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Go for it, my nigga.
>>16641421
How do I approach her?
I just wanna message her, fuck, then leave.
>>16641433
She's not gonna fuck you unless you show her a good time. Jesus what is wrong with you.
You'll probably feel really guilty and disgusted with yourself afterwards.
>Be me
>19 years old
>Playing league of legends all day or browsing 4chan or shitposting on twitter
>2/10 look (3/10 at best)
>Ginger
>Kinda fat..but im 181(5′11″) so you can't really see
>Virgin
>Lonely
>One irl friend but not really close friend we only see each other to get drunk or high
>Socially awkward,hard for me to make new friends
>Mild stutter but its still hard for me to start or keep converstation
>Failed education
>No idea what to do with my life
>Mom threating me to kick me out if i don't find a job
>Quickly losing motivation on everything..wanted to start driving lessons but gave up on first day...same with gym or few other things
Im thinking about suicide every day..honestly nothing stops me from doing it..im not looking for attention here on 4chan but I have nobody to talk about my problems or ask for advice..
Why I should stay alive? I feel hopeless
By all means be a pussy who takes the easy way out or manup and face the harsh realities of life and eventually slowly find happiness.
Your call faggot.
>computer
>family
>driving lessons
>gym
You're first world, white, male. Come on man, don't fuckin give up just because you're lazy. Laziness put you in this rut and it's not going to get you out (giving up on the first try). Half the shit you listed to describe yourself doesn't even matter. I've got a friend who plays league of legends non stop, but he works full-time. So that doesn't count. He's fat, so that doesn't count. Ginger doesn't matter, get a trendy haircut and clothes. Virgin doesn't matter, you're fucking 19. I lost my virginity at 22. John fuckin Mayer lost his at 24. Lonely is easily fixed. Stop fapping, stop shitposting and get out there. Find a job. Give it 30 days. You CAN DO 30 days. You are not weak. Baby steps. Nobody expects you to go out and become CEO of Pussy & Money INC overnight.
>19 years old
So very young. I got my shit together in my late 20s.
>Playing league of legends all day or browsing 4chan or shitposting on twitter
I don't do twitter, but I still do this.
>2/10 look (3/10 at best)
Learn how to dress. Get a good haircut. Workout.
>Ginger
Me too. No problem with that.
>Kinda fat..but im 181(5′11″) so you can't really see
You're not short so that's a plus. Being fat gives you the advantage at the gym.
>Virgin
Only 19.
>Lonely
Meet someone on Tinder.
>One irl friend but not really close friend we only see each other to get drunk or high
About the same as me. How many friends do you need?
>Socially awkward,hard for me to make new friends
So who cares.
>Mild stutter but its still hard for me to start or keep converstation
Okay, work on that.
>Failed education
Dropped out of HS? Get a GED.
>No idea what to do with my life
What do you like?
>Mom threating me to kick me out if i don't find a job
Apply for jobs everyday.
>Quickly losing motivation on everything..wanted to start driving lessons but gave up on first day...same with gym or few other things
The hardest part is the beginning.
Just sounds like you're complaining.
Can friends "go out" or is it more a dating/relationship thing?
They can. I've shared totally platonic evenings with women.
>>16639789
You can go hang out, but buying someone dinner and doing romantic things implies something a lot more.
I have also hung out platonically with women, but "going out" is a different thing.
>>16639789
Like invite a friend to dinner? Sure? Why the fuck not?
Alright this comes up whenever theres ever an interaction with or about a tranny near me.
>he/she/it
Say theres a mtf. What always triggers a conversation about it is that when I refer to them I use he. Now before I just tried wording my sentences so that I dont need to use a pronoun but Im not really a fan of tip toeing around things. When I say that someone challenges me about it saying she and I give my very straight forward view about why I use he and the person is unhappy about it. This usually triggers some emotional appeal argument which triggers to other side of the controversy and then they start throwing around it. Now to me calling a person 'it' is incredibly disrespectful. I know we do it to babies for some reason but for adults it just seems unreasonable.
This comes up a lot because theres a mtf at my uni.
Why do you insist on using "he"? It's a completely simple thing, doesn't even cost you a second of your life, to say "she" and that's that.
>>16660003
Id use 'it' before I use 'she'. It comes down to how I associate concepts. While it may not cost a second it can cause unwanted effects to how I associate things.
>>16660019
I get it, you're autistic.
How to pick up women on the street?
All input welcomed.
You don't. That shit is annoying as hell. Don't inconvenience complete strangers in an attempt to get your dick wet.
Depends on how much they weigh and how far you need to carry them.
>>16659874
This. Even if you're very attractive it seems desperate is is annoying.
i'm not used to wearing bras. only ever tried sports bras and i guess maybe they were bad ones? because my nipples still show through them. mtf with weird chest makes bras awkward and hard.
suggestions welcome
why does it bother you so much, its a gym everyone is going to be more focused on their workout than on you
>>16658034
i want to feel as comfortable as possible at the gym. terrified of being there in the first place and i'm not even sure i'll ever make it. but when i do go i don't want to feel self-conscious about my nipples.
