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Alright, I know this girl who's very attractive, she's smoking hot to me.
and I'm happy because she also feels the same about me.
Here's the bad part. She moved to another state recently. We're not officially dating anymore but we still talk to each other all the time.
So here's my problem.
I know she likes me, I know I like her, great. But the distance is going to make it too difficult to keep things going.
I can't see her in person anymore, or that I can't touch her or hold her, and she can't...
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>>16612024
Break it off for good or make plans to move closer to her. I hate to make it sound simplistic like that but those are basically your options. Long distance relationships pretty much never work unless you are actively working on a way to turn them into short distance relationships ASAP.
>>16612050
Yea I feel the same way. I just can't see myself going further with this without becoming obsessive, and that wouldn't be healthy either for me or her.
She'll get obsessive too and it'll just explode in our faces.
I'm just not sure how to break it off, I love talking to her.
There's a part of me that would like to stay "just friends" with her, but our chemistry is just too sexual, I can make her horny just with my voice.
We'd probably...
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Okay, how should I break it off?
Should I explain to her what I said in the OP?
This is a test thread
Was the test successful?
>>16612027
Failure.
>>16612087
It didn't work out to well lol
can i have a thread for myself, i dont know...just wanna ask about you guys'opinion on me
>be me
>age 20
>never had girlfriend and never give a shit about it cause waste of time, energy and money
>hate peer pressuring - one of the many reason why i don't want to be in a group of friends
>prefer to be with a person rather than a group since it is more intimate(had a few friends that is nice when alone but would...
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Sounds like you're a cringe lord.
>>16611967
>Autism
One of my 'friends' who is proud of the fact that he has minimal friends and has had no contact with women aside from his siblings or mother is diagnosed with autism.
Also >>16611999
>studying IT programming for the sole reason of working quietly and alone
Could work if you're strongly self-motivated and diligent (don't forget: IT field is very competitive, needing at least a BA for decent opportunities). Most likely be working within a team of programmers, so having good communication and team-skills would help.
> i hope i stay this way forever
Glad to hear you're in a good place right now, but keep working towards something(short-term/long-term goals), so you'll...
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So my gf of 10 months has a father that is cheating on his wife. Who lives a long distance away. And just today my gf was physically hit for bringing it up in front of him.
She's 17 and I'm 18. And I only want what's best for her. I want to stand up to him but I don't want to make my gfs life horrible.
Advice?
Please and thank you
tell his wife
>>16611964
He would likely kick your ass and make you look weak. Mind your own business.
>>16612113
His girl is business and fuck dude he has to try, for Christ's sake why would you stand by and let anyone do that to someone?
>next to every single one of my friends
>quiet, imposing, confidently talking, always the head of the group, very serious
>next to my gf
>anxious like a retard, constantly smiling, talking in a weird tone of voice, throwing all the spaghetti out
How can I be more consistent?
Because you are results oriented with every interaction with her. Give less of a fuck if she is having a good time, enjoying her time with you.. likes you. She is there.. you won, brah. Consider her as just another friend but with benefits and not on a fucking pedestal to be worshiped.
how do I message qt grill on a dating website without seeming like every other chucklefuck on there?
>>16611951
Stop calling her a qt and thinking she's special.
>>16611951
>Dating site
>Implying what you say matters
Pffftt Hahahaha you're so naive. The only thing that matters is if you're attractive.
>>16611951
Be yourself and act legitimately interested
But enjoy talking to those bots
>>16611945
Yes.
Don't share that piece of information.
Hello guys. So I've been in a fairly new relationship with a girl of the same age for just over 9 months. This is both, mine and hers, first relationship so we're figuring this thing out slowly but surely. Everything is great and all. Love her a lot. We are both in different uni. I'm in my third year, she is in her second (she had to redo a year of college).
When we have a disagreement/argue, we both have our own way of dealing with it. She told me that if she is mad at me, I should just leave her alone and usually the next day, she will be fine. I, on...
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Literally just got out of a relationship because we lacked communication.
If you can't talk through problems, you have no future together.
>>16611937
See, that's the thing. I agree with that you say. I've been trying to tell her the same thing. This may be my first relationship but I have seen plenty fail because of lack of communication and I don't want that to break us apart. There are times when I have been able to put my foot down and have made her talk through it but then there are other times when she completely blocks me off. This is the only dent in our relationship so far. Like literally, everything else is great. How do I approach this problem to her?
>>16611962
Not exactly sure what to tell you since like I said this is literally what ended my last relationship.
I'd say make sure she knows you really care about the two of you, and that you need to be able to work through problems if you're going to make things last. It seems like you've made some progress a few times, so I'd say there's hope.
What should I do if my ex does not give me my stuff back?
Sue.
>>16611887
It's a bunch of CD's...
I already know she has a shoplifting charge so...
Threaten to get cops involved. If she still doesn't cooperate actually do it
Ok so here's the thing:
Tl;dr - this girl who never kissed a boy likes me (more than a friend, actual feelings) but she says she can't have nothing with me because she thinks I would be unhappy with her. What do?
There's this girl from my uni. I didn't even notice she existed till this year, in which I would talk to her randomly and sporadically when I would meet her at night, for short periods of time. So she starts trying to make me notice her (some likes on fb and instagram and whatnot), and there's this one night where she and I talked...
