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Can i learn to sing by myself(without damage my voice)?
help me /adv/
Focus more on your diaphragm so that your throat wont hurt much. Also, it depends if ur gifted with good boice. If unlucky, then good luck. Tell ur neughbors to install thick frames
Male 32 here. Can be mistaken for 26 (was asked for I.D. for buying wine one week ago in country where legal drinking age is 18. I even got a full thick beard.)
This is about beautiful and mature 23 yo girl I've only met once, but we hung out at a pub for hours. Legs touched a lot, we both touched each other's shoulders, and generally good and flirty body language and eye contact. Really cool girl, into a lot of the same creative stuff as me. She facebooked me and wrote that she wants to come and hang out in my studio one day (I'm an artist), where she knows I also live. We were both busy for a few weeks, but I wrote her and asked how things are going. She gave me her phone number without me asking for it, and told me the dates she'll be in town during the holidays. She's bisexual, and I don't even know if she's ever been with a man. Said on our night out that she's in a domestic LDR with another girl, but that their arrangement is to always choose themselves first, and the relationship second, mostly for the sake of their creative careers (she's a musician), so something tells me they got an open relationship.
This is where it gets a bit complicated.
>tl;dr
>girl used to date exgf's sister a couple of months last year
>this happened AFTER she met her SO, so guess they're non-monogamous
>I'm FWB with exgf (or was up until recently, idk. She went cold for unrelatad reasons during x-mas)
>want to fuck 23 yo in LDR, if open
>they know eachother
>23 yo knows that exgf is exgf, but not that we've been FWB the last months
>want to avoid all parties finding out about me, in case they think it's inappropriate
>want to fuck exgf more than 23 yo
I sent her a text the other day and invited her over to see my art and drink some wine. She replied that she wants to meet up after New Year's.
How should I proceed in order to get her naked and willing? How much to I tell her about exgf, if she asks (she's the most common friend we got.)
Musician, bi, open relationship, all of this screams crazy. Which you should never put your dick into.
>>16613436
I told you I'm an artist. Exgf is also an artist. I don't believe in monogamy. What you consider crazy, I consider normal. Also, liberal Scandinavians.
The crucials are
>she's interested in meeting up, but don't know if she wants to fuck.
>positive body language and easy to talk to
>she knows my ex, but not that my ex is my fwb.
>I don't want fwb ex to find out, unless threesome
>same applies for young blonde
>she's nine years younger than me
Should I text her in advance to warm her up, or do all my gaming at site? I will wait until she's back in town. Went out of town for new year's, possibly to be with her SO, but this is just a guess.
>broken up with ex since October or so
>been with a few girls but haven't had sex with any since her
>sometimes back when me and her had sex I'd either last really long or not last too long (nothing crazy short but idk)
>have been with four other girls before recent one
>yesterday go see this solid like 6.5/10 because lonely
>shittiest kisser (big turn off for me)
>getting shitty hand job. Slowest and worst one ever and I never get off from hand jobs
>some how I feel a splooge coming
>have her stop and use excuse I wanna make her cum first
>eventually it's my turn and I edge hard core LITERALLY STOPPING my hand then when I stroke like 8 times fastI'm about to cum again
>have been jerking off a lot recently and basically make my self cum fast so I can just go to bed
>it's back fired and now I'm gonna probably last like 5 seconds with a girl
>what do to last longer?
19. Every girl I know just seems boring to me, as long as they seem so lack of any kind of cultural interests that ain't related to their degree. Same happens with most of new dudes I know desu, but I got my group of peeps I can find myself more or less close to.
How can I avoid dying alone?
bumping. I am also interested in finding girls and other's similar to me
you're fucking 19. stay in school. find some colleagues in graduate school and get on with your life.
>>16613438
Lel this
>>16613377
Because it's pathetic to pay for sex in the first place.
>>16613377
That's a thought mainly women have because is when men spend money and attention in other women that aren't themselves.
