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is complete honesty in a relationship really a good thing?
Honesty with yourself, yes. 2 people changes the dynamic.
Focus on happiness, guided by logic. Honesty may fuck things up if you allow it.
>>16647846
Only if you want to feel truly connected to your partner more deeply than you thought was possible for two fully individual human beings
Otherwise no.
>>16647846
That depends on a lot of things. On the whole, yes. But there are certain things were honesty isn't good. If you're trying to justify lying to your partner because full honesty is bad though, I don't think that swings.
Need help
Large group of friends and I are play an assassin game, where we need to kill our targets with a nerf gun within 2 weeks to get to the next round. My target parks in a garage door, how can I block the door or get her to park outside so I can shoot her coming out of the car?
I was thinking garbage cans in front but that might be a bit obvious
>>16647829
Park in the way?
>>16647829
>assassin "game"
see you in the news
>>16647829
Just sit in front of the garage with a gun and a lawn chairs and tell her to come out or you'll wait
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Help, /adv/!
I'm a senior with a 3.1 UW GPA (4.0 W) and Georgia Tech is my dream school. Obviously the application is due soon and I don't have enough time to boost my GPA, but is there any way in which I can make up for my GPA? I have a 34 ACT and 800s in SAT Math II and Physics, along with 11 AP Courses in total, a good essay and teacher rec.
I know my GPA might not show it, but I work really hard in STEM classes; I practice college-level mathematics daily, thus ensuring that I literally learn something new everyday.
>TL;DR GaTech = Dream School. Is there any way to make up for my shitty GPA? Any advice/help is much appreciated.
It's a bit too late to make up for GPA but if you did internships or research that would look really good. However, with your stats, you'll probably get in regardless. If you get waitlisted, email the admission officer about how much you love the school.
>>16647803
Thank you so much for the advice! But it's worth noting that I'm OOS (thus increasing the odds).
Also, if I get waitlisted I'll follow your tip, but I'm worried that I might appear rather obsessive/fanatical and clingy to the counselor. I don't want to give off a negative impression.
you'd probably be best off talking to a professional college counselor or at the very least collegeconfidential.
i cant talk to girls. i know we can have good conversations together, my only problem is im too scared to approach them. any advice on overcoming this fear?
Approach all girls. Flirt with all girls, not just the ones you find attractive. Pretty soon you'll realize that they all pretty much act the same, and there's nothing to fear.
Pro tip: treat fat girls like hot girls, hot girls like ugly but smart girls, and ugly girls like sluts. All girls will soon want you.
>>16647819
>can't approach girls, how do i fix it
>simple, just approach girls
Nice advice, fag
>>16647781
What exactly scares you, OP?
>>16647860
Eat shit. OP is afraid of girls because of the age old trope of feeling unworthy. My advice was to approach girls he doesn't give a fuck about.
Sometimes, you just gotta do shit in order to get over the hump. But let's hear your long winded advice, I'm sure you're going to blow all of our minds.
Does xanax fuck you up? My doctor recommended I get a prescription but I heard it melts your brain.
I'm on Zoloft which is similar and have no side effects. It saved my life
>>16647794
Thank you.
>>16647794
How did it
A few months ago I lost my virginity, and with it came my first blowjob.
It was weird. It felt good when she was on my head, but whenever she went deep, it felt like my skin was going to rip if she wasn't going super slow. I was pushing her away the whole time, because while it wasn't hurting, it was a pretty fucking awful feeling, so awful that I shiver a bit whenever I see a webm of a dick being sucked.
I assumed she was just shit at blowjobs because I had no problems with condom sex. But recently as I paid more attention to porn, I started thinking about it again and noticed that the guys can stretch their dick skin a lot more than me. I came to the conclusion that it wasn't her fault and I may have short frenulum. I say that because while my dick doesn't look fucked up like the pictures on google (it looks normal, just can't pull the skin back too much), it makes sense because I also had phimosis ( which I cured by myself by forcing the skin back), and I think these two usually come in pairs.
