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People keep telling me do what's best for me, but idk what's best. Once you are homeless, is life over? I need to get out of my house. My parents pump me full of meds that are bad for my mental health, force me out of having fun, and take away from my ability to make my own decisions because "they know what's best". All I've ever wanted is some independence; a child hood dream that never faded. We fight all the time. I need to get out, but I feel trapped as fuck and they tell me I'll never make it because I still have two years of college left. I am 19, btw.
>>16658432
get a job you loser
>>16658434
I have one. Part time, but I guess that negates your argument that I'm a loser.
>>16658436
Does it?
Is it unfair for me to start dating someone when I've still got slight feelings for someone else?
>>16658428
It is unfair. You should be with someone you're 100% with.
Yes. Extremely. Abort mission
>dating
No, go for it.
It'll help you put things into perspective.
However, if you get to the exclusivity phase where you (or at least they) begin to become emotionally attached, end it if you think you're only one foot in
Shes cool, kinda slutty, and loves emojies. She used to message me first all the time and she even told me at one point she was dtf but i had some personal shit going on i had to deal with. I want her now but idk how to try to salvage. We didnt break on bad terms just kinda stopped talking.
>>16658399
Are you blue or gray?
One word answers are not a good indicator.
She want's the d but you are beyond autism. Stop those dump one word answers! Wtf man? You never had a conversation before? What about: hey! Nice to hear from you! What have you been up to? How are you? Want to grab a drink at xyz tonight to catch up?
Dear god, anon
>>16658408
Im blue
Is this a bad photos to use for tinder?
Yes.
Oh boy... Do we have a new brandon?
>>16658341
Which one is you?
Sometimes my girlfriend does things that genuinely upset me. But I never flat out tell her how I'm feeling if it conflicts with what she wants to do because I feel like I'm being controlling or demanding. For instance, she's been trying to quit smoking for the last few months and she's been doing really well, going weeks and weeks without having a cigarette but she'll often text me asking if it's okay for her to have a cigarette. I would say no, I mean, a relapse is a relapse. But I just bend over and say yes because I don't want it to seem...
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>>16658313
Look,
This is a surface problem here anon.
This is not a big deal in the relationship. Just tell her, first off, you love her if she quit's smoking or not, make it a low pressure thing, then ENFORCE the no smoking policy, tell her if she smokes you'll be disappointed in her, she shouldn't, etc
Post more for context? It seems like there's a lot more shit going on. Like why is she asking for your permission to do shit and then turning around and calling you abusive. Wtf
>>16658322
I suppose it's necessary to go a bit deeper. Since I started dating her (4-5 months) she's gone to a movie with her ex (And her mother) and she's gone to breakfast with another guy alone (She paid for herself) I admit that I'm extremely naive on the subject of relationships, this is my first relationship ever. But it's these kinds of things that really set me off. My girlfriend has an awful track record as well, she's cheated four different times. I'm constantly told how I'm...
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No sex in 63 days and 12 hours. Wife had kids and when I'm around we can't. About to kill everyone and blow up. What do
You call your mom. Then you drop the kids at her place. You get home, grab your wife, smash her in every way you can think off (don't actually rape her, ofc...), sleep like a baby, sleep in, morning sex, go get kids and enjoy the rest of the day
>>16658305
>No sex in 63 days and 12 hours
No sex in 1831 days, get on my level.
>>16658318
I fucking wish. My mom is out of the picture. Her father always works. Noone can watch them. I'm about to anhero. As I type this the baby is crying his head off. Our daughter and son are jumping in there beds. And she's running around cleaning and taking care of them.......... Sweet sweet death please take me
This is why I don't initiate chats unless a girl does first. Any advice on how I can salvage this?
it's too early to tell. Where do you know her from? Is she trying to sell you something? Sometimes our instincts are right.
Honestly she sounds odd. Can we chat more? Really? Why would she say that? It sounds desperate and clingy. Why not just CHAT MORE instead of asking... However, you did nothing wrong. Wait for her response. Post it, i'm curious
pls help
im not good at this!
