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Have you ever broken friendships because of friends doing things that annoy the living shit out of you?
>>16634493
Yes. I should do it more frequently. The rule is - don't quit being friends with people during hard times. I.e. if their gf just dumped them, and their parents kicked them out of the house and they lost their job, you owe them to stick with them for a reasonable amount of time. If everything is going well for them, feel free to end it. Lots of things change.
>>16634520
Truth of the matter is - I am not sure if I am being reasonable or just being a cunt because people have lately commented on how I can be a bit short-tempered and a dick to people that I dislike.
Friend at question is constantly late when meeting up. Typically 15 minutes, more often way more. Couple of times in the past few months he completely failed not to just show up but to even text me because he somehow falls asleep. Numerous "bigger" plans that I tried to set up with him fell through (going out of town to concerts, going on trips, stuff like that) because he always cancels at the last minute for various reasons. It's hard talking to him because all music that he likes is because of me introducing him to it. He doesn't watch movies, his pop culture knowledge is non existant. He is a good looking guy and he is smart, but he never wants to approach women with me. And when I do it and bring girls to the two of us he always fucks it up by not making his move depsite girls being a sure thing. He is never up for drinking (this is obviously understandable but I'm trying to paint the picture as precise as possible). And the few times that he actually partied up with girls and has gotten shitfaced is when I wasn't around, which really made me fucking mad.
I'm not the one calling him, he always messages me for going out. So after him falling asleep last weekend I told him something akin of "listen, you have no understanding and respect of other people's free time, you are always late or you never show up, I think its better to just not hang out any more". He replied with me something about "that one time that I was late and he was understandable about it". Blocked his number after that.
>>16634564
2/2
I'm mad because I doubt every decision and everything, but some mutual friends are trying to convince me to not go this way about everything. It's a matter of principle, but even more - a matter of me not wanting to go out and be stressed out and in shit mood because of people always being late and not wanting to do anything.
I have a weird ass question. I was on tinder and pic related got a connection. Started texting and wants to suck my dick.....with pop rocks in her mouth. Is this a dumb idea? Will it hurt?
>>16634443
>her
>>16634443
Do it, its desolvable, and shouldnt destroy your cock...might feel weird, but if you throw out her putting ice in her mouth, that shit feels awesome...get her to suck on your balls while youre at it, you wont regret it.
>>16634443
A generation of degenerates.
So I'm a junior in high school. Grades are looking like A,D,C,C. Not very much money. Lost a lot of hope in the chances of my success. Anyone know any numbers or any information on the success rate of not very book smart people? Everyone tells me I'm incredibly intelligent and they can tell just by the way I "talk" but I just think I talk funny and it might sound intelligent to them. I don't know. Just really lost in that typical "what am I gonna do with my life" bullshit crisis everyone goes through.
>>16634423
>Everyone tells me I'm incredibly intelligent
looking at your grades I assume they are just trying to make you feel better
>>16634429
That's what I'm assuming
Grow to be curious about everything and learn how stuff works. Book smarts are not everything. But never stop trying to learn, and you will become wise.
I need some advice
Ok so here's how it is fuck green text. I'm a 20 year old virgin stuck in grad school with no gf ever. Over the summer I started messaging a girl on Facebook for a few weeks. After awhile I got lazy and the messages petered out. My friend asked if he could go for it and I said yes. Next thing you know they're in a relationship and fucking on the reg. Fast forward to a few days ago and the chick starts messaging me again. My friend had broken up with her a month or two ago citing trust issues. At one point she threw and broke his phone out of jealousy. Should I pursue this? Do I have anything to lose?
yeah your phone
STOP
LISTEN
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here's my story
in middle school i was a runescape nerd. in highschool i was a wow nerd. yeah i got laid a few times with a few different bitches. thats cause im like 6'1 and wasnt exactly horrible on the face. but after highschool i got NO PUSSY
im 23 now. and my romantic life outside of highschool was non existant. then i found these guys
WHAT THEY HAVE TOUGHT ME
1. STOP CARING SO GODAMN MUCH WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU. what really matters is what YOU think and if youre ENJOYING what youre doing or not. if you like something DO IT. if you dont like it. DONT DO IT
2. BE ASSERTIVE. dont be afraid to make your needs known. dont be that little bitch "friend" to a girl when secretly you wanna fuck her on ever flat surface imaginable. when you present yourself as friendly then a girl will think thats what you want. a friend. but if you present yourself as a lover then she might do 2 things. NOT want to fuck you. which is ok NEXT there's like 23847238047923 girls out there. or she will fuck you. yay!
