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Does anyone ever even actually like exercise or is it just a scam? Some sort of a running joke?
It just feels like some sort of a weird fucking prank, everyone snorting battery acid and insisting it feels good and that there's something wrong with me for not trying it.
The thing is, I HAVE tried it and I fucking hated every single minute of it and I still look back to that year and hate myself for wasting all that time and money on that stupid fucking nonsense.
Why the fuck should I bother?
>>16630866
I have worked out literally all my life. At no point did I actually enjoy working out. I think everyone who claims to enjoy is full of shit - it's the same thing where people make their life out to be exciting to seem important/fulfilled.
I don't hate it, I just go and do it, but I don't enjoy it. Tournaments are different, but that's not what most people are talking about.
>>16630866
>wasting all that time and money on that stupid fucking nonsense.
You sound like a jackass, a gym membership isn't expensive. Just fucking jog and lift weights. How is that a waste of time?
>>16630866
>running joke
Good pun
And no, exercise is good. I'm not one for cardio (that I don't really understand), but going to the gym allows you to blow off some steam (pushing your muscles to the limit is as therapeutic for some as punching walls is for others)... And you look better
Also a good reason to get out of the house
ok /adv/, need advice. Had plans on new years eve to go see the new star wars with this girl, made these plans like a solid week or so in advance cause I have a tight schedule. She told me the day before she was gonna go hang out with her friends instead, which left me pissed off cause now the one day i had to enjoy i was gonna do jack shit. me and this girl have history, weve fucked once (halloween) and then never spoke until like 3 weeks ago when she randomly hit me up. so anyway, im pissed and im not just gonna wait on this girl, so i took my brother to the movie instead. posted a snapchat about it, immediately got a text asking why am i seeing it without her. explained it was my own flesh and blood and i took him out as a birthday gift and he wanted to see it. she asked me to go with her again, but i dont really know if i feel like it. she pulled the "your so cute and cool card" and it was blatant it makes me want to stay away.
The girl: ehh in all departments, met her on tinder, shes fucked multiple guys on inder so i dont even know if i want to be near her pussy out of fear ill catch something. is it even worth my time? honestly i am not really trying to spend $20 dollars for a decent movie ive already seen and would rather spend it for when i go back to college (on winter break)
am i overthinking this? literally after we got done fucking she went right back on tinder and started swiping right and shit and im more than positive shes fucked a few guys since weve fucked.
>clearly using you and wasting your time
>throws compliments for free movie: shallow
>throws bitch fit because she backed out plans last minute without a good excuse: rude
Just forget about it, you just said she sleeps around (possible STDs, nothing against her being sexually active) and is flaky. Why is she even worth thinking about?
>>16630850
idk anon like she's kinda cool and can be a bro and when we talked I kinda developed some feels and I hate jumping to conclusions even if said conclusion is right in front of my face.
>>16630877
>idk anon like she's kinda cool and can be a bro and when we talked I kinda developed some feels and I hate jumping to conclusions even if said conclusion is right in front of my face.
Don't come here for advice if your goal is to only be receptive to the advice you want to hear.
It sounds like you'll have an excuse for giving her another chance no matter what we say so why are you here?
She's obviously the impulsive kind of girl that doesn't mind blowing you off on a moment's notice to fulfill whatever whim she wants. Its called being inconsiderate. If she did it before she'll do it again. Thats just the kind of girl she is and you'll have to accept that and be ok with it.
On top of that she gets angry that you still go out and enjoy yourself without her? Those are major red flags and you seem insistent on not seeing them. But whatever dude, you're going to give her another chance so just get off your computer and go for it because you're not interested in actual advice.
I always wanted to write a book but I never quite managed to go through with it.
I´m a pretty good storyteller and eloquent in my mother tongue.
The problem I have is that I just can´t write a decent amount, after some time I always lost track of what i wanted to tell, became unsatisfied with my own work and called it quids.
So obviously just writing in the blue doesn´t work for me.
My questions are now:
1. How should I structure my work? (Mindmaps etc.)
2. How do I avoid that all characters are just variations of myself?
3. General good writing advice's?
Thanks in advance, if someone wants more detail in what i want to write, I can provide that.
There's a ton of infos about plotting on the interwebs. Character developement and plotting are essential. Aswell as avoiding common stylistic mistakes.
What genres would you want to write?
>>16630809
>1. How should I structure my work? (Mindmaps etc.)
All of this is pretentious shit for people with shit working memory. Just write down some notes if you come up with a cool idea.
>2. How do I avoid that all characters are just variations of myself?
Base them on other people.
>3. General good writing advice's?
Good authors like Jack London basically said "Just force yourself to shit something on paper for a couple hours every day.
>>16630809
heres some recomendations. for actual writing advice the internet is full of it and a google search will help but here is some advice for getting to it and sticking to it.
>outline
i always find that its easier for me to write EVERYTHING if i already know how it ends. im all about the ending and everythign else builds into that. so from ther you write out what you know is necessary, and divide that into arcs, and from there into chapters.
