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How do I start doing things again?
Was very depressed and just spent all my time sleeping and shitposting.
Now all I do is shitpost, gym and a part-time job. Can't get myself to do anything, lack the energy and concentration to even read books.
Bump
I used to do so many things, but now I've got nothing.
How do I get started again?
If I knew, I wouldn't be here.
Maybe replace gym with a more involved, social sport.
>>16678002
I'm already a part of a powerlifting team.
It's not really a social life I'm after so much as getting started with hobbies again. For example, I used to study performance at a conservatory, but I haven't touched my instrument in ~3 years.
Every day I think about getting started again, but I can't seem to go on for longer than like 10 minutes of practice and then I won't touch it again for weeks.
>23yo male here, with a bit older gf
>2 years into relationship now, but don't live together
hey /adv/, been feeling down lately, i guess i'm just thinking too much.
Here's some stuff i can't get over with, how do i deal with this shit. I
How do you deal with the fact that your gf had a few relationships before her, the fact that she had dicks in her.
from >>16669400
Why can't my gf seek only contact with her gender? I can't deal with the fact that she has male friends. Can't deal the fact that she talks with her ex (they don't talk per se, they do congratulate each other on special events like christmass and stuff), i asked her to remove him from fb, gave me vague answers, but didn't remove him. It just bothers me, even tho i know she won't have anything with him, can't she just cut contacts?
Also can't get over the fact that one day, she might have a crush on someone. And/or is fantasizing on someone.
She watches porn, tho not regularly, she watches it like once a month. She watched bukake and some weird groupie stuff..
She never gave any thought to sexual satisfaction, she masturbates daily, and sometimes it's a bother because i'd like to do it but she's not really that into it. She still has sex, but just isn't so enthusiastic about it... I've talked about it with her, and she stopped doing that, but she still masturbates reguralrly. I just get pissed cus i'm pretysure she can proly think her ex or whoever is banging her.
I just dunno, i can't accept the fact that women are such liars, and live a blissful life...
>>16677897
you're just being insecure to the point of extremism.
Don't be in a relationship if your head isn't right for one.
>>16677937
ofc i'm insecure, i'd like to trust her, but i can't trust someone that watches porn and keeps his browser history hidden.
bump? :/
Do any anons here have experience with this in terms of avoiding infections or general uncleanliness? It's the hottest damn thing, but obviously minimizing the chance of infection is a priority as well.
Is there any way to accomplish this sex act without throwing health to the wind?
>>16677835
Use condoms and switch em.
>>16677858
Basically this. Or just go from vag to anal.
Vagina first, senpai.
This might not be for /adv/, considering there are people with actual problems here. But seeing as this site is fabled to be one of the most horrific in the entire internet, I made a new years resolution to become a member. The exact resolution was that I would be able to go on any board, participate in any thread, and know what the fuck everyone would talk about.
To sum up, I'm asking for a 4chan survival guide.
Pic unrelated.
>>16677765
Don't be cringey and don't try to be funny all the time, basically the worse thing you can do is be annoying, then you need to learn the slang: kek, ylyl, dubs-trips-quads, sauce and all that
I'm completely honest with you if you are serious LEAVE AND NEVER COME BACK
Not because you're a newfag but because it will FUCK YOUR SHIT UP SENPAI. Seriously the longer you're here the more of a fucked up human being you'll be. If you say you won't browse /b/ just some other boards, DON'T!!
I started with /x/ and I regret the day I found out about this site. Do yourself a favour and leave.
>>16677765
Shitpost all day everyday. You're already doing a decent job.
Would appreciate some advice, especially from any females lurking.
There's a girl who works in the same building as me for a different company. About twice or three times a day she enters the office I work in either to make coffee at our coffee machine with her female coworker or to print something off at the printer next to my desk. She asked me a question about a two months ago whether the building manager had turned up yet, and when I looked in her eyes (I realize it's cheesy and maybe pathetic) I was really overwhelmed both by her eyes and her general attractiveness. She smiled at me when I looked at her but I don't know if she just smiles at people that way. I am a pretty quiet person and the office is quiet, which means me talking to her will become obvious to everyone there (some 25 people) that I'm "chatting her up".
I fear making my attraction to her known because she is probably privately educated, attended a top university, and is from a wealthy or at least upper-middle class background.The thing is she seems pretty quiet (I'm not projecting some pure qt identity onto her) and I know she is very interested in the kind of music that isn't cool at all for most people our age, which is the same for me. Sometimes I tell myself it's worth doing something, other times I tell myself not to embarrass myself and possibly frighten or repulse her. I also fear that I've left it too long, as most girls perhaps like to think the man they want is so attracted to them that no amount of shyness, insecurity etc will prevent them from approaching them.
