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I am socially dead. After highschool, any hope of a maintaining a "social life" died for me. I tried to ignore it. I followed my dreams and became a U.S Marine, and for awhile things were going good. But now when I'm not in the barracks, I am usually alone. Nobody invites me to anything, and I don't know wtf I am doing wrong. I struggle with low self esteem, being a virgin doesn't help. I thought I was doing a good job at hiding it, but people seem to be able to sense it. I feel like people think I am some sort of freak. I want to talk to a therapist,...
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>>16612524
Allright OP
you're introverted, you aren't someone who is known as a social butterfly
you feel worthless because you think everyone should be a social butterfly.
Tell me son, you got a family or something you care for outside the barracks?
you got any kind of goal?
why did you join the marines?
why do you have low self esteem?
>>16612539
I've got family, I enjoy spending time with them. Right now I don't really have any big goals, straight out of highschool I had a bunch. But the real world kinda made most of them very distant. I joined the Marine Corps to serve my country, I won't say I regret joining. But the Corps is very different than I had imagined it being. And lastly, I am not exactly sure. When I was young people used to make fun of me a lot, for no apparent reason. I look in the mirror today, and I see a perfectly healthy...
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I never go outside and recently decided to force myself to.
When is the best time for walking outside? Early morning or in the evening?
Morning is best for your circadian rhythms.
Also, where should I go when I go outside?
>>16612702
be a flanneur! explore oh adventurer! nay thou be soaked in fear and comfort no more!
My girlfriend broke up with me 2 days agi. I've been trying for us to get back together sense then. I got her it consider it last night, but tonight she said it's a no after she loved me
Well there ain't much advice to give except move on, unfortunately. She's made up her mind. Preoccupy yourself in the mean time. Get busy with hobbies or the gym or some shit. Seek to improve yourself. Be the hero of your own movie. Is the hero going to sit there like a sad sack of shit over his ex or is he gonna improve himself so the next time they run into each other again she'll thing about how much she missed out on? But by that point you'll already be over it and with someone who won't leave.
You got any suggestions on hobbies?
>>16612507
Crying a lot
Weeping
Feeling depressed
Not going out of the house, except for groceries
A serious answer would be the gym. Seriously, it's a good hobby
Recently decided to stop being a fag so I picked myself up a bit, and ended up getting a date. She's really cool and we would just be walking and probably eating at some point, but how do I avoid fucking it up? Neither of us have ever been kissed, but we're both a bit socially behind as well. Thanks this post came out poorly I'm just nervous.
>Stopped being a fag
You're OP, you'll always be a faggot.
>Not fuck it up
It's your first time. You're bound to make mistakes.
Anyone here a trucker? I just turned 18 not long ago and will start college soon at WKU. I'm go for Teaching and Business. But after college I want to be a trucker just for experience. I love muscle cars and big trucks, but I also love the open road. If things don't work out with me and my (ex)/friend girlfriend I want to meet a qt on the road.
Whats college like? Whats trucking like? Any advice you can give me? I want a head start in life before going out by myself. Or you can post your dream job in this thread
>>16612282
>I want to meet a qt on the road.
You should ask Truckerfag for tips on this
>>16612282
College is a great experience. Well so far. I'm a Junior right now and it's been a nice ride. obviously there's a lot of time that needs to be devoted to studying, lest you want to see yourself in a mcdonalds after graduation, but you can hang out with friends whenever and being able to live in your own apartment with your friend is pretty fucking great
>>16612292
Pic is my dream girl
>>16612314
Awesome, sounds like something I just gotta put my mind to and do. What college you attending?
How can I forget about a girl who isnt shit? She's nothing special, she's a obnoxious cunt, shallow, judgemental, nothing in common and she's chubby. Yet my stupid self wants to fuck her and I think about her everyday. Why do I keep thinking about her? How do you forget?
Fuck other girls.
We're do you know her OP?
>>16612280
Used to, she flirted a lot with me and has a nice smile I admit but idk why the fuck she is always on my mind. I moved to a different city and I always seemed to be the one to contact her first, I stopped doing that.
Help me /adv/. I have to pee, but I don't want to get up and leave the computer. What should I do?
pee in a bottle
>>16612240
Pee in your mouth.
Create a throne toilet and sit on it all day. Your legs will never get tired and you can release yourself as often as you want to. You're welcome.