>release it by the chapter
considering hwere you are i doubt you have any plans to publish this your first (hopefully) completed story. so why not release it one chapter at a time online? putting it out there encourages you to finish it so that people can actually find out where it all goes. this does make it harder to go back and redraft if you get a good idea, but as a first time book you are doing seemingly just for fun, this is a great idea.
>buddy system
find someone else who wants to write a book. anyone. online or in real life. then promise to write together. work with each other on the outlines and trade notes. then agree to have a finalized outline by an agreed date. then from there agree to have chapter one by a date, and then agree to give back notes on chapter 1 about a week later. then revise based on those notes, and have an agreed time to finish chapter 2.
you will rarely ever meet these dates but having one person or the other saying 'almost done with my chapter!' encourages you to at least get it done AROUND the time you had planned.
Theres this girl in my friend circle thats always really "touchy" and clinging towards me when we drink, she touched my penis too(through clothing) and we cuddle a lot.
She obviously likes me, how can i talk to her about it in sober state without sounding like a creep?
You get her number, you text random
smalltalk, you ask her on a date, you make a move, you go to your place, you have mindblowing sex, you introduce her to your family, you propose, you have 3 kids, you retire, you get 5 grandchildren, you kiss her goodnight and the two of you die peacefull in your sleep. The end
>>16630808
Does the same advice go for this girl I met once, who then invited me out at 12:30 on New Years Eve?
She's super cute, and I assume that invitation means she's gotta be slightly interested Jesus how beta do I sound right now?
>>16630924
It does!! Go for it anon! Or do you need a kick in your ass first?
How neckbeard can you make me?
>>16628134
The appropriate amount of howling wolves shirts is inversely proportional to how much of an awkward looking guy you are. The average number is 2 btw.
>>16628134
>>16628134
4 is pushing it
5 is definitely too many
unless you have a pack of wolves howling together somehow then maybe 7 will be the limit
>>16628163
Not OP but be right back. Gonna go count the wolves on my wolf shirt.
Hey /adv/..
I'm done whinig. All I want is a way out of loneliness. I so sick of being so alone everytime I get home and just sink in it. Tell me the steps and I will follow them with all my heart, I don't want this year to be as grim as the last one.
Try being my friend. We can be comrades on a quest for belonging.
>>16630673
hello friend
>>16630689
I'm gonna get a job and start going out, for one. I don't even give a shit how my life looks. No apologies.
So basically I got laid.
While the opportunity was constant over the years, I always blew it off or acted like a dense motherfucker since I was saying myself for the woman I love.
But as far as I'm concerned she's not interested in me, and I've came to peace with that fact so I'm gonna get sexually active.
So I've already got a fuck buddy and plan on getting more. What's the pros and cons of these types of relationships and any tips for a newbie for his sexual adventure.
Absolutely have to be fucking or courting AT LEAST 2 at a time, preferably 3.
It keeps the upper hand in your court and stops you from being a pathetic needy faggot and also its sexy to both (or all three or four) girls.
And god dam dont let anyone walk over you your are in this life to make you happy. Self respect is a priority.
What I do if my normie friends from church and what not bitch about it?
>>16628116
Never be the first to get emotional.
Fuck her.
That's it.
No lovey dovey shit.
You like her cunt.
That's it.
She likes your cock.
That's it.
Don't get emotional.
Only pain comes from "Oh, I see you more than a fuckbuddy"
When I hit puberty at 12 my voice deepened and I lost my ability to speak in a high tone, and it hasn't changed since. I haven't thought about it much, but I'd like to be able to sing high notes and stuff.
Is this something that can be recovered with practice, or is it gone forever?
I did a quick Google search and it seems that men can indeed train their voices to sing higher.
>>16628083
There was a guy in high school choir that changed his range from baritone to tenor. He also came out of the closet and became a raging faggot, but that's beside the point. It can be done OP.
Should I let this girl text me first for once? I text her about once or twice a week. I want to seem not too into her nor do I want to start every conversation. Any tips?
>>16628049
Umm sure, why not?
Sounds like you're having trouble starting up a thing with her so my advice would be to seek out someone else in the meanwhile. Who knows what happens with time, she might come around or someone else might.
>meet new girl
>get her number, go on a date
>she's nice and attractive and someone I could for sure see myself becoming involved in long-term
>make out after, set up 2nd date
>before 2nd date she pops in for new years really quick since she couldn't go out
>make out some more
>she then proceeds to tell me that she has herpes, and that she totally understands if that makes me walk out on her
>says that she's done all the research and knows it in and out
>apparently a guy gave it to her back in college
>sitting here about 50/50 either way on how to deal with this situation.
Has anyone ever tried dating someone who had herpes? Was it a massive pain in the god damn ass, not to mention the potential for contaction? If I ever got herpes i'd be devastated. I just really liked this girl and now I don't know if I should continue this or cut her loose
For the record i've already been exposed to coldsores on my mouth so that doesn't really matter
>>16630527
Just stop. Don't start this shit here. It's going to be a fuckfest of shitposting and nerds raging back and forth at one another.
Go do research. As in, how it is contacted, how often it's contracted when there isn't an outbreak versus when sores are present, etc. REPUTABLE medical sites. Based on the totality of your research, make your decision.