How can I eat relatively healthy on tight cash?
I've realized too much of my money has been going towards eating out, buying fast food or convinience store sandwiches etc. it really starts to pile up.
I'm trying to save as much as humanly possible. what are some great super cheap food solutions? preferably slightly healthy, tasty and not ass tasting. >inb4 ramen.
thanks!~
Spagghetti with a jar of Ragu or some shit and ground turkey or beef in there would last me like 3 days costing about 10 bucks and I eat quite a bit. The meat is the most expensive part but still not bad. With that I use s 2 pound package of regular spaghetti.
Rice is also good, rice and beans.
veggies are cheap as shit, especially frozen veggies. brown rice. bananas. plain yogurt. chicken thighs are way cheaper than breasts and taste way better.
Rice and beans make a fairly decent nutritional profile together, and you can buy them in bulk, which drives the price down. There are a number of recipes online for working with different types, so you can get some variation: you'll want more than that, but these will serve you well as a basic staple.
So today
My fucking parents used my God damn DEADNAME in my general direction
they KNOW I hate hearing it and if I do hear it then I am not responsible for anything I do after
after that said that in screamed at my dad and he fucking hit me
that was the last straw enough is enough
I took the cat, wrote "ASSHOLE" on my dad's car in sharpie and then got in my car and left
I'm still emotional over it I'm sorry if you can't read it
How do you guys deal with it?
What could I had done?
>>16658205
> INB4 what is DEADNAME?
>>16658205
> I am not responsible for anything I do after
Nope. Life doesn't work that way. I can't just make up a rule that I don't like when waiters give me coffee and there is no raw cane sugar at the table, only white sugar. When there is no fucking raw cane sugar I am not responsible for splashing that coffee at the waitress scalding her.
You can and you will be responsible because that is what a fucking adult does, day in and day out... and if it is not your asshole dad, it is your teacher, or your boss at work, or a cop that pulled you over for speeding... until the day you die in a shriveled up remnant of a human being after the supressed anger eats you out from the inside.
well, if you have someplace to live that's fine.
Allright /adv/ Im 19 years old about 230 in size Im not really fat but im on the chubby side and climbing I kinda want to be healthly you know I want to start doing natural stuff like drinking tea and stuff but I also would like to lose abit of wieght maybe get down to 180-190 im 6'1 -6'2 dont know whats a good weight for that height. Any overcomers good some good healthly advice that can help me lose some weight. Note: Not in the financial position to hit up a gym.
dude a gym membership is like 10 bucks
6'1 230 is a 30.3 BMI, which means you're obese. First step is stop lying to yourself. That includes "not being in the financial position to hit up a gym." Gyms are cheap as shit. If you actually care, you can find the money in your budget.
If you're really anti-gym though, there's plenty you can do. Walk/jog/run. All the fucking time. Pushups, pullups, situps, planks, squats, lunges. Basic shit.
And don't forget weight loss happens in the kitchen, not the gym. Put a calorie counter on your phone and actually update it. You'll...
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>>16658190
you dont need a gym fatty, run or do shit at home
Why do many girls cut contact with me after we have cybersex?
Does this happen with real sex too? I'm a virgin so I wouldn't know.
One night cams lol
Because theyre done with you
>>16658172
They're embarrassed and you should be too.
I don't understand /adv/.. I don't understand how one of my friends can convince a girl to come over to his place, EAT FUCKING CHINESE FOOD AND WATCH A FUCKING MOVIE AND THEN APPARENTLY HAVE FUCKING SEX.
I don't get it. I am not even after sex. I am 27 and never even had a fucking relationship. Its driving me nuts because no one can give me the correct fucking answer. I am convinced dating is just one big RNG SHIT FEST and that nothing you really do matters.
You could walk around flashing your dick at women and eventually one would say yes. Its...