Pasties, the stick-on type.
Hello /adv/
I come to you guys in need of insight on a very particular situation.
I am in a great relationship with a girl who is madly in love with me. The sex in our relationship is pretty damn good too, but the problem is she does not like my cum in her mouth.
Its a weird one, she doesnt mind me finishing on her body, or even when it gets on her face/hair. and she gives me oral at least once when i visit her every week, during which she's extremely enthusiastic and seems to be enjoying herself. But when it gets to the end, she outright does everything she can to avoid getting it in or near her mouth, and it ruins it for me.
I need the twisted minds of 4chan to come together and figure out a way of manipulating/persuading her to do this for me.
I have sat down with her and spoke about it, telling her things like how much I love it and that she looked hot as shit when she previously did it. but all's I ever get out of her is "I just dont like it." I have a gut feeling theres a mental block here... I can provide any more info needed that may help solve this problem.
>tldr: In a great relationship with great sex, but she wont let me cum in her mouth, wat do?
>pic unrelated
How the fuck is that weird lol? Cum is hot and all but is smells gross. You try it and then we'll see.
>>16657667
I have tried my own cum, it tastes like nothing which is why i dont understand the fuss.
And by "weird" i meant i find it strange how she doesnt mind it anywhere else in/on her body.
Don't cum in her mouth.
Bam, solved.
Actually respect what she doesn't like and enjoy the otherwise great sex and relationship, you whiny pissbaby.
Is it normal for girl to not be able to orgasm?
>>16656657
Vaginally? Yes, it's normal. Most women cannot orgasm from penetration alone. They require clitoral stimulation to orgasm. If a girl can't orgasm from clitoral stimulation, that's not normal.
>>16656657
Yes.
The more appropriate question would be "Is it normal for a girl to find it SO INSANELY DIFFICULT to orgasm that it feels like they can't?"
They might have very specific requirements in order to achieve orgasm, such as needing both clitoral and PIV stimulation, or perhaps they can ONLY get off on clitoral or ONLY get off on PIV. It can vary greatly from girl to girl.
Yes, most girls need clitoral stimulation.
Give as much info as possible about the girl, ask questions about relationships.
Here's some advice for bad breakups, for starters.
In relationships each partner should itleast do equal work right, 50/50. If you ACCEPT getting anything less than 50% from him/her for 3 months or more, you deserve what happens to you, whether your partner cheats on you or dumps you without no remorse. If, you did 95% and she did 5%, you had it coming buddy. If she gives you 3 months of shit you have all the reason to leave her. Relationships are team effort and you should feel like you're too good to settle for less.
You may say that, "but i want to make it work.", you can if your gf 100% ACTUALLY believes that you will walk if they don't change.
Here's a few ways to show that:
>In the very beginning of a relationship(very important), say things one time and one time only.
>Don't bother/allow yourself to be around your partner if they aren't contributing, it's a waste of time and makes things worse.
>don't beg, yelling at her can be seen as a form of begging because if you were really mad, rather than yell about it, you'd actually leave. Don't yell and act like nothing happen the next day either.
>don't make ultimatums if you're so deep in shit, like you've let her take advantage of you for 5 months, she is not going to buy it.
>Very good one is to get space from them like a week to a month, let her be on her own to see if breaking up is really what she wants and it shows her that you're serious, that you're at a breaking point ready to stay or go if things don't change.
If you believe you will leave if treated badly, she will believe. You got to have self-respect to get respect from your gf.
Created a thread last night for advice, but didn't receive any.
>been in relationship for 5 years
>own a house
>no kids
>she wants to move to a neighboring state for a job
>I don't think it's such a great idea
>I've been working with my counselor to communicate better
>still don't feel like I'm being heard
>I don't know how to correctly say 'I think you should take the job, but I should stay'
I know I've struggled to communicate in the past, but lately I feel like I've been very on point with saying how I feel and what I want. Just not feeling like it's reciprocated.
>>16656611
so your want to tell your gf of 5 years you think she should move for a job but you won't move with her.
basically you want to break up?
>>16656651
Yes. There have been other things contributing to the degradation of the relationship. Differing religious views among other things. I think it'll be a minor shock to her, we've had our struggles before. I took about a three week break two years ago, and things improved for a bit, but it's back to the same path we were on before. I can't see it working out long-term now. Any advice on how I need to approach this scenario?
Just wondering what you guys like better?
My hair is a little up to my elbows atm and I was thinking of getting a pixie cut (not a lesbian or a feminist or anything) but I felt like I'd regret it horribly later bc I've been growing out my hair for too long now. So yeah what do you think?
>>16656290
Well it's a matter of opinion. Personally I prefer long hair on girls over short hair. But it's up to each individual
I think for most part, guys don't care.
I have seen this one girl with short and long hair and she looks good with both.
long hair long hair long hair. short hair makes you look like a young boy/not a good look
Tell me something that hurts to put in words and make concrete
>>16656127
I'm a fat late twenties nerd who deserves his virginity.
>>16656127
My dick
>>16656127
I'm a weak person who's scared of a hard day's work. It'll be interesting to see what happens given I'm starting a proper job soon.
