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tl;dr hooked up with a guy at a party, thinking of dating but I feel that I'm out of his league.
A not close friend of mine randomly texted me to see how was I going, we chatted for a while,
played a game match together and in the end asked me if I know where I'll greet the New Years.
As I said no, he invited me to go with him and his friends. I accepted.
As we got to the party, had a couple of drinks, became very social with everyone and a lot of people told my friend
'I'm really glad you invited her here, she seems very cool'
My friend once in a while would kiss my forehead, I wasn't stranged about that, cause his friends group would usually
come up randomly and his everyones forehead. It's like theyr group tradition, as one of the girls said 'Our friends
group really loves one another, maybe in time, you'll be one of us'
As time passed, a lot of us were tired of the dancing, singing and we just went to lay down on the sofa. I sat on my
friends lap, he would just hug me tightly.
Later, he asked me if I'd like to go and lay on the bed upstairs, not here, with other people on a small sofa.
Both of us went to lay on the bed and just laid there, talking about the party itself.
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Later, he asked me if I'd like to go and lay on the bed upstairs, not here, with other people on a small sofa.
Both of us went to lay on the bed and just laid there, talking about the party itself.
Long story short, we started kissing a lot, caress each other and in the end we had sex.
After that, we continued laying on the bed, in times we would kiss, in times we would laugh and joke around and in times
we would talk about life, it's details. He said he really loved the way everything happened and really loved the fact
that I don't take everything really seriously, thats why he really enjoyed hooking up with me and said he wanted this
from the beginning. Quote ' Oh come on, I know that you think i'm that so called 'fuckboy', but I'm not. I didn't
hook up with a girl in a long time and here, having you here is just wonderful. Even my best friend likes you, you heard
it yourself. He said I've never invited such a chill, fun girl and he wants us dating, but you know, it may only be a
drunk mans talks. I'll really be in touch with you, hell, maybe I'd really love to date you."
As we woke up, all sober, we would still cuddle in bed and kiss each others forehead. Both of us were smiling, at
moments laughing. In my suprise, after the New Years party he would kiss me infront of his friends and would hug
me thightly.
As we drove back home, we would cuddle in the back seat of the car, but for a reason, we both were freezing.
They released me near my home, my friend would of look at me, smiled and kissed me, hugged me, asked me if I'd like
to come with them later to the oldtown, but I said I'm not sure.
I got home and almost right away he texted me and we chatted till I went to sleep.
What should I do?
I'm interested in the guy, but what really bugs me, that he is a solid 10/10 and his girl friends are around 10/10 as
well. And here I am, something not far from 7/10.
Does it sounds that he is interested in me or should I not try doing anything?
Hey look! It's Snoop Doge!
>>16631734
>He kissed you
>"Is he interested in me?"
Nigga, how dense can you be?
I feel extremely self conscious and think i look stupid whenever I exercise. This has stopped me from going outside for runs since I don't own/don't have the money/don't have the room for a treadmill. It's not like the area around here is very populated. How do I break this?
dude a gym membership is like 10 bucks wtf?
By realizing that no one actually gives the slightest fuck what random strangers do or look like.
>>16631683
live in a rural area and no gyms around
Going on third date tomorrow, and neither of us have ever kissed anyone. When should I kiss her? Please help, thanks!
>>16631623
It comes natural. You both will know, don't stress.
>>16631631
I hope so, thanks
what are you guys doing for the date?
Ever since I've been sexually active, I've always wanted to peg a guy with a really nice ass. Finally, I've got a great boyfriend with a super fine ass. But he won't let me peg him. He'll, to his dismay, let me finger him sometimes, and let me lick his buttthole. I've told him I'll be gentle and loosen him up first by eating him out, but he doesn't believe me.
So two questions:
> is it wrong to deny anal sex to my bf since he won't let me peg him?
> how do I get him to let me peg him?
>>16631610
Haha, why? Do you secretly desire to have a dick of your own?
>>16631616
I'm a petite girl, and he's a big guy. There's nothing sexier to me than a manly man letting a girl dominate him like that. You could say I have a thing for male butts.
He knows I'd dominate him, but not the first time. I really would be gentle at first.
>>16631634
What if he's not gay, not even for his woman? Again, don't you secretly desire one of those nice penises of your own? Finally close that gaping hole and grow your clitoris out.
How do I politely turn a guy down?
>>16631603
Tell us exactly how he asked you out, how long you've known him, and if you work with him/go to school with him.
Don't.
Just say no and let your peers handle the rest.