3. just what i said. there's like so many godamn women out there. seriously just go outside im sure youll fall in love at least a hand full of times. i go to the grocery store and spot women id be down to shag. you can go to a park and find beautiful big booty bitches. you can go to WALMART and there's still plenty of women running around. seriously there's so many women out there dont get caught up on one
4. if you want to get with a girl, you gotta try to get with a girl. there are no girls in your living room. unless youre married or something but first you gotta get them there. you gotta go outside. you gotta put yourself out there. it might be a little nerve racking at first but TRUST ME. the more you go out and try to talk to a girl the more comfortable you will be around them
at first you might say hi and run away. but the next girl you might say hi and she'll say hi back. then youll run away
>>16634437
This
So, my girlfriend doesn't like spending time on foreplay... She is telling me she likes it when i lick her and all but she prefers the thing.
Am i doing something wrong ? Foreplay turns me on a lot...
>>16634401
Hi M****** xD
:3 :3 :3 :3
Maybe she doesn't love you or doesn't feel comfortable with you ? I'm a girl and I could spend hours on foreplay, literally
My gf of 11 years walked out on me. She said its cause I didnt do the things men are suppose to do. Here are a few things she said. I didnt propose just gave her a ring and expected it to be enough. I cancelled our upcoming wedding cause I felt I wsnt ready. I give her terrible valentines day gifts even tgough she likes video games so why not. I refused to dance at her friends wedding and what sparked this is that I forgot to kiss her on new years. I really love her and I want her back. Pic related, is the gf
She's ugly as fuck dude,also sounds like the crazy arrogant bitch people would want to escape from. The way I see it, she did you a favor.
It's not that you're "not doing the things men are supposed to do." The problem is, you're acting as if you don't give a fuck about her. You're completely disregarding her feelings, and her wishes. Even now, you post her picture on 4chan without permission when it isn't even fucking relevant.
You have to actually SHOW people that you care about them. If you love her so much, you should at least try to do things to make her feel nice. Those little romantic gestures matter a whole lot, especially to women. It shows that you actually want to give her the things that she wants.
Think before you act, plan nice things for her, stop acting like the world revolves around YOUR feelings and treating her like an afterthought.
Yeah she's ugly so OP must be an autistosaurus.
Learn your lesson and treat other girls better.
how do you stop waiting for somebody to get in touch with you?
i'm a relatively well adjusted person, several previous stable relationships, no real issues and not particularly jealous or clingy (usually).
i find at the moment i'm just waiting for somebody in particular to make contact. if i don't hear something, i must have said something wrong, perhaps they're avoiding me. i can't possible get in touch first because i've already done that in the past week.
it's so hard, /adv/. i end up playing games with myself like ignoring my phone for an hour just to get the buzz of seeing something from them and i feel sad if i don't. sometimes i want to waste time sleeping or doing nothing so i don't have to feel that way.
i feel horrible at the thought that they might not get in touch at all on an evening.
this is not good, i need to get a grip. anybody else in a similar boat and managed to not be a massive pussy?
suggesting being busy with other things doesn't really work as it's still on my mind.
Just fucking text them. Seriously. Works two ways. For all you know they're thinking the same thing you are.
I, for instance, should really text this guy, but I've been feeling miserable all week and don't want it to come through on text. But if he texted me, I'd be pretty happy!
>>16634384
person is probably not awake and i've been the first person to make contact recently. i kinda want to give them chance to speak to me if they want to, rather than speaking to me because they feel they have to.
I know exactly how you feel anon, I'm the same, it sucks so bad. Also if I see they haven't been online on facebook for a couple of hours I find myself obsessing and worrying about what they might be doing, it's so stupid.
The only solution i see is keeping busy, but even that's hard because your mind slips, that's how it is when you really like someone.
My bf and i were in bed watching Netflix and I put on "Real Rob" to see what it was and he popped a huge boner when Rob's Mexican wife came on. I got really mad. He said he just had a boner bc he was in bed with me and he was warm but I don't believe him. Now I feel sad.
>getting mad over an involuntary bodily function
>so fucking insecure that you get jealous of an actress on Netflix
he's going to dump you if you keep this shit up. Nobody likes living in a minefield
>>16634257
Well if she wAs a hot blond I wouldnt mind but he used to fool around with Mexicans and I dont like that
>>16634264
You have to be trolling
The picture says it all
>>16634180
Dear OP,
These threads suck, aren't cathartic, don't offer any advice, and only help people perpetuate whatever feelings they already have and really don't belong on this board. Faggot.
Me
>>16634223
Why are you here then?
>>16634180
>>>>>>>16629099
The actual thread dumbass.
A guy I met told made told me a girl sends him videos of her masturbating and that he fucks her. I had a weird feeling of depression, anxiety and selfloathing (I start thinking I am worthless and that I should kill myself) after that. It is not the first time it happens. I always feel like that if somebody tell me they fuck with some girl and do that kind of stuff.
