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in high school, I hung around with nerds and some less nerdy people (quieter people). but, ive always felt like I should've hung around with the popular kids. but, I stayed away from alcohol and cigarettes and pills etc, so I just stuck with the nerds and shit. I was good friends with some popular kids, but not major friends with them. now I'm on my last year of high school, me and all my friends are 19 so we can do some stuff together but ive always felt like I should've hung around with populat kids.
is it too late? am I fucked or nah?
I hung out with the "popular kids". Theyre usually terrible people, wish I would've just done drugs with the unpopular kids instead
>>16673737
Start selling drugs. Then you can be friends with all the cliques, and then when people say "oh but you had so many friends in high school" and people think they were your friend. You can bitterly tell them "no fuck all those people they just wanted drugs, i don't give a shit about them" and then realize you didn't really have many friends...
>>16673737
I was the popular jock. It makes no difference in the long run when you get older. Hang around people you have a commonality with, not the ones you wish you were. You'll always be comparing yourself and feel down when you don't meet certain standards.
>parents would fuck with me
>find job move out
>faggot roommate was a giant cunt who stole from me, did things similar to my parents, threatened me, and overall was a lying thief who I had to get away from
>people had put things in my drinks a few times and after that I said fuck it
>had to move back in with parents and was slowly trying to get away from people I knew but on my terms
>someone in my family who was close to me wouldn't stop talking to them
>several threats and what is legally considered 'assault' continue
>most of these people had either stolen from me or threatened me in some way with the exception of like 3-4 people and the person in my family would not stop talking to them and fucking with me
>even couple of neighbors fucking with me but probably for shit n giggles on their end, bad timing
>meanwhile shit begins to escalate into full on abuse and 'bullying' for lack of a less crybaby word
>slowly began to loose my shit
>between all the bullshit, spiked drinks, laced shit, physical and verbal threats, fucking with me, and having no where to go I eventually become an anxiety
>these things were happening routinely for an extended period of time
>mfw every time I drink a fountain drink or drink out of something that was left unattended I get anxiety thinking "what if someone put cialis or LSD or PCP in this shit again?"
>mfw I can't sleep good without my door being locked and having something in front of it
>mfw homicidal thoughts on the regular
>mfw this all sounds like a product of delusion but it is entirely true
tl;dr
Shit got serious, became target of assaults and threats
Everything has pretty much normalized and I can't complain as life is good, despite being an anxiety.
I'm going to be expected to function in a work environment soon, and possibly be around normal sane adults for extended periods of time.
How do I acquire good medication?
>>16673699
Get five grand,get an apartment in Texas,best economic place for begginers and have a new life m8.
Worked for me
>>16673749
Is there plenty of work available there? I've heard there's a high demand for low-skill labor at oil sites with good pay.
>>16673699
move out somewhere super cheap, get a full time job, get insurance and tell your gp you need to be medicated. They should give you a reference
I have a normal life(girlfriend,friends etc..) right now i am studying software engineering, but i am bored as fuck, i play video games, role-play , exercise but everything seems pointless any good advice? or an idea of what i can do
>>16673661
You're focused on material things. Search deeper.
>>16673683
mmm dont you think that searching deeper was what made me think everything was pointless?
everything people do points to money, not everyone, but i dont know how i can feel better if i dont get any reward from something, maybe wanting instant reward is what is killing me
>>16673711
>maybe wanting instant reward
That's the problem with the younger generation. Instant gratification. Be content with what you have and work towards goals. Rome wasn't built in a day.
I'm going to lose a place to live in a next week or so. Where should I start?
full story.
>>16673643
What are your licenses,certificates,any jobs you currently work in etc.
I can try to help out after you explain
>>16673652
>>16673648
Well I'm a college student who lives far away from home and going to get kicked out from dorm for reasons
No degrees at the moment
Only license I have is a driver's license
I don't have a place to work, but I have worked as a lifeguard before where I still keep in touch with my manager to this day
This is all I have right now
What 's legal?
It sounds pretty much like slavery to me- if I tell someone it'll take a 2 weeks to train them before I'm gonna pay them, that's fine right?
I can legally string them along for months if I wanted to?
Looking at internship laws and everything is pretty clear: free for all.
Just worried about inventory going missing, and people that can take orders.
I can tell some guy to cook me breakfast and then work him like a dog 8 hours a day?
>>16673575
What kind of future prospects might employment with you open up to them? It's all about incentives when it comes to internships. If working with you can give them transferable experience or references than you can get away with working them hard and expecting them to still show up.
