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Hi, /adv/. I'm looking for advice on how to cope with some of my relatives' lack of tact.
You can bash on me for being weeaboo trash and all that, but I find that bit irrelevant right now. Thing is, anime and manga have gotten me interested in Japan and Japanese culture. I decided to learn more about it, starting with the language, so I can read Japanese books and of course, manga [from the source and stuff] too.
So I've been looking for a course and while in a car trip with my mom and my aunt, my mom started reading Japanese proverbs she found online....
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>>16660036
I dealt with that as well when living at home. There's not much you can do. They are idiots.
Do you have any idea how annoying weeaboos can be? Your complete obsession with Japan is probably awkward as fuck. Not saying they''re in the right but most weeaboos grow out of it to feel embarrassed.
>>16660036
>"I didn't know you wanted to study sugar cane".
This is just a typical lame "dad joke." If you're getting really bothered by this, instead of taking it for what it is and making another lame joke back at her, you're being a baby.
>she insists on calling me and making fun of things I like.
Can you give more examples? Because this sounds rather tame.
I came home from work last night and found a pill called "Palexia Tapentadol", which is "Nucynta".
It was 50 mg, just casually left on top of the mailboxes in my building.
I did some research and apparently it's an opioid.
I figured someone might want to trick a retard such as myself into accidentally an heroing, so I made sure it was the real deal.
Took it, felt warm and slightly high.
I was expecting it to be like acid or at least weed, cause I've never done oxy.
TL;DR, how do I not nut too fast?
Does...
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>hurr durr I'm so beta I can't even make decisions about my own body
>>16660007
This post is like that movie From Dusk til Dawn- it just changes gears right in the middle. Great movie.
Need some serious advice here..... Not sure how good 4chan is it doing that....
So, here goes.....
I met a girl, I fell in love, she still loves her ex boyfriend, who is fucking dead.....
I ended up going round her house and she still has pictures of him next to her bed.... Does anyone agree this is fucking stupid?
She tells me she will never love anyone the same, of course she won't if she continues to hold on to him, when he isn't even there.
I have given her loads of chances to start coming around to her senses, and she always tells me she doesn't...
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It's none of your business to tell her how to live or feel to be honest. Just because you fell in love doesn't give you special rights.
How long has he been dead?
>>16659783
>I have given her loads of chances to start coming around to her senses
dude, she's in love with somebody else. you're a consolation prize, either you need to man up and be okay with that, or move on.
'Sup /adv/?
Two months ago my girlfriend, who I lived together with for five years, moved out because, among other things, I failed to meet her standards and my depressive behavior cost her too much energy.
Anyhow, now we're living apart, but we're still together as a couple.
But now there's this problem: I feel like I'm lacking affection and I don't know how to deal with it. When we call or text each other, she almost exclusively tells me what I'm doing wrong or what her agenda looks like. In the two months we've...
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She has hefty arms and massive hands.. I hope you never anger her because I would lay money on her win!
Seriously though... Find someone else. Just be nice and super social. It's as easy as that.
>>16660051
She looks tough but isn't, she has trouble opening jars.
Anyhow, the major problem is that I do not want to leave her, she was my sole reason for existing for so long, I have nothing on my own.
I really want to manage to need affection less. If she does not think I deserve it I'll accept that.
What was just hard was, for instance, my first girlfriend reconnected with me after being incommunicado for seven to eight years.
Meeting her again, she immediately gave me a hug and a kiss...
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Look.. Its not complicated..
You are suffering from sensory deprivation!
This is because your g/f is not tactile with you. In a few years time when your new girl treats you in the way you want, you will look back and wonder why the hell you put up with that shit for so long.
With that in mind, have a word with miss frosty and ask her when she will change. If you don't get a secure and believable answer that involves a time less than a week or two then tell her that you two are done.
Pro tip: you won't .. You will just get waffle.
It's...
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Got an exam tomorrow. Should have prepared for in the past few weeks of Christmas vacation, but I barely studied the easiest part of it, and there's a bunch of shit that even while in class I found impossible to learn.