>>16630527
>so much of a slut in college she got a std
>now wants to get off the cock train and settle down
Don't be a chuck dude.
>>16630527
genital? mouth?
Just use a condom and steer clear and don't fuck her when she's got open sores. My ex had herpes. We were careful though and years later I'm still not infected.
Most people are carrying herpes latently, regardless of whether it comes to the surface.
Hey /adv/, I need your help on this
>add a girl on Facebook after a series of cool comments we made on a mutual friend's status
>She knows I'm the ex of a girl she knew and she hates, so we start talking. At the beginning she's like "I'm sorry about that bitch" but I'm like "it's okay"
>She starts telling me she has problems with guys too, that no one stands her, that she's thinking about moving to the north because guys up there would like her more
>I tell her straight "You should come to my city, we're very handsome here you know?"
>From there, I feel things get a little more flirty: She calls me "My baby", we talk about how much we believe in horoscopes (I'm aries and she's Scorpio, guess how much fire could rise between these two) says a couple of times how she wish she would be at Barcelona, and even tells me she will come here in February to celebrate her birthday, and that I'm invited
>She also sends me selfies of herself. We started talking yesterday and since there, she has send me 3 pictures of herself
Now, 2 questions:
1-How do I keep a progression on this? I like the girl, and I sort of feel like I should be talking to her everytime, but to tell you the truth that feels kind of forced too. I would like to get to know her better, but she's not around town until february
2-Should I involve our mutual friend here? I have a lot of trust on her, a lot. But she's also best friend of this girl I added, and she's also very lousy. Take that as good, or as bad.
Mate piss off. Some poeple here want to kill themselves and you're here with your first world problem. Figure this one out by yourself for once.
>>16628013
>we believe in horoscopes
>she's a Scorpio
>here in February to celebrate her birthday
Either she's retarded or you are fag OP in concocting this fantasy.
>>16628090
>>>/r9k/
Abloo bloo, guess why you miserable, fuckwit.
For NYE I followed my friend and his friends to a bar with a dance floor and it was one of the most awkward things I've done. I just don't get it. People are rude, music is loud, and my friend left me with his friends to whom I never talked before. One of those friends was a girl and I could tell she really wanted to dance but I felt so uncomfortable dancing with someone I barely started getting to know that I just ran away.
Clubbing and just letting things happen with girls is one of my big insecurities that just got reinforced pretty heavily. I have no problem talking to girls but when it comes to dancing and the more "wild" things I just go full dear in the headlight mode.
Any advice for fags like me?
Would it help to realize that everyone feels exactly the same way? Everyone else is getting rudely bumped or shoved, everyone's head and ears hurt and everyone is just as awkward around new people as you are. They're also just as self-conscious about dancing with strangers.
All of that having been said, some people just inexplicably enjoy the experience. Some don't. If you give yourself the most honest opportunity to try it out when you get curious and it fails to deliver, there's no problem with shrugging and walking away. The way to do that best is to be cool about the decision and still motivated to find satisfying ways to spend your time.
>>16630485
alcohol
Bump, same here.
I really need some help. There's a guy that's been bullying me in my workplace since May. It's been really getting on my nerves and I can't seem to stop him. I've tried ignoring him, I've tried bullying him back, I've tried getting authority figures to stop him but he just keeps coming.
This guy isn't just bullying me, he's bullying my wife and brother and he's bullying my coworkers. The worst part about is that many people are egging him on. How can people stand him? Even in my own hometown people like this guy over me.
So here I am, on the cusp of the new year and I'm thinking about ending it all. Because everything this man is saying about me, deep down, I know is true. I'm afraid to admit it but it is.
>>16627971
i think the word youre looking for is 'harassment'
You know the answer as well as I do.
You probably even know the reason why human bully, or if you dont you should be able to extrapolate it by now.
He is doing society a favour, you will either leave society or step the fuck up.
Its up to you.
>>16627971
what's he doing exactly? how does shit like this even happen at your age? right now you just sound like a huge pussy.
What in the hell is this thing of my girlfriends I have smashed and where do I get a new one quickly (UK)
>>16630482
That's an ornamental vase that was made out of mirroresque plastic which was then shattered, then a layer of acrylic glaze was placed over it to seal in the cracks so it retains its form.
You could find one at any home design/decor store. It's not impressive nor expensive. She probably paid about 25 bucks for it.
It's ugly as fuck. She probably got it as a cringy present once and would be happy to know you smashed it. Just tell her, say sorry and show up with an actually nice looking replacement next time
>>16630482
It's an oil burner. You can get them for about a tenner.
Anyone dislike how they approach porn?
I want to delete whatever porn I have saved and move on, but I'm so lonely its something to pass time on occasion.
>>16627969
>Anyone dislike how they approach porn?
Get different porn.
>>16627991
I dont think that is the answer.
I will certainly delete it all next time I dont feel so alone. There is no section worth keeping, but I'm just building up to actually believing that.
I want to masturbate and get it over with, hopefully not spend an hour a day or more masturbating and looking at porn.
