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I feel like shit.
My gf was hanging around her whore friends and I got dragged along because I wasnt drinking. They started playing some shitty game where you talk about secrets with each other.
I guess they thought they were asking relatively innocent questions but they asked my gf whats the largest guy shes been with. I was right fucking there. they may have been drunk but holy shit.
Anyways she says her ex was around 8 inches and she couldnt fit her hand around the base. Then she validates it by saying she once compared it to a water bottle. The ozarka bottle. The one thats actually 8 inches. No matter how you think she misinterpreted it he was definitely a monster. Im barely over 5 so of course I feel like shit. Like I cant compare. She might have been trying to comfort me but when she was pressured into talking about sex she said that she enjoyed being filled up but only liked it when he gently bumped her cervix and how at first its painful getting her cervix rammed but she got used to it. Apparently his dick was curved up like a banana so he 'just couldnt help it'. Then the whores start talking about how good big dicks feel and how erotic they found being stretched to the point of a little pain feels. Oh and lets not forget how banana shaped penises are best for girls right...
Then suddenly as if my girl remembers Im there she says the she likes smaller ones where she doesnt have to fear a hard thrust. Was that supposed to make me feel better. Because I feel emasculated.
Shit, I fail the toilet roll test. I feel like crying. I dont even want to have sex with her anymore. The hell am I supposed to do about this.
Break up with her. Or swallow your pride and stay with her. Your choice.
How long have you been with her? Past isn't something you can avoid. If it's only been like, 3 weeks, then fuck it, move on.
You can judge a person by their friends.
How old are you?
You can't change it and she still is with you and having sex with you despite it so what's the big deal?
My degrees are useless and I can't get any jobs in my field I've studied for since it suddenly oversaturated
I want to just cry
What field?
>>16674697
History
>>16674747
Maybe this was something to think about before getting your degree?
Last Thread: >>16656416
Get on with it.
the jews
>>16670666
Coming from pure German stock, I applaud your 666s, and dedicate the use of my ovens to solve the Jewish problem.
I'm a 27 year old sleeping with a body pillow every night dreaming of big spooning a guy that doesn't even talk to me. On my mind we have private conversation about how much I like the shape of his eyes but in reality I'm just stupid.
How do I politely cut everyone out of my life? It's not because I don't like them, it's because I know for certain I'm going to end up ruining my own life, and I want to avoid dragging everyone down with me. My family will be easy, because I can just move out and avoid them except for phone calls and whatnot. My friends and girlfriend are another story. How do I let my friends know? And how do I break up with my girlfriend in a way that doesn't seem like I don't love her or want her? How do I put it that I'm just a black hole and need to distance her so I don't suck her in too?
And no, I'm not just depressed or crazy, and I know everyone makes mistakes. But that doesn't mean it should be a daily occurrence. And if at any time I start trying to feel better about it, I make a big mistake again and all these feelings of inferiority come rushing back all at once, so I've realized it's better to just accept it.
How about you don't do any of those things, and just get a life coach or therapist instead?
>>16669625
Because there's really nothing to fix, this is just who I am. I am flawed, fundamentally. Not in a normal "nobody's perfect" way, but I truly believe I'm a danger to myself and others.
People like OP make me wonder if there are people in this world who are genuinely altruistic. My initial reaction is to think that they're dramatic attention whores, but sometimes they come off as really sincere, but I think those people are the ones who just want to play the role of martyr really badly.
I mean it's such an odd question to ask sincerely. "How do I politely cut people out of my life". Like surely if you've spent any time at all considering this question yourself you'd know that there really isn't a polite way to do this.
It is as it sounds. I may be pregnant from a 1 night stand. I havent taken any tests yet but I have a sinking feeling I am.
I had a 1 night stand and the guy who came inside me wont return my texts. In the case that I am actually pregnant I am seriously divided as to whether or not to abort to baby as I have no real desire to have a relationship with the father and the father obviously has no desire to relationship with me....it being a 1 night stand and all...
My question is....if I am indeed pregnant should I abort it?