Now the guilt is coming. Failing it would mean having to repeat the course, making my graduation come by even later, feel kinda humiliated and let down both myself and my parents, which would even to pay more because of it.
Also, there's an oral part to it, in which I have to do a presentation on the fly by a topic that the teacher will...
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Would the test that's next week save your grade? If so I'd go for that and just say oops fucked up
>>16659624
I'd study, trying to focus just on what you think is important.
Don't try to read everything.
>>16659638
I mean, I'm from a Spanish university. Basically I have a bunch of subjects, and now I have exams for each of them.
If I fail any of the subjects, I have to either do that subject specifically again somehow next year (will probably fuck my schedule, as I'd have to do it together with the new subjects) or just try and repeat an "special exam" which will be same format as this one in December, but I'd be rusty as fuck so won't be easy. I have to pay either way.
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So, due to not having any sort of health insurance anymore, I haven't been able to take my 200 mg of Zoloft per day in months. At first, I didn't think I needed it since I've felt that I've overcame most of my anxiety/depression (last time I recall it even being bad was a couple years ago), but now, after almost half a year of not taking it, I feel these short bursts of anxiety before I try to go to sleep. Keep in mind that my sleep hygiene isn't very good, so I don't know if that factors into it.
I'm not sure what's going on , though....
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Get a job, stop sitting at home crying all day if you can't handle it
>>16659655
I do have a job, though.
Then what are you thinking about when this happens. I only said that cause most people that complain about anxiety are crybabies that need some aggression
>tl,dr: "girlfriend" seems a bit distant on our date following the date where we had sex.
About a week ago, I went on a 4th date with a girl and we ended up kissing and having sex, cuddling, what have you. There was no boyfriend/girlfriend talk, but it was clear that both parties are looking for something long-term.
We met up again yesterday and she seemed slightly more distant. She returned my kisses, but didn't initiate any (whereas the date before she pretty much took the lead), and we ended up watching a movie on...
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>am i over thinking this?
Yeah. It's fine. She's stressed, like she said. Good move not pushing it. You'll get more ass banging in the future for not having done so.
>>16659501
So I shouldn't be worried that the spark could be dead already? I just thought she'd be happier to see me, even if (and maybe more so because) she's stressed. Or does that only happen in the movies?
I just don't want to think I did something wrong here. I'm inexperienced, sorry if it shows.
>>16659519
That's just a movies thing. You're good. Just keep yourself available to talk of she's especially stressed. Sometimes after a big step like that, a girl will take a little time for emotional inventory to make sure it's a good move for them. Guys do it too, but it's less obvious i guess. Give it a little time anon.
Is money a good substitute for real human connection?
If you use it for social outings.
not really
i have a lot of money and would rather have more friends
wat?
I have a job which pays nicely and I have free-time/days-off every now and then. I am currently working on a story and I aspire to have it published the traditional way one day. Is this a waste of time? I know that I am doing it "just for fun" but crafting a story does take a very long time and the chances of being published is pretty damn low.
>>16659328
whats your story about anon
Overall yes, it's very inefficient if you're trying to make a buck off it. However, it's a very fulfilling hobby otherwise.
>>16659328
i'm about to try writing a blog and getting good enough at music to be a street performer in hopes of getting out of my factory job someday. fuck anon, if it's something you'd prefer as a career choice, try and who cares if you fail. otherwise be complacent like the people who trained me at this job, saying they'd stay for 1 year and now have been there for almost 40. i'm sure their life has been fulfilling work-wise
Why do people think I'm stupid?
I've made high grades in university thus far (except for a high C in bio...), always stated in my teacher's LoR's I'm the best writer during the semester teaching the course, will make very high grades on most tests studying very little, and have written many papers with feedback that it's of graduate level. I'm an undergrad, with a publishable thesis projected to be completed during my sophomore year. However, I absolutely suck at math, and any sort of thought process I might apply to it always is wrong....