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It depends on your culture, the set-up kind of formal dates look a bit crap. In Asia it's largely arranged or friends, in Europe it's friends, in North America they pounce strangers creepily, in the Pacific they date friends.
What are you doing with your life? It seems that dateless people on /adv/ don't get the whole "having a life thing" and seem to be stagnant with no progress or achievements. That being the case they get confused by the whole "knowing people" thing.
Second question, do you have full conversations with female...
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>>16658185
I don't have full conversations with female friends because I don't have any that I am in consistent contact with.
I also don't get the whole having a life thing. I work, come home, maybe work out and play video games. Its not very exciting.
>>16658323
Usually people have a lot going on in their lives, hobbies to get to, random projects, friends, parties, and families who want to go on holiday etc. For those who aren't busy and don't have a big interest in something there's ambitions. That could be work if the goal was the quickly climb the corporate ladder, but if work left to be monotonous it would be something else they do on the side. Doing nothing but ground-hog day is just wasting away days. Doing stuff comes with plenty of rewards, it's...
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So I've been presented with a confusing scenario. My gf of 2 years has always been sort of low libido. We still fuck and she gives blowjobs and shit but they're pretty inconsistent. Sometimes everyday sometimes not for weeks. As of recently she revealed to me that her main reason for this lack of sexual stuff is that when I cum it's "too messy". Any advice for what I can do to help clean/make less of a mess after I splooge?
>Inb4 she's cheating on you/getting her sex life fulfilled elsewhere and that's why there's...
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>>16658130
jerk off more
>>16658140
I can see that helping stamina but how does that help the mess?
unless she's 12 or some shit, it's not really about "lol ur cum so gross". that's retarded. ask her what it's really about so you don't get blindsided by it later on.
I'm a 22 yo guy,
I was raised by a single mom in a bad neighborhood. Grow up around people with "street" mentality. As i result i have no degree or any of that shit, been drug addicted(now only weed), in debt because of gambling, had legal issues, low on money. Have bad personality. According to my exs: violent, agressive, rude, selfish, don't give a fuck about other peoples feelings or opinions, always do shit my way, can easy scare people away.... So i'm thinking fuck this pussy ass instagram/facebook society. Let's go to the fucking real...
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>facebook society
Also I don't know if I'd say you've found "Real Men's Country" here. There's a lot of things that come to mind when I want to describe this site, but that's not it.
I guess now that I think about it, my advice is to avoid romanticizing stuff. It's important to look at everything and try to see it from multiple angles. There's no such thing as a promised land, nor is there a perfect hell. You'll find good and bad in everything. As long as you're aware of that I think you'll make out okay.
>>16658108
Hrnnn, the Foreign Legion will treat you as disposable trash, and you will never be a "full" member, only the French who join up are given full privileges and authority (even though they have to lie about being French when they join up)
Get a construction job or something like that, will suit you perfectly: no SJWs, no emotional bullshit, just lifting stuff and putting it down again
I went out with this guy for a little under a year. I loved him soooo much, and still do. I lost my virginity to him. But he cheated on me. Now his new fat, ugly girlfriend is telling me to kill myself and threatening to contact the police saying that I'm stalking him. But I haven't..
I want to die. I'm just too much of a pussy to kill myself. I can't get this tight feeling out of my chest.
Is there any way I can get over this?
They make fun of me. He refers to her as his wife. He gave her all my information, screenshots of things I...
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Well, look at it this way; she must think you are so good-looking or were otherwise a great girlfriend that ex might dump her and take you back.
>>16658033
Lol I wish. He hates me as much as she does, because I guess I gave him a hard time before we broke things off. He was never in love with me.
She's just a cunt.
pic related lol
Don't give them the satisfaction of letting them know they've got to you. You win by becoming better; by being better. Such low behaviour as there's is beneath you. Lose all contact with them and don't initiate anything further . If they start coming after you record their stuff as much as you can and go to the authorities if or when the harassment reaches a veritable and uncomfortable level.
>Illegitimus non carborundum