Hire a mercenary
have him beat the shit out of him
when he's on the floor bleeding walk by and say "by the way, this is me turning you down"
How can I eliminate my jealous feelings for a girl in our friend group who I will never be able to get with?
>>16631574
Bump
>>16631574
You can't just eliminate your feelings. It's better to try and see what happens anon or you will later regret it.
>>16631574
Does she lead you on/use you, or you just have a crush and you can't let it go?
Unfortunately OP sometimes these things take time. If she's not the shitty type that's milking the situation, try not to become bitter towards her,
Dude.... help. I'm falling too fast and too hard.
I met my best friend's brother, Matt, 3 weeks ago at a party; he's just moved to the city. We hit off immediately, he asked me out, and the night ended with us making out in the coat closet like middleschoolers. We've gone out about 6 times since then- and stayed up until 5am watching stupid videos and laughing and having sex.
He's really weird, pudgy and hairy; super smart... fun, and funny. We do the Carlton dance in public, we have conversations ranging from deep to absurdly silly... He's the whole package. And I've been falling hard and fast. He texts me everyday, but I still somehow get the feeling I like him more than he likes me. How do I put the brakes on my shit?? Or DOES he like me to the same degree, and I'm just being an insecure nutjob? I don't want to make this go too fast or get clingy and... I don't know how to get this shit in check.
>>16631456
let it be man love is a fast car live it fully vrum vrum
>>16631472
haha I'm normally all for jumping in feet first, and letting it ride- but for some reason I'm filled with anxiety about this. I just need to chill, let it happen... and hope we're equally into each other.
You should start acting really cold towards him, and flirt with another man, to prove to him that you're not just his lap-dog. Men love that
My man keeps his junk very clean at all times, but sometimes there's a bit of pee smell/taste to it. I never say anything because it goes away after a few licks, and I don't want to ruin the mood sending him to go get cleaner, but then next day I usually have pharyngitis. I know what I need is to communicate, but if you guys could give me an example of how to do this without it sounding like he is always dirty (he isn't, seriously, this only happens once in a while, but it lasts a few days and it's painful as fuck so I'd rather not have it)
Ask his dad to lick it off, if his dad is okay with that stuff, of course.
Get it clean yourself, in the shower, with a soapy handy, then a skin conditioner/flavored lube handy handy
Carry baby wipes with you at all times just in case you need them.... It should wipe away the taste pretty we'll and leave a nice aroma
What does it take to be loved?
What does it take to be something people want to be around and touch?
You need to master the art of being a brownnose. Sounds gay? Well, there's sadly no alternative, unless you're god fucking rich. Then you could even be a fucking asshole, nobody would care, as long as they get their fair share of the cake. I assume you're neither ridiculously rich or Brad Pitt-tier good-looking and charismatic. I advise you to begin with "Dale Carnegie - How to win friends and influence people"; his "rules" are a fairly good summary of the basic etiquette rules to begin with. Once you know the rules of the game, you got to practice. Try different things and watch how people react. Remember what triggers positive/negative reactions, and utilize that.
>>16631377
>brownnose
So gossip?
I think I've seen that book around, I need to find it.
>>16631363
>What does it take to be something people want to be around and touch?
Trial and error. And I'm not sure which of the two is more important.
Ivy leagues out of the picture, what is the best US university for the humanities, specifically English and Philosophy?
>>16631348
It doesn't really matter where you go at this point for those degrees.
>>16631351
If I want to get the best education, wouldnt it be best to choose a school with a strong department in *insert major here*?
If you study something like philosophy, it absolutely doesn't matter where you do that. Your studying will look like that: you'll read a shitload of books by various philosophers, and occasionally discuss some of them at uni. That's it. It really doesn't matter whether you spend 90% of your time reading books in your dorm room at Harvard or California or Bangladesh. Ask yourself, how much money do you want to spend, and how important is the uni's prestige to you?
Please help me.
I'm becoming a woman hater and I dont want to be. I really dont.
But I'm becoming so bitter and full of anger toward women.
Last year I was hurt very bad by a girl I loved very deeply.
I tried to move on but haven't been able to fully.
Part of the problem is I found my way to /r9k/ who has fueled my anger.
But a lot of the things they have brought up, I have now noticed myself.
Things like women only wanting only the top 20% of guys. The cheating, the carelessness of breaking a guys heart.
The no longer wanting of being a housewife or having a family.
I don't want to be this way.
Are there still women out there that just want to find a guy to love and start a family with? One that won't leave or cheat the first opportunity they get? One that won't walk out on you after a couple of years?
I really want to believe there are...
>>16631309
They're all married with children. You might as well just start fucking guys now.
