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Is it possible to erase a feeling?
I keep feeling lonely and I can't fathom these people who are just like "lol I have no interest in dating" because simply deciding to not care for love makes just as much sense to me as just spontaneously deciding to quit food and never feeling hungry again.
How do you stop wanting a goddamn hug?
>>16633543
>makes just as much sense to me as just spontaneously deciding to quit food and never feeling hungry again.
That's a pretty good comparison actually.
You know how when you're doing something, and you're really into it, like really in the zone, and then you realize "shit, I've been so busy I haven't eaten in X hours"?
Same principle, just keep being busy with yourself.
>>16633572
I have so much shit to do I'm legit contemplating faking a suicide attempt again just to get to a little vacation in a mental ward.
Having stuff to do doesn't make me content. It only makes me draw back deeper into these thoughts. The more I try to run the tighter they stick to me.
>>16633579
>contemplating fake suicide to get some free time
>has time for shitposting on an Hawaiian ornithology mailing list
Ok.
Anyway, depends on what you mean by "shit to do". I'm not talking about mundane tasks you do because they're your responsibility, I'm talking about something you can really dedicate yourself to. This kind of stuff won't draw you deeper into >tfw no gf, because you'll actually have your...
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I'm engaged. Wedding is in a few months.
I was the one who proposed and organised the entire thing. I love my partner, just don't really have a spark with them anymore.
Suddenly want to fuck someone else.
Fiance is relatively relaxed and realistic, not overly emotional, have discussed (somewhat jokingly) the idea of fucking other people before and it didn't cause an argument.
Question is - do I share this information with them and try and come to some agreement? Do I cancel the wedding? Do I fuck this other person and just keep it...
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>>16633521
Its most likley a bit of panic because your about to marry.
DO NOT TELL THEM AND DONT FUCK ANYONE ELSE.
You'll destroy him/her
>>16633530
Thanks Anon.
But I really, really want to. I feel as though this is my destiny and if I don't do it, I'll just think about it forever and wank myself into a giant hole in the ground.
So I have been through a lot as a child and I thought I was cured but now my Neurodermitis came back in a different form as my doctor told me. I have been trying out special creams that my doctor gave me and my diet has changed already since those days were it first appeared but in the last week it is only getting worse. Does anyone have experience with this, or does anyone know how to cure it?
I have this, psoriasis, it's on my scalp even. My hands I just try to keep lotioned a lot and I avoid washing them too often or dishes. I carry antibacterial around. Cold weather is usually when my hands get the worst. The only thing that ever cleared my hands was getting cortisone shots. A lot of them. And they burn! But over night my hands cleared. Ask your dermatologist if you want but it did come back. Count yourself lucky if that's it. I hate that my skin is so awful. And I'm a girl so I'm expected to have soft nice skin. It's autoimmune so really...
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>I have been trying out special creams that my doctor gave me
Found your problem.
Do a full organic/natural detox, diet and environment. In addition to the usual stuff, you definitely need to switch to castile soaps for hair and body, free and clear/sensitive skin/gentle or plant-based laundry detergent, and natural-base skin creams/lotions
Buy some lanolin to cover the worse parts as they heal. That looks painful.
>>16633619
You people are actually the worst. You know what they call alternative treatments that actually work? Medicine.
Anybody whose first suggestion is 'go organic' shouldn't be taken seriously, OP.
We've been friends for over 5 years at least. We go way back to high school. Things started to get really sexual in the last year or so, but from his texts you could see that he did care about me...like asking me about what books I was reading, movies, shows, just life in general.
Last night he finally answered why he was distancing himself from me and why he was avoiding me. He told me that he liked my body a lot and that his main focus when he would talk to me was trying to get some. He said that I shouldn't talk to him or try to be friends with him because...
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>>16633449
It's gonna be tough, but I say drop him. I mean, he gets a few points for being real with you and taking himself out of the equation before anything happened, but still, you deserve better.
>>16633461
Yeah, I guess I have to. But still, five years of friendship just gone...just like that. It's depressing.
>>16633449
Sounds like he sees himself in the friendzone.
The only way for him to get over it is to have little to do with you until he moves on.
