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Anyone else have a sex related addiction? Like, I'm not even that horny, but I sleep around a lot when I'm single. It's like some sort of dependency thing and I struggle to stop. I've slept with 4 different women this fortnight alone.
Do I need help? Are there drawbacks from this lifestyle?
Yup, I try very hard to keep it from taking over though, especially since it combines horribly with my fetishes.
I'm mostly functional.
>>16651388
Mine has become bad recently. Ever since my last girlfriend leaving me. I'm surprised I haven't caught something yet
>>16651432
I know the feeling. A partner keeps me feeling stable and I feel obligated to not indulge myself so much for the sake of her.
I get all hyped up to learn a new skill or be productive, then I'm not.
Halp.
I want to be more comfortable speaking, write more, learn programming, start exercising, and even when I break it into small steps, I get deflated and I just can't do it.
Maybe your ass needs a partner to practice/study with.
>>16651406
oh, oh my...
>>16651433
What did you want to learn?
FUCKING GOOGLE STEALS MY MONEY
I once bought Tinder plus (yes I am ugly so I needed the ugly tax for more matches but thats not the issue right now)
I was planning on using it for a month. But now I see that google has AGAIN pulled off the money from my account. I did not say this was ok, they somehow automaticly pull this money of my account.
How do I stop this and how do I get my money back? I only wanna bought it once, but now it has pulled money from my account again!
thanks for the help, i fucking dont understand shit from smartphones and I cant...
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Most subscription services are auto-renewal. Welcome to the world. Nice to have you with us.
>>16651342
Youre a fucking idiot.
now we all know why you needed tinder plus in the first place. you are an idiot
>been with that rather beautiful girl for some while
>she's been doing mixed martial arts and boxing, since she was 8y old
>first everything seemed fine
>after some while weird shit started happening
>she started to just randomly pull my ear
>began pulling my hair (not playful, but with fckn force) during sex
>then, one day, she just punched me in the kidney...
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>>16651318
Either dump her or get pegged, m8
Why are you with her? People who hurt other people on purpose aren't good people.
If she genuinely doesn't see how it hurts and refuses to believe you when you say it hurts and ask her to stop, she's an asshole as well.
Talking to her about this and seeing where she stands, then making a decision whether you want this or not is what you need to do.
what do you fucking want to do?
Know what you want and then fucking do it!
Are you stupid?
If you don't want to be abused tell her you consider that abuse and never fucking do it again or you're out; then walk out if she attempts that shit again... press charges if the shit gets real.
If you want to stay, then fucking stay and learn to play her game. The next time she jabs you, clock her as hard as you fucking can. Or get something hard and fucking take it to her leg or arm. Tell her you understand she likes to play rough and tell her you like to rough...
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Hi
>In a relationship for a year and a half
>She is bipolar, but on meds and never seemed to bother her much
>Still goes to therapy and stuff
>Turns out her new therapist -thinks- she may be borderline, but can't make a diagnose one way or the other yet
I looked up the 9 symptoms, and what it takes to be diagnosed which is displaying 5 out of 9 of the symptoms, and she does in fact display 5 out of 9 of those symptoms, all in different levels of severity. She isn't like overboard on any of the symptoms, but they are definitely all there.
I'm pretty worried for our future. She seems to have been stable to this point, but I can tell she has been really struggling lately with shit going on in her life, and those symptoms really became apparent. They say that borderline's often get destructive towards their own relationship, but she hasn't done that yet.
Anyone have experience with this sort of thing? I really don't know what to do
Yeah, I have a family member with BPD. I do believe that there are borderlines out there with so much self-awareness and dedication that they can rein themselves in. If I had to guess I'd say they're about 1 in every 100 though. So maybe with the right diagnosis and help she can get a grip on how she acts. That having been said, the family member I was talking about is now estranged from literally everyone else in her life at a personal level including us and all of her former acquaintances. (She never really could hold down friendships.) We've all come to grips...
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>>16651245
Fuck, that is not encouraging.
When she isn't stressed/overwhelmed she seems to have pretty good control over it. But I really don't know how I'm supposed to handle this.
I really do love her, but our future is looking grim.
>>16651291
Check out the book "Stop Walking on Eggshells" by Mason and Kreger.
>21yo
>No job
>No school
>Not sad but not happy
>Foggy mind
>Live with parents
>Parents almost broke
>No friends
>If I try to make friends they end up not being interested.
>No girlfriend for a year now.
>Last broke up left me...
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Sign up for next semester community college my friend, at least you'll be doing something productive and won't be spending too much money, do well and try to go to university and study what you're most interested in and WILL GET YOU A JOB after you graduate. Also look for a part time job, nothing wrong working at a gas station or a grocery store or even a retail clothing store. You're not a failure, no one is, you just need to start making choices that can be well invested into your life now!
>>16651290
Aren't I a little old for university?
Recently turned 21 and figure I might as well trying my first alcoholic drink. Any ideas? Never looked into them so I know jack shit about brands or types of alcohol.
>>16651033
fireball is good
>>16651033
I really like honey wine, but try different stuff and find out what you like best.
>>16651033
Liquor is fucking disgusting
How do you convince a girl to cheat on her boyfriend?
What are the steps?
What is your personal method?
I'm just curious
Be better than her bf in every single way. Also, make sure she is a cheating whore.
