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I just found out my gf has ASPD (she's a "sociopath")
>meet girl
>she seems perfect, we hit it off immediately
>she likes all the same things as me
>she's always supportive and caring
>start dating
>slowly over the last year of my life things change
>sometimes she says or does little things that are hurtful
>takes...
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>>16636384
What if those labels are bullshit, and she just chooses to have a really shitty attitude? Psychology seems to busy labelling instead of fixing. Ofc if she, she will need to see there's something wrong with her behavior. She'll only change if she suffers consequences, because right now, why would she change?
Not necessariy antisocial personality disorder. Sounds like "cluster b" though, perhaps narcissistic or borderline. The difference can be hard to tell outside of careful clinical interviewing by a professional. The difference doesn't matter to you.
You know what matters? She'll ruin your shit and you gotta turn and run. First chance you get. I know that you love her and that at least part of you thinks that you might be able to make it work, but that ain't gonna happen man. Trained, lifelong professionals don't even get close to a 60-80%...
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>>16636398
>Psychology seems to busy labelling instead of fixing
Fucking this. They give you a test and that's it. She could have bullshitted, been in a different frame of mind, etc.
And I'm of the belief that there's no such thing as a "sociopath".
I'm 25, I have wanted a cute girlfriend my entire life. I went to the gym, I have a really nice job.
I sort of am talking to one or two girls. but I just don't care anymore, I don't feel like I can love anyone anymore.
What's even the point anymore? There is no thrill in life.
I have honestly been sitting on my bed all day writing hate speeches on /pol/, and I don't even know what to do with my life anymore. I feel nihilistic, nothing seems exciting.
TL;DR; I lost my motivation to do things in life. and I don't know how to...
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>>16636346
I should mention, that it's not even about girls anymore. I just lost my motivation to do anything in life. I honestly feel sad, but I don't know how to describe it.
>>16636346
What do you do and what do you make?
What's your bench?
Height/weight?
>>16636358
I am a chemical engineer. I work for an oil company right now.
I bench 120
I'm 6 ft 0, 190 lbs.
I don't understand why being a NEET is a dealbreaker for women.
Unless of course, the woman is a greedy, shallow whore who only cares about money and status...
NEETs are out of shaps bums with no ambition in life who watch anime all day.
Oh yes women should totally be running to date you.
>>16636287
Women can have and still easily get dates:
>zero aspirations
>a shit job
>no money
>no car
>live with parents
>no higher education or plans to get a degree
A guy with those same qualifications won't even be given the time of day by women.
>>16636309
Not if they are uggo.
My boss is a 40-year-old frat boy. I work for a tutoring business, and my boss is a pot-smoking moron who doesn't know how to stop talking. His personality is annoying as hell, and I hate having to be around him for long periods of time.
What got me (aside from numerous other experiences) is today I was sitting doing some work with my friend and his girlfriend. I made some innocuous joke like "dude, you're retarded", then his girlfriend piped up "who are you talking to?" and I joked "Him, you're just kinda retarded". Context:...
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If you can't take a burn from left field then your portrayal of joke/diss affection banter shouldn't have entered the workplace. Your boss is gonna call you a baby if you cry about it. You brought this upon yourself and you know how you have to get out by playing back.
>>16636295
I can take banter, but he's just downright insulting sometimes and it pisses me off. Another example:
I'm tutoring a group of students trying to get them situated, and he butts in continuing some earlier conversation we just had about personality differences. In front of the whole group he goes "You just don't really have an approachable personality. Actually you're not that intimidating either."
He then proceeds to question the entire group (wasting time, btw) to see...
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>>16636266
>"haha you're single"
This is not what has upset you.
>my boss is just a cunt
This is what has upset you.
>and you wonder why you don't have a girlfriend.
Belittling you in every way possible. Calling you unattractive, immature, stupid, and basically accusing you of trying AND failing to hit on girls.
>I know why you're single, actually me and Anon (my best...
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I met a few relatives who I haven't met throughout my life last week and holy shit, that family is unbearable, but the person who I mostly dislike from the batch is my oldest cousin.