>>16631309
why do you want a family anyways? feminists have destroyed the nuclear family and the government is a better provider to women then the average man. The government and the welfare state gives women an incentive to become single mothers by giving them child support,food stamps,housing benefits, etc and provides them government jobs. This is why women don't treat men very well nowadays and cheat on them with no consequence. this mistreatment of men will not stop until the our magina president and government stops pandering to women.
>>16631309
>Are there still women out there that just want to find a guy to love and start a family with? One that won't leave or cheat the first opportunity they get? One that won't walk out on you after a couple of years?
Yes, yes, and yes.
What's it like to fap in a chair?
I'm thinking about switching to a desktop from laptop. I've always fapped in my bed before with my laptop, but if I only have a desktop, am I going to be fapping in the desk chair?
What's that like? any tips?
>fap in chair
>find out yourself
I prefer fapping in bed, but the ease of use of a desk is the biggest tradeoff
Try it, see for yourself.
>>16631057
I fell asleep a lot fapping in chairs.
So I started talking to a girl on POF. Her age in her profile read 18. We started texting, and she told me she is 15, and turns 16 next week. We sexted, and she send me nude pictures. I didn't send her nude pictures. I'm 24 years old. I did suggest getting together when she turns 16, and sent explicit messages. Well, her dad found her phone, and is now threatening to charge me. He said he won't charge me if I pay about $2000 to help put his daughter through conseling. Everything still seems fishy to me. Anyone know where I stand legally?
You need a lawyer. No one on a random internet site can give you reliable legal advice. Think about it: you may be facing the possibility of prison time based on what you described. Do you really want to put your fate in the hands of /adv/? No. No you don't. You're 24. Scrape together a few thousand or even a few hundred and call a criminal defense attorney.
>>16631095
Lawyer up.
Remember about that case not too long ago where a guy dicked a supposedly 18 year old girl who turned out to be 16 or so?
Nearly fucked up his life.
>>16631050
Her dad is blackmailing you, idiot. Or it could be a scam they pull to make money.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tGXvUi2aWTs
>19y/o f here
> go out a couple of times w/ 17 y/o m
> I go over to his place and sex happened
> one week went by and he hadn't asked me out again so I did
> he kept making up excuses not to see me
> we would talk every single day and he would ALWAYS send me a morning text (he kept saying VIA TEXT ONLY that he adored me, loved me, etc and I would only reply with an emoji or somth)
> one day he doesn't and he explains he left for work in a hurry and didn't take his phone with him (I believed)
> same thing happens the next day (I don't ask and he doesn't explain)
> he stops saying that he loves me so I finally ask whats up, he says he's been exhausted from work
> I call that bullshit and he admits he doesn't feel the same anymore
> I died a little bit inside
> we didn't talk for a month. I posted on my snapchat history that I was gonna be alone for new years and for some reason he invites me to spend it with him and his friends
> filled with naive happiness, I say yes. He then says he wants to talk about what made him disappear from my life so I went to his place on Wednesday instead of Thursday.
> he tells me he's in some big shit with a few guys. That they broke an arm and a leg of one of his friends just for being his friend
> says that one of the times we went out they saw us and he was scared they would do something to me so he lied about the not feeling the same
> I accept the explanation and we sleep together, at the party last night we had the best sex of our lives but he didn't pay any attention to me at all
> this morning he called his dad to pick me up and he stayed with his friends. We didn't even say goodbye (I thought he was coming too obv)
> he texted me saying he was sad we didn't say goodbye and that was it. We haven't talked the rest of the day and I am worse now than when he first "dumped me"
I thought we were gonna make it work this time but it does look like he doesn't feel the same anymore
I'm in love with him
What do
pic related. It's us
>>16630976
How big is his dick?
>>16630995
It's very decent
>>16630976
He wants to keep fucking you but he doesn't want to date you so he gives you just enough attention to keep you around but treats you like shit because guys like that know how to spot the girls that let guys treat them like shit.
Trust me, I've done this a million times. He'll keep being distant and weird but will keep hitting you up and flattering you so that he can have sex with you whenever he is bored.
Its a very popular technique with assholes.
You seem to be cool with that, so go for it, who cares.
How do you stop having a wish to be permanently crippled or handicapped?
>>16630938
time to go outside OP.
>>16630944
There's nothing outside. I don't want to go there.
>>16630938
Learn about the lives of people with the conditions you seek. This is often enoufh to cure people of that wish.
Better yet, get out there and face the world. It's scary sometimes, but running away from the world is causing you more pain than the world ever could.
