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How do you get over losing a girl you love? not like the death, just something didnt work out and now shes gone.
thats what happened to me and i cant stop thinking about what could have been, might have been and her moving on from me. I love her so much and i dont want her to go but i already tried to get her to stay.
I feel so empty inside because all my thoughts have been about her and now it hurts to think about her. My life since i moved her has been centered around her, shes been my everything for a while.
>>16668703
It won't go away, and that's fine. Learn to live with it.
I'll go away with time. it sounds like I was in a similar situation to yours. Talk to a therapist, get it off you chest, turn you negative energy into positive actions. Whenever I started thinking about her i would draw or exercise. It'll get better OP trust me, I've been there.
>>16668706
Pretty much this. She's going to be apart of your life forever and there's no just forgetting it. Time helps, the first month is bad, the second month is better, the third month you should start feeling like yourself again and be able to move on.
Just try to keep yourself together and not start doing destructive things that will make the situation worse for yourself or for the people around you.
How did you decide what to do with your life?
I will soon finish high school and my parents support me continuing studies in university. The problem is: I don't know what and where to study.
I don't want you to decide for me, but I want you to help me make my decision. I like science, but it's more of a hobby. I like maths and I'm good at it, but I don't see a job in that field that could get me money. I don't like hard-working job, but I have started thinking about studying medicine. The thing I don't like is that I would have very little free time while studying. I like vidya, I like anime and I like sports too.
> pic unrelated, one of my favourite writers (Verne)
I just started college and I've decided to become a paramedic. Once you have narrowed down your interests like, I wanted a hands on job where I could help people and make a good amount of cash. be honest with yourself with you wanna do. Maybe you could go into material sciences.
Engineering requires you to be really good at math, but its workload is brutally hard. Math actually has a wide variety of fields associated with it, like actuaries, accountants, etc. which all have good career prospects.
Computer science is probably one of the most laid back majors, and being good at math and enjoying science, you may enjoy CS. You'll have plenty of time for vidya, anime, and sports, but also have great career prospects.
Oh! And how did I decide? I went to uni and took a few classes and found something that I really enjoyed. IMO that's the best way to choose a major... take classes and figure out what makes you excited to do every day. No major needed going in.
/adv/, what do you think if you see a otherwise normal-looking girl wearing long sleeves at the gym? do you assume she has a skin condition, is a cutter, just gets cold very fast? this is probably a retarded thing to worry about but yeah, social anxiety.
>>16668649
Assuming I would even notice that, I would prolly assume she's a cutter and dislike her immediately
>>16668649
Ummm, I spend most of my time just staring at your tits
Hello
I have a problem
Summary : I have a severe case of Exam Nerves, nothing is working and it's becoming a huge obstacle in my education.
I'm sure It's NOT just the fact that "Im not studying hard enough" or that "if you studied good enough, you wouldn't feel anxious during exams since you've practiced enough and are familiar with your subject"
I attend every single class.
I have literally never been absent once all semester long.
I take notes of pretty much everything.
Studying and solving examples is practically everything I do all week, I don't go out with friends and when I'm not studying I'm probably watching an episode or two of a TV show I like.
Hell, I even got pic related and used the stopwatch mode to pressure myself when solving math or physics and it worked, I can solve quickly and correctly most of the time but only outside of exams.
Whenever Im in an exam I make stupid ass mistakes and forget extremely easy concepts and misplace numbers in the easiest calculations.
And no, I don't underestimate any subject and I do give attention to both the easy and the difficult stuff.
Granted, not all the mistakes I make are dumb ones, sometimes I make legitimate errors in solving or calculating because I didn't understand something correctly. It's a test after all.
I tried mental contrasting.
I tried deep breathing to manage stress.
I tried to keep my self in a happy place but that just distracted me.
I'm starting to think I'm just an idiot and it's frustrating.
What do?
Go to the hippie store and buy a little bottle of lavender essential oil. Smell it as you study. Then before the test, dribble a little on yourself or nearby.
>>16668643
Thanks a lot for the advice but:
1. Couldn't the same effect be obtained with chewing gum?
2. I have no idea what is a hippie store nor do I think there's one where I live or what this lavender oil is. it's scaring me, is it some sort of drug?
