable. Just treat her like you would treat anybody else.
If you really like her let her know, and romance her the way you should. She'll fall head over heels if you show her the love that she's been missing in her life. godspeed anon.
>>16612592
i guess i never really worried about relating with my exs. im 23 now and most of my partners up til now have been between 27 and 32 years old. we never had to relate about life experiences cuz we could still talk about them. i think thats important in general. i think its the reason homosexuals throw bitch fits. they act like they can only relate to gay characters.
you dont need to relate to someone through a shared experience. you can hear their experience and understand it.
either way, me and...
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>>16612592
how do you meet milfs bro? seriously, I love milfs, but it's hard to meet them
So I got a Toshiba and for some reason the camera doesn't work on skype. How do I keep it turned on?
An pretty close friend of mine (she probably initiated conversation more than I did) stopped starting conversations with me a few weeks ago and outright ignored me a few days ago (last I tried to contact her).
What should I do? Wait a while and contact her again, or just leave her alone and be like pic related unless she goes out of her way to reach out to me?
>>16612541
You ask outright what's the problem. Ask her to be honest because you're concerned. I don't know you or your friend but it might be she'd like you to initiate conversation more often. Doing all the work all the time sucks and is discouraging so she could have decided to cut contact for a while or even permanently.
Of course the above is all assumption. There are many other reasons that come to mind but you won't know for sure which one unless you ask.
>>16612863
>it might be she'd like you to initiate conversation more often
Not sure why she'd ignore me in that case. Granted, it was Christmas eve and towards the evening, so she might have had dinner/mass (she's from a fairly traditional Portuguese family).
What I don't want to happen is what I've done in the past: an otherwise good friend is busy or can't respond, I freak out and get all "WHERE ARE YOU M8 WTF HAPPENED AM I BEING AN ASS?"...
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I'm a kissless virgin and tomorrow a girls coming over to watch the original Star Wars with me. Pretty sure she wants to hook up but I don't know. What I should do to see if she wants to and just general tips about how to not fuck this up?
>>16612540
Step 1: have condoms ready
step 2: learn how to wear one correctly
step 3: relax
just let yourself go, if it happens it'll happen
don't worry about it, she probably wants to fuck as much as you do
When she gets there make sure there's only 1 blanket visible on the couch/bed. That way you can share. If she seems uncomfortable with it there's def no bang and you should go grab another blanket. There's one telling tip.
buy some drinks, anon. beer, vodka w/e. maybe some cute little woman drinks like that sour puss wine.
