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is complete honesty in a relationship really a good thing?
Honesty with yourself, yes. 2 people changes the dynamic.
Focus on happiness, guided by logic. Honesty may fuck things up if you allow it.
>>16647846
Only if you want to feel truly connected to your partner more deeply than you thought was possible for two fully individual human beings
Otherwise no.
>>16647846
That depends on a lot of things. On the whole, yes. But there are certain things were honesty isn't good. If you're trying to justify lying to your partner because full honesty is bad though, I don't think that swings.
Need help
Large group of friends and I are play an assassin game, where we need to kill our targets with a nerf gun within 2 weeks to get to the next round. My target parks in a garage door, how can I block the door or get her to park outside so I can shoot her coming out of the car?
I was thinking garbage cans in front but that might be a bit obvious
>>16647829
Park in the way?
>>16647829
>assassin "game"
see you in the news
>>16647829
Just sit in front of the garage with a gun and a lawn chairs and tell her to come out or you'll wait
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Help, /adv/!
I'm a senior with a 3.1 UW GPA (4.0 W) and Georgia Tech is my dream school. Obviously the application is due soon and I don't have enough time to boost my GPA, but is there any way in which I can make up for my GPA? I have a 34 ACT and 800s in SAT Math II and Physics, along with 11 AP Courses in total, a good essay and teacher rec.
I know my GPA might not show it, but I work really hard in STEM classes; I practice college-level mathematics daily, thus ensuring that I literally learn something new everyday.
>TL;DR...
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It's a bit too late to make up for GPA but if you did internships or research that would look really good. However, with your stats, you'll probably get in regardless. If you get waitlisted, email the admission officer about how much you love the school.
>>16647803
Thank you so much for the advice! But it's worth noting that I'm OOS (thus increasing the odds).
Also, if I get waitlisted I'll follow your tip, but I'm worried that I might appear rather obsessive/fanatical and clingy to the counselor. I don't want to give off a negative impression.
you'd probably be best off talking to a professional college counselor or at the very least collegeconfidential.
i cant talk to girls. i know we can have good conversations together, my only problem is im too scared to approach them. any advice on overcoming this fear?
Approach all girls. Flirt with all girls, not just the ones you find attractive. Pretty soon you'll realize that they all pretty much act the same, and there's nothing to fear.
Pro tip: treat fat girls like hot girls, hot girls like ugly but smart girls, and ugly girls like sluts. All girls will soon want you.
>>16647819
>can't approach girls, how do i fix it
>simple, just approach girls
Nice advice, fag
>>16647781
What exactly scares you, OP?
>>16647860
Eat shit. OP is afraid of girls because of the age old trope of feeling unworthy. My advice was to approach girls he doesn't give a fuck about.
Sometimes, you just gotta do shit in order to get over the hump. But let's hear your long winded advice, I'm sure you're going to blow all of our minds.
Does xanax fuck you up? My doctor recommended I get a prescription but I heard it melts your brain.
I'm on Zoloft which is similar and have no side effects. It saved my life
>>16647794
Thank you.
>>16647794
How did it
A few months ago I lost my virginity, and with it came my first blowjob.
It was weird. It felt good when she was on my head, but whenever she went deep, it felt like my skin was going to rip if she wasn't going super slow. I was pushing her away the whole time, because while it wasn't hurting, it was a pretty fucking awful feeling, so awful that I shiver a bit whenever I see a webm of a dick being sucked.
I assumed she was just shit at blowjobs because I had no problems with condom sex. But recently as I paid more attention to porn, I started thinking...
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>>16647738
Cut > uncut. Stay mad uncut faggots
>>16647738
>which I cured by myself by forcing the skin back
how
>>16647855
>by forcing the skin back
I was masturbating and accidentally pulled it all the way back
it hurt like a mother fucker but I realized the more I did it the easier it was, and eventually the skin just got elastic enough to behave like a regular dick
The head was very sensitive for a few months, and still is at some extent, but nothing absurd
Hi /adv/
I'm 25. I've been with a great girl for 3 years now. She's wife material. Shes also my first serious girlfriend.