Is there any way to deal with it without surgery like I did with phimosis? For now I'm doing the same thing (getting hard and carefully stretching it), but it doesn't seem to do anything...
>>16647738
Cut > uncut. Stay mad uncut faggots
>>16647738
>which I cured by myself by forcing the skin back
how
>>16647855
>by forcing the skin back
I was masturbating and accidentally pulled it all the way back
it hurt like a mother fucker but I realized the more I did it the easier it was, and eventually the skin just got elastic enough to behave like a regular dick
The head was very sensitive for a few months, and still is at some extent, but nothing absurd
Hi /adv/
I'm 25. I've been with a great girl for 3 years now. She's wife material. Shes also my first serious girlfriend.
My issue is that I always planned on using my 20s to go and explore the world, go on crazy adventures, fuck random girls, discover myself and all that shit. I was a bit of a loser in my teens and I feel that I kind of wasted that part of my youth by fucking around on the internet.
I've I'm graduating this year and I've received a job offer abroad, a 1 year placement with my dream company. I had dreams of working there, saving up money, and going travelling around the world. Making an exciting life for myself.
My issue is the girlfriend. Should I pack in the adventure for her? Or leave her to go and do my own thing? I'm worried I might not be able to find anther girl as good. But I don't want to live my life in regret and pass up this opportunity.
This is the hardest decision I've ever faced in my life.
What is she doing with her life right now?
>>16647729
You're going to wonder about the road you didn't take for the rest of your life, doesn't matter which one you choose.
Do you want her to be there for the rest of it?
>>16647729
Tell her you want to marry her but she will have to move with out overseas.
If she says no then just leave without her
If she says yes you have your cake and eat it too.
Which version should I read?
This one
This one has better characters.
KJV has more literary value if you're into that but NIV is more accessible/readable.
>be me in late 2014
>some guy randomly messages me
>talk for hours right away, gosh he is amazing
>meet up, everythings cool, he's nice but tells me he's broken up w his girl 3 months ago
>"don't overthink it, i'm over her"
>have a wonderful thing developing for 2 months, everythings cool
>shortly before christmas it's his birthday
>"i got a nice gift for ya, it's 2 tickets for a show to your fav rapper in a city u love"
>his reaction doesn't go as planned
>christmas, i ain't gettin no gifts
>he's away for the holidays, i miss him, he tells me he's gonna be back and i shouldn't stress it
>he comes back, we make love, he calls out another name, tells me it's a girl he's become friends with
>i found out she's 7 years older than him and relatively well known, best friends with celebrities
>me sad af, he starts the whole "i ain't ready for a relationship" bs
>i leave in the morning, we decide to be friends
>he still sends me qt messages, kiss emojis, all kinds of stuff, but starts rarely texting me
>all of a sudden he is away in another city, and posts pictures with that girl
>of course i stalk her page, she posts a ton of pictures with him and yup, he breaks my heart
>i confront him, he tells me he just needs his time off and he'll message me
next time i hear from him was about five months later, tells me he's sorry
we decide to meet up, but that never happens
i always get caught up in my emotions, told him i missed him over again, he tells me he always wanted to see me again. forgot something at his house and he "doesn't want to throw it away"
about 3 months ago i deleted him, blocked him, wished him good luck and told him i didn't wanna continue this bs
i met a new guy and i'm happy af
but why is it so hard for me, he's just that kinda person i thought i belonged with, that i could grow with. we have/had so many things in common and i learnt from him. really he was the first guy i could trust, but he just shattered it.
Hit me with ur opinions /adv/
I'm in a very similar situation and although I know how hard it is to accept, we have to realize that we weren't as important to them as they were to us. All we can do is move on and try to meet someone who returns our feelings.
>>16647756
i know, i know. i feel you. and i can assure you that finding that person will be great. actually,
i'm in a really nice relationship right now with a guy who just fits my personality incredibly well.
he handles me at my worst and i appreciate that to the fullest. we too have a lot in common and he wants to grow with me. he'd never just leave me hanging.
i don't even want to think about my ex, but i always fall back onto it, and then i keep looking at their pics on social media. it pisses me off, but i can't stop it so far, although it's been a year. i really love my boyfriend, but i don't understand my behavior.
would you be interested in texting via skype?
