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hey /adv/ im going to have sex with my fuckbuddy again
She was my first time I really didnt care, and the day we did it we ended fucking 2 more times that day. But we made out before while we undressed
And the next time I saw her a year later(recently), we made out less and went quickly to the sex, and I came quickly, she was cool with it but idk how to feel, but with what I read premature jizzing is literally cumming when you see a vagina and shit like that, so it cant be that i guess? I see her next tuesday should I fap before seeing her? Or is it just teenager hormones (im 18 she's 24)
need first time stories and tips anons
Just go in for round 2, and 3 if you can manage it. I always nut in like 5 mins, but then I just let her know that a round 2 is in the works, we cuddle for a couple mins til my old chap is ready for more and then I last for like at least an hour. It works for me, any disappointment in me cumming so soon is always forgotten when I fuck her brains out 5 mins later.
Bump pls
>>16611378
thanks anon, I think exercising also should help, getting more /fit/ seems like an improvent in every aspect
Speaking with authority. How do you do it. People tell me that when I speak I talk like a caveman and that I'm often times indecisive. People don't take me seriously because of this. How do I become a better speaker?
Be firm, and friendly.
Hello everybody. It's my first time, when I am posting on my own /b/cause I'be got one problem and due to the fact of how I lead my life, I can't share it with anyone. I want to use u some questions?
Is it OK to go out with a guy at 15 y.o.?
What memories does your first crash bring u?
What the?
It's ok to date, but not ok to fuck, which most men wouldn't want to go without, so more than likely it's to protect you.
is music actually a detrimental cognitive drug? i get melodies and half-heard lyrics stuck in my head all the time, which annoy the hell out of me and seem to take away the space in my brain i could be using to form abstract thought. i'm starting to think "earworms" are actually malicious shits. sure they get you high, but at what cost? it also seems like classical music is a lot less catchy in general and there might be something to the "it makes you smarter" idea, except instead of having a bonus, it's just less of a negative than other genres. Double Sextet by Reich is the only thing i listen to anymore since thinking about this
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=JTc1mDieQI8
Mr. Mozart is locked in a closet
Let him out, let him out, let him out
how do you know if you're too much of a sex pervert?
When you are considerably addicted to sex in one form or another.
>>16611283
what about fetishes or latent sadism?
>>16611242
When it starts to fuck up your life, or easily could if something went wrong.
Married, but I don't want to be. Largest mistake I've made. However, I'm totally frozen in taking steps to move forward.
Advice on how to actually make yourself take the steps needed to improve your life? Especially if they aren't easy things like this?
I wish I could help you. I have been in a relationship with a batshit cray cray man for 5 years and now we have a kid. He went nuts and ruined Xmas and I still cannot leave.
I'm lucky. I don't have kids. I feel like my wife lacks the correct emotional response to handle this. I may be underestimating her. Still, it stops me from doing anything if I feel like it would wreck her. What is keeping you?
Bump for any advice.
I'm scheduled for a court appearance tomorrow, but I'm out of town for the holidays and I can't make it. WHAT DO I DO!?
>>16611221
Call the court first thing in the am.
-or-
Hire a lawyer to make an appearance for you.
>>16611241
This
What did you do?
Why would you go out of town when you knew you had a court appearance?
Why is it the only time women are interested in you, it's when you don't even notice them (or perhaps know who they are)? But when you finally do and reciprocate, all of a sudden they lose interest in you?
The fuck kind of failed Jedi mind trick is this? It's like if you want them, they don't want you. But when they want you, you don't want them. And when you both finally want each other, something happens to kill one's interest in the opposite (or maybe even both).
Its a psychological game, just like most other things. The idea is that you want what you can't have - and when you can have it - you no longer want it. When you're expressing interest, you stop looking like the guy they derived in their dirty little minds, and start looking more like a doormat.
....figure out how to stop looking like a doormat, while still expressing interest, and you'll do okay. (hint: A lot of it comes from how you do things, not what you're doing)
>>16611202
Would like to know more about this too. Bump. To any femanons out there: thank your lucky stars, I mean it.
>>16611202
The rule is: Even when you notice them, never let them know you notice them. All societal constructs in a world where information isn’t shared freely between parties without hesitation is a GAME OF DECEPTION. Unless you can walk up to a gal or guy and say 'hey I'm attracted to you' irl, then you're going to have to stick to Tinder for now my friend.
ok guys
so i need a little help
my girlfriend is amazing
yet i still can't get over the fact that she's slept with a lot of people
6 people this year
and i've only slept with 3 (including her) ever
how do i get past this, i really like her and want this to go somewhere but this has been digging away at me for ages
Grow up or dump her so she doesn't have to keep watering your pansy ass.
>>16611180
those dudes probably wish she was still around while youre there fucking her whenever you want
you win, they lose
>>16611195
horrendous name. a girl that will break the rules? are you 12?