>>16613381
If you look at it long-term getting girlfriend/wife costs you alot more, the amount of bullshit you have to often (not always) put up with is astounding. While with escort you don't have to listen to her rambling for hours, you just do your thing and kindly tell her to get the fuck out. And (where i live) IT IS CHEAPER than telationship. So think again about what's pathetic and what is not
So I finally asked this girl out late last week. I asked to go out one night this week.
Surprisingly she said yes. she said she just needed to check her work schedule this past weekend.
So the weekend has came and went and I have not heard back from her...granted it's only monday morning.
I dont want to message and ask her what night she is free as that seems needy.
But I am wondering....am I making a bigger deal of this than what is? Or has she changed her mind? Or was never interested to begin with?
Or is the meme about "not looking to anxious" real? And she is just giving it time before contacting me again?
tits always related
>>16613357
Look, it's kind of a mixed bag. The general response would be that she isn't interested - if she really wanted to go out she'd have been in touch. The generic answer will be to forget it, move on and have better luck next time.
However lately I've been thinking maybe we give up too easily these days. We're so afraid of being called creeps and having stories of our beta loserness being plastered all over social media that we flinch and fade out at the slightest rejection. You hear a lot of stories about people in the fifties and sixties asking their wife of decades out dozens of times before she finally said yes, and that yes resulted in 'happily ever after.'
So the short answer? Drop it. The long answer? Only you can tell whether it's worth trying again and braving being seen as needy.
Hohohoho, I asked a girl out and she would continually say yes or maybe, and said she would get back to me. Never did, went on for two months, finally pinned her and talked to her about it and she told me she "just wanted to be friends". After that, ignored her for being a lying idiot.
>mfw she constantly stares at me and tries to join my conversations now that I don't give her attention.
In short, fuck life.
>>16613394
Well I know at one time she was interested. We have a mutual friend that told me she thought I was cute. And he encouraged me to talk to her.
And I think it would have been easy for her to just say I'll be working or I'm seeing someone. Hell, she could have just said not interested. But she didnt. She said yeah, let me check my schedule.
So I'm confused to why I haven't heard.
I'm like you, I thought about messaging tomorrow and asking her what night will work. But I dont wanna come off too needy.
I have suddenly lost the sense of falling in love. Its like i lost interest on romance. I never have a crush anymore. On boys, girls, or even a fking inflatable animal. I started to grow numb. And im a fking nerd too fml
I wanna fall in love, and discover what its like to kiss passionately.
Need advice on how to move on with a girl I really like.
2 days ago I woke her up by calling her that I was in a place near to where she lives. So she got up and everything and came to me. Then she just grabbed my hand and took me to her place. After her creepy grandma left for shopping she wanted me to lay down next to her, so I did. Then she started rubbing her butt against my boner and she knew it was there since she was giggling. Then my hand just slipped between her legs and I started touching her in her special area. Usually she'd hit me really hard but that time she was just cool with it. But then It got really late and I had to leave. Now she's coming over tomorrow and I have no idea what to do when she's here. I really don't want to have sex with her as we don't know each other for so long and she's underage.
What should I do if we both get turned on??
>>16613305
oh, i'm horny? is getting my penis to tingle for a few minutes REALLY a justification for any interaction with another human being?
>>16613305
Having sex before marriage is immoral
>>16613305
How long until she isn't underage? Also which country are you in?
Sounds annoying af not being able to slip that diamond in her wet slot.
New Years Eve is in a couple days and I just started dating this girl back in the summer or so. She's the reclusive type who isn't particularly one for big downtown parties or drinking. And that's all I'm really used to doing on New Years. I thought about buying some fireworks and shooting them off, but that might be a bit boring just by itself.
Any suggestions?
Go for a midnight stroll and watch the fireworks. But before that starts you could go out for dinner and a movie or something I guess.
I'm starting to think I'm turning into a misogynist, I don't think I have always been like this deep down.
I'm starting to think it's because I haven't had anything to do with girls this past year, not just sex, but just general socialising and mingling. I'm just starting to resent women.
What's your opinion adv? I don't wanna be that guy who girls can't stand.
>>16613289
It's possible, but if you're aware of it, you can fight it, so that's actually a promising sign.
