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Live in a rural part
My dad is a drunk
He just inherited lots of money after my grandmother died yesterday and have been extremly drunk ever since
I can hear his car in the garage
He is probably drunkdriving and now sleeping with the engine on
Should I go look for him or just leave the house?
look for him bc he's your dad
leave.
>>16630064
Shut the door leading to garage. Dad dies. You get the cash. Profit
So not sure if there is another board for this but any of you guys know a way to sweat less
>>16630009
what part of your body
Antiperspirant
Armpit pads
Botox injections
>>16630009
If it's your armpits your ducked
Need someone who works at Walmart to answer.
How do I politely say I can't handle the 9 hour holiday shifts of varying times? Our schedules are all over the place. For example one day I'm there from 9am till 6pm, and then the next day 11am till 8pm. How can I tell them I want a set schedule to make it easier on my body? Say working like 5 hours every day instead of 8 or 9, at the same starting and ending times. That's the only way I survived retail long term last time.
Somethings godda change because I can't do this long term
>>16630002
by politely saying
'excuse me, MR X? i was wondering if we could talk a bit about these schedules. I have a hard time with the inconsistency and was hoping we might be able to hammer out something different?'
keep in mind that you are asking for better treatment than everyone else. its normal to work 8 or 9 hours aday, that is a normal work day. the hours you are talking about arent even that inconsistent. i understand hating to work a horribly long shift then coming back early the next day, but this ones slightly offset so that doesnt even happen.
asking to only work five hours a day is awfully entitled cuz on top of that you are asking everyone else pick up your slack. its wal mart so chances are you are going to be told to go fuck yourself.
"Hi boss, I'm sorry, but I'd like to resign for health reasons."
>>16630033
lol
Came across a nude of a female friend on one of those GF Revenge type sites.
It was uploaded under an account of an ex of hers (its his online gaming name)
Should I tell her this picture online. It might be embarrassing to do this, but she could be able to get it blocked on google images or removed from the site and confront the guy who uploaded it.
Or, should I create a fake email account and tell her the image is online and link her to it.
>>16629999
Dude I wanted post #9999
>>16629999
>whiteknights getting quads
yes tho. id go with the fake email if you dont want to get involved in the ensueing drama, but it at least lets her know what is up and take the legal action. maybe give her a ltitle help there by linking to a resource online on what to do (As im sure its happened before).
>>16630005
Am I protected by a fake email
If I link the url can the email be traced back to me via IP address if she was to freak out and get the police involved.
Whenever I get into a relationship I very much enjoy the "honeymoon phase" for the first couple months. Lots of sex, cuddling and hanging out together.
But as soon as that initial rush fades I become extremely distant, cold, and uninterested. 99% of the time I'd rather be alone or doing things with friends. I find even minor displays of affection suffocating. Inevitably the relationship ends soon after. Whenever I try to keep it going there's just a lot of pretending to still be interested and hurting the other person in the process until they eventually break up with me.
What is my problem? Am I just not built for relationships?
>>16629964
I think you've never actually been in love. That's the only thing that comes to mind to me, because every time I actually loved someone, I woke up everyday before them to make their breakfast, cancelled every plan I had if they weren't feeling well to watch them over and shit.
>>16629964
>am I just not built for relationships?
probably. but more like 'not programmed' for relationships. as im sure you know relationships have evolved a lot over time. every year there seems to be a different trend and everyones different. there was a time where youd really only ever know one person romantically for your entire life. and if that feeling faded it didnt matter, cuz like your family they were just one of those random permanent installations in your life that you had to deal with.
thats not the case anymore. the ability to serial date has made it so people DONT need to function in long term relationships, and as a result people dont want to.
the honeymoon phase is the best part, so i do the same thing. i dont see anything wrong with it. whats wrong with meeting someone, enjoying them for as long as you can, then saying goodbye when it fades out? some might call it 'using' i suppose.
but if you met someone that really lit a fire in your heart i am sure that you (and I) would see it through for as long as possible.
Try being good friends first, and do not have sex early on in the relationship.
>want to stop drinking coffee
>having panic attacks and trouble sleeping
>try to stop
>can't make it past 2:00pm
>depressed to the point where I am not getting things done that I need to get done
how do I quit?
can I quit?
>>16629946
You're addicted to caffeine. Going cold turkey is not a good idea. Over the course of the next month, drink less and less. Remove 1 cup a day from your usual routine. When you're down to just 1 cup a day, switch to decaf. Tastes the same. Eventually wean yourself off decaf.
Can you drink tea instead? I was in the same boat and managed to go down to just 1-2 cups of tea in a day. Drinking tea feels loads better compared to coffee, too, like a night and day difference.