>is 29
>has two kids, 11 and 6
>is bitter and talks shit about everyone behind their backs
>screeches at her kids
>never takes care of them and leaves the care to my two younger teenage cousins
>I witnessed...
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>>16636224
Cont...
>she clubs frequently and posts about it on Facebook
>she sugar-coats everything on Facebook
>posts way too many selfies like an immature brat
>constantly dates way too much
>while my grand aunt is the one taking care of my nephews
>moans about bad drivers and calls them assholes
>acts...
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>>16636226
What's even sad that my other teenage cousin called her out on her bullshit and she just fucking had the capacity to laugh as she wasn't butthurt.
When my mom lectured her about not using violence as a way to lecture her kids, and she rolled her eyes that whole fucking time.
She fucking rustled my jimmies that my she acted trashy around my cousins.
Ok. Good story.
Would you get mad if your partner didn't gave you anything for christmas?
I've been with my GF for almost 6 months, and she went to a 2 week trip outside the country before christmas. So, a day before she went, I went to her house, spent some time with her, and give her christmas present.
I really had a hard time looking for something, and getting the money for it, since I can't work thanks to my age.
She didn't saw it or anything, said thanks and that was it. Hours later, before she went to the airport she came to my house, and gave...
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>>16636204
I think she gave some effort to you. It should be appreciated.
I think the concept of gifting for the sake of it being christmas or holidays is a joke, and people who think that way should re-evaluate their situation.
You should gift because you WANT to, when you want to, not because a day says you should, she probably felt the same way, and after recieving something, felt she should return the favour y'know?
The time spent together should be more valuable than any material you can give each other.
I mean i'm incredibly depressed and pessimistic, so take my words with a grain of salt, but holidays are just...
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>>16636204
As long as you guys like each other, does getting a present really matter? Drop the materialism. I'don't rather a nice letter than some bought present.
Is a girl with a kid a good practice gf?
>>16636200
No. You're messing with their emotions and suppose the rascal gets attached to you?
Fucking no!!!
good pump and dump material, maybe FWB.
So my girlfriend of a year and a 1/2 broke up with me 2 months ago and I really fought to try and save the relationship. I had started talking to a new girl (who is wonderful)but my ex texted me saying she wants to get back together. She has already gone on a few dates with a guy and they have kissed and what not. Today she came over and it was very refreshing to talk to her. Ultimately I told her I already interested in someone else but I'm afraid I've just made a huge mistake. Also, sorry about lack of depth this is my first post ever on 4chan and I'm crying...
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Basically I'm asking if anyone has gone through a similar situation. And if I'm making the right choice
>>16636198
Bruh she's already gone on a few dates etc. THAT RELATIONSHIP IS OVER.
>>16636198
She realized how hard it is to meet someone and came crawling back to you. This happens. She will do this again when she finds someone else she thinks is good for her.
Aight I promised myself I wouldn't post this but I don't care anymore.
I went to a new years party with old friends, and basically this girl I used to dig in high school I "dated" for a matter of months freshman year.
Took 180mg of mdma which was awesome, had a great time but as many of rollers know, mdma kills boners.
So basically she was giving me eyes most of the night and she's literally my only kiss etc, but desu senpai I've been over it for years. She was giving me eyes and towards the end of the night led me to a room...
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Just relax.
It's a fact that people get kind of fucky around the holidays, so it might've been something like that, but there's no way for you to dig into that by sitting there and thinking hard.
You should simply signal to her that you're interested in smashing her gash on another occasion, and then what's going to happen will happen.
> Just play it cool
> She clearly likes you
> Don't smother her
> keep things casual and simple
> Exchange numbers and then don't call her, text her like 3-5 days later
> invite her to smoke a bowl or just chill with you and some of your friends
> Play it like you want to be just friends because you were good at eating her pussy she wont friendzone...
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Consider it a one time thing and nothing else. If you coudldnt get it up in a passionate moment then that will kill any FWB or sex chance in the future.
Learn from your mistake and do drugs before a party you limp dick faggot.