Tell us more. What happened this year in particular?
>>16613289
I think the media represents women and men really badly. The people I meet in reality are rarely a stereotype. Hang in there, anon. If you can't make - /pol might be a good home.
>>16613289
>be a terrible person
>get called out for being a shitty parent
>misogyny sexist pig
idiot
I've been partying almost everyday for the last couple of days because of Christmas break to the point where I feel like taking a break for a month and focusing on being productive. However NYE is in a couple of days and I feel like I'd miss out on something if I didn't go out and drink (or do drugs).
Help?
pic unrelated
>>16613268
go overdose
Start from Jan 1 faggot. Make it a new years resolution or something.
>>16613268
Make a choice you fucking child.
I've been bi for a while but I've never set out to date another man. I kind of want to because I feel like it will be easier to get a bf than a gf but if I do my family will know. Should I get it over with and come out?
>>16613228
Probably not until you know you are going to go steady with that guy or else you're taking risk with no benefit
>>16613228
Only come out after you have had homosexual sex and liked it.
>>16613228
>I feel like it will be easier to get a bf
well, you're stupid and wrong, so don't come out for that reason,
Is it justified to be depressed about moving just a few minutes away?
I know I'm probably acting like a bitch here, but I've lived in the same house with my family for 22 years, since I was born. I've got another year or two of school left before I move out on my own, and I'm prepared for that, but my parents want to move for the sake of moving. I don't want to just pack everything up, move 20 minutes away, and then do it again in a year, and the thought of leaving the only home I've known my whole life is just making me incredibly sad. I don't give a shit how nice the place we move to will be, it's still just a house I'd live in, not really a home.
Am I just overreacting? Is there any way to help cope with this? I've always had anxiety issues, but I never knew it would be this bad, it's not like I'll have to switch colleges, or say goodbye to my friends.
>>16613219
buy it from them
>>16613222
I probably would if I could honestly. The only problem is that they plan on moving before I can begin my career. I wouldn't have enough for a down payment for a few years.
>>16613222
brb pulling 600k out of my ass
>22
>live at home
>best friends live by themselves in apartments
>have a higher commercial examination (kind of like USAish college)
>weighted average mark: 4,8
>low
>have no idea what i want to do in life
>no future plans
>just want to make money
>working in kitchen at a shitty café
>shit pay // shit hours
>generally unhappy
Help, /adv
Identify what makes you unhappy
Make a plan to change what you can, forget the things you have no control over
Stop drawing comparisons to others
Stop moping around
>>16613203
cant help you, im more sad
My GF of 8 years broke up with me half a year ago... I've had a new gf for 3 months now, but I still miss my old GF. I really like my new GF but I don't know if I can truly love her...
Has anyone of you guys ever been in that situation? What would you do if you were me?
>pic potentially related
She's your girlfriend.
First of all "girlfriend" is an abstract. No two constellations of two people are ever the same. There is no obligation on your part to love someone at a certain level. My previous girlfriend and I waited six or seven months after becoming exclusive (11 months after initially hooking up) before we first told each other I love you. I had been wanting to say it on and off for three months by then, but I thought it was right to wait until it seemed like it mattered.
So just don't worry about it. Enjoy your time with her, and don't expect anything. What will be will be, but if you don't see any point in being with her, you should break up with her and release her to the world, for her own sake, and for our.
I will however advice you to let go of your ex.
Also, if you think like the pic you posted, no wonder you got dumped
>>16613185
Similar situation. Dated a girl for 6 years, she broke up with me about 2 years ago. I've been seeing my new girlfriend for about a year now (so I started dating her 6 months after my long term gf broke up with me).
At first it was hard, I couldn't get my old gf out of my head. That's a lot to ask for though cause I did date her for 6 fucking years. That's a long time, especially compared to my new gf. But as time went on I thought about her less and less. I thought I'd never get over her and my new gf would never live up to her. But as of right now I could honestly care less about her. I've finally let go and I'm in love with my new gf who treats me like a king. You'll get there anon. Maybe or maybe not with this girl, but I assure you that you'll love another girl more than your previous gf.