>>16629946
when you quit any addictive substance its going to take a temporary toll on your life. you are going to go through withdrawal and there isnt much you can do about that.
if you want to go cold turkey, make it a point to streamline as much of your life as possible (like cookiing a LOT of meals on sunday and storing them, and perhaps being prepared to spend money on eating out for other meals).
also, work the buddy system. are you at work when you are having your first cup lately? talk to your best work mate and ask them to be your cafiene sobriety buddy. at home ask whoever you live with. throw it all out.
weening yourself off of it is also an option but it depends on your personality type. some are better cold turkey cuz they just have to adhere to the one rule: dont drink. others are better at weening becuase as long as tehy get a tiny bit of coffee in them, the rest of the day goes smooth.
Why did she leave me, /adv/?
Such freedom.
Queen of Cups
She realized she wasn't happy
She found happiness elsewhere. Things don't always work out in your favour.
19 years old male college student here. I see that a lot of girls collaborating with photographers in instagram. There is also a male version of that. Guys that don't have a very fit body or a super handsome face giving interesting poses for those photographers. Photographer gets a free model, and the guy gets have free photos for their portfolios.
There are a lot of photographers on modelmayhem.com with little experiance, looking for people to pose. I find those stuff interesting and would to go for it, since I don't have better thing to do I life. So, as a random dude, should I just go for it? Any advice (other than killing my self)?
Pic slightly related.
>should I do something I want to do and find interesting that isn't illegal, unethical it immoral. Well shit anon, you tell me.
MM is free, just sign up.
>>16630211
>>16630263
I know but I'm just a random dude with no experiance, sexy body etc. Just long hair, if it counts :/
Kinda need help about how to deal with pose or photographer.
Anyway to play off a bad haircut besides a hat? Got my haircut by someone new and it's too short.
>>16629881
wear a wig
A hat of some kind is probably your best bet. Short hair isn't necessarily a bad thing unless it looks poorly cut. If it is poorly cut, have someone more skilled try to cut it a little shorter so it will grow back nicely. If you can't take it any shorter, just roll with it until it regrows.
>>16629881
i feel ya i almost always have a bad haircut and it takes two weeks til im happy.
there isnt really much else you can do other than try to style it the best you can and of course wear a hat. i tend to go with a beanie. just make yourself comfortable around your work and remember that if you are attractive with good hair, having short hair for a little while doesnt really matter.
I keep on having dreams about these assholes I used to be friends with. They either consist of me fighting them or becoming friends again. I have absolutely no intention of seeing them again. It's been over two months since the split.
I'm not a guy who likes to hate people, but I recognize that the friendship was shitty. How the fuck do I stop having these dreams?
>>16629879
Sometimes acknowedging that you remember something is the best way to move on.
>>16629879
whats your normal falling asleep procedure. its common to have dreams about things you are stressing about, and though they've been gone two months it sounds to me like you still have a lot of unresolved issues. right now you are probably thinking about them a lot.
so distracting yourself before bed could help. find a soft sounding comfortable TV show (a very talky drama or not so hardcore comedy) and listen to that with the screen off. i find that the office and that 70s show tend to be leveled enough audio that it wont hut your ears or distract you.
you can also invest in radioplays (there are tons of ones its avery big independent field these days) podcasts (look for something educational if you can! but anything that itnerests you) or audio books / short story narrations (creepy pastas and 'true scary stories' are easily found on youtube).
these will distract your brain as you fall asleep.
other than that all you can do is try to get some closure on the situation. maybe address them about what happened assuming you only just cut them off and ran away. if not that, get some personal closure. make some new friends or go shout about how much you hate them from the top of a roof.
other than that, its only time
>>16629879
Sounds like you haven't gotten over splitting from them.
Maybe try to get back with them?
So I have a bit of a conundrum
-Graduated high school in the spring
-Forced to attend community college
-Parents won't allow me to take semesters off to save for the rest of college
-Parents aren't paying for any college expenses and I'm scared of drowning in debt
-I do well academically but I hate being stuck at a desk and each semester of school sends me into an anxiety fueled depression(I suffer with anxiety and depression regularly)
-I'm too poor to move out and I can't get a full time job as long as I'm living at home due to my mother's fear of me dropping out(except part time work during summers and weekends)
I feel trapped. Any advice?
>>16629870
Do what you want. If all they're doing is putting pressure on you and you think you can get an address, a phone line, and food without them, then go do it. You'll be ok without mommy and daddy.