Sorry for the long post.
Any advice on what I should do?
I can give further information if anybody is willing to help.
I thought you should just try chatting her up a bit in a friendly way. Like go make coffee too or something.
Also to add, this may be me sperging out but she seems to be the only one who prints something off and stands at the printer for around 30 seconds to a minute pressing buttons and waiting for things to print. Most people just print it out and then quickly come to grab it when it's all out. I've thought about turning around (approximately 270 degrees) and smiling at her from my seat but I don't want to scare her away or seem creepy.
>>16677770
I don't drink coffee at work. Also the kitchen area is very small and is right next to my colleagues' desks, so anything I say will be audible to them. They all know how quiet I am so it'll be obvious to her and them that I'm "trying" something, and might seem like I'm trapping her in an awkward spot. I was thinking of waiting until she appears to make coffee and then going to get a glass of water and saying "good morning" or something to her. What I really want to do is to pass her along the stairwell or something and say "Would it be considered workplace harassment if I said I thought you were really beautiful?" but I think it's because I've watched too many John Hughes movies, and I fear she will feel creeped out or think I'm some soppy kid.
I probably just dropped out of uni.I'm not blaming others,it was my laziness and carelessness./adv/, how to handle anger, self-hatred and shame?
What happened to you?
>>16677751
Thank for the reply,I'll try to keep my story short.I've failed a particular class 2 times, and this is the 3rd time I'm learning it. You can queue up for exam 3 times, I failed 1 one, overslept on another one and I totally forget the third one. If you take a class 3 times without passing it, it's over, your dropped out.
I've mailed my professor, but nevertheless, I hate myself.I'm a lazy fuck, my family is kind to support me ( despite we are kinda poor) and I just feel so ashamed that I fail and failed them .
>>16677776
Also I've failed the quints too, here's another proof of me failing.
So I message this girl first everyday. We do end up texting back and forth, and we have been out a few times. Im just curious, would it be a bad idea to not text her first today, and see if she makes a point to text me? Lets say she doesnt text me, does that mean she doesnt really want to talk, but does because I text her? I asked her out last night, and she told me should would go out if nothing comes up. So I think she does like me.
I think you already know that theres an emotional imbalance in the relationship, and you're scared of proof.
>>16677749
You are right. Im afraid if I dont make the initiative to text her, we will end up not talking/ going out again. I just dont know what to do. I mean the times we went out she seems to be into me, but when we text its so so.
>>16677742
Bump
This is going to sound odd as fuck. But this is starting to get frustrating.
I'm a 25 year old male, and I'm popping boners like a fucking 13 year old who just found daddy's porno stash. So much so it's starting to hurt. My sex drive has been flat lined the past 2 years, nothing has happened and interest is sex was at a all time low. I recently met a girl that I developed feelings for, and no exaggeration. I get hard every single time she texts me. Literally, every. Single. Text. The problem is, we talk a ton. So it's almost like I have a constant boner, and it's really starting to make my nuts ache. Like it's not even fun. My balls hurt all the time cause of all the boners. This might be a joke to you all, but I'm fucking serious. This hurts. Because of geographical locations it's not like we can meet up even once a month. So sex isn't really a cure. How do I stop getting all these boners????
Cut your dick off
>>16677725
I have no idea and it sounds terrible, but at the same time that's so cute omg, tell the girl if you get closer. That's one hell of a compliment, wish a guy felt like that about me ;_;
>>16677802
for obvious reasons, that's.. not going to happen.
Is there a way to fix my trust issues with men without therapy?
Most close male encounters, starting from my father, have left me feeling completely worthless and although I crave a male partner I feel like I can't keep opening up and getting hurt. Granted it's opened only twice on a major scale but it really fucked me up further. Because I'm so shy and reclusive, the guys I get involved with are usually the outgoing pushy type, i.e. don't care about other people's feelings much.
Is there a way to make it better? Just suck it up and fake it until I find someone who cares about me or should I just resort to professional help?
>>16677609
Professional help is a scam. If you don't want to be distrustful of men, find men you can trust and build connections with them. Join an activity like a book club or robotics club and get to know the guys there as people.
>>16677620
>find men you can trust
Yes but how? The reason why I got screwed over last time was because I thought it was just my paranoia talking and he's really a good guy when I had doubts. I feel like I can't trust my judgement.