Why does this happen to me?
>>16633978
Stop creating expectations toward people you barely know, its not like every guy you met will be your echanted prince.
>>16633978
It is called jealousy
>>16634117
this
Hello /adv/
/sci/ and /fit/ guy here. Here is a little background story.
I am a nuclear physics student and I was awarded a fellowship to go to Tel Aviv Israel to learn more about data science and machine learning. I have a girlfriend, and I like her a lot. There are a lot of good looking girls here, and some hit on me but I am not really phased or tempted. But one of the fellowships instructors, who is working toward her PhD has been stuck in my head for a few days. She is not extremely beautiful but she is very talented at what she does. There were a few times when we were flirtatious I guess, but I overall cannot get her out of my head. It is a strange infatuation because she is probably around 10 years older than I. She also has a French accent. I didn't really feel infatuated until the other members of the fellowship group started mocking both of us about a coffee incident.
What should I do, and advice on how to get this out of my head? Thanks /adv/
Also I know at least one other fellow uses 4chan, so if you see this please keep it a secret.
>>16633962
I don't know how closely you guys have to work together, but my advive would be to keep it as professional as possible. Do your work together, then leave. Don't go out for drinks afterwards, don't hang out together, etc. Even if you do have to go out with the rest of the grpup for lunch or whatever, don't sit next to her and make a conscious effort to spend only some of the time talking to get on 1 on 1 asides (just to be friendly) - spend more time talking to other people.
If ever in doubt, imagine whether you would want your gf or fiance to do the same thing with another man if she were in the exact same position. If it makes you pause even for a second, don't do it.
>>16634017
Yes you are right. She is gone now, no longer the instructor. But I find it interesting how some women effect me in a very powerful way. Like I only knew her for a few days and she was not super beautiful but I now cannot stop thinking about it.
dont ruin whatever good you might come to have because of something you know will end sooner or later. it would feel great to keep flirting and get it on but its just your basic instincts telling you you are lonely. my advice is stay away or try avoiding flirty situations because if it continues you may lose focus on what you are trying to do with your life and you may lose your gf over some stupid infatuation thats not even real caused by loneliness and sexual attraction. its not worth it man. set your priorities and stick to them.
Are accelerated high school programs, and online classes and all that shit worth it/legit as fuck, or would it be better to just get a GED?
>>16633903
No man, do not get a GED they are useless now. Don't take my word for it guide that shit, employers have enough people looking for work that GEDs go into the trash right worth the dropouts.
It's fucked but the GED program is outdated shit. It used to be enough to get into a trade but now you'd just be a certified dropout.
And fur fuck sake don't listen to any middle aged tradesmen who went the GED route in the 90's or earlier, it's a totally different world now. Cliche though it sounds fucking stay in school man, unless you want to be pushing grocery carts it mowing lawns the rest of your life.
It depends on where you want to go in life.
4 more years of homework, and you'll be set to go get a degree at college which if used properly can get you far.
Or
GED, grit your teeth through shitty jobs for 10 years, get a modest paying good job, and still dream about better things but too old to pursue.
So assuming I don't go with GED stuff, at that point would it be better to straight up go back, or is all the online and fast shit viable?
RIght now I am in a situation where I don't really want to hang with a female friend anymore (im a guy). I guess in the beginning of the school year I thought she was pretty so I talked to her and got to know her.
But then after the first month I found her to be a very weak woman (emotionally) and idk if i am being selfish or what but I felt her to be using me for what I had to offer.
Ex. I had 50% off student meal plans and she ate every meal with me for almost one month and just walked off after each meal, only contacting me during the meal times.
Ex. always asking me for music theory help). I find our relationship not really offering me anything but just taking from me, (no pussy from her either)
Now I want her to leave me alone but she msgs me and I feel like a dick when trying to ignoring her asking "hey when are you coming back?! I havent seen you for long!"
Then she sends me a sad emoji and I feel like absolute shit for making her feel bad.
I just want her to leave me alone and not bother me with her woman bullshit and waste my time in which I get nothing in return. But when I return to school I will have to see her from classes and i really dont know what to say if she asks "why are you ignoring me?" without being rude.
What should I do guys?
Thanks
Noodle Bro
>>16633895
It seems like she has some issues with herself. I get the feeling that she is like this because she has a weak self-respect (I know some girls that are the same way and this is true for).
Maybe this is a stage where you have to make a choice to either stop trying for a relationship or to care for her so much that she'll change. Thing is she probably has no good friends that are supportive and give her strength and advice, only party animals or shit talkers.
