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How do I start doing things again?
Was very depressed and just spent all my time sleeping and shitposting.
Now all I do is shitpost, gym and a part-time job. Can't get myself to do anything, lack the energy and concentration to even read books.
Bump
I used to do so many things, but now I've got nothing.
How do I get started again?
If I knew, I wouldn't be here.
Maybe replace gym with a more involved, social sport.
>>16678002
I'm already a part of a powerlifting team.
It's not really a social life I'm after so much as getting started with hobbies again. For example, I used to study performance at a conservatory, but I haven't touched my instrument in ~3 years.
Every day I think about getting started again, but I can't seem to go on for longer than like 10 minutes of practice and then I won't touch it again for weeks.
>23yo male here, with a bit older gf
>2 years into relationship now, but don't live together
hey /adv/, been feeling down lately, i guess i'm just thinking too much.
Here's some stuff i can't get over with, how do i deal with this shit. I
How do you deal with the fact that your gf had a few relationships before her, the fact that she had dicks in her.
from >>16669400
Why can't my gf seek only contact...
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>>16677897
you're just being insecure to the point of extremism.
Don't be in a relationship if your head isn't right for one.
>>16677937
ofc i'm insecure, i'd like to trust her, but i can't trust someone that watches porn and keeps his browser history hidden.
bump? :/
Do any anons here have experience with this in terms of avoiding infections or general uncleanliness? It's the hottest damn thing, but obviously minimizing the chance of infection is a priority as well.
Is there any way to accomplish this sex act without throwing health to the wind?
>>16677835
Use condoms and switch em.
>>16677858
Basically this. Or just go from vag to anal.
Vagina first, senpai.
This might not be for /adv/, considering there are people with actual problems here. But seeing as this site is fabled to be one of the most horrific in the entire internet, I made a new years resolution to become a member. The exact resolution was that I would be able to go on any board, participate in any thread, and know what the fuck everyone would talk about.
To sum up, I'm asking for a 4chan survival guide.
Pic unrelated.
>>16677765
Don't be cringey and don't try to be funny all the time, basically the worse thing you can do is be annoying, then you need to learn the slang: kek, ylyl, dubs-trips-quads, sauce and all that
I'm completely honest with you if you are serious LEAVE AND NEVER COME BACK
Not because you're a newfag but because it will FUCK YOUR SHIT UP SENPAI. Seriously the longer you're here the more of a fucked up human being you'll be. If you say you won't browse /b/ just some other boards, DON'T!!
I started with /x/ and I regret the day I found out about this site. Do yourself a favour and leave.
>>16677765
Shitpost all day everyday. You're already doing a decent job.
Would appreciate some advice, especially from any females lurking.
There's a girl who works in the same building as me for a different company. About twice or three times a day she enters the office I work in either to make coffee at our coffee machine with her female coworker or to print something off at the printer next to my desk. She asked me a question about a two months ago whether the building manager had turned up yet, and when I looked in her eyes (I realize it's cheesy and maybe pathetic) I was really overwhelmed both by her eyes and her general attractiveness....
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I thought you should just try chatting her up a bit in a friendly way. Like go make coffee too or something.
Also to add, this may be me sperging out but she seems to be the only one who prints something off and stands at the printer for around 30 seconds to a minute pressing buttons and waiting for things to print. Most people just print it out and then quickly come to grab it when it's all out. I've thought about turning around (approximately 270 degrees) and smiling at her from my seat but I don't want to scare her away or seem creepy.
>>16677770
I don't drink coffee at work. Also the kitchen area is very small and is right next to my colleagues' desks, so anything I say will be audible to them. They all know how quiet I am so it'll be obvious to her and them that I'm "trying" something, and might seem like I'm trapping her in an awkward spot. I was thinking of waiting until she appears to make coffee and then going to get a glass of water and saying "good morning" or something to her. What I really want to do...
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I probably just dropped out of uni.I'm not blaming others,it was my laziness and carelessness./adv/, how to handle anger, self-hatred and shame?
What happened to you?
>>16677751
Thank for the reply,I'll try to keep my story short.I've failed a particular class 2 times, and this is the 3rd time I'm learning it. You can queue up for exam 3 times, I failed 1 one, overslept on another one and I totally forget the third one. If you take a class 3 times without passing it, it's over, your dropped out.
I've mailed my professor, but nevertheless, I hate myself.I'm a lazy fuck, my family is kind to support me ( despite we are kinda poor) and I just feel so ashamed...
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>>16677776
Also I've failed the quints too, here's another proof of me failing.
So I message this girl first everyday. We do end up texting back and forth, and we have been out a few times. Im just curious, would it be a bad idea to not text her first today, and see if she makes a point to text me? Lets say she doesnt text me, does that mean she doesnt really want to talk, but does because I text her? I asked her out last night, and she told me should would go out if nothing comes up. So I think she does like me.
