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Adv is this picture what woman want, to be cuddled by a big strong man like so
Cus i wanna be that guy, cuddling that sweet cute girl
Is this your fantasy girls/boys
Women only want that until they get bored and go looking for a "new and exciting" man to cuddle with.
>>16630653
Are you a boy or a girl (your viewpoint)
>>16630650
This only works if you're very tall and built, and the girl is very small by comparison.
So will that EXACT fantasy come to reality? Not unless you're a tall, built guy who manages to date a very small woman.
But in general, women like to be held by men who they perceive to be strong, stable and comforting. So as long as you are strong, stable and comforting in the eyes of the woman you are dating, yes, that scenario can exist.
(Happy 2016 btw)
I'm in my 2nd year of my undergrad and after my 3rd semester I pretty much can't do premed anymore. I got all Cs in my science classes and a D+ in Organic Chem, pretty much screwing myself over gradewise for medical school (I needed some As and Bs this semester to hit a 3.0 average, and well that's now just a dream). If I continue down my Bio specific major I'm pretty much gonna dig a deeper whole for myself. I'm probably gonna switch to a major I care (more) about, specifically either Computer Science or Computer Engineering. Problem is, both my parents/grandparents want me to go into medicine. They're old fashioned so it'll definitely be weird for them. I'm not really scared to do it either because as long as I'm in college doing stuff they'll be generally happy, but they always wanted me to do medicine so there's that hoop to cross. Any suggestions?
Tell them you're not doing well in or enjoying your coursework, and that your advisor or professors suggested you switch majors so that you can graduate/get a job.
>>16630323
>Mom and dad, after 2 years of trying out this whole premed thing, I've decided it's not for me. I'm not interested in the coursework and I've discovered that I like computers a lot more. I'm going to switch my major to CS or Engineering.
>Are you sure about that, son? You know how much your grandparents were looking forward to seeing you succeed as a doctor.
>I know, but I did give it a try for two years and it's not making me happy. I believe this change will allow me to be happy in my future career.
>Okay, we just want you to be happy.
As much detail as you can give about the plans and opportunities which you see in a future with CS/CE. The less time they spend focused on medicine, the better the conversation will go.
Need help from sexually active people of either gender.
Yet another kissless creep in his 20s. Trying to re-evaluate what I should look for here.
I've accepted that dream girls don't exist, that I'm not much of a catch myself so I need to lower the bar or die alone. What is better to have: a stupid hot girl or "best friend that also has a vagina" but looks like hell. I have plenty of female friends, some have made it clear they want more, but they're all so fucking fat or otherwise unattractive.
So, do you even enjoy sex with someone that is ugly? I mean if you really like them otherwise. Because all my life I've always heard about guys who hate their gf/wife and her dumb friends and her stupid movies and blah blah sob stories about the past that he doesn't care about but puts up with her awful personality because "it ain't gonna suck itself".
But then on the other hand I can think of some people I know who are in really good shape and look good but have big fat or ugly or pockmarked girlfriends, but you can tell they're so happy and always goofing off and just enjoy each other as friends. Then again, maybe they're into BBW or she's satisfying some other fetish somehow, and it really IS just about sex.
I mean I realize I'm not going to meet a girl who totally perfect and is my best friend and smart and likes everything I like and isn't crazy AND is super smoking hot, even if she did exist she wouldn't go for me. So basically in terms of "lowering standards" what should I be less focused on and what should I be more focused on. Is the hot sex worth the arguments and boring basicness, or is sex with an uggo still good because you like them anyway so maybe you can have both if you don't focus on looks.
Plz
I disagree. It's better to be single than to try and make a relationship work with someone incompatible.
You need to be attracted physically, emotionally, and mentally for a successful relationship.
It's true no person or relationship is perfect, but it's not impossible to find someone truly compatible.
>>16629477
D&D and jerking off 4 life.
I mean, work is not meant to be fun. It is more important to find a job which pays the bills. So why is pursuing your interests as a career not considered as being picky?
Because enjoying your work is pretty much a necessity or you'll go insane a decade later.
You also have to balance it against how realistic your ideal career is, but if you hate your job you're hating a significant portion of your life.
I think it's classist. pursuing your interests as a career is somewhat to tremendously expensive, so if you can't do it you're poor and therefore inferior.
>>16628989
>Because enjoying your work is pretty much a necessity or you'll go insane a decade later.
the overwhelming majority of people who have ever lived beg to differ.
Who here is quitting something? Drugs, alcohol, tobacco? Shit, let's go deepwr, self harm, sex, abuse, whatever you're addicted to and trying to quit, post it.
Tell /adv/ about it here, support each other, and let's try and make quitting a little easier.