>>16647775
Was in a similar situation, for me it was part morbid curiosity and partly because my ex hurt me badly and after we broke up he ruined his life and mine has been a dream, I know it's immature but it feels like second-hand revenge and it makes me happy.
Bare with me because I'm going to sound like a bit of a dick here.
I have an online friend who I've known for quite a while, we usually speak for several hours a day. Recently I've developed stronger feelings for her but I realised they were getting too intense with very little basis. I was waiting to hear from her and was getting a bit anxious if I didn't. I also felt like sometimes I was bothering her a bit, always replying to her. She is on my mind all the time, I sometimes think about her and smile and every damn thing reminds me of her.
So I decided to immerse myself in work today and not respond to any messages (from anybody). I heard from her a few times and nearly caved but stayed strong and got on with my work. I'm not one to play games but by not waiting for her messages and showing myself I can deal with a day without this person (and also seeing that she was still trying), I feel a lot stronger and it's helping me view the situation a lot more objectively, which is basically that I need to back the fuck off and get back to reality rather than pining for her and worrying about nothing.
Now, my question is - it's getting late on and even though I haven't spoken to her, she's still on my mind and I'm missing her. Should I send a message tonight saying hello and apologising for being busy today or should I hold out until tomorrow?
She might not be around now and I'm a bit worried that if I send a message and she isn't there to reply then I'll just feel as dejected as I have done recently and it'll have been a bit pointless.
Chances are she's been thinking of you all day, and if she's messaging you and being honest then it's likely she's really into you too. Do it, or better still ask her out next time you get a chance. We live once. Trust your feelings, your energies are best served for the best feelings. I don't only mean sex, the whole deal
> online friend
> stronger feelings
Cut them off before it's too late. Online friends are for gaming and chilling, not for emotions.
>>16647824
Thanks man. Already asked her out, that shit is happening very soon. I just felt it was getting a bit intense (on my side) and it wasn't healthy for me to spend as much time thinking about her as I was/am.
I think it might be a bit too late to say anything now anyway. I hope she's not sitting in bed thinking I hate her. I just wanted to prove to myself I could do it, give her a bit of a break from me which would hopefully show if she cares or not.
okay so i recently started to study translation and i'm a bit worried. i speak lithuanian, english, started to learn french and korean as well, i understand a bit of russian and i also had latin this semester.
however, do you think choosing this path is worth it? maybe you know someone that is successful in this profession? how do i make it work so that i don't end up just.. average?
I'm fairly successful I suppose. Whether it's worth it depends on you as a person - can you handle the hours and minimal contact with others? While I love what I do, the isolation is really starting to get to me.
And I don't think it's something you can really study and learn to be really good. You either have a way with words or you don't.
Also a bit of advice, don't try to focus on too many different languages cause to get really good you need to dig deep into the vocabulary. Unless you want to translate fiction alone, you need to have specialist knowledge. Anyone can translate the easy stuff, it's the specific that make a difference.
>>16647663
well yeah i speak really good lithuanian since im a native and im fairly decent in english and i hope i can master french. korean only because i like it and no one here really speaks it so i guess that would be useful in my career as well
do you translate scientific articles of some description or something?
oh and if i ever have to translate on the spot, i get nervous to fuck up. gotta work on that.
>>16647673
If I were you, I'd mainly focus on the English for now and get as much experience as possible cause this is a field you can get better at by doing. There's a lot of English translators so to make it you have to be really good. But of course, another language is always a plus. Korean might be tricky thought unless you really immerse yourself in it.
Yep, scientific articles, manuals, legislature, EU texts, whatever. I like to challenge myself so I'm always willing to try something new and work hard. I try to avoid mechanics though cause I don't feel I have a good enough grasp of it in case the original text happens to be unclear.