I think you already know that theres an emotional imbalance in the relationship, and you're scared of proof.
>>16677749
You are right. Im afraid if I dont make the initiative to text her, we will end up not talking/ going out again. I just dont know what to do. I mean the times we went out she seems to be into me, but when we text its so so.
>>16677742
Bump
This is going to sound odd as fuck. But this is starting to get frustrating.
I'm a 25 year old male, and I'm popping boners like a fucking 13 year old who just found daddy's porno stash. So much so it's starting to hurt. My sex drive has been flat lined the past 2 years, nothing has happened and interest is sex was at a all time low. I recently met a girl that I developed feelings for, and no exaggeration. I get hard every single time she texts me. Literally, every. Single. Text. The problem is, we talk a ton. So it's almost like I have a constant...
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Cut your dick off
>>16677725
I have no idea and it sounds terrible, but at the same time that's so cute omg, tell the girl if you get closer. That's one hell of a compliment, wish a guy felt like that about me ;_;
>>16677802
for obvious reasons, that's.. not going to happen.
Is there a way to fix my trust issues with men without therapy?
Most close male encounters, starting from my father, have left me feeling completely worthless and although I crave a male partner I feel like I can't keep opening up and getting hurt. Granted it's opened only twice on a major scale but it really fucked me up further. Because I'm so shy and reclusive, the guys I get involved with are usually the outgoing pushy type, i.e. don't care about other people's feelings much.
Is there a way to make it better? Just suck it up and fake it...
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>>16677609
Professional help is a scam. If you don't want to be distrustful of men, find men you can trust and build connections with them. Join an activity like a book club or robotics club and get to know the guys there as people.
>>16677620
>find men you can trust
Yes but how? The reason why I got screwed over last time was because I thought it was just my paranoia talking and he's really a good guy when I had doubts. I feel like I can't trust my judgement.
>>16677609
You've got to roll with it, you've got to take your time.
Your choices I suppose are either just go about your life with your fingers crosses or go out and get an "Nice Guy" who are impeccably nice so long as you do all the work in setting up the relationship.
Dealing with severe clinical depression leaves me at a disadvantage when it comes to staying positive. When I feel down, it's never just a bummed out feeling, it's always this dark, Lonely, lost place I end up in, with no one there to talk to about it.
My friends all have kids, husbands, their own problems and stress that they talk to me about, and I do my best to help them with always, and I feel like a burden when I try to talk to anyone when I myself am down. They don't understand that I can't just snap out of the funk.
Whenever I get like this,...
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I guess they are in the same mental shithole as you.
I never felt depressed in my life, cuz i believe that even death is not such a bad thing, so life's "problems" are as big as you make them.
Dunno maybe some people are just made to be forever sad...bummer i guess.
>>16677589
Fuck it. I'll talk to you if you need someone right now, got nothing better to do (besides lectures but idc really). I may be a bit late between replies (up to an hour, depending on if I get a chance to use my phone in class) but I'll still be here as long as the thread is.
So, what's on your mind?
>>16677605
See that's the problem with depression. You can explain it to someone who doesn't feel it. I'm a ridiculously positive person, and I don't ever do things out of spite. I always do my best to be fair, and kind, and loving. Even when I'm down, I try to stay cheerful, even if I have to fake it.
It just helps, to have someone there.
Gf of 5 years just found out recently that I have a ts fetish.... I forgot to clear some stuff on my phone and she opened up a post I made about trying to pic trade with one... I played it off as something from here, as that isn't unbelievable... But she sprinkles in comments that suggest it's on her mind, and then she flat out asked me about it after a few days... I told her it was 4chan but there was enough there... I'm not sure what to do, on one hand I love her, we've been through so much stuff together and had each others backs when no one else would.....
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>>16677555
You were trying to cheat on your gf of 5 years. Don't sugarcoat or justify it. Grow up and take responsibility for yourself and your actions.
>>16677625
She tried to cheat on me a few times
>>16677625
Not cheating.
>>16677555
Own up to it and be honest about it. Tell your sorry about any deception but don't apologize for who you are.
Hi guys, so my significant other wants to break up with me because they feel as if they are wasting my time and ruining my life because I'm not in college since I live with them out of state.
So basically my mom kicked me out in May. I moved to Florida with my S/O to start my life there. I've been applying for jobs and had no luck. I also had to take 3 months off from looking for jobs because my family member was dying and I had to fly back home. I'm flying back to Florida tomorrow.
My S/O wants me to stay home, but I have no family support whatsoever...
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Please anyone?
You can't get a Po box without some proof of residency.
>>16678577
I thought you could, as long as you have a government ID card.
