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>18
>no idea what i should do with my life
>want good earning job, but desk jobs bore me.
help
>>16629600
What are you good at? What skills do you have? Are you planning to go to college?
>>16629605
>What are you good at?
don't know. I like to think that i am pretty good at analyzing problems, ironically. Like the average person i guess i believe i'm pretty smart, but i have difficulties focusing on tasks that bore me.
>What skills do you have?
Good sense of economics, good at analyzing, and the past ~2 years i have figured out im good in stressfull/crisis situations.
>Are you planning to go to college?
One year in the army is up next. After that no idea. I guess i should.
>>16629618
OP here.
I feel like i have a good potential of becoming whatever i want. I have also been told this all my life.
Really just sucks because i both hate underachieving and sitting at a desk.
not really sure which of them i hate the most.
I'm literally good at nothing but riding my bike without holding the handle bars, what do?
>>16627322
Ride it into traffic
Ride cock with no handle bars
>>16627322
Remove the seat and go down a bumpy road.
I'm in Canada and my name is CBB(322) 7/28/76 666... A being created me back then and I've been dragged around living a fairly boring life until now when I realise I am supposed to apparently have a Goddess named Erin Zimmer but just as they whored, molested and mutilated my existence they whored her too. The Canadians seem to just abuse their authority and violate my life to express more and more cryptic language patterns.
Does anyone know where I can find erin zimmer and show her this information about the design of the language and the premeditated intent for the population to molest and violate us while making cryptic entertainment about it so even the little children can sing and dance to song about us being molested?
here's one picture from part of being crucified. A being shaped the trees branches and leaves to create an artistic shadow of 3 partial face but upside down it's Jesus with a crown of thorns.
So yeah, i'm being crucified in some weird way in Canada while they molest and whore the woman. I really need to find this woman and make her aware of the Canadians intent to use and violate her too
I don't understand this reality. Many aspects of my body have changed and other aspects of reality. I've been seeing people, vanish, appear out of no where, their faces morph and change, people becoming other people instantly but no one reacting. As if living in a robotic mind controlled society where people maybe can't even see... This reality is so messed up. It constantly puts thoughts in my mind all day everyday. THe same ideas over and over while triggering different emotion. So I can think something a bunch of times with no reaction then suddenly it'll make me angry or sad or whatever. I feel like a god damned puppet with something manipulating all my sense.
hello?
>https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pareidolia
>https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paranoid_personality_disorder
I know parenting questions are weird for /adv/ but what should i do?
>have 7 y/o
>she wants to do an extracurricular activity
>i was thinking band, daughter accepts
>musical influences from both sides of the family, her dad plays piano, I never did but wish i did, my dad knows a variety of instruments
>my mom (daughter's grandma) is very nosy and freaks out that we do nothing right
>mom doesn't want her to play an instrument for fucked up reasons
>"its for ugly people"
>"for socially inept people"
>stupid shit like that
>we bought my daughter an instrument for christmas
>my mom is having a shit fit
>brings up "horror stories" of her friend's daughter being bullied hard for being a girl in band
My mom has influences on my daughter. Very manipulative influences. She'll tell my daughter things like "You don't want to do that do you?" enough to make my daughter confused, eager to please the adults around her, and she'll sway her decision on something.
It pisses me off to no end, but my husband and I are still going to continue getting my daughter lessons, and sign her up for band. We've told my mom on multiple occasions that we think this is the right fit for our child. She doesn't stop.
What else can I do? My daughter is very interested in the instrument, but she is also easily swayed. My mom is unavoidable since I work with her and she is our closest family living to us.
>>16629499
>"mom is unavoidable"
This is the problem. Your mom believes there can be no consequences, so she does as she pleases.
You should tell your mom that the little girl enjoys the instrument, and that THAT is what is important. If your mother starts back with the "BUT IT'S FOR SOCIALLY ENEPT..." Tell her that there will be consequences if she interferes. This is YOUR child. Do NOT allow your mom to BULLY and MANIPULATE your little girl.
Tell your mother that she may have good intentions by trying to prevent the little girl from getting bullied, but by crushing her dreams and discouraging her, the grandmother would be the one being the bully. Tell her that family should ALWAYS be supportive, and that the little girl should decide whether or not she wants to pursue the instrument by her own accord.
wow this sounds like an extremely toxic relationship, I'd say your priority should be finding a way to get out of it
>>16629499
Explain to your mom how learning an instrument is beneficial for your child. This page explains the benefits of letting a child learn music: http://www.sheknows.com/parenting/articles/814331/10-reasons-why-your-child-should-play-a-musical-instrument-1
So I found a used condom under my bed sheets and I'm not sure what do to.
It was either my parents or my sister and her bf. Should I confront them? Or hope this was a one time thing and save myself the awkwardness.
At the very least, it's unhygienic to leave that shit lying around, so I'd be sure to bring it up to make sure I don't have to deal with that grossnasty thing ever again.