Oh and also a word of advice, speed is a factor. That's why I'd focus on English first. The quicker you are the more you can earn. You have to be able to have a pretty heavy work load to make a decent living.
If I could start uni again I'd probably pick something else knowing what I know now. It can get really lonely and sometimes it feels like people in other fields get paid three times as much for less work.
25 year old here. Been alone all my life. Over the last two months I met and fell in love with another girl. Lost my virginity to her. She told me she loves me. Then she got engaged to her boyfriend, I had no idea she was in a relationship. She told me she does love me and she had been in tears when I found out. It's possible to love more than one person she tells me. Fuck her.
I was happier when I was still a virgin. I feel fucking dead inside.
And this is not the only issue in my life. It's just the most recent issue. I am living with chronic pain and fatigue so severe my quality of life has plummeted, I'm going to lose my job because I can't focus any more. I lost all my friends. I stay in every weekend now. They tried for months but they must think that I think I'm too good for them now or something. So now I really am alone.
I don't get enjoyment out of anything in life any more. All I do is take a lot of painkillers to get high and drink beer. I've started cutting myself again for the first time in two years. I don't think I'll get on top of it again now.
Two years ago my mum died a horrible death and I'm still thinking about it every day. I missed a call from her the night she died because I was sleeping. She was probably terrified and knew she was going to die. And the phone rang out.
Fuck I'm in so much pain right now as I type this.
I can't take being alone any more. Obviously I'm not at all boyfriend material.
I'm not going to kill myself, not directly anyway. But I really don't give a shit if I die right now. There is no light at the end of this dark tunnel.
>>16647585
Well go get a handle of jake and coke that will help for a couple of days
Have you been to grief counselling? It sounds like something you may need as I don't think you are handling what happened to her very well on your own.
I wish you well OP
>>16647585
You know why girls move on so easily?
because they always have many possibilities
start talking to more women, not to fuck everyone of them, more about to have wide options, practice your flirting skills, don't waste your life crying for one pussy who is for sure not worth your time.
Also, if you could tell her fiance that she is a slut, you would save that dude's life.
Hi /adv/,
So I've been out of college for break and away from my boyfriend of 1.5 years. I've been feeling so anxious and paranoid due to the way he's been acting.
It's been a month and a half and I've been giving him space, because we live together and do everything together, and it makes him angry that he doesn't get alone time. Since I stopped messaging him first, or at all he will send me a few sweet text here and there. It feels really good and makes me happy.
I can't help but to feel lonely though. And lately I've noticed he doesn't tell me he loves me as much as he use to. And I could just be really paranoid over it really.
But all day yesterday he didn't text me at all, he didn't even mention that he was spending the night at a friends house. I'm not mad over this, but would this concern you if a girlfriend/boyfriend did the same to you? I knew he was out, but I didn't know the rest.
I've been so scared he wants to leave me, I go back home in about 6 days. But he's just been so distant and it doesn't even feel like he's my boyfriend sometimes.
It just really upsets me that he doesn't think about talking to me, like it feels like he doesn't miss me at all or thinks about me. I could just be paranoid. But guys, do you think you can tell me what he might be thinking and what I should do? I know this is a common behavior with guys.
Also, just so this won't come up, he isn't really the type to hide what is bothering him with his family at least. Usually when his dad or mom does something that bothers him he will text me asap just to vent about it.
But if he's bothered by something else its really all about winning the lottery with getting it out of him, but he'll also be really moody and you can tell he's upset. I don't think he's upset about anything right now.
Oh, my mom told me that listing good things that he does for me helps, so I'll do that here.
>He asked me to watch clannad because he said it reminds him of us.
>After I watched it he bought me a pink and blue dango plushies for Christmas because the represent us
>We were talking about how this guy is in love with me and he said "well, who wouldn't be" and it gave me butterflies
>He calls me qt a lot
>When I heard someone trying to open my front door he told me "I love you please be safe"
>He mentioned going on a date when I get back a few weeks ago
>He went to a party on new years where everyone had a boyfriend/girlfriend there and he said he felt left out.