My issue is that I always planned on using my 20s to go and explore the world, go on crazy adventures, fuck random girls, discover myself and all that shit. I was a bit of a loser in my teens and I feel that I kind of wasted that part of my youth by fucking around on the internet.
I've I'm graduating this year and I've received a job offer abroad, a 1 year placement with my dream company. I had dreams of...
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What is she doing with her life right now?
>>16647729
You're going to wonder about the road you didn't take for the rest of your life, doesn't matter which one you choose.
Do you want her to be there for the rest of it?
>>16647729
Tell her you want to marry her but she will have to move with out overseas.
If she says no then just leave without her
If she says yes you have your cake and eat it too.
Which version should I read?
This one
This one has better characters.
KJV has more literary value if you're into that but NIV is more accessible/readable.
>be me in late 2014
>some guy randomly messages me
>talk for hours right away, gosh he is amazing
>meet up, everythings cool, he's nice but tells me he's broken up w his girl 3 months ago
>"don't overthink it, i'm over her"
>have a wonderful thing developing for 2 months, everythings cool
>shortly before christmas it's his...
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I'm in a very similar situation and although I know how hard it is to accept, we have to realize that we weren't as important to them as they were to us. All we can do is move on and try to meet someone who returns our feelings.
>>16647756
i know, i know. i feel you. and i can assure you that finding that person will be great. actually,
i'm in a really nice relationship right now with a guy who just fits my personality incredibly well.
he handles me at my worst and i appreciate that to the fullest. we too have a lot in common and he wants to grow with me. he'd never just leave me hanging.
i don't even want to think about my ex, but i always fall back onto it, and then i keep looking at their pics on social media. it pisses me...
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>>16647775
Was in a similar situation, for me it was part morbid curiosity and partly because my ex hurt me badly and after we broke up he ruined his life and mine has been a dream, I know it's immature but it feels like second-hand revenge and it makes me happy.
Bare with me because I'm going to sound like a bit of a dick here.
I have an online friend who I've known for quite a while, we usually speak for several hours a day. Recently I've developed stronger feelings for her but I realised they were getting too intense with very little basis. I was waiting to hear from her and was getting a bit anxious if I didn't. I also felt like sometimes I was bothering her a bit, always replying to her. She is on my mind all the time, I sometimes think about her and smile and every damn thing reminds me of her.
So...
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Chances are she's been thinking of you all day, and if she's messaging you and being honest then it's likely she's really into you too. Do it, or better still ask her out next time you get a chance. We live once. Trust your feelings, your energies are best served for the best feelings. I don't only mean sex, the whole deal
> online friend
> stronger feelings
Cut them off before it's too late. Online friends are for gaming and chilling, not for emotions.
>>16647824
Thanks man. Already asked her out, that shit is happening very soon. I just felt it was getting a bit intense (on my side) and it wasn't healthy for me to spend as much time thinking about her as I was/am.
I think it might be a bit too late to say anything now anyway. I hope she's not sitting in bed thinking I hate her. I just wanted to prove to myself I could do it, give her a bit of a break from me which would hopefully show if she cares or not.
okay so i recently started to study translation and i'm a bit worried. i speak lithuanian, english, started to learn french and korean as well, i understand a bit of russian and i also had latin this semester.
however, do you think choosing this path is worth it? maybe you know someone that is successful in this profession? how do i make it work so that i don't end up just.. average?
I'm fairly successful I suppose. Whether it's worth it depends on you as a person - can you handle the hours and minimal contact with others? While I love what I do, the isolation is really starting to get to me.
And I don't think it's something you can really study and learn to be really good. You either have a way with words or you don't.
Also a bit of advice, don't try to focus on too many different languages cause to get really good you need to dig deep into the vocabulary. Unless you want to translate fiction alone, you need...