>>16677609
You've got to roll with it, you've got to take your time.
Your choices I suppose are either just go about your life with your fingers crosses or go out and get an "Nice Guy" who are impeccably nice so long as you do all the work in setting up the relationship.
Dealing with severe clinical depression leaves me at a disadvantage when it comes to staying positive. When I feel down, it's never just a bummed out feeling, it's always this dark, Lonely, lost place I end up in, with no one there to talk to about it.
My friends all have kids, husbands, their own problems and stress that they talk to me about, and I do my best to help them with always, and I feel like a burden when I try to talk to anyone when I myself am down. They don't understand that I can't just snap out of the funk.
Whenever I get like this, I always end up here, wishing I knew how to talk to someone, just one single person that gets it, and is happy to just talk all the time, about likes and loves and life, or even when it's just being frank about how shitty depression is.
It's like....I wish I had a living diary. Someone I can tell anything, and they'll still be there the next day. I don't have that, and idk how to have that, and I feel like I've missed my chance or something.
Why is it so hard these days to make a friend that Wants to be a pillar in your life as much as you are in theirs?
I guess they are in the same mental shithole as you.
I never felt depressed in my life, cuz i believe that even death is not such a bad thing, so life's "problems" are as big as you make them.
Dunno maybe some people are just made to be forever sad...bummer i guess.
>>16677589
Fuck it. I'll talk to you if you need someone right now, got nothing better to do (besides lectures but idc really). I may be a bit late between replies (up to an hour, depending on if I get a chance to use my phone in class) but I'll still be here as long as the thread is.
So, what's on your mind?
>>16677605
See that's the problem with depression. You can explain it to someone who doesn't feel it. I'm a ridiculously positive person, and I don't ever do things out of spite. I always do my best to be fair, and kind, and loving. Even when I'm down, I try to stay cheerful, even if I have to fake it.
It just helps, to have someone there.
Gf of 5 years just found out recently that I have a ts fetish.... I forgot to clear some stuff on my phone and she opened up a post I made about trying to pic trade with one... I played it off as something from here, as that isn't unbelievable... But she sprinkles in comments that suggest it's on her mind, and then she flat out asked me about it after a few days... I told her it was 4chan but there was enough there... I'm not sure what to do, on one hand I love her, we've been through so much stuff together and had each others backs when no one else would.. But on the other hand, we fight a bit, and there were a few times I caught her trying to cheat on me, but I forgave and moved past.. And she does have some qualities that could really be dialed back a bit.. Not that she isn't a good person... I know this is going to come up again, and I know she is going to call me out on it, but it worries me because no one else knows this about me... It's something I wasn't ready to tell anyone yet and now im freaking out a bit.. Please help.
>>16677555
You were trying to cheat on your gf of 5 years. Don't sugarcoat or justify it. Grow up and take responsibility for yourself and your actions.
>>16677625
She tried to cheat on me a few times
>>16677625
Not cheating.
>>16677555
Own up to it and be honest about it. Tell your sorry about any deception but don't apologize for who you are.
Hi guys, so my significant other wants to break up with me because they feel as if they are wasting my time and ruining my life because I'm not in college since I live with them out of state.
So basically my mom kicked me out in May. I moved to Florida with my S/O to start my life there. I've been applying for jobs and had no luck. I also had to take 3 months off from looking for jobs because my family member was dying and I had to fly back home. I'm flying back to Florida tomorrow.
My S/O wants me to stay home, but I have no family support whatsoever and wouldn't be able to attend school here regardless. They said they won't leave if I can prove to them that I can get finical aid and can attend classes this semester or the summer.
I want to apply for the FAFSA, but I'm concerned with applying due to my situation. I'm out of state and I don't have a residence. I basically live in my S/O's dorm and I am undocumented.
I plan on getting a P.O. Box when I get back home so I can get a job. And preferably work somewhere that helps with tuition.
Another thing is that my mother doesn't claim me as her dependent, the only benefits I have from my parents is health insurance until I'm 23.
Please guys, what should I do? Do you think I can get help with the fafsa?
Please anyone?
You can't get a Po box without some proof of residency.
>>16678577
I thought you could, as long as you have a government ID card.
Alright, I need some advice.