>smoked a lot of weed and drank a lot
>quit a week ago
>can't sleep and I'm sad all the time
I know if I can make it the first few weeks I'll be ok but shit, I'd kill for a bowl or a beer right now. Probably shouldn't have cut out ALL my vices at once but no stopping now.
I used to self-harm a lot. My best friend made me promise I'd never do it again. I miss it and I think I'm gonna have to break the promise soon.
Quit cigarettes yesterday, gd asked so and I did it for her sake. Never going back to that shit again unless she leaves me
Trying to quit drinking, work has helped me immensely. I need to stop because I need money and it's part of my master plan. Which will most likely fail, but at least I'll better myself during it.
>be a 29 year old kissless virgin
>no friends
>aspie
>everyone else is enjoying life
>traveling, partying, having friends to hang out with, having relationships with others
>i'm just sitting around, will be in front of the computer tonight like every other night for the past 10+ years
what do i do to change /adv/?
seems impossible to make friends or get a qt3.14 gf
>>16627002
Go out. Fuck up. Consider suicide. Decide against suicide. Learn how you fucked put. Repeat the previous steps until it works.
>>16627002
girls like this should keep you going lol.
it's really about you anon.
if you're at rock bottom you can only go up right? so just fuck around. shower and go out tonight. there's tons of clubs and parties and shit.
IF you asberger the shit out of yourself and it's some horrible night, it's still better than sitting at home on the fucking computer
>>16627002
Nigger, just go out to a bar and have a beer. You might not successfully talk to any chicks but at least you made the effort to go out. What's the worst thing that could happen?
I'm a femanon in her 20s. I've never had any male attention in my entire life mainly because I'm unattractive and very shy, however want to try to make some changes and get a bf soon.
I don't understand what men want in a woman, or how to attract them. I used to watch dating advice videos and read blogs by love gurus about how to get guys and according to them, it all boils down to:
>be confident
>be playful
>keep him wanting more of you
>make him want to chase you
But lurking 4chan [spoiler]and reddit[/spoiler], all I see is:
>be attractive
>be nice and feminine
So what do men really want in a woman? What if even though they say they want X, they're really only attracted to Y? (Like how women say they want a "nice guy" but will often go for the bad boy). Pretty but bitchy and "hard to get" girls seem to get the most attention from tons of beta orbiters. I personally never see shy, pretty girls get nearly as much attention as the bitchy princesses.
So what do I do? Do I use female PUA techniques (be playful, confident and mysterious, make him want me, etc) or just be myself (shy, awkward but very sweet and polite)?
An attractive, feminine woman grabs a man's attention. The other stuff keeps him interested
A man asking a girl how to pick-up or be attractive makes absolutely no sense. A girl has never had to pick-up or date other girls, and so doesn't truly know how to do it. She may THINK she does, but we both know that is not the case. This is true for the opposite. You're presumably a girl, asking guys how to be pick-up or date men. We honestly don't know. We don't date other guys.
Ask girls for this sort of stuff, they have experience dealing with men during and after the attraction phase of relationships.
All bf/gf relationship starts with friends where you get to know each other until you both were confident enough to be sure he/she is the one.
If a relationship starts by physical attraction, the relationship won't last long.
So start off by joining some sort of community and expend your circle.
Got a phone call Christmas Eve to come hangout with a girl I knew from college who I had a crush on.
She told me she really missed me and wanted me to come over. She lived an hour away, but I drove there anyway late at night just to see her. She let me stay the night but we didn't do anything just held each other and told each other how much we cared about one another.
We both decide to hangout New Years Eve. I really want to do something special, so I purchase some expensive cruise tickets for us to celebrate. We go on this massive boat where there is all you can eat food and drinks. Music comes on and we are the first two to hit the dance floor.
Everything is going great, then the girl im with gets up to dance by her self. Some random guy goes up to dance with her while im sitting at the table having a drink. I notice it out of the corner of my eye and it bothers me. This was supposed to be our special night and she is dancing with someone else. I get up and grab the guy dancing with her and push him away. I then try to start dancing with her and she gets mad.
She says "I don't feel like dancing anymore." We go back to sit down and im confused. The rest of the night she is quiet and upset. I ask her whats wrong. She says "You didn't need to do that." I said it made me feel uncomfortable so I had to do something.
The next day she text me and says she doesn't want to be in a relationship with someone who "acts like that."
I don't know what I did wrong. I just didn't want to see her dance with someone else that night. She told me she loved me before the day before we went on this boat... and now we don't even talk anymore.
Was I wrong or is she? I haven't texted her back. I deleted her off social media but I haven't said a word to her since her text about "just wanting to be friends."