Second question is... if I'm pregnant should I try my hardest to track down the father?
pic hopefully related (havent taken a test yet)
How long ago was this?
You can always try plan B if it's under 72 hrs I believe
>>16668873
I know full well about plan B and it's been more than 72 hours because I had sex when I should not be fertile at all....
I just have a sinking feeling....
If nothing else I'll take a test within the next week to find out for sure...
However, even though I'm pro-choice as fuck... I don't think I myself could go through with an abortion....
>putting the fate of your spawn in the hands of the advice board on the butthole of the internet
Yeah nah you should get an abortion.
Love,
a mum
ITT: Letter to someone.
Thank you guys, for helping to open my eyes the other night. It was mentally painful and I literally almost cried, but it needed to happen and I know what I must do now. Can only go up from here. I'm surprised it took me this long to realize it, but better late than never.
Hopefully this doesn't ruin everything. If it does, I'll miss you guys. Godspeed.
I can't sleep.
J,
Fuck you for using me. I can't help but waste my life away ruminating on every worthless memory of you. Oh well, in time I will have forgotten about you while you continue to be a mess.
Hey friend-o, keep your head up and remember to keep moving forward. You can do eet, you'll get through it. Best of luck, I'm here for you.
So, I saw my boyfriend calling another girl cute with mild flirting. I'm having a hard time forgiving him, he says he's sorry but doesn't think it's wrong for him to "acknowledge a girl is attractive" while in a relationship and gave no indication that he wouldn't do it again. he's really great otherwise, but knowing he's saying who knows what to other girls is killing me and making it hard for me to open up to him like I did before. I don't know what to do /adv/
Do you think he would cheat on you? II mean it was a pretty dick move to flirt but guys are going to think other females are attractive.
In actuallity your jealousy is making it harder for him to open up to you because you don't trust him to not persue girls he flirts with.
He doesn't have to be only attracted to you either as you will also grow and change as a person.
>>16674119
>II mean it was a pretty dick move to flirt but guys are going to think other females are attractive.
this doesn't mean he can't exhibit self control or decency
op ya gotta figure out how big of a deal it is to you. His apology sounds more like "I'm sorry you're upset" than "I'm sorry .I. did something to upset you", which means he isn't really sorry and probably won't change
talk to him again maybe, tell him it made you incredibly uncomfortable. If he chooses to deflect on it again ask yourself how much you want to be with someone who is going to constantly flirt in front of you, knowing it makes you uncomfortable
How do I eat pussy like a champ /adv/?
with a knife and fork.
There are countless guides online for this. Just Google it.
Champ here. Mix it up, lick vertical, lick horizontal. Tongue in deep, tongue on surface. Swallow pussy juice. Lick clit. When she puts her thighs over your ears and or arches her back, you're doing it right.
Power through jaw ache, it'll get sore before she's done. Just man up and accept it.
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Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Who is Brandon/Female Brandon?
A shitposter who's convinced he's ugly. He keeps posting his picture to ask if he's ugly and to ask for dating advice, only to rebut or ignore any responses he gets. Female Brandon is a girl who pulls the same shit.
>Frog
Also piss off.
I posted a while back about my coworker. I asked her to dinner last week and she accepted. We ended up going out to a place downtown, had a few drinks and food, I paid. When we parted we hugged. The date was last Thursday.
I'd like to go out again, but don't know how long to wait or what may be a good idea for a second date (I want to indicate that I'm interested in her romantically, but not be too strong). Females help?
>>16670683
Maybe another dinner at a different place? Take her on a walk around downtown or a park? Take her to a museum?
I think a week from your first date is a reasonable distance.
Would you date me? Any tips for improvement?