>>16668628
You need someone to study with, this gives you confidence in the amount and depth to study. Find a kid who is going to get an a and just talk out the material with them. It's easy to bullshit yourself that you have memorize something but hard to bullshit someone else.
Hey /adv/ so I'm a virgin. (Big surprise)
But I've been dating this girl I met on a dating site and we've known each other for about a month and she is very sexual. She asks me to tell her whenever I'm horny and sends pictures, videos and we even skype but it's long distance so still no sex.
She tells me she wants to have sex all the time and honestly I can't wait too but she'd have to move in with me in a year for us to be together. She's cool to talk to and I feel like I really like her but a lot of the time I'm not sure if I just like her because she's a hot girl that wants to fuck or because I actually like her. How do I figure out if I'm just being blinded by sex or if she's actually someone I can have a long term relationship with?
By having sex with her for six months. That's how long it usually takes for couples to get past the honeymoon period and figure out if they actually are compatible.
>but she'd have to move in with me in a year for us to be together
So you haven't actually met? If that's the case move on to something real.
I love niggers
I need help. I have to get a job, but I have severe social anxiety and want to work alone.
What are some good foreveralone jobs?
Translator.
Cleaning.
sou chef
gardener
I may be starting to date a girl who, as far as I know, has never had a stable boyfriend since I know her (3 years or so).
Should I be alarmed?
I have no idea why that would concern you.
All girls want is a good massage followed by an orgasm. Can you provide that? Daily?
>>16668563
Yes.
I made this mistake, fell very much in love with her too.
>be me
>19 y/o
>depressed since few years
>thinking about killing myself 24/7
>ugly ginger
>small uncut dick
>mild stutter/speech blocks (hard to start or keep conversation)
>unfit
>kissless virgin
>no close friends,just one mate but we only see each other to drink or smoke weed i don't consider him as a friend desu
>lose motivation quickly
>failed education
>no idea what to do now
I lost all hope.I hate myself so much. I can't even communicate properly,can't even order pizza by phone or call to someone because of my speech blocks.sometimes I can't say a specific word no matter how hard i try.i have the word in my brain but it won't come out so i gotta change the word and often i sound like completely idiot..also im tired of looking everyday in mirror and see my ugly face.
Recently I met really nice girl from twitter,we are texting since few months..everything would be great and we would be probably in a relationship right now if not my stutter+me being not attractive.
I wanted to go to gym but I lost motivation quickly..same with my driving lessons,I don't think gym would help me anyway.I just wanna die.Nobody will cry after me anyways...my family doesn't care about me..mom threatening me everyday to kick me out if I don't get a job..but I have 0 life experience and never worked anywhere.
I just wanna die.
Im not looking for attention,I don't really know what I expect I feel hopeless and i just wanted to share this with someone.
its me x_x
don't really care since i will probably kill myself soon..meh
>>16668541
Oh fuck off, you're not ugly
Sounds like you have one problem; a sort of inability to pull the trigger. In a way, this is a good thing since if you can find the correct meds, your life will massively improve.
Im an 18 year old male virgin who doesnt feel anything during sex. We've tried missionary, cowgirl and doggy and doggy feels the best but only actually feels for a short while in the beginning and after that I just get bored or tired. What do?
First all, you're not a virgin.
>>16668500
>virgin
Uwotm8sixhundred
>>16668500
>virgin
Is this with someone you actually care about or just a random fuck buddy? The majority of what makes sex feel good is the emotional connection.
My girlfriend of 3 years just asked for an open relationship two days ago.
We are in a long distance relationship in graduate school (she's in a PhD program, I'm in med school) and we see each other maybe once a month during the school year.
We haven't had sex since August and even before then it was on average less than once a month even when we lived together during the summer. I would bring it up and she would start crying and just saying she didn't feel like it. I just assumed our libidos didn't match up and tried my best to kill the part of myself that was sexual. Outside of the lack of sex, I am very happy with every other part of the relationship.
Well turns out she says she is stressed from school then gets stressed out about us not having sex and then can't "preform" so she wants to open the relationship for both of us so we can become more sexual.