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Book smarts are just one type of intelligence, and arguably not the most important. Your grades are not an indication of how smart you are overall. I know so many people who get goods grades, but are terribly stunted in other areas like common sense. Most of them are STEM majors too, for some reason.
Being perceived as intelligent is totally different.
People are retarded and associate smarts with TV/movie behavior.
Dressing in like a cardigan and wearing glasses? Smart.
Poor hygeine chub in a hoodie that is likely a math autist? Retard.
>>16659297
I'm a linguistics major. I'd definitely say there's a reason for someone to make high grades. It all depends on the class, but even straight textbook information shows something. There's a process for getting the information from the book into one's head precisely and accurately.
I just set up a tinder account to see if I can maybe get dates. Us this pic a good pic go use as myain pic. I think it looks musculine but I don't want girls to think I'm trying too hard. Help plz
Shave that gross stache, smile and take the picture somewhere that doesn't look like a kids room.
>>16659299
Better?
>>16659302
>still in a kid's room
>still stached
>now look like a berserk rapist
Uhhhh
Just started seeing a girl who I've been into for years. Things are great and we connect really well except that we have totally different sex drives. Admittedly I probably want to have sex slightly more often than average but she literally never does. It's only about two weeks in and we've been hanging out every day but only had sex once about a week and a half ago. She's never had an orgasm, so I think that that is a large reason why she never really feels like it.
It's not like she wants to wait or anything like that, she admits that she just...
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Have you considered that maybe you want to have sex more often mostly because you've been pining after her for years and are probably more invested in her than she is in you?
Bail out now. I was in the same situation with my girlfriend and I finally got her cumming and she still doesn't give a fuck about sex. I could bang every day but I'd settle for 3 times a week. Her,she could do it once a month but settles for like twice.
And you can't break up with a girl these days for 'not putting out enough'; it's social suicide and you'll be a pariah.
Get out now while you still have good break up excuses.
>>16659249
No I normally just want to have sex a lot. With past girls it's been way more often than this. I have ADHD so it's just like yeah lets go all the time
I would say that I pined after her for a year or two but then I got over it for the most part. This is five years later and she came onto me.
>>16659279
I appreciate the anecdote. There's not too much of a social backlash issue because our circles really don't overlap too much, but I...
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My girlfriend told me a week ago that she had messed around on me one night in September while on vacation in Europe. Just a one night thing and she had been drinking and a guy in her hostel put the moves on her. Said it was the worst mistake of her life and she couldn't start the new year lying to me. She couldn't stop sobbing, and clung to my leg, begging me to not leave her.
I left the room and pretended to be mad for a while, let her really think there was a possibility of me leaving her. In secret I don't feel all that hurt, as I too cheated on her...
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As long as the sex is great, stay with her.
>>16659160
Just get her to a clinic and get her tested first. She could have gotten HPV or some nasty shit. You don't want any of that.
>>16659163
It's phenomenal. Thanks for the support mah nigga.
>>16659169
Shit dude, that's the first fucking thing I did. Both clean.
My boyfriend's little brother recently moved in with him because reasons too complicated to explain. Basically, the kid has had a shit life and is going to turn out to be similarly shitty if he doesn't straighten up and fly right.
He has not gone to school all year, so he's going to have to start the year over starting next week. He's also really dsgusting. He showers maybe once every 4 days, his room is disgusting, he pisses the bed almost every night because of reasons, idk why.
The kid is fucked up in a lot of ways, bottom line. I feel really...
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>>16659143
Get him in touch with a counselor. Do shit with him and try to find genuine things to take interest in. Don't pretend to be interested in shit you aren't because kids can sense that. Get him to socialize.
Those are just ideas, idk, maybe talk to a professional?
Social workers can help too.
>>16659143
>pisses the bed every night
It's ogre. This kid is kill
Are fat guys ok with having their boobs grabbed during sex/cuddling? I get it that it'd probably feel weird since technically they're not supposed to be there but I gotta.
Why would you have sex with a fat guy? Gross.
>>16659127
to feel his boobs obvi.
>>16659127
because they look so soft