My gilfriend is very sad and wants to kill herself because she loves me too much.
I love her too it's just i can't be with her all the time and i'm very sad because of that.
Is there anything i can do to chear her up. I don't understand why she is like that to be honest. ty for helping 4chan anons
>>16636063
Are you guys in middle school or is she damaged?
This doesn't bode well for you, but ultimately know that you aren't solely responsible for someones happiness.
you could try asking her
"is there something i can do to cheer you up?"
also, saying that she wants to kill herself because she loves you make no fucking sense
Just give her a bear hug rekt style.
Why do I have these like sores on my vagina? (Picture relevant)
>>16636054
Rzerbrn
>>16636054
That's razor burn. Shave with the grain, not against it. Also do not shave often. You're not going to achieve lasting smoothness and hairlessness with anything but waxing. You're shaving too frequently. Want zero hair? Wax. Otherwise keep your shaving routine down to once a week at most.
My guess would be from shaving. You must have fairly sensitive skin. If you shave without any kind of shaving cream, I suggest you start using some. Maybe use something afterward to soothe the skin. Witch hazel might help. Look up proper shaving techniques.
What are signs that someone is falling out of love with you, or that a relationship is failing?
>>16635954
life is diverse, so there isnt any tell tale signs other then things like them openly hating you, cheating on you etc.
relationships are constantly changing and evolving. when you first meet someone you might not touch them for a long time. then six months later you cant stop touching. then six months later you only cuddle at home. then six months later you onle cuddle some nights.
some people stay more cuddly, others dont. losing excitement and passion does not mean losing love.
>>16635954
>more time apart
>less calls/texts
>caring less about your feelings
>change in behavior
Are some.
Their face doesn't light up when they see you
What was before a minor issue you guys can talk about turns into a full blow arguement.
He/She doesn't laugh or smile anywhere near as much as when you two first started dating.
Sex isn't as frequent.
They want more alone time to get away from you.
I'm having gf issues /adv/. We've been dating a year almost and I've been on the fence about her but this one issue bugs me the most and I'm not sure if it can be resolved. Basically, her vagina smells really bad to me. When I first noticed I just thought, okay it's natural for vaginas to smell a bit or maybe she's on a bad day and I would just bite my lip go down on her. After a few months of just accepting it I finally had to hint at her that something seems off to me. Of course she was really embarrassed and it was a big thing but she agreed...
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I keep getting yeast infections all the dang time... Maybe because I just had a baby?
But they are really mild and odorless and it does not bother my bf at all but it makes me feel really embarassed.
I really dont know why I keep
Getting them either.
Could his penis be part of the problem? It goes really deep.
>>16635926
just tell her to stop wiping
the smell of ass will overpower the stench of pussy
pineapples, eat a lot of pineapples and drink more water
it very well may simply be her body chemistry though
I need to know if I got a STI or not. I got tested and looked at some of the results online and it said it was negative for syphilis and gonorrhea but it didnt say anything about blood results and I got an email from the doctor saying they need me to come in to talk about the results. They said that they would call me to talk about it but they didn't.
Bump pls help.
>>16635909
It's an STD, and you probably have one. They're insisting on the diseases being called infections to make them seem less harmful, but in reality HIV/AIDS is a fucking disease, not some infection that can be treated with one dose of an antibiotic.
Hiv?
How do I get over my relatively short stature, /adv/? I've never measured my height, but I estimate it to be about 5'6" with shoes in. I'm 18-years-old and I don't know how I'm going to stand a chance in life in terms of being taken seriously and getting into the dating scene. I'd love to get into some position of power some day, but I don't see it happening at my height. Some might call that 'Napoleon syndrome', but whatever.
What can I do to get over my height insecurity, /adv/?
>>16635906
Ha! Im six foot and im a girl lol
sucks to be you
>>16635906
Do you have a big schlong?
>>16635932
b8
but in the end, op, you just really gotta not give a fuck. attitude is subjective. i've seen 5'5" players get more pussy then 6" kids at times. how often do you drink or smoke?