>>16637746
Jesus dude, you were clearly wrong. You guys aren't even dating and you acted crazy jealous. Did you think she was gonna blow him on the dance floor?
>>16637749
It felt like it was disrespectful. I couldn't just sit there while I paid a ton of money for us to be there just to watch her dance with some other guy. I felt insulted. What if I had started dancing with random girls? We were supposed to be a couple that night. I didn't get us kicked off the boat or anything. Maybe I overreacted but is that really so bad? I didn't say anything mean to her or accuse her of anything. I told her it made me feel uncomfortable.
>>16637756
Bro fuck what others may say i would've done the exact same thing, the girls there with you period! Not some mug pushing up against her on the dance floor...
Admittedly this attitude always fucked this up for me and i am hopelessly alone.
I'm a white guy, and my girlfriend is ethnically Armenian and in many situations looks Arab. We live like 3 apartments down from a Muslim Arab family that is apparently highly religious. They give my girlfriend shit constantly, particularly the dad in that family. He'll outright insult her in passing, and spit on the ground toward her.
What can I do to get this shit to stop harassing her?
talk to him
>>16637541
Spit back at the fuckwit / tell him his religion is flawed and violence will always surround him.
>>16637546
I'm not even sure I can, he won't speak english to me. I know he speaks it, at least a bit. Most of his insulting is done in arabic, which I don't speak.
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
>Anywhere outside. Or online.
Fuck off if you call that helping.
>>16634620
This.
>how do i get over love lost
Free relationship advice.
>>16634528
Is kanye and kim gon go dah distance?
>>16634528
What do you think about a 24 years old white german man, who does not have friends since more then 3 years, has never flirted, never has realised someone flirted with him and is a dateless, kissless virgin.
The man is on top a molecular biology student and overweight. Never has been at a club and about 3 times on a (birthday)party in his life.
Any advice here?
What are your thaughts on this?
>>16634528
Why does my bf get hard to girls that look nothing like me?
Come in and ask, and an advice shall follow no matter what your problem is, whether it be relationships, an illness, existentialism, religion or anything else.
The less vague you are the more helpful the replies can be. Replies may take a while, some even hours, but you are guaranteed an advice back, full of wisdom™!
Everyone else is free to give their advice as well.
A girl contacted me after midnight on New Years Eve to invite me out. We'd only met once before, I was totally shocked.
We talked a bunch and had a good time.
We had a conversation over text today, and at one point I asked if she wanted to meet again sometime. She totally ignored it.
We talked some more and I asked directly if she was free and wanted to meet tomorrow, at which point she paused for a long time, explained she was busy, and then asked when I was free next.
I was convinced she was interested in me romantically, but now I'm not so sure. Am I just overthinking this?
Should I go to war and become an instrument of mass murder, or desperately plead my ex to get with me? I could do either, it's really just down to fucking or fighting. One of the instincts has to win, I don't want it to be both.
Which do I choose?
Hey /adv/
So me and my gf had protected sex but her period is delayed since the 25/12/15. She claims she had periodic cramps that come and go but still not bleeding yet. Will be taking a pregnancy test tmr. If its a positive result, what is the best solution for an egg that have been fertilized for at least a week old ?
>tl;dr gf gets pregnant, wants abortion for less than a week. whats the best solution ?
Why do people slutshame?
Because sluts are disgusting and bad for society.
>>16633815
Why?
>>16633819
Because they create unstable marriages and unstable marriages increase the divorce rate and increased divocre rates increase the number of single mothers and single mothers raise criminals. Sluts are directly responsible for crime.
I've recently met a guy and hes 7 years older than me. Hes really nice and i genuinely love him, and he loves me. Hes 25 and im 18 but he doesnt have a job and he kind of just sits around at home and he doesnt really know what he wants to do in the future, but i really do love him and hes the first one that i really like.
I just want some advice of anons who are/have had similar experiences. What do you generally think about age differences this high?
>>16633124
It's not gonna work out
It's not gonna work out
>>16633124
It's not going to work out, not because of the age difference but because
>but he doesnt have a job and he kind of just sits around at home and he doesnt really know what he wants to do in the future
How do I come to terms with the fact that I'm not beautiful (example like pic related)? People say that beauty isn't everything, but it really is in society. It influences how you're brought up, how people treat you, and as a result of those things your personality and confidence.
>>16631853
In most cases, you can get to a 6 or 7 with excellent fitness, skin care, good makeup, etc. Especially by US standards.
>>16631853
Lift until someone loves you.
your are probably someone's 10/10.
and that girl is probably someone's 2/10.
looks are all relative to men.
i know this dude who is pretty handsome ( no homo ) but he married a girl that's way below his level, but he doesn't see it like that at all. he's really happy.
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