As far as the legality of it goes I have no idea how that works.
Are you talking about hiring someone? Things can get pretty messy legally if you are not paying them. Technically if you don't pay them they are not allowed to do any "real work". Because anything they do is theirs, and since you're not paying them, you don't own their ideas or their work.
>>16673635
Ideas? No. I need people to rip apart scrap machines.
>>16673624
full time job
Basically I hate myself, and I'm tired of it.
Also not sure what to do about. It shows so obviously in my life through my terrible personality, being passive-aggressive, defensive, pretentious, never taking blame for my own mistakes, even slouching and hovering over my food, making myself smaller you know? Complete lack of confidence.
But then I don't really even know what confidence is supposed to mean, just basically "you think you're awesome" right? People say "fake it till you make it", how am I supposed to pretend to feel something I've never felt and don't really even know what it looks like? So frustrated.
Over the past 18 months I've lost 60 pounds, moved out, got a promotion at work, none of that's made a difference, I still hate myself and act like an asshole because of it.
>need to love yourself before anyone will love you
>how can I love myself if no one else does
I have no socializing. My entire life is just work, movies, internet.
I'm so tired of this. It's not like I'm crushed by depression and sobbing trying to kill myself, it's just that I'm aware of how terrible of a person I am and that that's why I'm alone. "Personality" is supposed to be the most important thing for making friends or meeting girls, and mine is awful. But then again, do people ever really change in the long run?
>how to be confident/stop hating myself
Think about this simple question very hard:
What can you do to make yourself feel proud?
>>16673627
That's the thing, I have no idea.
Wife and kids maybe, but I'm too terrible for a girl to like me right now so that's just running in circles.
I tend to give up on things really easily, usually I get discouraged and think I'm not making fast enough progress. So as a result I have no real hobbies or activities or interests or anything, I can't even play video games because losing makes me upset. I'm not good at anything, so that's part of why I don't like myself.
Read the "Manual of the warrior of light"
My sister is pretty attractive and people say that I look like her. Does that mean that I am also attractive or do I just look like a girl?
Depends. Do people also say your sister is attractive?
>>16673540
Neither, it means you two have similar features.
>>16673545
Yeah thats what I meant, my friends all want to fuck her its kind of an uncomfortable situation
Yo, this girl is trying to hook up with me. I think she looks alriht but I wanna know what you guys (or gals) think.
>needing other people's validation for a lay
And that's why you're still here jfc
>>16673514
A solid 6 at best. Yeah, why not give her a roll in the sack?
>>16673520
This. You're completely pathetic. People date cause they like the other person, not to get some sense of validation.
I've got court tomorrow, some cops found about 6gs of cannabis and a couple bongs in my friend's car. Charged both of us. None of it was mine, I denied everything, I had nothing on me. Even if my friend were to lie and say it was all mine, would there be any way I would get charged with anything? It was in his car, after all.
guess i should include
>tfw no gf how to get girls pls help
or something
>>16673487
His car, his property; unless you claim anything. I'm in the US, and worked for a law firm, briefly.
My sisters's mother's husband works for Nintendo, if that helps.
>>16673487
Don't know whether it matters, but who was driving?
Guys, this girl I've been talking to online, who I have met before IRL sent me a picture, and she looks sooo sexy it in. The problem is, I don't know how to be sexy through pictures and stuff. I don't want to send a dick pic, because it's not that level yet. But I just don't know how to take sexy pictures. Help
Picture somewhat related, but not her
It's awkward sending pictures of your stupid face smiling. Unless you have a great body, you can't look sexy in standard pictures as a guy.
>>16673466
Make it that level by sending a dick pic.
Or just ask her for more.
>>16673477
That's how I feel right now, I was hoping someone could give me tips. But fuck, I guess you are right
1/2
What if not having a gf IS the problem?
I’m successful by any measure and try to do all the right things. I have a good job, good prospects. I save and invest my money. I’m fit, not ugly, get along great at work and with my family. I have friends literally all over the world, thanks to connections and travels. I can speak German conversationally. I like to read, hike, hunt, shoot, travel, golf and do normal things like tv. I’ve gone to church my whole life; the player/club lifestyle has NEVER appealed to me. I’m not the man that’s dropped out of society that entitled women and the media love to harp about.
