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my stepfather used to hit me a lot when I was a kid.
Now I'm back home after 4 years of college while I'm looking for a job and I keep getting the feeling that if I stand up for myself too much that I'll get punched again.
Should I report him if he does? When I was a kid I threatened I would report him and he gave me a beating, so I don't know if it kind of stuck with me and I'm not seeing it clearly.
>>16647322
Time to punch daddy back now that you're all grown up
>>16647326
I'm way smaller and he'd probably strangle me to death
>>16647334
Time to unload a magazines worth of .45s to Daddys chest
How am I supposed to meet girls if all I do is school all day, work all weekend(nights specifically) and my hobbies are mostly solo or with guys
soccer,skateboarding,photography, cooking
I'm doing fine developing myself as a person, my people skills are good (service industry) and people like me but I have no idea how to meet new people/girls with this schedule
You expand your hobbies.
Make effort to have time for that? Duh
>>16647321
Tinder?
Is it considered shady if you have a friend of the opposite sex, but haven't mentioned it to your SO? There's no flirtation, no sending of nudes, no skype sex, or anything like that. Just conversation.
I can't bring myself to tell my SO because he's jealous and controlling to the point where I can't have any friends independent of him, and if I told him he'd probably go nuts. I've never cheated on him, but somehow I feel like I'm doing something wrong, even though it's platonic. Am I just being a huge faggot?
It's not wrong at all to have a friend like that, and don't let anybody here tell you otherwise, but it is wrong to not mention it to your partner. OK, you have reasons -- the appropriate thing to do in this instance is to tell him that level of possessiveness is unacceptable, or to just leave the relationship. You know what he's doing is abuse, right?
Yes. It's also a huge red flag if you feel the need to be shady because you openly admit that your boyfriend is controlling.
If you feel like you're doing something wrong then you probable are.
Hey, so a bit of back story is needed.
I was having a little giggle with some people and this buzzcunt brings up she was raped at a party.
We were discussing our dogs.
She calls me her best friend.
She's been my only friend for a few months, I never really had friends before this point.
I'm sitting here, just going over what she said.
She took away the good vibes and I'm just stuck in a miserable slump over the thought of her in that position.
...Should I still talk to this person?
She's making me feel sad, but if I don't talk to her I'll be alone.
She constantly says depressing things and it's taking it's toll on my happiness.
I don't know what to do.
I care about her, of course but she has other people to talk too so she'll be fine without me.
You probably shouldn't. Shitty people are great at taking advantage of the inexperienced and naive. You simply don't have a reference point to understand how warped this person is.
OP, if she is really this much of a drain on you, you're better off not talking to her.
Does she realize that she's being a downer? Maybe you could talk to her about it.
youre such a shitty person, do her a favor and cut contact.
I want to go to the gym but it's like -10 degree outside. I only have one good enough coat. I know that I'm gonna be drenched in sweat until I get home to shower but I really don't want my coat smelling like sweat all the time.
What do?
>>16647158
Gyms have showers, you know.
>>16647158
Fucking man up and go anyway. If you have to wash your coat after then that's what you have to do. Nobody ever got in shape by sitting around making excuses.
>>16647167
I want to work out to improve my life. Smelling like old sweat is not an improvement. I'm planning to go almost daily but can't wash my coat every time and have to wear it everywhere else I go.
>>16647161
The ones at my gym are absolutely disgusting.
How do you mend a broken heart/ get over someone?
Do other shit and surround yourself with new things
>>16647132
Time and occupying your mind.
The better question is, how do you open up and trust again when you were betrayed?
Is empathy dead?
It seems like everyone is either a psychopathic nationalist conservative or a hypocritical egocentric liberal.
Maybe I just don't have any friends and spend too much time here but it seems like the world is progressing towards being a giant Machiavellian arena
>>16647006
>Maybe I just don't have any friends and spend too much time here
ya think?
you really think the shitposters here are real people? representative of the entire fucking world? you're so fucking retarded you belong here with us.
>>16647006
Maybe you should catch a bullet to your head? That'd be the best solution imo
>>16647006
>Is empathy dead?
Empathy is alive and well. Perhaps too much so, even. What seems to be dead is the skill of knowing when, how, and to what degree to apply it.
Its been a month of zero comunnication, can i talk to my ex gf now? I really Miss Her...
No. It's just going to make it harder to move on. You have to let her go bro. Work on improving yourself, meeting new people and having fun and the rest will follow.
Who cut the contact and how did you break up? If she has no interest in reconnecting you'll just hurt yourself more.
>>16646984
Not only will it make it harder, you'll just be even more depressed by how cold the interaction will be.
My dad died 10 years ago and I just coincidently ran into one of his best friends who started telling me all these stories about him and I started blubbering like a baby. He wants me to meet the other people from my dads old crew and I feel like I'm going to cry again.
How can I not let sad emotions hit me so hard when I talk to them? I don't want to come off weak and whiny
>>16646939
its your dead dad, the fuck are you supposed to act like?
>>16646939
Perhaps you should try a hefty dose of man the fuck up? Crying about your dead dad won't do shit.
Cry a lot before you go see them.
But this is such a nice way to honor your dad and learn more about him! Stay strong, OP. And I'm sure they miss him just like you do, they'll probably cry too.
Do tall women (5'9-6'0) like shorter men? I'm 5'8 and it's my dream to marry someone taller than me, but don't know how I should start.
Depends on the woman. Some are fine with dating a man shorter than themselves. For the most part women in general like a man taller than them. Your goal is doable though, just harder than finding someone shorter.