Bang her in the ass
/adv/
I need your help. Im in a long distance relationship, but lately ive been getting jealous over little things like guys talking to her, we exchange nudes and sext and lately its been hard making her orgasm or get turned on, I've been staying up all night on skype and its getting boring skyping in front of a computer, and most importantly she's very selfish... Ill come home from work and go on skype with her and she'll talk about something stupid like what her dog is doing and it makes me pissed because she doesn't even ask me how work was or what I want to do, life revolves around her and its starting to make me dread her a little bit. I love her with all my heart but I cant take this long distance shit and im getting stressed and bored nonstop. How the fuck can I fix everything ?
dump her before she dumps you for another guy, guaranteed it will happen if she isn't fooling around already.
So I'm on a vacation with a friend of mine's family, and I'm digging his cousin. She's single and I want to make some kind of move. Her aunt even made a remark that I should marry into the family. How do I make this happen?
be careful anon
you can't just dump your friend's cousin
you might really get hitched
>>16611107
Back massage. If you can finagle a way to give her a back rub, you're in.
Her family is also really well to do, so she's kinda stuck up. But I still have hope
Guys, my Dad thinks less of me for not ordering a pizza properly (first time ordering takeout on the phone) and my mother is a photo taking whore, takes pictures of every little shitty thing me and my Dad do, her excuse is "it's for memories and then posts them on Facebook" then I'm like, you stupid childish bitch! (To my self) It's fucking annoying and I need a solution to stop this constant idiocy.
>>16611106
You sound like a cunt, so they probably hate you just as much.
>>16611106
MOVE.
Alright so I need some help on figuring out how imma get my siblings from my dads ex wife... she uses them as a weapon and she is a shitty mother and finially have had enough of hearing of her... She does drugs, she changes houses like she changes men (every other week) my brother has medical issues that she doesn't treat correctly like she is suppose to my sister is all ways sick. Anons this bitch is your round of the mill Kentucky dope fiend but she is slippery and is able to hide her true self.. I'm there half brother I'm 18 going on 19 in June I got to a program on a college campus for my GED I don't work YET (I was told to wait till I get my GED to get a job) I live with my guardian who I my grandmother from my dads side we live on section 8 in a nice house.. I havnt commited a crime, I got no offenses, I do as I'm told and I never once thought to break what I was told. I decided today since she said we wont see the kids again that I wont to stop watching her be a shithead and that I want to do something bout it... Currently she wont let us see the kids because she has a problem that my dad is seeing a girl..
I know its rare to get actual advice from 4chan but I thought id try since I'm use to /b/ maybe it isn't like that here in /adv
>>16611095
Literally no way
Id recommend you hire a private detective.
Documentation, Evidence, and a sweet ass lawyer. (I have no experience with this, so don't trust my opinion too much)
Evidence, evidence, evidence
Take pics of her doing drugs and document the hospital visits
Any /lawfags/ got anything?
Hey adv,
I have this friend who claims to be really intelligent and thinks he's unhappy due to the fact that he's so much more "intelligent" than the world around him (you can thank thoughtcatalog for that one).
As you can guess he's atheist, a total pessimist and doesn't really stand for much as his perspective is "everything is pointless, we're all gonna die anyway" which results in him not finding really any purpose or meaning in his day to day life. He think he's super intellectually enlightened just knowing this fact but fails to acknowledge that literally everyone else in the world knows it as well and we're all just finding ways to create our own meaning and happiness.
He constantly shits all over happy people who are happy due to things like religion or family values or just any general shit that humans cling to for happiness.
He's heavily depressed and is on medication and expects everyone but himself to make him not depressed. I don't doubt he's bright, but personally I don't believe he's more intelligent than the average person. He's no genius that's for sure.
My question is
a) do you know anyone like this?
b) if someone is so intelligent, wouldn't they take initiative with their own mental and emotional health and find creative ways of making their own happiness?
And c) how can I make him see that his mindset is making him miserable?
>>16611093
>everyone else in the world knows it as well and we're all just finding ways to create our own meaning and happiness.
yes, you are all deluding yourselves
literally
he obviously cant do that. i sometimes can, and i sometimes cant. when i cant i am utterly depressed about how pointless everything is and how selfish and cunty most people are.
just be nice to him and invite him out to do cool things. you cant change his mind.
>>16611093
>He's heavily depressed and is on medication and expects everyone but himself to make him not depressed.
The sad thing about depression is, in my experience, this is how it works, and he CAN'T do anything about it himself. If he could, he would have already. No one wants to be depressed.
I understand why people don't want to help someone make themselves happy, but telling someone who's depressed "No one can help you but yourself" is like telling someone who's bleeding out the same thing.
He might be a elitist faggot, but depression isn't something that most people can deal with on their own. If it was, it wouldn't be so common.