I just want to find a girl that I can marry and have a family with. Someone that I love and want to spoil and support in life, and someone that loves me. It’s not false to say that is the one major problem I believe I face right now. And why wouldn’t it be? I figure I have about 10-15 years to get married and start a family. The struggle to continue my genetic line and fulfill my goals has a deadline. If that’s not an important issue I don’t know what is. This isn’t just “I’m lonely on the weekend”. This is “I’m afraid of dying alone”; “I don’t want my genetic line to go extinct”, “I don’t want to disappoint my parents”.
>>16673456
2/2
I would never discuss these things with my friends or family for obvious reasons. The shame it would bring to bring up this problem and the sign of weakness is something I could never live with. Yet it seems like day by day it gets harder and harder. More of my classmates marry and are in LTR’s. I feel locked out of the world of love and relationships, like an outsider with no idea how to get in I know something has to change, but I don’t know what. The frustration I feel at every day seemingly slipping by, getting harder and harder to solve this problem, is almost unbearable sometimes. I want to yell at the top of my lungs and give expression to the rage and frustration I feel. It gets even worse when I think about the girls I’ve met abroad, and had NO trouble connecting to them at all. All the girls that I’ve ever had crushes on, it seems like an eternal taunt from Hell- “here is someone you could be happy in a relationship with, but you never will have the chance to begin one. You won’t even ever talk to her”. I don’t believe in the idea of one true love; I think there are multiple people that would be good for each person. So then, imagine my frustration when I consider these points, that should make things easier, and realize that I STILL can’t find anyone? I pray night after night, and nothing changes. Why would God want me to be alone for almost 10 YEARS of my life?! Every one, it seems, has a gf except me. Overachievers and underachievers, rapists and murderers, hippies and workaholics, fat people and fit people.
Maybe I should have been more involved in church when I was younger. The desire to find a wife (not necessarily marry immediately but find someone I can see myself marrying) stands front and center in my preoccupations. It’s the last big objective I have to cross off my list.
>>16673456
>>16673457
To top it all off, I don't even know where I'd find a girl even if I did want to get one just for the sake off it.
>>16673456
Judging by your Pepe and 'wah I need a gf to have my life complete' I assume you have a mentality of a manchild and girls must sense that too. Or you are jyst boring. Some people don't find their second half, it's a truth you have to embrace
Any experience with antidepressants? Been struggling on and off to live for the past 3 years. Did they work for you?
I've been off and on antidepressants for 16 years. At first, I was diagnosed with clinical depression, eventually resulting into a bipolar 2 diagnosis. Honestly, 90% of them don't work. The ones that do, are minimal effectiveness if any. What worked for me before my episodes of psychosis, eating healthy, working out, and having a hobby you enjoy.
>>16673427
SSRI's are evil. They made me so stupid I couldn't even form a rational sentence. Have you thought about taking some herbal supplements. Same-e, st johns wort, kava kava, DLPA.
I was prescribed antidepressants by my doctor and never used them.
Doing fine now.
I found out I was legally blind and got my glasses shortly after being diagnosed with depression and honestly that helped so much I didn't even need to use anti depressants.
Find something you like to take your mind off of it. After I got my glasses I found that taking walks in the park really helped when I was feeling down in the dumps.
My mother is becoming / has become some hardcore christian who believes literally everything she finds on youtube. All that conspiracy theory crap about the illuminati and demons and stuff. Islam is from satan, rock music and dancing is satanic, etc. I tried to reason with her many times but its impossible. I wouldn't even mind if she was just some normal christian but this? Fuck. Anything I can do?
Sounds like she's become emotionally invested in the internet. She needs to get out more.
>>16673371
Well shes pretty much a NEET. As much as a mother can be a NEET. No friends since the last 15 years at least, no job, no anything
Show her /pol/
Ever since my gf and I moved in together we hardly bang. Our sex life wasn't amazing to begin with but it was 20x better than this. She keeps making excuses why we don't, she says she tries to come onto me but I reject her (lie). I don't know what to do. I have to excessively masturbate so I don't cheat but she blames my masturbation for why I don't want to have sex with her. She always rejects my advances, I feel like I can't win. What the fuck do I do I am going to go insane.
No, this pic is not my gf.
Somethings wrong with your living arrangement.
>>16673357
Start having scheduled sex like my parents do.
>>16673378
That would fucking kill me. I need some spontaneity. I hate fucking late at night cause I'm so tired but that's the only time she's remotely interested. I'm so depressed.
>having a kid soon
>doctors say it's going to be a girl
>propose the name Mandy
>my wife, my parents, her parents and our friends immediately dislike it
What's wrong with Mandy?
Her dad's a faggot, that's what's wrong with Mandy.
Not a very pretty name for a girl.
Try Womandy, see if they like that
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