But then again, I don't consider it a moral imperative to not interfere with sexual relations like most people my age.
your sister put it under your bed so your parents wouldn't think you were a virgin weirdy when they walked in your room
leave a note on each person's bedroom about it
that way you won't put yourself in a awkward situation and whoever did it will be aware
She's staying with her family for Xmas (abroad) and back this weekend. I'd planned to propose to her when she gets back on Sunday, but now I'm thinking about it I'm not sure it's the best idea for the future.
We had the best 6 months of my life at the start. Amazing sex/jokes/cuddles/everything. We moved in together and have been living together ever since. We even bought a house this summer.
We've spent most of this time arguing. We have sex about once a month (it's still good when it happens) and I do all the housework. She doesn't want kids (I do) and she does want a dog (I don't).
Am I just getting cold feet? What do?
>>16627316
>We even bought a house this summer.
You're already married to her financially.
>We have sex about once a month (it's still good when it happens) and I do all the housework. She doesn't want kids (I do) and she does want a dog (I don't).
Housework thing depends on your arrangement. If she works full-time and you work part-time or go to college, then you should do the housework. If both of you work equally much outside the house, then you should also work equally much inside.
How important are having kids to you? Try to see if you can con her into wanting a baby, dunno. Drag her to places with lots of cute babies or something. If that doesn't work, ditch her.
Sounds like you're her bitch
>>16627351
>>16627339
I am her bitch.
I work 8-5 (she 9:30-5:30) and always manage to have dinner ready for her by the time I get home. I do this ostensibly because I love her and want to make her happy, she doesn't make me do it. I thought that she loved me just as much, but she's barely spoken to me on this two-week holiday, which has been a bit of an eye-opener.
I also shelled out 75% of the money for the house. She will take the 25% I'm sure if we split, but sunk costs etc. Can't let that affect my decision.
There's this grill I've been talking to, and I'm starting to think I'm developing feelings for her and she's definitely into me. I'm just not sure it would be good for either of us for a few reasons, especially where we are in our lives.
Wat do.
>>16627312
Prep her bull
>>16627312
Wow bro, real specific. How's about you elaborate on some of those reasons. We aren't omniscient.
>>16627312
make a list of the pros. make a list of the cons. decide whats best based on that list.
Hey /adv/, do you have pets? I've never had one but adopted a six months old cat about two days ago after dweling on the subject for about a year. Should have been great but so far it has given me nothing but anxiety. I'm not feeling attached and have no idea what to do with her.
Everyone knows I have a cat already but how bad would it sound if I gave up and brought her back to the shelter or something?
if you have anxiety for an animal that basically takes care of itself then you got some problems you need to deal with
i suggest you to stay with it a few more days
>he fell for the cat meme
enjoy your shit "pet" that attacks you whenever you try to show affection
> Met a qt at college
> No experience on dating
> Asked female friend for advice
> She tells me to ask her out and confess a week after via chat
> Ask the qt out and she agreed
> Great date
> A week passes and I confess
> She stops texting
What now?
>>16629291
How did you confess?
You find a different qt to confess to, you dumb faggit.
>>16629302
Something like "Hey, I like you, I want to know you better, what do you say? "
I don't remember exactly, but I didn't said anything like "I love you"
Well gang, its NYE and instead of showering and getting prepped for a pubcrawl, im waiting for my gf to get home to remove a roach from our shower. Not only do i hate these fuckers, but i hate having to kill them. As in, i can't bring myself to smash it and be done with it, because i feel like its morally wrong.
Please tell me theres a way to overcome this, /adv/. No other insect, reptile or creature on earth scares me, but roaches make me shudder.
>mfw im the same way with spiders
HE'S JUST LIVING HIS LIFE
So this is going to sound like a dumb question but here it is. Can precum get a girl pregnant? I had sex last night but wasn't all that into it. I had the intention of pulling out but never got that far. From what I've heard semen can linger in precum from fap sessions. Last fap was two days ago. This has got me worried now and i'm getting pretty paranoid....
>>16627222
You're both pregnant now
>>16627224
Cheers bro
Yes it can, but fucking GOOGLE IT NEXT TIME YOU FAG
I doubt this will be constructive, but I guess I mostly just need to write the story somewhere. It'll be horribly long and unlikely that someone will bother with it but I digress
So shit part first: LDR. For ~5 months. She goes through some tough times, but we talk daily, hours on end, she's great, she thinks I'm great, we're in love. This after talking casually for about a month or two, until we came clean to the other about what we felt. She starts working this ungodly job, 10 hours a day, but we somehow manage. We have plans that she'll move here, we'll stay together, travel, get married, we're great.
After I say something that scared her a bit too much, she flakes big time and calls it off. I don't say anything and then 2 days later she comes running back that she misses me and still loves me and everything. I'm happy we're back together, and I convince her we're good for each-other.
Her job gets worse during holiday season (fashion) and it gets more difficult. We talk less and less, I get paranoid often, but I try to keep it under control for the most part.