Rules:
1) Use protection
2) No mutual friends
I was pretty upset about this yesterday, but I'm just going to try and make the best of it now and enjoy it instead of feeling sorry for myself while she is off banging dudes.
I told her this might work or it could blow up completely.
How fucked am I?
Dude, it's over.
She doesn't even want to fuck you, do you really buy that her having sex with other people will want her to have more sex with you? Fucking lol.
>>16668415
Done in one. /thread
>>16668398
It is over. She has someone else in mind (the asker always does) and once she starts having her romantic needs met by someone not 1000 miles away, you are well and truly doomed.
What's the best way to become a police officer in the uk? like what should I do before hand?
>>16668271
Learning how to use google is a good start.
>>16668290
Yeh sure, I've read their shit, but i'm asking for advice that they wouldn't say on their official shit.
>>16668290
I laughed, but this is actually true.
Sometimes police officers have to do reasonable deduction and investigation on their own to catch a perp.
"Learning to use google" might sound like a troll answer, but it's a legitimate piece of advice.
How to bring a girl to have a miscarriage/be infertile/abortion?
aside from violence, there's not many options for you other than some old wives' tales/home remedies that don't work
>>16668234
Up until which week/month is violence an effective option that'll work? How much force would be needed (a solid punch to the stomach?)?
>>16668234
Parsley tea does work, but good luck sneakily feeding her gallons of that.
Say there's a really drunk girl you're close friends with and she's massively drunk and trying to get into your pants while you're sober. Doing it would be wrong right?
>>16668225
yes, doing it would be wrong.
y
>>16668237
because she is drunk, and not in the right state of mind. If you don't think so, that doesn't matter, because by law you are punishable for rape, and you can kiss your life goodbye at that point. So, it's better to err on the side of caution.
my former relationship with my obese ex makes me seriously feel disgruntled at fat people, more specifically fat people with his kind of "lazy" personality.
i'm trying to cope with this hatred, but it's not easy because now when i see fat people, there's a small to big wave of disgust that sometimes overcomes me. i used to not give a fuck; people gain weight for various reasons.
i'm mostly hating on this ex and obesity because he had time AND money but was such a loser about life that he dragged his feet with his life, and didn't improve himself in any way. doesn't matter how much advice he was given by others over five years; he'd have a small spark of inspiration and it would disappear in a matter of days to weeks.
it's a very common problem with other obese folks who are on the path to lose weight; doesn't make me hate him less because he has so much fucking time and money!!
how can i cope with the FAT HATE? what would you call this?
fortunately i'm not obese myself, nor overweight in any way, but i have gained some weight here and there, and can tell how it can impact your movements and entire mental state. it's so hard to understand how some people can live this way!! i need guidance to understand
They are simply lazy. They shut out others and even their perception to escape their emotional issues by eating. Don't hate them, feel sorry for them. They are destroying themselves. It's like alcoholism or smoking.
Become lean and mean, and get a bf who is similar.
I know one obese man who has a family and is pretty great in general. Worked as a college counselor before retiring so he had solid enough social skills and was fairly wise about education in general. Had pretty good conversations with him about such stuff. Also knew one obese kid in high school who was very friendly and friends with loads of people. Was also rather comfortable with his weight. Never complained about wanting to be skinnier. I guess what I am saying is that not all fat folk are evil. Saying otherwise is like saying every one from Mississippi is a racist hick.
>>16668082
Fat dudes are a hit or miss. Guys have training that helps them deal with their looks by developing alternate ways of being attractive- money, intelligence, humor, and overall confidence.
But yes, there is laziness associated with fat people. Also, to empathize, there is the fear of being up to a challenge. Many people have this fear, fatties just associate it with dieting/exercise and lifestyle change. Going from fat to fit is like a broke person working to become rich. It happens all the time, it just takes tremendous effort that people need to pry out of themselves.
WHAT DO I DO NOW?!
When I said "We could be alone together? :p" I meant that I want in your puss bitch, you in?
>>16667856
Know anything good on netflix. We could chill.
Try killing yourself D:
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