Its shit but its always going to happen when guys and girls are friends.
Is it appropriate to make a move before the end of a date?
Like, say you agreed to meet up in the afternoon and watch a movie in the evening or something, what would it be like if you made a move after an hour or two?
I'm asking because I don't want things to escalate to sex (yet), so I kind of want to keep it slow, but I really don't want to wait for the goodbye kiss either, since I fucked up on that on previous occasions.
It's not a first date btw. Sorry if I seem autistic, I'm inexperienced.
If she likes you it's fine
No seriously just feel it out you'll know when to make the move
YO MAN, YOLO, YOU'LL PAY THE PRICE FOREVER I KNOW IF YOU DON'T TRUST YOUR GUT. YOUR GUT SAYS DAMN HER LIPS LOOK DAMN TASTY, YOU GO FOR IT! FOR FUCK'S SAKE, YOU DON'T TRUST FOR YOUR DESIRE?
YOUR DESIRE IS WHAT GOT HER THERE TO BEGIN WITH. TRUST THAT SHIT, NATURE WILL DO THE REST.
>>16633407
>No seriously just feel it out you'll know when to make the move
Well, I did fuck it up before, so I'm kind of trying not to rely on my shitty instincts too much here.
I'm confident she likes me, though.
Have accidentally fallen hard for a guy who is emotionally stunted, a liability and essentially 4chan personified. Though, I think he is simply wonderful. We have extremely different lives but have a good connection and have known each other for a considerable amount of time.
I don't want to fix him, I just want to try and be with him. But how do I deal with the fact that we clearly have very different values and priorities?
I am very affectionate, social, have a very settled and "grown up" life. He is very reserved, quite indifferent at times and...
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How is he emotionally stunted? And what do you mean by a liability?
guys like that are never going to proactively approach you so you might as well give up now
Go for it' do not let him become a phantom pain to forever and always torment you.
Go, whatever happens, I'm sure he's a good and decent man in the end.
The world needs more good and decent men to take care of all the lonely and frightened women.
Love is an inferno, and we are by fire made cinders and ashes in the end.
Yesterday my girlfriend and I lost our virginity to eachother. I had difficulties getting hard but I managed to and even if it hurt a bit for her, we had a great time.
We used a condom and everything, and she finished me blowing me, spilling some semen at bed. The thing is that I touched it, and after some time I fingered her with the same hand, so she texted me worried about being pregnant because of it last night. I would say my hand was dry when I fingered her, but I cant be sure. She immediately bought and took a morning-after pill I offered to pay for (in case she decided...
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Sorry OP but ig she's pissed at you for something so incredibly unimportant you should be the person to dump her
>>16633412
Is it that unimportant? She could have gotten pregnant and the morning-after pill has side effects.
And honestly I dont want to dump her, I love her. I dont think she wants to dump me either, but it worries me.
there's no way she could get pregnant from tha
Have been in a relationship with this girl for 4 years. We have had our ups and downs, separated multiple times and got together. Last time we separated, she messaged me out of nowhere after 4 months saying that she misses me. In fact, one could argue that she is the one who always got us back together, again. But despite that, I feel like I am the one who is more invested in our relationship.
I am more affectionate, I always try to make her come first for everything and all that. Back when we got back together she was all lovey-dovey and I felt great, she acted like...
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>>16633288
Friendly but desperate bump.
You deserve someone who loves you and cares about you. If someone loves you and cares, they show it. It is natural. You just can't hide it.
Let her go and find someone who treats you well.
>>16633425
How do you explain the fact that she's always coming back for more? Is she just being an attention whore and wanting someone who's all into her?
Last time we got back together she said that she went on two dates with a different guy each and didn't like them one bit. That she realized that I was "awesome" and that she doesn't want someone else.
I gotta admit, when she said those things I felt so damn happy and I almost believed that things would be different and that she'd...
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I see it as being pointless and a waste of the person's GPA.
>Being a vet has a lower status and income
>The number of years of studying in grad school is the same though
>Job security is somewhat lower than being a doctor
>You memorise the same shit about anatomy so it's not like vet school is easier
>Both are just as stressful as you need to perform operations and that is gruesome
>Vet...