Thats all I can think of right now.
>>16647526
>>16647545
Not gonna lie, this could turn sour (just like everything, so no need to stress aout it)
What I belive is that, at his NYE party, he did remember about you and he possibly would like to see you. Ask him about it, maybe it'll do the trick.
This aside, maybe you should just talk about it with him...
>>16647526
It's just a phase imo. I went through the same thing a while back with my gf of 2 years. I thought I needed space. In reality since it's been almost 2 years he's probably nervous about the future. Like panicking over whether you're "the one" or what to do about marriage. Continue to tell him how much he means to you and talk to him about how you feel. As for the friend's house deal, that's being a little overly paranoid.
Hey /adv/, I'm 19 and I'd like to start building credit.
What should I do? Tips and don'ts?
pay your bills on time all the time
get a credit card with a very low monthly limit, something that you can manage, ideally in the low hundreds
make small purchases, don't blow your limit on a single purchase. maybe some clothes or little items, nothing you won't reasonably have the money to pay back later
pay the bill when it comes
You apply for a credit card with no annual fee. That's the most critical thing. If for some reason you get turned down by fucking everyone (which these days is nearly impossible) then you can go to your bank and get a secured credit card. But that's almost certainly not necessary.
So you take this no-annual-fee credit card and you charge only the things you would normally buy: gas, food, etc. Basics. How much do you charge? 20% of your credit limit at most. You can get up to 30% without slowing your credit building but I leave you 10% wiggle room for emergencies.
You wait until the monthly statement comes in the mail in order to pay the balance. This is because the credit rating bureaus only get periodic snapshots of your credit usage. If you compulsively keep your balance at zero all month, every snapshot will show zero utilization. This is bad.
You also pay the balance in full. There is absolutely, positively on benefit to carrying a balance over to the next month. All you're doing then is just paying interest for no reason. Fucking retarded. Pay the full balance due and, for heaven's sake, PAY IT ON TIME. That above all else is the single most critical lesson. If you fuck up everything else I wrote, it'll only slow you down. But late payments will actually ruin your credit. NEVER PAY LATE.
That's it. Then just watch your credit score and history grow. You can call every so often and ask them to raise your limit if you feel that your regular expenses can accommodate it.
>>16647515
(Apparently two things are "most critical." Derp. No annual fee isn't critical, it's just smart. You shouldn't pay a bank for the pleasure of making them money. Paying on time, however, is absolutely essential.)
Gather 'round, everyone.
>Be me.
>Have friend of like 6 years.
>Finally convince her to fuck.
>Blow her away.
>She cried as she orgasmed.
>"I was really hoping you would suck so we could go back to our lives."
>Next time, we were sober, but it was just as good.
>Third time, came too early.
>She apparently only wants the dick, so I can't appease her with anything else.
Now, finally, the kicker.
>I pass by for the fourth time.
>We decide to make something that uses jalapenos.
>We make it, we have fun.
>We wash our hands.
>I go to bathroom.
>Come back, sit down on the bed.
>Dick is suddenly on fire.
>A half hour later, after having dipped my dick in cold milk I'm good.
>Okay, we should probs not have sex today.
>Doesn't care, wants me inside.
>I do what I can, but I'm about to come to quickly, so I ask for a break.
>Suddenly, her vagina is on fire.
>After like 15 minutes of her being in pain, she comes back.
>I mention how we shouldn't do anything with jalapenos for a while.
>She says she doesn't wanna do this anymore.
>This kills any boner I had.
>She leaves and comes back again.
>"If you're not gonna fuck me, I need you to leave."
>Well, fuck.
>Force a boner. Try fucking her.
>It does not work.
>I lay next to her, she falls asleep on me.
Did I blow it?
>>16647342
Holy shit you're both functionally retarded. Please do not breed.
>>16647357
What? Like it's common sense the oil in these fuckers sticks to you like your mother on a black social worker?
