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Holy shit I haven't gone on a date since the 8th grade. I have good enough looks but how do I not seem mentally dead and void of real emotion?
Be interesting.
I'm in the same boat as you, Went on my second date in my life a few weeks ago. We were able to take for several hours because we shared common interests.
>>16611058
OP is pic related you?
>>16611058
Don't put all of your eggs in one basket. Girls talk and date multiple men at once a lot of times. You should do the same and then pick the most attractive girl you have. It's that simple. If you fail with a chick just brush it off and move onto the next because 99% of the women on dating apps are worthless so you don't lose anything if they reject you. You honestly have nothing to lose. Keep trying op, you'll get the hang of it.
A lot of sluts like when you make jokes about your dick so you could always try that.
Found out my estranged dad passed away yesterday. I feel bad for not being able to at least talk to him. I guess I got used to him not being around, and felt like I really had nothing to say to him. But I never forgot him or stopped caring about him. Worst fuckin' Christmas ever.
Wasn't sure what board to post this in. Just trying to get my feelings out...
I'm estranged from my dad too, and I'm 99% certain we'll never speak or see each other again. I know I will feel this feel one day. Don't live in regret though, that shit will eat you alive. Life can be really confusing and hard sometimes. But sometimes you just gotta say "shit happens" and move on.
>>16611633
Thanks for the advice and for replying at all. I was starting to think nobody cared.
How long will it take for the guilt of cheating to go away? I cheated on my now ex-gf a month ago and she shows up in my dreams every night and I feel very guilty whenever I think about her
>>16611024
It's forever
>>16611026
:-(
how do I overcome the guilt
bump
I'm an 18 year old high school student trying to pass AP world history. The teachers pretty much trash, so's his curriculum. Advice on how to pass the class?
>>16610953
From experience-just revise the facts. Literally-thats the only shit you need for the marks, so when the teacher is telling you about how to make good filler in the essays, your time will be better spent playing video games. Legitimately aquire a basic mark scheme and revise the facts only. If it sounds like bs dont revise it. For example, learning Hitlers point of view on the Jews during WW2 will get you fuck all marks. Learning why this happened, (deeply ingrained hatred, as the jewish people often held the highest/ best payed jobs in pre war Germany, causing jelousy)- thats where you get your marks. Essay structure doesnt need to be that good either, as long as its relatively fluid you will get full marks.
Main point im trying to say is learn the facts alone. If your teacher is shit, do it yourself and when you get your grades write an anoymous complaint to the college to fuck them over. You decide how bad the complaint is
>>16610953
>Advice on how to pass the class?
>high school
Cheat? It's just high school, it doesn't really matter.
>>16611044
That's good advice thx.
Today is the worst day of my life.
Today, I declared my love to the most beautiful and perfect girl in this fucking world, and she said that she doesn't feel the same.
She's the only thing I really need in my life, and the only reason I have to wake up every morning. I know that my goal in life is to make her happy, and take care of her. I just want to share all my life with her, but her feelings are just not the same as mine.
I just wish things could be different. I just wish that I could tell her that I love her every day, and see his amazing green eyes shining. I just wish I could kiss her in her forehead and hug her when she is sad or frightened.
I wish I could make my life different, but I know my life isn't complete without her.
>>16610930
Well at least you didn't pour your heart out for a girl who then openly stated she was using you for entertainment/confidence/support AND who said she hopes you're an asshole who should feel bad after saying you cannot continue to talk to her.
Fuck her.
I came so close to letting the hate win out and just going off the rails completely.
Just be thankful she wasn't a selfish cunt about it. God fucking damn.
>>16610958
Forgot to delete 'she hopes'.
You get the idea.
But, OP, what I did was focus on my self. I started going to the gym 4 times a week, reading a lot more, making more music, and developing a healthy, solid relationship with myself. Sorting through a lot of horrible thoughts and changing how I relate to myself, and in what context.
You can move on and you will move on. This terrible fucking pain is going to force you to grow and become more independent. It will also make the good things in life better by comparison.
>22-year old "soon-to-be-ISIS" europe-faggot
>First world country, middle class
>Overprivileged as shit just as anyone else in this faggot country.
>Depressed over the fact that I'm depressed (first world problems are great)
> Trying to prevent this fucking loop from happening but it's like a mental cycle.
> Social work internships gets me in contact with tons of less-privileged people
> Was hoping to become a less self-absorbed faggot by doing this
> Instead feel even more fucking depressed over how privileged yet unhappy I am
> Don't deserve to fucking live but don't want to go out the faggot way either
> Realize everything I wrote above is making me sound even more like a whiny privileged white faggot.
> Spend over an hour fidgeting with a post on /adv/, realize that I'm not achieving shit by acting like someone I'm not
> Fucking post it anyway without even having an actual question. Hope for someone to pick everything apart and remind me of how much of a faggot I am.