You're a free man, but not when you're living on their dime
>>16629870
im not sure you are thinking about your own situation accurately.
if they arent paying for college they cant force you to go. just go get a job. if you can get a weekend and summer job you can save up and at the very latest, get your own place by september of 2016.
get a summer job, and by end of summer you'll be able to pay for it.
you can also get a regular day job and just tell them you are going to school. if they dont pay or anythign they wont really know
>>16629945
Just confronted my parents again. They threatened to kick me out of the house if they find out that I'm working full time instead of finishing college.
>talk to grills
>grill friends are always shocked to hear that I'm a kissless virgin because they say I'm not bad looking at all
>hang around nice g0rl that finds me interesting
>selfesteem.jpg
>yesterday, new year's even, one of my best mate's gf is at the party
>"You're fat and you look like a faggot"
>I weight 60 kilograms with a winter coat on
>gtfoslut.oggvorbis
>go talk to this fat dude that I don't know, he's on weed like crazy and talks about deep stuff like every fucking junkie ever
>grill hears him and soon after they fuck each other despite her looking good and him looking disgusting
>no grill at the party even looks at me once
What the fuck. In a non-partying enviroment I have women around all the time, every time I actually try to go get some pussy or get in a social context where I should expect to meet a single girl who looks for a guy this kind of shit happens.
What am I doing wrong?
>>16629865
>"You're fat and you look like a faggot"
lol'd
>>16629865
you aren't making "the move"
you suck at flirting
obviously
>>16629865
Just get drunk, grab a chick and talk for a while while you hold her and then lean in once you get close enough
Idk works for me but I'm 18
I attract crazy chicks. Why?
>>16629852
you choose crazy chicks. that's the real issue.
I am going to keep this as brief as possible. I have been on /adv/ for ages (all summer) - maybe a decade or something. I am also really interested in why some people have decent lives, and others end up on /r9k/. Neither of these are extraordinary qualification, but it would be fair to say that I understand why the losers here are losers. It all comes down to not doing really basic shit, often because people here are "too smart" and "too proud" to do it. And I agree - this basic shit leads to a "normie" upper middle class life after a lot of effort. Still, I would argue that it's better than having no control over life whatsoever.
With that said, I think if you do, or don't do, one thing I list every week, and every week thereafter for three months, you will see RAPID and DRAMATIC improvements at the end of the little experiment. Some of these things will be stuff you are already doing - for example "start working out (with details" will be listed at some point, but I know a ton of you are already doing it. That's all - none of this is remotely new, none of this will make you a billionaire or get you supermodels, but it will provide you with a baseline.
WEEK 1: Cut all junk food - anything processed with sugar (fruits don't fall into this category), chips, pretzels, fries, pizza, etc.
P.S. These threads are likely to get deleted as off-topic, but if you are a mod doing so - consider what people come here looking for, and this will be FAR more useful than me telling people to go ahead and talk to that girl for the 1000th time. Also, feel free to discuss the problems in your life and things you want changed, though they tend to be similar for everyone.
That's an awesome idea op. I will keep an eye open for your threads. Good luck!
>>16629830
>WEEK 1: Cut all junk food - anything processed with sugar (fruits don't fall into this category), chips, pretzels, fries, pizza, etc.
does fast food count? making my own meals is too hard tbqh family. i probably get take-out 6-10 times a week
>>16630831
You have already failed
My Disabled mother (bipolar, psychitzophrenic, fibromyalgia, PTSD, etc) has always been fine during her life. She's always been able to care for herself and has done a fine job at doing so. About a month ago she had a stroke at the age of 44. All was going well until a few days ago. No one could contact her so after four days my brother did a wellness check on her. She's not herself. She's acting confused and she can hardly comprehend what people are telling her whether it be conversation or commands. The hospital she's at is claiming she may need 24 hour care but my entire family is poor and we can't afford it. All my family members have full-time jobs so we can't care for her ourselves. Does anyone have any suggestions? She lives off of disability because the Doctors say she's incapable of working due to her mood swings and her pain. Does disability offer any aid when it comes to finding her help?
My disabled girlfriend lost her ears. She never listens when I tell her to do things. Sucks.
>>16629776
Yes, there are more services available for her if she is destitute and is requiring 24 hour care. In all likelihood it will involve her going to a state-funded nursing home. It will not be good. She will likely get abused in some way or another. That's just the way shit is. State-funded facilities are notoriously shitty, because they have little money and the people who work there give as much of a shit as the kids who work fast food.
Maybe she'll get lucky and go to a nice place. But prepare yourself to be her advocate, and check up on her often to make sure she is not being taken advantage of/abused.
Until then, you need to contact your local welfare office. They'll tell you who you need to talk to.
Duurt lang.
