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So I am not having sex until marriage for religious reasons.
I am dating a very nice man, but although I have made my beliefs very clear, he always pushes me for sexual acts that I am not comfortable performing with someone I am not married to.
I have told him many times that if it is a problem for him, he should find a girl who is comfortable having premarital sex.
He is reluctant to leave the relationship for such a reason because 1) he thinks I am out of his league physically and worth waiting for and 2) he thinks we go very well together in other areas of the relationship.
I know we are sexually compatible because we have plenty of passion/ physical chemistry for each other. I just cut it off before it crosses the line.
the main issue here is that there have been several times when he has been overcome with lust and not been able to "stop" when I tell him to. In these situations, he usually ends up groping me or touching me in places that I am uncomfortable with. He always feels very badly afterwards and I forgive him, but I can tell that he is repressing his sexuality instead of accepting and controlling it.
Would it be better for me to end things? I love him very much, but I don't want him to suffer because of my beliefs. I am also uncomfortable with him not being able to control himself.
>>16666171
>Would it be better for me to end things?
No? You're 1/ million (or posting bait... ) why would that be good for him to lose one of the only worthwhile women left?
>not being able to control himself
he is a man
I'm on my phone so I can't write as much as I'd like. I'll keep it simple: from what you wrote, I'm not optimistic. I'm not sure this relationship is working or fair to either of you.
>>16666171
You're never going to find a man who deal well with being in a sexless long term relationship.
Would you date an overweight girl with a pretty face and lot of the same interests as you?
That's the question I'm asking myself right now. I'm friends with a girl like the one I just described, and I get the feeling she's interested in me romantically. If she weren't overweight I'd immediately reciprocate her interest, but excessive fat is a huge turn off for me. She's certainly not obese but noticeably larger.
Am I shallow for feeling such reservations over physical appearances? Have you ever dated someone in spite of some...
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As far as I'm aware, no. But for all I know maybe there is some overweight girl out there who would totally break my brain in that respect.
NO
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO NO
>>16665797
If you are not into her looks there is no way you can force yourself to be.
How do I get my self-esteem back up after being betrayed and rejected by a complete asshole? I don't even think I can meet anyone else at this point.
eh... what happened? some guy didn't like you back?
>>16664734
He supposedly did for 10 months and then broke up just like that. Looking back the whole thing was a ridiculous lie and he just used my good nature to have some fun.
>>16664746
>he just used my good nature to have some fun.
and you liked it, so fuck off. I dont see what can /adv/ do here for you
Ive been seeing this girl for a while now. A few months. Nothing too long. And she was talking to me about some things shes learned from the past and during the talk I found out she wasnt a virgin.
After hearing that she wasnt a virgin we engaged in a little chat about it and after hearing her views I broke things off with her.
Now shes been trying to turn people we know against me and shes very spiteful.
How am I supposed to let a girl go in this situation?
>>16663804
Buy a knife and surprise her.
>>16663820
I dont follow
>>16663804
Did you expect her to be a virgin anon?
Come in and ask, and an advice shall follow no matter what your problem is, whether it be relationships, an illness, existentialism, religion or anything else.
The less vague you are the more helpful the replies can be. Replies may take a while, some even hours, but you are guaranteed an advice back, full of wisdom™!
Everyone else is free to give their advice as well.
Why are you creating a thread that does exactly what the entire board already does?
>>16663228
It is a lot easier to have posts gathered in one place so I can focus and dedicate my time on it.
The entire board is a little overwhelming.
How would you react if a girl told you she has fapped to you before?
Depends on if we are already fucking or not.
Weird, since im ugly af.
Happy since she saw me as a sexual being.
I would show her this video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hkACcdrF76k
>tfw degrees are useless
>tfw cant get any job
>tfw im so fucked
its not fair man
>>16661001
what do i do guys
>>16661068
Temp.
>>16661001
>tfw (you) didn't do internships or network with anyone who had job prospects
Ok, so this is a really awkward situation, but I'll try to describe it as best as I can.
My sister is a lesbian. Her wife is my ex girlfriend. Not really much story there. We didn't work out, she realized she liked women more than men, her and my sister make a really great couple, so it's cool. They want to have a child, and we've been talking about artificial insemination with my sperm and my sister's wife's egg. Everybody's cool with that.
Now the situation that I'm in is that my sister and her wife just recently had a...
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Free pussy. Have a threesome with her and your sister and post it on xvideos and make some profit on the side ;3
>>16660994
This will haunt your wife for years. She won't say anything for a long time, but it will come in every argument years down the road.
Not only that, but how much do you trust your ex? At any time, she will be able to come after you for child support payments (that's with sex or insemination), your sister will have no legal say in the matter.
I'd advise you decline OP, the fact that you're here means you aren't all together comfortable with this arrangement, and that's all the reason you need.
>>16661031
Yes, definitely post it online! Greatest idea since humanity!
Thanks to the anon for showing me the book "The Little Prince"
>>16656416
It's a real tear jerker and she'll fuck your brains out that night. Your welcome. It's in my own best interest.
You are very welcome. I wish you'd gotten to read it as a child like I did. I wouldn't be the person I am today without it
>>16656416
Or was it the prince of tides, I can't remember.
I am confused about my sexuality at 25...