>>16650989
Can you elaborate?
>>16650991
A cheating whore is someone with a cheating history, you dumbfuck.
Also being better than someone in every single way doesn't need any explanation, except maybe for some dumbfuck like you.
I am a girl in my first year of uni. Most of my high school peers in my grade are studying abroad. Only me and three other guys are staying in my homeland.
This guy sometimes texts me other graduation. We are not particularly close and I doubt he has feelings for me or anything. He probably talks to me as we have have something in common (i.e. we are staying in the same country).
He just messaged me asking if I want to meet him a the center of my city, like grab something to eat and chat for a bit. Afterwards, he will meet with a group of people he is collaborating...
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Do you want to go?
You say you have no feelings for him. If you are sure of that, then don't waste his or your time.
>and stop listening to your mom's crazy shit.
>>16650930
If it's purely a meetup just for chatting, yeah.
>>16650931
You really think he is trying to ask me out?
So, I hang out with this one guy and we usually have a really fun time together. However he is better than me in pretty much everything. Physically, mentally, materially.
When I spend time with him there are always these small things popping up which will make me feel inferior to him. They keep building up and I always end up feeling worthless and awful afterwards.
I like hanging out with him but I always have to struggle to keep my jealousy and self-pity from showing.
What should I do?
>>16650879
You're just insecure
Stop comparing yourself to other people
>>16650879
>feel inferior to him
Then better yourself?
Be thankful you that kind of person is ok to hang out with you and use him as an inspiration.
you take it as a kick in your ass to better yourself
>been having a LDR with a girl for years
>we finally decide to meet
>i fly to her and we rent out a small apartment by the beach for a few weeks
>literally the best time of my life, she was amazing and it was great
>we're both madly in love with each other
I just found out she's pregnant. We used a condom, it didn't break or anything, I don't know what happened. Either way, what the fuck do...
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how old are the two of you? how long distance?
>>16650855
Paternity test, first and foremost
>>16650864
I'm 26. She's 22. Not very long, like a three hour flight. We didn't meet up for so long since she was overseas for quite awhile and she has her uni and I've got my work.
How long is it acceptable to think about dating someone?
>be me
>be grill
>after a couple dates, guy asks me to be gf
>gotta_think_about_it.png
>two weeks later thinking about it
>suddenly something comes up where the relationship is going have to be a LDR (by an hour, which isnt too bad imo)
>tell him I have to think about it more
>4 weeks later, still don't know what to fucking do
So, how long is it until he gives up on me? I don't know what to do. My previous relationship was an LDR (but many, many states away) and I wanted to start anew and now that's ruined. The reason he's moving is because he's a fucking idiot who flunked out of school, so there's a great reason to date him right there. For someone I barely know, he's already proving himself to just be troublesome. Idk if it's worth it, but at the same time I'm just so bored of life and I enjoy being in his company and talking to him and shit. The only reason I'd get into a relationship with him is "just because" or "it'd be fun", is that okay? Can relationships be based off that?
Thinking about it means "no". If he really rocked your world, you wouldn't need to think about it.
no. its not ok. if it had any substance, you wouldn't have thought about it in the first place. let him go and wait for somebody that really gets your emotions up
>hour away
>LDR
what
>house sitting for a friend and running a few local errands while he's out of state.
>secure hookup via social media
>chubby cute Indian girl
>we smoke and order food. She tries some weed liquor I have
>get her on the bed, start making out
>she whips out my cock and starts sucking it
>pull out her tits, starting sucking
>she...
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you sound like the type of guy that has a lot of harsh "no" ahead
>>16650804
>hurt durr I'm gonna brag about my cool life on 4chan
Fuck you faggot go back to Facebook retard
>>16650813
Why is that?
>>16650825
I'm not bragging. I fucked up and want advice.
Too poor for school
Too poor for a shrink because I want to kill myself
Too poor to buy DNP to speed up my cut
Too poor to afford to kill myself(No place to hang myself, too poor for a gun, too poor and social anxiety riddled to find drug dealer to buy drugs from to kill myself with, too poor for a helium tank)
Too poor for my own cell phone to apply for jobs with,
Too poor for new clothes to go any job interview with.
Too poor to go to a gym and lift with free weights rather than the machines I've been using.
What the fuck do I do?
Aren't there any organizations who would help someone in your situation?
>>16650796
I've looked into in my area, no one takes anyone for free. You have to have money, it's disgusting.
I live in Central FL, if I'm wrong please correct me.
>>16650800
Sorry I'm not from the US so I'm not too sure. Your country's fear or socialism seems to leave a lot of people alone in the cold. I would suggest asking from some bigger local church. Christians would probably want to help someone like you.
Most people have been told their whole lives that needing something is more important than wanting something, but thats not exactly the case, see when you want something you'll do more to get it then you would if you needed it cause most first world countries have everything you NEED for survival which is the only real needs, they can also co-exist like how i need food but i also want it cause you know, some stuff is fire af but basically what im saying is that if you want something you'll put more effort towards that goal
>>16650715
That's not true, the entire economy of the west is built on 'want' with cleaver marketing to make that want a need.
you only think about it that way until you lack something you need for a while. only then you'll truly know what it means to "want" something.
>>16650722
Im saying general living needs are provided given you have money or a kind hand