>be me
>pretty quiet guy
>don't say too much
>mostly communicate in shoulders shrugs and primitive grunts
>hot blonde
>the adhd kind
>always saying stupid shit to get attention
>still hot
>takes every oppurtunity to talk to me and get my attention
>from asking me questions about the class or writing on my neck in pen
>not much experience with girls this bold so dont really know what to do
>nothing.exe
>shrug or one to three word answers
>one day
>asks me if i hate her
>says im always glaring at her or being grumpy
>"no"
>"so you hate me"
>wtf is this trickery
>two options
>i like you
>no
>"no thats not what i meant"
>crisis avioded
>gets more and more flirty
>currently in a long distance relationship
>been wanting to break it off for a while
>fuck it
>she also wanted to so it was a win win
>talking to my friends about asking her out
>they tell me she has a boyfriend
>wut
>tall black guy, not really a thug tho
>still dont want to fuck with him
>fuck
That is the story, the question is what do I do? Is she just trying to affirm she is attractive by flirting with other males? Does she actually like me? If I am going to ask her out how should I go about it?
Even shitty advice appreciated
Help me out here.
You talk the talk of a real primitive brute... but do you walk the walk?
just tell her to either break up with him or stop being so flirty, be direct
>>16677346
Me think that you beat him ass and claim the dumb blonde as your ooga booga.
hey,
I started getting back together with my ex the last few weeks. things were going well until I caught her in s lie and accidentally discovered she was dating a girl.
today she came clean about being more attracted to women and that I was the only guy she's ever been sexually attracted to and the only person she's ever had sex with.
she wants me to give her time to decide who to go with, as she's basically stringing two people along here. she confessed she still loves me and isn't accepting of her sexuality. I just don't know if this is going to become a problem in the future if she decides to act on sexual urges that my penis can't satisfy.
reasons for breakup were lying and lack of effort. should I just move on and forget about this or should I see what happens and go from there? will her basically lesbian sexuality get too far in the way?
>>16677201
Yes, it doesn't matter that it was a girl, she cheated on you. Her bisexuality doesn't matter, her cheating does.
>>16677223
it wasn't exactly cheating. we broke up and then she started talking with the girl.
but I asked her if she was seeing anyone and she said no, she lied. caught her because she said she was at work and her and the girls car were parked outside of her house.
seriously just in a slight state of shock and just whatthefucking at everything
A short example of my life as a kid, is this normal? Was I being spoiled about not wanting to eat inside the restaurant? This happened several years ago when I was 16 but I still wonder about it a lot.
>on vacation
>mom wants to eat dinner 4 hours earlier than we’d planned
>i’m not hungry, being a teen with new smartphone, want to stay in car
>this makes her mad
>wants us to eat together
>accuses me of being anorexic
>i’m just not hungry
>offer to take food with me, not good enough
>mom yells at dad to take me outside and “shake” me
>dad says he doesn’t want to get arrested in america
>things get heated
>parents tell me i always ruin everything
>want me to move out
>i offer to go inside and eat with them
>it’s too late, mom refuses to eat, i ruined the mood
>drive her to the hotel, go to pick up food
>scared of them, crying
>get to hotel
>drank a lot, need to go to bathroom
>mom says i’m bulimic (not true) and have been vomiting entire trip
>says they have to watch me pee, otherwise i can't go
>wtf
>refuse
>things get more heated
>keeps yelling at dad to pull my pants down and force me onto the toilet, force me to pee
>dad says i’m too old for that
>she tries to compromise
>i can’t flush toilet and need to leave door open
>mirrors everywhere, this is gross, i say no
>call her perverted when she keeps insisting and pushing dad
>mom is furious
>says she’s done with us and is leaving
>hotel is next to highway, i’m scared for her, apologize and try to hug her
>calls me selfish cunt, pushes me away, throws stuff on floor
>leaves
>dad goes to look for her
>implies i ruined their vacation
>i’m crying because i think she killed herself
>dad doesn’t correct me
>is weirdly calm
>2 hrs of this
>he knew where she was hiding the entire time
>>16677117
Not normal. Your mom has a screw loose. You may have been misbehaving a bit but they both overreacted to what shouldn't have escalated beyond a bit of bickering. Sorry you had to deal with this. Sounds awful.
Your mom was emotionally abusive/controlling. It's not your fault, Anon.
It had nothing to do with you or the restaurant. Your mothers demons were her own, and she took them out on you. She may have been trying to express concern for your we'll being, just in all the wrong ways.
It's not your fault.
Your mom is probably bipolar and needs medical evaluation.
Lack of sleep and you not completely going slong with her plans probably triggered her into a controlling rage fit. Your dad has rough roads ahead, so try to not reel guilty when you move out and stick him with her. You deserve sane parents.