>just turned 23
>still a kissless virgin with no gf
>90% of my friends in relationships
Beginning to worry. I think it might be my ISFJ personality and height 5'5" that is making my self esteem go down. I don't think I'm ugly either just average looking.
Anyone in the same boat?
Lol you place value in that shit i aparently have 'Anti social Personality disorder' but most stuff like that is bs
>>16656091
Yeah I'd figure as much. I'm just grasping at straws here
Just saw kissless virgin lol oh well either
A) rape someone kiss them problem solved
B) get a gf somehow
>24
>Been with GF for 2 years
>Basically just found out she has been cheating on me for 2 entire years, with some dude she met right before me
>Found out because she forgot to clear her texts and I was using her phone and saw her say exactly this:
>"Look, me and you are done for good. I can't keep doing this to him, we actually have a future together, and I can't jeopardize that anymore, and me and you have never been anything but sex, that is what we agreed on. Goodbye, its been fun"
I know who the guy is, because he was introduced to me as a friend of hers a while back. She told me that she has known him for around the same time as me. So she has been fucking this guy for a long time. I confronted her about it, and she told me the truth, that they had in fact been having sex since we've been dating. She swears it was a good thing, because he "taught her new stuff she could do to me". But basically pleaded with me not to end things, because she "actually loves me".
So this entire two years, she has been getting stuffed by some other guy, without me knowing. I kicked her out of my house. I'm so fucking furious and sad, I'm like violently shaking right now. I'm basically on the verge of suicide at this point.
What do I do? I don't see me getting over this.
>>16655915
kick the bitch to the curb and never talk to her again
>check
get over her completely and never EVER talk to her again because she is a foul human being that put up a shitshow for you
>add time and busy yourself at getting better in anything
Right now you don't see it this way, but this is actually good. You dodged a bullet here. Imagine if you had been married.
This is how women are, I'm sorry to say, better to learn this now than later in life. Cheer up, mate, it will get better.
>>16655920
Who are you quoting?
>be me
>in college
>virgin
>gf not a virgin
>mild tramatic sexual history
>we sleep in the same bed every night for like 3 months
>playing around naked most nights
>she puts penis to vaginal opening
>okay nothing wrong with that
>somehow I didnt realize the difference between being against opening and tip barely being in
>she get incredibly aroused
>gets on top of me and puts the tip in her
>I give her an expression like what the fuck
>shes like dont worry its just the tip
>I tacitly let it go
>she full on mounts me and starts riding
At some point my reason kicks back in and I go limp. She freaks out and is about to cry saying stuff like what have I done. I try to make her feel better by saying I could have stopped it.
Now its a few days later and Im reflecting upon the situation. Im mad at myself for getting so engrossed in our activities that I didnt notice how far we had gone. And that when she mounted me instead of kicking her off I was too busy thinking to myself that this is how a vagina feels. But Im also mad at her for taking it so far without permission. She also thinks that we should just do it since we crossed the line but I dont want to. Like I was a virgin by choice and now I dont know how to deal with this. I dont want to be mad at her, and I do believe that I should have kicked her off as soon as it started, but that doesnt really excuse her actions.
I cant think straight right now, I blame myself but the more I think about this, the more Im starting to see it as her fault. Im a reasonable guy but my thoughts are starting to be come a mess. Any thoughts. I cant honestly talk to her because Im either going to try to console her or lash out. And if Im left to myself theres a chance Ill become unjustly resentful. Please talk to me.
Fuck that. Yeah, it was rape. It wasn't consensual. If you have to lash out, lash out to get your point across. You have every right to talk to her about this. Especially if she knew your past.
>>16654062
Sorry, didnt elaborate that well. Shes the one with the past. Which is why at first I consoled her because it looked like she was about to break down.
She was trying to do something nice for you. I would not view it as a hostile action.
I don't hide mine since I have nothing to be ashamed about and want a partner to accept me for who I am fully. But why do I see so many women on here furiously claiming that it's none of my business? Girl, if I'm going to be your boyfriend with the eventual goal of marrying you and sharing everything with you, nothing less than complete honesty is going to work. If I don't want to be with a promiscuous girl, I don't want to be. You made your choices in life, now you have to deal with them just like I made mine-you don't get to hide crucial information from me and then expect full commitment and all the emotional and economic support that comes with it.
>thousands of threads on /9k/ talking about how non-virgin girls are disgusting, how if a girl has slept with more than 5 guys shes "worn out" or a "whore", etc, etc.
>"hmm, I wonder why the average girl, who has probably had sex at least a few times in her life, would be reluctant to share this fact with me?"
>>16652402
because idiots ask, and boy's judge.
I've never once heard of a man asking a woman about her sexual history, for the love of god .. if we did, then we might have to divulge some of ours too.
>>16652402
>why are women so irrationally defensive about their sexual history?
>you made your choices in life, now oyu have to deal with them
>you dont get to hide CRUCIAL information from me
this is why. why is it 'irrational' to hide information from someone who literally says 'i am going to judge you on it'.