You could be her true friend, but you'll have to honestly care for her. If she's manipulative after (and if) you try, then leave her
>letting that meal thing go on for a month
Stopped reading right there.
You're a sap. Come back here once you're capable of acting like a reasonable person.
>>16633895
She is not emotionally weak dumbass, you are
She is manipulating you in the most old school way and you are falling for it
I'm a complete loser with women. My one and only ever relationship ended 2 years ago and I am just about now at the point where my sanity is finally returning. I am a cliche example of a Beta guy raised by a single woman, female teachers, grandmothers etc and have always had women up on a pedestal and am riddled with rejection/attachment issues. I am trying to change and feel a shift in my thinking. From what I can gather from my extensive research, and very limited experience, the following are the rules to live by concerning women:
1) Confidence, bordering on arrogance, and a genuine Don't. Give. A. Fuck attitude (total outcome independence) are what women are most attracted to (not withstanding genetic factors and financial status of course)
2) Never listen to a word a woman says, judge her by her actions
3) Nothing is more of a turn off to a woman than submissiveness. Being dominant is fundamental to attraction.
4) NEVER get emotional around a woman or reveal to them any weakness or personal problems, regardless of how incessantly they may encourage you to do so.
5) Given the right man, and the right circumstances, a woman will ALWAYS cheat and then rationalise it later.
6) Women are very often consciously unaware of what it is they actually want from a man and a relationship.
7) In a completely objective sense, women are pathological liars and manipulators by nature
8) Bitchiness, rudeness and other unacceptable behaviour is generally a test to see if you are dominant enough to have sex with her and is not always reflective of her true personality
9) Women want to be sexually dominated in a wild and rough manner, without exception
10) Money and "stability" are more important than sex and excitement once a woman decides she wants to settle down and have kids and married/settled women put out far less often than before.
What am I missing and what else can I learn about this strange breed?
>What am I missing and what else can I learn about this strange breed?
Women are human beans just like you. Just treat them like men. Lieterally delude yourself into believing they have dicks and broad shoulders. It will do you a world of good. Those "rules" are only sending you deeper into the Labyrinth
i think theory is good
but we have to keep in mind theory is just that, it will work in some situations and in some it won't
if you plan on getting as many womans as you can, then following these rules might be a good idea
but if you want a genuine relationship based on honesty, then the old cliche "be yourself" might be the best option
>>16633758
Nice little worldview you constructed yourself there. Feel better yet? No? Well, maybe it's because this shit is neither correct nor helping.
Some of your points are indeed very valid, but you could easily replace 'women' with 'most people'. Making these statements about women in general is not just stupid, it is also wrong. There simply are not that many actual genetic gender differences between men and women, men differ more from men and women more from women than men differ from women.
Of course, our societies shape us and there are some typical patterns of behavior that you can find quite a lot in women (from my experience points 1, 8, 10). But even these don't apply to everyone, and if they do, they do so to a different extent for each person.
You can become a PUA dick and play games and exploit and have the shallow satisfaction of fucking stupid and crazy bitches, but why not focus on yourself and be happy with your life, and eventually run into a wonderful woman that will make you realize how mistaken you were?
>Be me
>Age 29
>Extremely lonely; no social skills; no friends
>I get no pleasure from social interaction with strangers
>Hate areas with lots of people, like bars or sporting events
>Hate smalltalk
>On antidepressants since age 12
>Didn’t masturbate until age 21; had to read an online guide
>Never been in a relationship; never been on a date; virgin
>The idea of sex disgusts me
>Porn disgusts me
>Coworkers think I’m gay or a creep (Call me "Serial killer" at work)
>Mom is disabled from an accident; live with mom
>Hate happy people and wish them violent deaths
What’s wrong with me, /adv/?
>On antidepressants since age 12
Found your problem
Side effects of antidepressants
>sexual issues
which has obviously led to no self-pleasuring, no relationships, no sex/porn interest
>agitation, irritability, and anxiety
which have probably led to your anti-social issues
http://www.uncommonhelp.me/articles/antidepressants-dirty-little-secret/
>>16633795
normally I poo-poo this kind of all natural advice but ummmmmmmmmmm
If your life sucks this much, the anti-depressants clearly aren't helping and may be hurting quite a bit.
>>16633795
>>16633816
I tried to get off of the antidepressants; I weened down like you are supposed to for three months, then went off them. One month was absolute hell from withdrawals. The next six months were absolutely horrible. I would leave work in the middle of the day and cry in my car and then come back. At one point I nearly killed myself.
The doctor told me I would be on these antidepressants for the rest of my life because my brain can no longer regular serotonin without the medicine, due to the long exposure since childhood. So I had to go back onto the meds.