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Because they like it more. Because they don't want to see a human being in pain. Because they are more interested in animals than in human anatomy. Because they don't want to deal with patients.
Being a doctor means that you have someone else's life in your own hands, it's not a job for everyone. That's it.
>>16633260
I'd think it'd be obvious to assume that the reason behind it would be that the person simply likes it better to deal with animals than humans.
Hell, I believe I would have been able to endure studying mechanical engineering or math, those areas interest me, yet here I am studying graphic design (its got some programing and other computer science-y stuff to it, so landing a job won't be hard, I imagine) which, at the end of the day, I like better.
or maybe what >>16633269...
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>>16633269
Dealing with sick animals is really the same as dealing with sick humans.
>>16633280
Really, both jobs are fundamentally the same. Why not pick the one which pays better?
My bf and I had a fight and broke up for some time. During that time he started talking with a girl and later I found out that even while we were together he wrote her stuff like "I'm sure you look cute when you blush".
Now we are back together but every time I am reminded of that girl I get so mad. I kick the pillow but it doesn't help. I am mad both at my boyfriend and at this girl.
What to do? It's been months but I don't think I can forget and it gets worse with time.
Have you ever talked to him about this fact?
tell chad he's doing great.
cool thread would post again 8/10
You need therapy, this is not a normal level of jealousy
I so desperately want to be a lesbian. how do I do this/cope with this as a man?
stop looking at porn so damn much
if the feelings persist in a non-sexual way arrange to speak with a therapist who deals with gender issues
>>16633036
>i want to be a woman that gets with women
why not be a man that gets with women? you have a bigger dating pool and dykes are typically ugly and manly
>be man
>want to be lesbian
>like women
>profiteering motherfucker
>one day into NoFap and already failed
How do I contain my raging dragon /adv/
Faggot i have done no Fap for a week
>>16633006
get off the chan
get hobbies
just don't touch your dick when you get a boner
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2m4a-bl4alo
Accidentally came inside gf. She's on the pill and her fertile period apparently doesn't start for another few days, according to what I looked up.
Should I be worried?
If she's on the pill, you're probably fine. My ldr gf starts on the pill whenever we're planning on meeting and we have daily cum inside sex for however long we're together and, so far, nothing. Just chill breh
You will be worried but you'll probably just be fine.
Remember this event next time before you have sex.
>>16632999
>Remember this event next time before you have sex.
Not sure if you're saying I should remember it next time to make me more careful or less worried.
Teenage fag here, need some advice. Cringe ahead.
So there's this qt, I've had an on and off crush on her for almost 2 years. A while back the feelings went kind of dormant but then she said she liked me and telling me will help her or some shit. I'm not that expressive and one day let it all out, she says she likes me but doesn't want a relationship. She's "against" relationships. The cunt she was with earlier hurt her real bad. She knows about my huge crush(9/10), we still talk. Asked me if I was waiting for her, I said yes. Told me I...
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>>16632982
>Teenage fag here
fuck off minor
>>16632984
Okay...
I don't really have good advice for you. But you seem like a reasonable guy. Just swept away by hormones.
Taking any kind of action would be a good idea. If you move on, she might run after you, because women want what they can't have, or what is tough to get. It's often nothing but a game. You do realize that playing games will bring you fun, but no fulfillment? In the ideal scenario, you both want the same thing.
But you're a teenage fag, as you said, so getting hooked on the qt bait is normal. Hope you get laid eventually. Best of luck.
I am 42 (yeah, I know I am an old user od this site). My late husband passed away a year ago. Is it too late to find love again? Am I stuck with a pool of very undesirable men?
I do not have any children. I am of Asian descent so I look younger than my actual age, but I get the impression that findinf someone again will be tough.
>>16632850
My mom got married at the age of 40 despite having a son (me).
Granted by that time I was about to finish college and already moved out of her house anyway, also I don't really like her husband, I mean he's a good guy but I'd wish she'd found someone more... wild? Anyway it is not impossible but you might be better of getting a hobby, if you don't enjoy yourself why would someone else find you interesting?
>>16632864
I am too miserable to get a hobby.
>>16632991
dating sites