>>16646720
what a shallow dream anon =/
>>16646720
I've had a lot of women crush on me, most of them were taller than me. But I'm also very good looking and confident.
Help me guys. I need advice how to chill the fuck out.
I feel incredibly hateful as of late. I did a full dive into what's happening in the world, every day for the past months I've been keeping up with what's happening in the world and with Europe. Every day again I find myself looking at independent media and from time to time I visit the /pol/ board on this website.
I've been getting depressed with all that is going on. I actually fear for my freedom and way of life now that the EU is becoming more and more undemocratic, and now that my country is invaded and my culture being censored because it might offend some people I just lose the will to live bit by bit.
It wasn't like this before, how can I stop caring?
stop being retarded
read books intead of /pol/ infographics
>>16646696
I do read books. Lots actually.
Stop being retarded is what I intend to do, I'm asking if someone has advice on how.
>>16646676
>How can I stop caring?
You can start by not visiting /pol/ that often.
It's a fun place and all but all that vitriolic mess just corrodes away at you over time.
Go out and drink with friends or something. Don't bring politics into the conversation.
>I actually fear for my freedom and way of life now that the EU is becoming more and more undemocratic, and now that my country is invaded and my culture being censored because it might offend some people
I know this feel but there's naff all we can do about it. Not effectively, anyway.
Gonna guess you're German.
I have a childhood pen pal who I kept in contact with. She lives in the middle of nowhere in Canada where the internet connection is very poor so chatting with her online is tough. She will move to a city very soon. Should I ask to skype with her (I am a girl too btw)?
Some of you are so emotionally stunted it scares me.
Holy, fucking shit.
>>16646639
Like, I don't know, you really need to make a thread to ask if you should call your friend?
What the fuck am I missing here?
Me and this 10/10 perfect girl, started talking over facebook and we really hit it off. I have a close friend and i told him i was speaking to a nice girl, i never told him her name or details like that. He asked if i could show him signs of her being interested in me. So i screenshotted two examples, but here is where i fucked up. I sent the screen shots to the girl which i then explained he lives ages away and he doesnt know who you are. She was mad which i guess is understandable, a few hours later she went to a friends house and they had sex (she did it because she was mad at me, also me and this girl weren't in a relationship we were just seeing each-other) She told me she fucked a guy and she never knew it was going to happen. Im mad and fucking some other girl is not what i want to do. I really like this girl and im prepared to move on. What the fuck do i do? do i talk to her about it or just drop her?
(pic unrelated)
>>16646626
C U C K
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She sounds like a really mature and reasonable picture, I literally don't see any reason why you should just cut contact with her and looking for someone that wouldn't just sleep with the first rando she crosses for a minor disagreement.
run.
Ok. Don't do that screenshot text thing, what a weird move. But yeah, cut contact. Either she actually got mad and fucked a dude for "revenge," or she just fucked the guy and used that as an excuse to make herself feel better.
Either way,
>>16646640
I can no longer live in this society. I have reached a state of mind that makes it impossible to me to obey to its "laws". It goes from simple things to "essential" ones like time. What is a second ? What is a year ? Just human scales to measure time, ultimately irrelevant. When i walk on the street, i dont see our modern world, i see atoms. All these people living their life without a clue how the universe really is. They call me an asshole because they cant understand that laws, morality, dos-and-donts and all their life and thoughts consists of is ultimately irrelevant and nonexistent.
This is just the tip of the iceberg of my thoughts.
What can i do ?
>>16646583
You could see a psychiatrist and talk to them.
>>16646641
For seeing the world how it is ? I already did that (unwillingly), but he basically told me that what i said was correct and he doesnt see a mental illness.
>>16646583
You can talk to me if you want. I'll be here. I'm bored.
Or read Nietzsche.
There are countless things you can do.
The point is to forget about it. Most people understand that everything we humans do is ultimately irrelephant, but we enjoy the illusion that our senses bring.
You ever smoked a joint and listened to Kyuss? Now, I wouldn't change that experience for any greater conscience in the world.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lUDoFb83pPs
>kissless virgin til 25
>meet woman online
>tell her the truth about sexual history and how being alone for so long fucked with my head big time
>apparently, having an apartment gets you pussy
>fuck
>I feel awkward
>good at reading people, try my best
>she came
>compliments my skill all the time
>makes me uncomfortable, shouldn't I be terrible?
>fwb, won't suck me. Hate that but tolerate it. Don't eat her.
>tells me she loves me after a week, says she dreams about us as twin flames and all this stuff
>tell her I've never said those words before, they're precious to me and I don't wanna lie to her
>stay fuck buddies
>she has no job, hates her home life
>she's crazy, I take good care of her, pay for everything
>get tired of her bullshit, especially with no BJs
>feel like she thought she could pussy whip and that's why she takes advantage of me
>lmao, bitch I went for years without the pussy, I may be a loser but I have my pride
>end it
>goes insane, starts telling me about how guys lie about being virgins to get women
>in what reality does that work??????
Was she just complimenting my bed skills to boost my ego and later fuck with head? Is sex just easier than I thought?
>>16646575
bro, i was in a similar situation. but i was younger. i met a girl and she was crazy about me, i was a virgin etc and she even said all that twin flame shit. sounds like she was using you for financial reasons. maybe she thought you would get attached to her because you where a virgin. some girls like virgins though because it makes them feel special knowing they are your first time. good post
>>16646590
That 110k car again. Typical.
>>16646575
she might have just been really lonely and in a bad place. if she liked how things were going with you, perhaps she invested everything into what you two had.
she needs to get her own life in order before she puts so much into a casual relationship. you did the right thing by ending it. just cut ties now.