I should also add when I've suggested that he should maybe speak to a psychologist his response was "I went to one when I was younger but psychologists insult my intelligence and try to make me feel stupid" which I was at a loss for words with because speaking about and navigating your mental and emotional state isn't an intellectual competition and psychologists are primarily there to help imo.
Ok, so I think I still have feelings for my friend, and from information from our friend, she has feelings for me.
>Dated this chick for about 2 months, she dumped me without an explanation.
>About a year passed, I dated someone else and then a week later she started dating someone
>Remained good friends, because we have a lot in common and enjoy hanging out
>Gf recently broke up with me,felt kind of bummed
>Friend starts asking me to hang out more often, comes over to drink, stays for sometimes days
>She's still with her bf, but they have a strange open relationship
>I'm single now, but I don't know if my feelings are from wanting to fuck or if I really feel something for her
I don't know how to tell her without making it weird. I know she'd be too shy to bring it up, but I don't think I can go any longer without telling her. Is there an appropriate way to do this? Obviously if she says she's not into me I'll let it go, but I feel like this would be good to get off my chest.
I come from a different mental place with a bit of a background in social psychology and intra-gender communications....so the emotional element doesn't come into play with my assessments. I left my Disney relationship card at the door. Be warned.
What you're describing is a situation where you're attempting to re-initiate a relationship with someone who has since moved on. The idea of her open relationship assists this by allowing you a glimmer of hope.
For a moment - place yourself in a position where she's already told you "no" to the impending question. Are you still friends with her in the fallout? Many of my HS friends and I had this weird "come to Jesus" moment where we realized our past was the only commonality we had outside their desire for attention and my desire to open vag, insert penis. When it was cleared that their interest didn't exist in carnal affairs, my communication frequency dissipated if not outright disappeared. If you no longer desire to be her friend - you now know why you two still speak - you're sexually interested in her - be it for familiarity or plausible desire.
In the next moment - Let's say she said "Sure! I'd love to play "P in V" with you within my weird style of polygamous relationship" What do you want to get out of this? Is this likely to be in-line with her goals, given she's allowing for this poly-type relationship to exist? Or is this just sex for her? If you're looking to do more than get your dick wet, and she's not - are you helping or hurting the situation?
When you come up with answers only you can provide (from your perspective), decide whether or not just to pop the question. Every question left unasked results in an implied "no". Every question asked can result in damaged relationship, voided friendship, and a perpetual state of weird existing between 2 parties.
Play carefully OP. Figure out what you want, and see if that lines up with what you're looking for.
>>16611255
I've been very careful with talking to her about all of this for the reason that I was unsure about how my feelings were. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with her for sex, but then again I wouldn't just want a one night stand. I care about her as a person and I know she cares about me, but I'm strictly a monogamous guy. I wouldn't be into the polygamous relationship scene because I don't believe they can work, at least not for me.
The thing I'm trying to come to terms with is the fact that I would have no idea what to do if she said yes/no and I'm obviously worried our friendship will be put on the line. I don't want to make her the only thing on my mind because I don't want to be stuck on the idea we could have a potential future, but I can't seem to get this feeling I have around her with anyone else.
Another thing that worries me is that she never makes her intentions clear. When we got together way back when, she came to me almost unexpectedly, and when she came to me to end it, we had just watched a movie and had what seemed to be a great time, like any other time we have, so I can't seem to read into her emotions, and that worries me to some degree.
>I care about her as a person and I know she cares about me, but I'm strictly a monogamous guy. I wouldn't be into the polygamous relationship scene because I don't believe they can work, at least not for me.
Then you have your answer in regard to her and monogamy. She's in a relationship with another guy.
>The thing I'm trying to come to terms with is the fact that I would have no idea what to do if she said yes/no and I'm obviously worried our friendship will be put on the line. I don't want to make her the only thing on my mind because I don't want to be stuck on the idea we could have a potential future, but I can't seem to get this feeling I have around her with anyone else.
Is what you have, in fact, a friendship - or a personal interest in a relationship with a girl you've already put your penis in? Do you have commonality existing outside of memories and moments? Do you share interests and enjoy experiencing mutual interests while sharing time? Do you have the prior - or is it only a fragment of a memory because you don't spend time together like you did while dating? Or - is this just an infatuation you hold for one girl, disallowing you from feeling connected to anyone else despite her situation? You have those answers - you just need figure that out.
>Another thing that worries me is that she never makes her intentions clear. When we got together way back when, she came to me almost unexpectedly, and when she came to me to end it, we had just watched a movie and had what seemed to be a great time, like any other time we have, so I can't seem to read into her emotions, and that worries me to some degree.
Ask questions to get answers you want - But only verbalize these questions to others if you're sure you want answers.
This doesn't sound like a good place to be. I understand where you're coming from and why you feel funny inside, but this seems like you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Cut contact. Watch, but don't wait.
