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Own it.
>>16641305
own what? i have one of those chairs. mine doesn't have arms.
The only thing that has ever worked for me
How do you live in major cities without being a college tryhard?
What does that even mean, obvious child?
By having a DDD job such as plumber.
>>16641224
>college tryhard
If you were a college tryhard, OP, what would that mean?
Why is "tryhard" an insult, anyway?
Man. /adv/ I'm desperate here.
I have to break up with crazy gf who clearly doesn't give a damn bout me anymore. I might lose my job for attendance, but that's on me. Might have to go back to community college because financial aid won't be processed in time at the university. I thought I wanted to do programming, something technical but I don't know if it's my passion.
Meanwhile, my younger sister has an interview at a bank, well paying job. Older sis works at daycare and plans on going back. I just feel like a failure. As a brother, and a person.
Tl;dr Life has got me down and I really don't know what to do anymore. I wanted to try to become a better person in 2016 but at 21 yrs old.. It just feels too late. Please help. I might just have to end it.
>>16641140
>thought I wanted to do programming, something technical but I don't know if it's my passion.
Do you enjoy doing it? Then do it. Second-guessing yourself will only paralyze you, and if your passion turns out to be something else, that's what hobbies are for.
>>16641149
Programming? Never done it. I was waiting to take classes and see, I've watched videos and read through guides. It seems like something I can do for a job. Passion? I'm not sure.
I've been trying to get more hobbies and cut down on games and everything. It's just..hard, as lame as it sounds.
Bump. Any advice is appreciated
>Be me
>Be in 4th year of university
>Spend 10+ hours/day on computer browsing/watching youtube vids/programming/drinking alone
>Probably have avoidant personality disorder and anhedonia
>Only real human interaction is with the occasional craigslist girl
>Feel like I'm losing my sanity due to social isolation, but at the same time don't like talking to people
Anybody else been there? Please advise
>>16641096
Simpler answer would be talk to more people, be it online or offline at least thats a good start
>>16641088
Are you in prison?
No, faggot, you're not.
Go the fuck outside and quit assburger diagnosing yourself. You'll feel better once you do
>>16641088
Why don't you like talking with people? Do you feel you don't relate to them or are you afraid they might hurt you emotionally?
quick /adv/ im a terrible child
i forgot my mothers birthday tomotrrow
wtf should i do? i got her chocolates for christmas but she havent even eaten em yet and shops with actual crap like soap or whatever is closed
all i can think of is buyin a gift box thing online but its like $55 fuckin dollars for a cider, flower and some chocolate
FUK HELP ME IDEAS PLS?
>>16641079
Wake up early, go buy her a nice big bouquet of flowers, then take her out to lunch or dinner.
but she has to work and so do i...
>>16641091
Well you cant possibly go out after work is over. Who in their right mind does it?
You fucked up big time son.
What do girls want in a guy, reasonably? For some reason, I'm not exactly hitting it off with girls. I recently asked on out, and she rejected me after leading me on for three months, just to validate herself. I don't want to fall into these traps of getting used again.
If you like the girl, give her an opening.
Girls like to think that they have power over guys.
>>16640937
An openeing? Any suggestions?
>>16640937
This its like a dance. You give a little, they give you some back
Hey /adv/
I'm feeling really down at the moment because I don't know if I want to stay with my boyfriend.
We've been together 2 years now.
I'm really athletic, work really hard, eat really healthy etc
He's very sedentary, and just stays home smoking weed all the time. He gets annoyed when I want to go out and do activities, but I find it so hard just sitting around smoking weed with him. I wanna go on dates and work out with him or at least have interesting conversations about life or whatever, but he just isn't interested
I feel that we're not really compatible and lots of my friends say he's a loser but he's MY BEST FRIEND. Like we've been together so long and he's a very kind person, I just don't feel ready to let it go...its hard I guess
Any thoughts?? Thanks so much
Sure. Just tell him he needs to get his shit in gear or it's not gonna work. He can remain a best friend.
Doesn't sound like boyfriend material. Start searching for another person so you remain happy.
Sometimes, the most comfortable route isn't the best route. Think about this, is he the guy you want to spend your future with? The last guy you will ever kiss, have sex with? Does he satisfy all your needs? If he doesn't... you're settling. And settling leads to wasted youth.
>>16640836
Break up. Also, stop smoking weed you dumbass.
As a guy on the shorter side, how can I make myself appealing to taller women. I am about 5'6 but probably closer to 5'7.( Maybe even a bit more considering shoes but w.e anyways). Anyways how can I make the height thing not a major issue. I just need to get into the conversation and I think I would be set, I just need them to not focus on the height until I can close. Anyways I dress well, speak well..Im decent looking if not borderline attractive and very confident...all of these things are generally pros but when dealing with a taller woman i fear they will be overlooked.