> SELF-ABSORBED FAGGOT used SELF-VALIDATION, it's super effective.
> Realize that this sarcastic shield is really fucking pathetic
> Hope someone sees some retarded pattern in my behaviour / acting / writing
> Secretly want to hear that I'm a narcissitic douchebag for that sweet validation
> Probably going to hear that I'm a whining faggot
> Gonna feel like I deserve it
> The cycle fucking repeats..
How do I stop this.
get into music bruh
>>16610929
Find a list of the great works of literature in the western cannon. find something that looks like it could be pertinent to your sensibility and situation. READ IT. THINK ABOUT IT. MOVE ON TO THE NEXT BOOK.
Although I do not know you personally I would suggest that you might want to start the books that have IDENTITY as one of it's central themes.
also... Anon is right.. listen to some good music also.
Find a happy place. I get very depressed and have similar thoughts, and honestly the only thing that takes my mind off my thoughts are the time wasting distractions.
For me, videos of river otters calm my thinking and makes me feel happy. I don't know why, I just really like these little guys and seeing them play makes me smile and forget my depression for a while, every single time.
I don't know if you have something similar, but it might help.
Wish I could give you more long term advice, but I don't know of any.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sLVf8lWISqE
>Brother going to prison for the 3rd time
>Graduate college even though I did nothing the whole time
>Work at some job that I don't really care about
>No real ambition or goals
>Father begs me not to be the next disappointment.
What the fuck do you do when you feel nothing /adv/? I need to stop being a piece of shit, but nothing ever holds my attention or gives me passion.
I went to prison and when I got out I felt like I had nothing. unmotivated, etc. but I needed money so i became a laborer... i fix shit.. clean shit... move shit.. etc.. nigger work.
then i use the money to buy booze and drugs. been like this for a year and a half now. money is the motivation i guess, just keep working
I wish i could help but im in the same boat, im going to study to be a lawyer and its more a "itd the thing I dislike less" than a "my dream is to be a lawyer!"
>>16611295
Funny enough I spent my whole undergrad studying law, hated the tedium but it's what everyone swears I'll be good at.
So recetnly iv been trying to make my desktop look better and stuff,can I get any advice on how to make it better than this?(No rainmeter shit pls)
>>16610872
What does the e stand for?
>>16610904
enema
Hello /adv/ I am a bit desperate for some help
I am middle class 20 years old male living with my parents.
I have suffered from depression since I was 13 years old, mixed with social anxiety and lately heavy episodes of derealization and suicide thoughts.
I have tried antidepressants and stimulants to no avail, I've also tried changing my diet and going to the gym (lifting) but fighting myself to get me there is very though. I pretty much have lost hope since 5 months ago, trying to help someone from getting beaten in the streets, I got punched in my jaw and develop severe tinnitus.
On my search from answers, I found that having low levels of testosterone could be causing my issues, and reading the symptoms I realized that I've had gynecomastia for 7 years now, my fat distrubution is like a woman (fat goes to buttocks).
Despite this, my testosterone levels came out to be 432 ng/dl, which my doc says is in the normal range. Now, I've read around that having 432ng/dl at my age is not normal, and that these are the normal levels of a 50 years old.
Do you think this levels are normal?
Does it warrant trying to get a hold of testosterone by illegal means?
What the fuck do I do?
Sorry for the long post, but I simply don't know where else to go after all I've tried.
Have you ever pissed in the kitchen sink or taken a shit in a saucepan?
>>16610871
No.
>>16610858
SHORT VERSION
>Would increasing my testosterone levels to 900-1000ng/dl from my current 432ng/dl cure/ease my depression?
>Would it make my fat distribution normal? (like a man instead of a woman)
Hi people, need some advice.
I feel pretty shallow right now, I only have school, a part time job and a Swedish course I'm taking and my PC. I get caught in a cycle with girls as well. I meet a girl, get to know them and then ask them if they like me or not, 6-grade style. Dates are useless imo. You know if you like someone or not very quickly. It mostly (never ended up otherwise) ends with "Oh I really appreciate your courage bla bla.. But we're still friends right?"
Then they proceed to cut me off completely even though I know we could still be friends. The last girl this happened with was literally all kinds of perfect for me but whatever. Takes a while but I brush it off after a while.
Currently crushing on a girl again and just want it to succeed for once (or at least increase chances). Don't want anything intimate just someone I can buy and hold close, listen to.. et cetera.
I'm not the ugliest guy (certainly not the hottest tho) and 6'3". No teeth cavities or odors or whatever you can imagine. I'm just shallow as fuck.
Yes, I'm 16 but I'm not asking for "THAT HOT GIRL I SAW FOR LITERALLY 3 MINUTES TOTAL SHWHDOAMC HORMONES", just someone I can talk and listen to and feel appreciated by.