My fiance thinks I cheated on him
My freshmen year of college I liked this boy, C. we slept together once, but then I was in a 2 year relationship (that was off and on, but every time we were off this guy was in a relationship so nothing ever came of it). We had stayed 'friends' while I was in my relationship (which I acknowledge wasn't appropriate) and then after it was over he tried to hook up with me several times. Over the years I had lost my attraction for him, and one time he even came to my dorm room to help me study (I was naive and genuinely thought he wanted to study, I remember specifying "as a friend, right?") but he wouldn't stop trying to kiss me, so I told him to leave. He later apologized and we still talked a little after that, I really wanted to be friends with him because we had a lot in common. It wasn't that I was so naive in thinking that guys and girls could be friends, it was just that his feelings were one-sided, so I used the fact that I had no feelings for him as justification for why a platonic relationship could be attempted.
Anyways, fast-forward 6 months or so, I'm starting off my semester, having dated my fiance for a while. Recently found out I was pregnant. When I enter college town I hit up all my old friends, including C, because I was very lonely (long story short, had emotionally manipulative ex that distanced me from all my friends, then after we broke up I was too involved with new bf and didn't reach out to them all summer). Nobody really responds to me except for 2 guys (because I had lost touch so people moved on with their lives, I don't blame them). One is from my old circle of friends, we hang out but all they want to do is party. I'm pregnant so that's impossible. The other is C. He offers to get coffee or grab lunch in between class. This sounds innocent enough, since we'd be meeting in public, so I agree. The day we're supposed to meet, he has to cancel. (Continued...)
>This sounds innocent enough, since we'd be meeting in public, so I agree.
don't even bother finishing
you fucked up you dumb whore
>>16670408
Because we're both busy, we never end up re-scheduling. I finally get in touch with one of my old girl friends, plus my fiance visits me every weekend, and I'm super busy with school, so I'm not that lonely anymore.
Fast forward to after the semester has ended. I get a text from C late at night that says "damn anon". I text "?" the next morning and he replies "sorry, I was drunk, it was stupid" to which I reply "my tits?" and he says "yeah".
Me and my fiance had gone out the night before, and I posted photos of us. In the photos my tits looked huge (because I was very preggo). A lot of my female friends had commented similar things "omg your tits anon" so I just assumed that was what he had been referring to, and I was right. I play it off like "I know, right lol" and some idle chit chat ensues. I start to get annoyed that he's creeping on me, and I communicate that with my fiance. Bad move. He takes my phone from me, and starts reading through all our conversations.
At first I don't care, I have nothing to hide, but then he won't give it back, and it gets to the point where he's reading really old conversations. When he finally gives it back he's extremely pissed. At one point during the semester, C had said to me "damn anon I can't get over your baby bump". He was probably referring to some bikini pic that I had posted on social media showing the bump off. But to my fiance it sounded like I had slept with him and he had seen the bump in person.
I don't think I should have kept up casual communications with him, I don't think I should have just played it off when he commented on my tits, and I apologized about all of that to my fiance. But he's now convinced that I cheated on him with this guy, which I didn't. I don't know what to do. When someone's paranoid, everything you say or do just makes you look guiltier. He references it all the time now. idk what to do
>>16670450
He started thinking all these crazy things, like that right after he took me on an expensive vacation, I slept with this guy in the car he gave me. The logic behind this is that he remembers there being a weird stain that looked like cum on the dashboard. I remember that too, and remember not knowing where the stain came from. It was probably just me being messy and spilling food because I had never owned my own car and wasn't in the habit of taking care of things yet. I told him I recalled it being ice cream (which it probably was) to which he responds "do you think I'm fucking stupid?"
I can tell he's 100% convinced I cheated on him, and every thing I do or say just makes him convinced that I'm guilty. He's mad and totally beyond reason. I start crying, this is the first time we've ever had an argument, and I'm innocent but have no way to prove it. Now the man I love thinks I'm a slut. He feels bad that he's made me cry, but vows that we'll move on from this, but that if I ever do anything in the future there will be no second chances, and that he'll cut me off.
Now every time we disagree on something, or randomly, he'll bring it up (at least blah blah is more blah blah than your baby bump...sorry, couldn't think of decent example.)
It's really starting to bother me. He brings it up often enough for me to know that he's not over it, and that he still doesn't believe me.