Eventually she says that she has too many doubts (we do have some different things about us but not relationship-breaking imo), and she needs a break, time to think. Naturally she doesn't just want a break, we're pretty much done with 'us', she just wants to be friends. I convince her to have a few calls over the coming 2 weeks to actually talk about this. She's still very busy with her work but we manage to talk and she's quite convinced. But she doesn't want us to become strangers. She says that she doesn't love me as much as I love her (I honestly don't find this an issue, she has much less free time than I do to think about these things)
>cont.
In the meantime of all of this I fail my visa interviews twice and now there's literally nothing more I can do to go visit her. I'm fully out of options and tell her whatever she wants to do in the future, is up to her, I've done quite frankly everything I could. I tell her we could still see each-other some place else if she wanted.
Before I fail the second one she tells me she's gonna go on a road-trip with friends, but if I do manage to go there she can fly back so that we can see each-other again. That doesn't work since I fail the visa part, and now there's basically a high-chance we'll never see each-other again. She says she's genuinely sad about that, but that I shouldn't worry, 'we'll see each-other some day'.
In the midst of all of this I am like 95% sure she doesn't have someone else; she was never big on relationships and never really had a fling either; her longest rel. was like 5 months I think. My last one was 4+ years
We keep casually chatting about little nothings, I still initiate, but about a week ago I just drop it because my life is just a mess (I think)
I forgot to mention I bought a house for us, in case she moved here; I checked with her on a few furniture things so that she'd like them too, especially that we have enough room for her clothes.
For a few days now she's been initiating contact, now that she has more time from her road-trip with friends. She even sent me pictures.
Then she's like "we should go traveling together if we have the chance". I tell her chances can be made. She says let's go to Mexico; I'm like...okay, sure. Yea let's go there and there in September or so, because in Feb I'm going to my parents (we're both expats). Okay, let's go to mexico city and cancun for a week in september. She's like ok we'll book tickets when I get back from the trip
Fucking character limit
We texted over new year's and such, she was checking what I was up to, she told me to be happy and such. On one hand it feels like she's more worried about me than still having a thing for me. She knows that I had to drink myself to sleep for 2-3 weeks and that I got very sad about our various bumps along the way.
Lately I've tried being less 'into it' and coming off as a bit more cool and laid-back about it; I think she prefers that, but it's really killing me, I can't do this much longer. I almost was over it and then we start talking daily again. Who the fuck does that with 'just friends'?
I'm just gonna try and keep this up until we actually get tickets for autumn vacation, but wtf? How do I handle this? What the fuck is going on?
I don't even want to ask her, she probably has no idea either. She'll just take the safe way out again and say nah no we're just friends. Maybe I'm overthinking it and she'll want to bring friends to our trip too, but still.
There's really no advice to be had, I just...I'm sick of my life and this constant shit. I want someone stable I can build things on, and I am so sure we'd be awesome together if we were actually physically together.
She also seemed happy that I managed to progress with my career and music while we were apart, probably one of those boring cliche signs that your life doesn't depend on them (which in some sense it does, and she also felt it). But what's so wrong in wanting to keep someone that makes you happy.
So yea, that's to some extent the story.
last bump
Recently I've began to loose my mind to depression and social anxiety. I can't even walk down a road without thinking everyone I see is talking about me, also i even have trouble walking in public and over think where to look, where to put my hands, whether my hair looks stupid or that my walk looks strange. Because of this I don't leave my house much these days and have noticed my neighbours talk about me a lot. All day I can hear them say general bad stuff about me however I'm starting to think that I am having auditory hallucinations as when in public aswell I think I can hear people talking about me but sometimes when I stop my music they are not even talking about me and the words I hear are just what I think they would be saying... But I can still hear it
>>16627209
Anyone experienced hearing things that can't be real? I can't live like this
>>16627209
I used to get this alot when I was in middle school and highschool. Its a long road to accept yourself (how your standing, stupid shit like are my eyebrows normal, etc..), but you'll get there. Just try not to think too much about it and think of all of your good qualities. What helped me stop "hearing" people talk shit was being more mentally present. Taking out the music might help or interacting with more people. I found that the more positive interactions I have with people (which starts with being friends and possitive, not matter how awkward you are or feel) boosts your self esteem. Leading to less reasons to think that people don't like you. Just keep working at it and it will improve, I promise!
>>16627272
Nice digits and thanks, I'm 18 btw and going university next year but I'm worried about it. Also how does one be mentally present when walking on your own?
help me /adv/, I can't find a game that I'd like playing. I usually install one game, play 10 minute then get annoyed or bored.
Play penis?
>>16629283
I do that but you can't really do it for several hours and not get bored
>>16629280
What games do you usually play? Also what was the last game you actually played the shit out of and when was it?
Share experiences, ideas and suggestions for having a good time tonight.
I'm hosting a formal party - we have snacks, fondue and wine/champagne for the guests, a local jazz band is playing at the house and we have all the other party activities (beer pong, pool, Twister). What other things would you like to see at a house party tonight?
>>16627167
Get out and stay out
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