I thought I was only gay and I had only sex with men until now. But I developed more and more the desire to feel masculine and I fantasize about pleasing a girl, making ger go wild and orgasm...but I don't know if it would work in the real situation, I mean, maybe I could please her but maybe it doesnt make me horny in the end...I don't know how to approach women with this...I get hit on by women, men much less, so I seem masculine...but I don't know how to play it...
Just be open to talking and go with the flow.
>>16663459
You sound pretty gay, dude. I should know.
Honestly, if you have any apprehension about being able to get aroused in such a situation, then you probably aren't heterosexual at all.
>>16663459
Sounds like you convinced yourself you were a faggot and therefore you intentionally discounted women. Shit like this happens all the time, it's one of the reasons I wish people would stop spreading homofaggot propaganda.
Is it possible to gain build muscle on a diet?
I read the sticky at fit
Pic very unrelated
>>16665607
ask /fit/ in stead of reading the sticky.
>>16665617
I did
>>16665622
It depends on what kinda diet
Okay, I have been out with a girl 3 times so far. Im just curious, how and when should i go about asking her if we are girlfriend and boyfriend without making it sound like I am a 12 yr old boy in middle school? Like I know she likes me, we hold hands, she hugs up against me and look eachother deep in the eyes. Just please let me know how and when i should ask her if she wants to be more, or is interested in me more than a friend.
You make a move you dipshit. Go on a romantic date, look into her eyes and kiss her. If she accepts you two are couple and that finalized it.
You then just accept it that you guys are boyfriend and girlfriend without saying it. I mean seriously how socially autistic can some of you be? This is basic shit that 13 year olds figure out.
>>16665450
Are you a 12 yr old boy? Because that's what it seems like.
>>16665450
You shouldn't really have to ask, but if you must, just ask... "Where do you see the both of us going?"
How do I become more interesting? I feel really boring, like I have nothing to talk about to anyone, especially strangers when I'm trying to make friends.
Thanks.
Just find a boring friend. Or conversely an extremely not boring friend.
>>16665277
Start doing activities that involve other people.
Get an interesting hobby, I don't know, skydiving or some shit.
Actually scratch that, it's too much effort and we both know your faggot ass won't get off the couch to do it. You don't have to be interesting to appear interesting to other people. Read some shit on social interaction and psychology and PRACTICE IT. It will help you have decent conversations much better than being interesting.
Is there anyone here who have experience dealing with a girls past?
My girlfriend told me straight up early in the relationship that she was afraid that i was going to leave her on account of her having had sex with more people than me. (4 to be exact. I was a virgin.) I told her i did not care, which was the truth. I kinda expected this to happen (I was 21), and i was sort of glad she was being totally honest and that it wasn't worse.
A couple of months later this horrible feeling of jealousy and disgust seeps in, and it went so far as to wake me up in the middle of the night. (We were away from each other on vacation) Usually, i dont feel bad about it when i am with her.
I am thinking this probably is rooted in my own confidence, but i also realize that it probably is rational to have some of these feelings.
She is a wonderful girl, and trough the eight months we have been together she has not given me any reason to dislike or not trust her. The sex is great. I dont want to break up with her.
Still I cant shake that uncomfortable feeling.
Has anyone ever felt the same? I have read that this fades away some with time.
Yeah i created a new thread ( >>16663985 )
>Well the only thing you can do is learn you lesson. You can break up with her and only find someone with comparable partner count as you. Someone else who is either a virgin or made the same mistake as you. Or you can live with it. You wont be happy about it ever. She realized it because of course she wasnt a virgin and understood. You didnt really have a way of understanding. It really sucks I know.
Is this from personal experience?
I hate the feeling that i somehow HAVE to break up, because some petty feelings i have, however the...
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>>16664080
You thought it didnt matter because you didnt realize how important sex was at the time because you never had sex. After having sex you are now bitter and upset because you realize that this special moment between you two isnt so special for her as well.
This feeling isnt going to go away. You may not say anything but it will get to you and reflect in you actions and thoughts.
Might be best before it takes form of hostility. I suggest you stop having sex for now and reflect upon whether you can accept...
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Speaking from experience, there's nothing you can do bro. I've never been with a virgin cuz I was late to the party, I didn't get laid till I was 23. Totally my own fault, I didn't give a fuck about girls till that age. When I had my first girlfriend, I thought about that shit all the time. Same thing with the second girlfriend. I cheated on the 2nd a few times, broke up with her, then smashed a shit ton of girls. Like, so many that I've lost count. The thing is, you'll never get over this unless you want to. I still go out and slay, but none of...
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Is there such a thing as a good perveted girl?
>Borderline Nymphet
>Be on bus
>Think of dick
>start to blush to the extreme.
I sometimes read craigslist posting of personals all across the globe, what's wrong with me? Is this normal? Can any other femanon come forward and assure me that I'm not insane.
you can have perverted thoughts without taking perverted actions.
the fact that your conscientious about it is probably an indicator that youre not insane.
Femanon here. What you blushed cause you thought of dick? Do you happen to be still in high school? What exactly do you mean by borderline nymphet?
So you want a good girl who has all the qualities of a girlfriend but she is slutty only for you?
That is rare as fuck kid, dream on.