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>>16611827
She sounds insecure. You're dodging a bullet.
>>16611827
>Tl;dr - this girl who never kissed a boy likes me (more than a friend, actual feelings) but she says she can't have nothing with me because she thinks I would be unhappy with her. What do?
Nothing. Why convince her to do something she doesn't want to do?
>>16611832
>>16611835
>>16611832
>>16611835
>>16611832
so, ignore her all the way? I kinda wanna make her regret that she just wants to be friends. Ignoring usually works, but this girl already proved not to be usual
All my life I've wanted to be treated like a...normal person, taken seriously. Very narcissistic and caring about what others thought of me, self image. I've tried scholastic achievement, being in leadership positions, 'faking it until you make it', but through all of this it just seems like I'm a kid in a fat young adults body. Now I've dropped out of Uni twice, 19 years old, 22,000$ debt because of loans, chronic physical health and mental health conditions, and no matter how much something makes sense to me, like the only person whose opinion you should care about is yours, I've never felt that way, and I've been fighting it only to find I'm losing. Hard.
Now I'm a disgusting blob and my family and "friends" are getting on with their lives. I went to college about two years earlier than most, was hopeful of ivy graduate school. Now I'm hoping to see if I won't end it.
Saw an old friend go into marines, come out a respectable person, has money, muscle, a sharp mind. I can't do that. Spondylosis, mental health record, among other things. So I guess what I'm asking is, does it get better for people like me, the kind who internalize everything, who victimize themselves or are just stuck in a never ending thought loop? Is becoming an hero best idea if it won't get better? Also a poor fag, living in someone's home on charity with senpai.
Wow you suck. Sorry but comon did you actually try in uni? Opened up a book and actually READ? Instead of blaming ur pretend mental health. You put thousands of dollars into it after all.
My brother and I in our twenties with degrees making almost 50k. Despite what many say education is important. We put time into in and it was by no means easy. A degree from uni is important in helping you live that normal life vs welfare bum or disability scam.
>>16611817
An hero, OP.
So, as much as i hate to say it my sister has become a bitch.
I'm a 19M and she's 21 y/o and honestly i don't know what to do about it or if i can even do something about
When we were growing up we always got along pretty well and she was overall a cool person to be around. We watched movies or animes together and she had pretty good taste in music. She was an interesting person
We had gotten very close and then slowly she began to get more distant. She doesn't want to watch movies anymore or do anything like that, she listens to shitty...
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She is going through college and a lot of girls and guys get caught up in the party scene. Probably because its the best party scene of a young persons life. Once she graduates things kinda of slow down as everyone gets jobs and responsibilities, family ect.
>>16611764
So you gonna fuck her or what?
So what do you want advice with?
If it's about getting your sister to return to how she used to be you're gonna have to wait until she gets older and uglier and she's forced to settle down.
Made a thread yesterday. Quick question after all that's happened.
Bullet points:
Girlfriend tells me she's meeting guy for dinner that she's been talking to for 8 months unbeknownst to me. Met him at a bar. She's 28. He's 22. I'm 29. He's visiting from out of town. I'm out of town on the holidays.
She claims he is meeting another girl and my girlfriend and him are only meeting because they have been talking on and off all this time online and became friends.
Told her this wasn't cool. She canceled the meeting...
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>>16611758
Don't flip flop on your word. Having a gf like that is trouble.
The fact that she didn't mention him before this is suspicious
>>16611779
Agreed. Her reasoning:
He was a nice guy that wasn't flirting.
They're only friends who talk occasionally.
He's there to meet someone else.
He knows about me.
Again, her reasoning. I didn't know about him until yesterday. I think he's into both girls regardless if they're single or not. I'm not there, so I can't do shit.
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I'm a 25 yo girl and I'm finding myself increasingly attracted to younger guys (20-22) which was not the case before. The guy I'm dating right now is 21 and although I don't find the age difference that big, most of my friends find it weird as fuck and tease me about it. Because I actually have an office job in a big skyscraper and my bf is still figuring out what he wants to do in life.
Why do people find girls dating younger guys weird ? I don't get it. I feel like if he was 4 years older than me nobody would have said anything...
That's a very small age difference, I'm not sure what your friends are on about.
>>16611740
I don't get it either. It would be weird if you were dating a Highschooler because teenagers are dumb as shit and it's super easy to manipulate them, but the dude is 21, he's a grown ass man.
Maybe they think it's a stepping stone to being a Cougar. Or maybe they think the ideal relationship is with the man supporting the woman.
>>16611740
No one finds it weird excpt for your friends. It's just different, most women go for older guys because they have experience/money, and younger girls often have more beauty.
>Mother does shitty thing all throughout my childhood (not to me)
> Realize how shitty it is
>Want her to stop doing it
>Offered to make her life a lot more convenient to not do this shitty thing
> Still does it
>Really want her to stop
> Ready to start stressing how shitty it is
How do I try to stress to my mother that what she does really isn't...
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>>16611723
You're being too vague. If it's too incendiary to discuss then fine, but you should really know that saying "How do I get a person to stop doing a thing?" is useless.
I'm wondering if I should do it in pay their through text. I wonder if it's face to face and I'm trying to tell her why what she does is fucked up, she would get more defensive and less likely to listen.
>>16611723
Nobody is going to give you advice until you say