How do I get rid of my wife without it costing me an arm and leg?
I cant take it anymore, Just today alone she hasnt gotten up once like literally not even once. I went to go get a piece of chocolate from one of those giant Hershey bars which was meant to last a week or more and she grabs the whole bar with her fat sausage fingers and just eats the whole thing while laying down. I tell her not to get chocolate on the floor because if it melts into the carpet I have to clean it so instead of sitting up she just lets it get all over and just lays in her own mess. when she finishes the big ass bar of chocolate she just throws the wrapper on the floor and goes back to sleep.
So as you can see just from that small glimpse she is completely useless and really just cost me money. Im tired of working and then coming home to her sleeping or doing nothing and just a path of waste and mess from her and the kid. She claims she down and upset all the time and I can understand that every now and then but everyday for six years straight? nope, Im not buying it anymore and I should have stopped buying it three years earlier. So what do to get out of this with minimal loss of time and money?
You have no one to blame but yourself for this. You married her, and you tolerated these habits of hers
*letter from a formerly fat boy manlet jealous that some woman he liked married a man who takes care of her*
>>16669730
I just want out. I dont even care whos to blame at this point I just want out with minimal loss thats all i care about at this point.
Well I just got into a bit of a heated fight with my girlfriend.
So long story short, I was with another girl, my now Ex-girlfriend for about four years before we broke up. She never really got over it, but I was able to move on and started seeing my current girlfriend about three months after the breakup. So far things have been great, she's nothing like my previous Ex, and we really are happy together.
My Ex is apparently not having it. I cut off all contact with her and she is mad because I was able to move on and she hasn't been. So she knows she can't get to me, so she has started harassing my current GF. Up until yesterday she has been a trooper and basically given as good as she is getting, telling my Ex to Fuck off, and basically telling me not to worry about it, she's got everything under control and is not at all bothered.
Then yesterday, my Ex sends my GF a couple of sex tapes we had previously made. My GF got really Fucking upset. So last night she starts having it out with me over that. She said that we looked way to into it with each other, and the sex looked really good, that she couldn't believe I could do such things with someone like that. Holy shit, I was in disbelief, I told my GF I mean you want to act like my Ex and I had never had sex? She was like she watched the whole video and now she couldn't get it out of her mind. And then she went on and watched the second one too! Are you Fucking kidding me? Who does that? I asked her why she didn't stop watching and she said because she couldn't.
I haven't talked to her since last night. I don't even know what to say right now. I've stayed completely away from my Ex, I've done nothing wrong, and my GF got pissed with me? Oh Fuck that. Naw it ain't going down like that.
I mean, what would you guys do in this situation. It's Fucking Bullshit.
murder them both
There's not much you can do. Appealing to your girlfriend's feelings using reason isn't much use, because feelings are inherently irrational. If I were you, I'd prepare for the inevitable breakup. It sucks, but that's how it is
>>16669633
The most obvious thing to do is subtly force her into a threesome. She was clearly getting off to the clips.
how to be a good girlfriend?
suck every day
Honor your commitments and fulfill his needs.
>>16669405
what commitments?
you mean not talk to other men?
How do I stop hating men and viewing them exclusively as dangerous, predatory creatures?
Get off tumblr.
>>16667597
/thread
What made you come to the conclusion that they are exclusively like that?
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Who is Brandon/Female Brandon?
A shitposter who's convinced he's ugly. He keeps posting his picture to ask if he's ugly and to ask for dating advice, only to rebut or ignore any responses he gets. Female Brandon is a girl who pulls the same shit.
>Frog
Also piss off.
Dear fems, once your friends with a guy whos hot/handsome/cute does he do into the friendzone? or is the friend-zone only for guys your not attracted to?
Question to both
What could someone of the opposite sex do to cause you to go from viewing them as a friend to viewing them romantically?
>>16666434
If I don't feel I'm compatible with him on a personal level, yes. Dating is not just about physical attraction, I feel like you should know that, and I don't just sleep with friends.
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