So basically I was planning on going out new years eve and hoping to get laid. This is clearly not a realistic ambition with girls my age group, however I am not attempting to get girls in the 18 -21 age group, I am aiming for 30 to late 40s women. Have actually done this before and DESU not only is it much easier (like comparing brain surgery to childs play) they are also far better at sex.
Any advice on getting older women in a bar ? especially divorced women
>>16612198
So, you're looking for a fling with some cougars?
Might as well lurk this
>>16612198
Wait if you already know how why are you asking us?
>>16612198
Nigga hook it up with adv I want to do this
>you need to talk more
I'm a quiet person who keeps to himself. Even online, on forums, I lurk. That account with zero posts who logs in everyday? That's probably me. In real life, I don't express myself, I don't feel the need to, I get really annoyed when other people try to get me to express myself.
In middle school when my voice started to break (much earlier than my other classmates) it was deep and low, it made people force me to repeat everything I say, and when a certain teacher with bad hearing asked me...
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advice please
>>16612158
Talk more. Its that simple. Practice makes perfect. Also, don't over think whatever conversation you're having. That's probably why you're blanking out. You're trying to come up with the "perfect" thing to say, but you should really just speak your mind(i.e. just say what ever comes to mind). I used to do that when trying to change subjects. I would try to think of some transitional statement, as if talking were some kind of essay where a transition is required. It's not. You...
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Listen, OP. People that aren't interested in you but talk to you because of reasons won't want to hear your opinions and thoughts. You're just not that interesting/important to them.
Wanna know why? It's because they're the most important person in their life. Whether you're social or not, people will want to talk about themselves, so if you become a smooth mirror, people will think you're pleasant to be around.
What is a smooth mirror? Well, it's not smooth in its surface, 'cause this is a metaphor; and it reflects...
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Any advice on dealing with procrastination?
I'm currently a student taking online courses for a BA in Computer Science. The problem is I'm not well disciplined, and just one hour of work leads to stress. By 6 I nearly lose all interest and can't bring myself to even look at assignments, unless it's on the day it's due.
I play a lot of online games in my free time, and separating work and play is a bit difficult at times. Pic related is the king of all time sinks.
>>16612143
I have some ideas... but idk maybe I'll tell you later
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>>16612509
>[Canned laughter]
i think you know what to do
protip: you wont do it
In general, are introvert-introvert or extrovert-extrovert relationships better than introvert-extrovert relationships?
I've heard that opposites DO NOT attract as far as LTRs go.
You talk as if introvert and extrovert are discrete categories.
>>16612164
Apologies.
I speak in general terms.
>>16612207
That's the thing though: this isn't something you can talk about generally. Most people are usually somewhere in the middle, and there are no problems. It's only an issue when people are either extreme, and those people are rare.
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i know you probably get loads of these but
be 19
kissless virgin
beta as fuck
cant talk to girls
what do?
>>16612126
Stop being beta. Make an effort to stop being yourself and to be something else. Stop being weak and scared of shit.
>>16612126
You're only scared of them because you want them and don't want rejection. So talk to girls you don't want. i.e. ugly girls or girls you don't find attractive. Talk to them until you realize girls aren't scary or difficult.
Talk to them. They're just people
I'll be right to the point - how do I get my ex girlfriend back?
I've been over her for a while (even dated different girls after break up) and life's been great, but ever since we started to talk to each other again through mutual friends, my feelings for her came rushing back. We only talk periodically via group chat, but never have we talked one on one since last year.
I'm not entirely sure about how she feels about the situation, but she occasionally talks about me with other people (mix of good and bad) and once even brought up a positive memory...
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please help.
You don't. If she wanted to be with you, she wouldn't have broken up with you
There's a saying: when your past calls, don't answer... It has nothing new to say.
How does one into meditation?
>>16612049
wildmind org
>get comfy
>focus on a thing
that's basically it
>>16612068
you are a liar
I've had a persistent cough followed my shortness of breath and expelling mucus. Its likely a mild case of Bronchitis. I've had a severe case back in 2008. since then I've had it to various degrees severity and multiple times in the past years. I know the treatment is typically antibiotics. But I no longer have insurance and can't afford to see a doctor.
You should call the cops. Get the police involved.
>>16612029
Where do you live (generally) and do you notice it change with seasons?
If it gets really bad, call the police.