Thanks for any advice :)
Feels like fucking Yahoo answers posting here for the first time haha
>inb4 "boo hoo go whine somewhere else kid"
Dates aren't useless. You're not that special, there's a reason that pretty much everyone does things a certain way. Stop being so blunt and start actually trying to show them a good time
If you are shallow, you could at least be fun. You sound like a drag.
>>16610851
"buy and hold close" = "talk to and hold close"..
Dunno what happened there
Working on my bach. in mathematics. Currently have no plans to move onto graduate level.
Will I have any shot at landing a decent job? Should I push on to graduate school in order to get any type of decent job or change my major all together if I am not pursuing masters in math?
Take the actuarial exam.
You don't necessarily need a master's, but you should consider adding a minor in some field that you believe you could apply the math degree to. Math is funny, in that you can apply it to lots of different fields; you just need some sense of what you want to do with it.
Hey /b/ so i need to give somebody something but i dont wanna meet them in person. I offered to deliver it and take payment via paypal, but they cant have a credit card trail of it. What can I do /b/ros?
Leave it at a certain safe place. For example under a bridge tucked under a decent sized rock. Don't tell him the place beforehand, tell him when you actually leave it there.
That's what spies do.
>>16610837
Cheers bud
Mate, if you're going to post here the least you could do is address the board by its name.
If you think this is a trivial complaint, imagine if someone walked up to you and said "hey Barry, I need some advice"
"but I'm not Barry"
"whatever dude, I was speaking to Barry a few seconds ago and I can't be bothered changing names now"
I'm planning to do running/jogging on the spot. I live in an apartment complex. Is pic related rug and shoes going to make noise for downstairs?
A little.
>>16610813
Just curious what's that picture of?
Alright, so i started talking to a girl I used to see
To start with, it's just talking nothing special
About two weeks in, talking everyday and we start getting into much deeper topics
It feels like there's an attraction between us again
been about a month and i started slipping in that our conversations would be better in person, e.g. in bed
says she agrees
doesn't want to come see me though
because she's not certain of her feelings
What i'm thinking of doing is telling her to have a few days to think it over, and then get back to me. I figure if there's feelings she'll miss me and it'll work in my favour. and if not then i can stop talking to her with a bit of closure
I want advice on whether i should tell her to do that or not, and if so how to word it the best way possible
Seems like she just wants someone to chat with, and you're that guy. I had a girl I used to talk to regularly and I had her over at my place with no issue.
All that "unsure of her feelings" talk is pure shit. She's saying that to keep you around because you'll hope that those "unsure feelings" turn into actual feelings.
Cut her off and talk to other people, you don't want this chick to be your oneitis, or yet make it even worse.
Can I call the cops on my upstairs neighbor, /adv/?
Quick back story: I don't know WHAT the fuck is going on in that apartment but this person is CONSTANTLY pacing back and fourth. These apartments are pretty cheap so I expect some squeaking when someone upstairs is moving around but holy fuck this guy is STOMPING all day, sometimes running back and fourth, slamming his closet door, and evidently pushing heavy objects all around his floor directly above my bedroom at absolutely all hours of the day. This isn't an exaggeration. Literally noise all day and all night and I haven't slept in weeks. I don't know when the fuck this guy sleeps or even sits down. It's goddamn bananas and I can't even make up for my sleep loss with naps during the day because he's active then too. I've tried tapping the ceiling with a broom stick handle to get him to be more aware of the disturbance he's causing but instead of trying to be more careful, the guy takes HIS broom and jams it into the ground twice as loud in reply and then starts blasting his television and continues stomping around and slamming cabinets and shit.
I don't know what else to do. I've contacted my landlord but I'm not sure if he's going to do anything. He's this fresh off the boat chinese dude so I'm not sure he understand what's happening. Not only that, but with him, whenever he DOES understand, it takes him forever to fix the problem. (took him two months to get the handy man to fix my oven).
I'm vaguely afraid of going upstairs myself to ask the neighbor in person what his fucking problem is because I'm a small woman with a low raspy voice and a tendency to fling spaghetti at high velocity.
So if this bullshit keeps going on tonight past 11pm, can I reasonably file a noise complaint with the cops?
In a situation like this, police should be considered a last resort. He probably doesn't even know how much it's bothering you. Don't make unnecessary trouble for your neighbor just because of your own social awkwardness. That's much worse behavior than walking on your own floor, even if it's late at night.
If you really don't want to knock on his door, introduce yourself, and talk to him, then you should slip a note under his door. If that doesn't work, call your landlord. But police should only be brought in if he's being truly unreasonable, and you haven't even tried reason yet
>>16611069
The shitposting is real!