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>>16647663
well yeah i speak really good lithuanian since im a native and im fairly decent in english and i hope i can master french. korean only because i like it and no one here really speaks it so i guess that would be useful in my career as well
do you translate scientific articles of some description or something?
oh and if i ever have to translate on the spot, i get nervous to fuck up. gotta work on that.
>>16647673
If I were you, I'd mainly focus on the English for now and get as much experience as possible cause this is a field you can get better at by doing. There's a lot of English translators so to make it you have to be really good. But of course, another language is always a plus. Korean might be tricky thought unless you really immerse yourself in it.
Yep, scientific articles, manuals, legislature, EU texts, whatever. I like to challenge myself so I'm always willing to try something new and work...
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25 year old here. Been alone all my life. Over the last two months I met and fell in love with another girl. Lost my virginity to her. She told me she loves me. Then she got engaged to her boyfriend, I had no idea she was in a relationship. She told me she does love me and she had been in tears when I found out. It's possible to love more than one person she tells me. Fuck her.
I was happier when I was still a virgin. I feel fucking dead inside.
And this is not the only issue in my life. It's just the most recent issue. I am living with chronic pain...
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>>16647585
Well go get a handle of jake and coke that will help for a couple of days
Have you been to grief counselling? It sounds like something you may need as I don't think you are handling what happened to her very well on your own.
I wish you well OP
>>16647585
You know why girls move on so easily?
because they always have many possibilities
start talking to more women, not to fuck everyone of them, more about to have wide options, practice your flirting skills, don't waste your life crying for one pussy who is for sure not worth your time.
Also, if you could tell her fiance that she is a slut, you would save that dude's life.
Hi /adv/,
So I've been out of college for break and away from my boyfriend of 1.5 years. I've been feeling so anxious and paranoid due to the way he's been acting.
It's been a month and a half and I've been giving him space, because we live together and do everything together, and it makes him angry that he doesn't get alone time. Since I stopped messaging him first, or at all he will send me a few sweet text here and there. It feels really good and makes me happy.
I can't help but to feel lonely though. And lately I've...
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Oh, my mom told me that listing good things that he does for me helps, so I'll do that here.
>He asked me to watch clannad because he said it reminds him of us.
>After I watched it he bought me a pink and blue dango plushies for Christmas because the represent us
>We were talking about how this guy is in love with me and he said "well, who wouldn't be" and it gave me butterflies
>He calls me qt a lot
>When...
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>>16647526
>>16647545
Not gonna lie, this could turn sour (just like everything, so no need to stress aout it)
What I belive is that, at his NYE party, he did remember about you and he possibly would like to see you. Ask him about it, maybe it'll do the trick.
This aside, maybe you should just talk about it with him...
>>16647526
It's just a phase imo. I went through the same thing a while back with my gf of 2 years. I thought I needed space. In reality since it's been almost 2 years he's probably nervous about the future. Like panicking over whether you're "the one" or what to do about marriage. Continue to tell him how much he means to you and talk to him about how you feel. As for the friend's house deal, that's being a little overly paranoid.
Hey /adv/, I'm 19 and I'd like to start building credit.
What should I do? Tips and don'ts?
pay your bills on time all the time
get a credit card with a very low monthly limit, something that you can manage, ideally in the low hundreds
make small purchases, don't blow your limit on a single purchase. maybe some clothes or little items, nothing you won't reasonably have the money to pay back later
pay the bill when it comes
You apply for a credit card with no annual fee. That's the most critical thing. If for some reason you get turned down by fucking everyone (which these days is nearly impossible) then you can go to your bank and get a secured credit card. But that's almost certainly not necessary.
So you take this no-annual-fee credit card and you charge only the things you would normally buy: gas, food, etc. Basics. How much do you charge? 20% of your credit limit at most. You can get up to 30% without slowing your credit building but I leave you 10% wiggle room for emergencies....
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>>16647515
(Apparently two things are "most critical." Derp. No annual fee isn't critical, it's just smart. You shouldn't pay a bank for the pleasure of making them money. Paying on time, however, is absolutely essential.)