Scientific research has shown that each 0.5 inches that the woman is taller than the man predicts $1,000,000 of his net worth.
In other words, you'll need to be a millionaire to overcome women's aversion to dating guys that are shorter than them.
Relax. Not all women care about how tall you are. Even the ones who do will at least let you TALK to them without you having to resort to magic tricks. Most of us aren't vapid she-beasts.
>>16640809
What scientific research is this because it sounds retarded
Why would a girl who likes me stick up for someone who was mean to me for no reason? Does she identify with his behavior or something?
Circumstance?
>>16640718
Are you having sex? Because "likes" doesn't mean anything.
>>16640760
Irrelevant. I'm just wondering why she isn't with that dude instead. Maybe they can murder me together or something and call me the evil one for sticking up for myself.
Hey /adv/, my girlfriend and I are bored as hell. We've been together since last spring, live together but the past couple weeks it's been so fuckin cold and shitty outside we have been bored to death. Usually we were out playing sports, going on walks and generally enjoying each others company. Now it feels like we're pigeon holed into playing games indoors and it worked for November and most of December but.. any ideas?
There's this cool thing called crazy monkey sex, you should try it sometime
>>16640660
Attend an orgy together.
>>16640666
Nice trips, but sex all day and night?
Should I delete my fap folder and porn collection?
Why do you ask?
Why would you need to?
Do you plan to do a no-fap-2016? Or are you afraid people will see it and get the wrong impression of you?
Just put a password on it in the second case.
>>16640652
Delete? No. Prune? Yes.
Hey /adv/ I know this is probably a wierd thing to ask, but I need your help. How do I lose all of my empathy? I simply want nothing more than to lose all emotions related to caring about or loving anyone/everyone
Why? Are you chicken or something?
>>16640628
No, I'd just rather only have to worry about me
There's the ignorant route - like the US mentality where you vote for your own self interests rather than for what's best for everybody. But that will just make you feel like a massive douche.
The other route would be to get a real grip on reality (you know, the universe and other stuff that sounds cheesy). You will probably still be nice because it's effortless, but you might not "love" others or mind much at all outside of your own life.
Hey /adv, i'm wondering whether i should create a tinder profile or not, I got out of a bad relationship a few months ago and need to meet new people, any thoughts on this?
>>16640621
I kind of want to try using firefox instead of chrome. Should I try it once? Why and why not? It's a big decision, I need help.
Gee whiz OP, using Tinder is not a light decision! It's very serious!
Just the other day my family was killed by terrorists because I swiped the wrong person
If someone wants to get psychological help , do they have to tell their parents why? Also, can the paretns request to know why their kid is getting a professional ? Or would it just be easier for the person to wait a few months and become 18? They worked be in the US.
>>16640596
>no
>no
>no
>>16640596
>psychologist helping
>IQ over 80
Pick one imo.
>>16640596
>If someone wants to get psychological help , do they have to tell their parents why?
Legally, no. Logistically, it makes things a lot easier, though there may be greater concerns.
>Also, can the paretns request to know why their kid is getting a professional ?
They can request, but depending on trhe jurisdiction, the professional does not have to tell them (and may even be forbidden by law from telling them).
One big logistical concern to be aware of: insurance companies will insist on putting some form of diagnosis on the bill. This will be in the form of a diagnostic code, but those codes are public, and can be looked up. So if your parents handle the bills, they contain enough information that your folks could at least figure out the general problem, if not the specifics.
>Or would it just be easier for the person to wait a few months and become 18? They worked be in the US.
Unless you think you could become a danger to yourself or others before then, it is probably easier to wait.
If you don't mind my asking, why do do you want to seek help, and why don't you want your parents to know?
Well /adv/, here goes nothing.
So I met a girl about a year ago. She was quite a bitch at first, but then once we actually hung out, It turned out she was basically an attractive female version of a weeaboo, and much kinder than I originally thought. We eventually become close friends over the course of a couple of months, forming a kind of psuedo-Brother/Sister kind of thing. Eventually, She straight up says to me that I'm one of the few people she legitimately thinks of as a close friend. Shockingly, turns out that due to her attractive appearance, she gets a lot of attention from lots of dudes on Chat-boards, and worst yet, she's also been using it to get free games & items on Steam, as well as using it to get people to do her work. (This was when she was still in college.) (cont.)
>>16640593
Give her the D.
I eventually see how absurd it is when she had gotten to pre-order Evolve (Yes, it's still a shitty game, but at the time she was stoked for it) from a G2A mod. for the rough equivalent of 12 USD. About a week later, the chat-room she had been recently joined into, wanted to make her a mod. of it. skeptical, i asked her how she did it. and well, she had phone sex with all of the other mods. Not only that, but that's how she's gotten cheap shit (games, attention, weed, etc) for about 5 years or so. (cont.)
>>16640595
I concur
