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Hi,
I found out my dad is having an affair with his longtime coworker, simple saw his messages on social media.I confronted him, but he told me that it is nothing serious, he wants just to bone her. He is 56 years old.I am not planning to tel my mother, this would be bad for family. What do you think should I just forget about it or make sure this does not grow into something more? middle aged people soemtmes do stupid childish mistakes.
I would just forget about it, focus on your own life and dont worry about things that are out of your control.
>>16681364
Sounds like you're jealous, dads got two women I've got none.
>>16681364
I wouldn't get involved, but I don't see any reason why you shouldn't put some pressure on your father to do the right thing and come clean on his own. Just bear in mind that this could possibly culminate in divorce. If you get involved in any capacity, you may blame yourself for being the catalyst leading to said divorce, and that would be an unpleasant guilt to live with.
Been with my bf for about 2 months. He's awesome and i enjoy this relationship a lot.
He's so lovely and attentive, but sometimes i catch myselfe being overwhelmed by his actions. I can take a compliment. but if he tells me all this sweet stuff all the time, i sometimes can't take his words serious anymore. I'm also rather uncomfortanle (even embarassed to some extend) when he surprises me with a gift or something alike.
How insane am i exactly? This isn't normal, right?
Stop being a dumbass and enjoy being in love.
Nah, you're not crazy. Some people can just go overboard with the affection and lovey-dovey stuff, to the point that it just feels a bit smothering. There are probably some people who would really enjoy that kind of treatment, but even though it sounds nice on paper, I think most people pretty much react like you do if a guy's acting like he's in some sappy movie.
It depends how he does it though, you didn't give a ton of description, so I don't want to jump to conclusions about the guy.
>>16681345
I do! And that's why i feel a bit insane. I can't really help it if i feel thay way. But it seems rather uncommon so i thought i'll ask you guys what's the matter in order to get it out of the way.
I'm 21 and my hairline is receding pretty bad. Have any of you anon's dealt with this before? I don't want to show my face for obvious reasons, but I really don't think I'd look good bald. I know it's just hair, but it's really destroying my self-esteem, and I didn't have much of that in the first place,
>>16681321
You look like my friend Mike from Utah.
Anyway, idk how much can truly be done. As you get older you'll come to terms with it and know what looks good and what doesn't.
You're young enough that a treatment for male pattern baldness will probably be found before you're long out of your peak days anyway.
It's really not something you can do anything about. Most products that stop balding are actually for the crown of your head, not receding hairlines.
Honestly you'll have to learn to accept it. You probably won't look as bad as you think. It'll also happen gradually.
>>16681327
>>16681330
Do you think there's any way I could at least style it? I don't want to hide it or anything, but I want it to at least look as good as possible.
I wanna stick my finger in my gfs butt during sex. She said she wouldn't care even though she's never done any sort of butt stuff. Only thing is I'm scared of doing it and then pulling out a poopy finger. What are the chances of that happening if it's just the tip of my index?
Well, think about it, if it's just the tip of your finger. That means the poop would literally need to be just past her butthole.
Do you think you spend the entire day with poop resting against your butthole? No, there's a couple of inches closed off by two sphincters that poop only passes through when you're actually pooping.
I've found it easiest to stick a finger into the pooper during sex when the girl is on top and really getting into it. Wet your finger a little, have your hands around her ass as she's bouncing up and down, and gently place your finger on her asshole. As she gets more and more into the sex apply gentle pressure and slowly sink your finger into her ass.
Gentle is the key here. Don't just go shoving it in.
My wife doesn't like anal, but this actually gets her off when done right.
You're probably not going to get a finger full of poop, but if there is a little bit, don't freak out. That's the risk you take for ass play.
>>16681249
99.99%
Guy across the counter at the gas station here, got a quick question, will trade stories / do an AMA for answers.
I have this rough looking mess of a guy that comes in every morning before the store gets decently busy and asks if he can have two packets of Sweet n' Low. He never buys anything, and never has any coffee or the like with him, just takes two artificial sweeteners and leaves.
What the fuck is he doing with all this Sweet n' Low? I've ruled out that he's too cheap to buy his own, as he looks to poor to afford coffee in general, and that shit's usually free with the coffee anyway.
I'm baffled.
He might be Diabetic and is using it to get by while he's on the street.
>>16681221
Coffee is cheap as fuck if you make it at home. He probably makes his own and gets the sweetener for free. Or I dunno, he puts sweetener on something else he eats/drinks. In any case, he wants Sweet&Low, but he doesn't want to pay for it. No great mystery here
>>16681227
Certainly possible, hadn't really considered that.
>ex leaves me for another man
>be angry and sad
>start to feel better
>think I can be her friend
>start hanging out with her again
>realize I still love her as much as ever
>being around her and not having her hurts more than anything I've ever felt before
>have started ignoring her
>she's been trying to contact me for the first week I ignored her
>week 2 and she's stopped
>realize I need to just lay my cards on the table and tell her that I'm sorry but I can't be her friend
>too proud to contact her
Should I contact her and set up a meeting with her or should I wait for her to get desperate?
She's on my mind 24/7.
Bump for help
I know I probably still won't get over her, but at least I won't have to experience the pain of being so close yet out of reach.
>>16681158
>think I can be her friend
Stopped reading there. Get off your computer and read what you typed. Realize how badly you fucked up and go make sure you never do it again.
Lol nigga she stopped contacting for a reason move on you dumb ass
I'm the embodiment of a little girl.
I have always been very petite with everything except my butt, which is about average.
Many of my interests are "childish" things.
>23yo
>5'3"
>90-95lbs
>a-cup breasts
>face like a babbie
>works at toy store part time
>nanny full time
>going to school for elementary education
>collects stuffed animals
>enjoys submissive role in sexual relationships
Everyone thinks I'm 14-18 upon meeting me, and when guys are into me it's usually because I look like a loli/nymphet.
I can't stand the idea of ageplay or anything like that.
Is there any hope for me?
Pic related, but not me
Has every guy you've been with wanted to do age play?
>>16681087
>Is there any hope for me?
Hope for you for what?
>>16681087
>enjoys submissive role in sexual relationships
bait
I made the mistake of reading a thread on reddit about breasts and there were hundreds of comments and jokes about saggy tits, about how big tits are glorious and how small tits are beautiful and firm
I have medium sized saggy tits despite being young. Now I just feel like shit how do I stop feeling so depressed?
Cosmetic surgery.
Don't go on reddit problem solved
I have huge saggy tits. They're disgusting.
Best you can do, aside from a lift+mastectomy, is do workouts that will strengthen your pecs. You can also massage them. But it won't work miracles, it will only make them slightly better. I'm also trying a serum on them that gets really good reviews, supposedly it plumps the fat cells, but I'm skeptical and am not seeing anything so far.
18 yo random guy here. All my friends are male. Like, all of them. How the fuck do I start a friendship with a girl?
Talk to them and invite them to come along when you (and your other friends) are out doing stuff.
>>16680920
If friendship is really all you want, why so specific about gender?
>>16680920
Girls don't make great friends. They aren't as funny, committed, or inventive as guy friends. You're doing the right thing for now. You might not believe me, but it's true. Just look at what you do for fun and compare it to what girls do.
Just fuck girls on the side, maybe date a few.
Ok, so I've been getting known with this girl I have a huge crush on I treat her as good as I can and I feel like we have many things in common but she doesn't seem to like me the same way. I asked her last week if she wanted to go see the new Star Wars movie with me, since she's a huge SW-fan and has told me she wanted to see it again. She said "sure" and we agree to choosing a day for next week on Facebook, but she didn't seem to be that interested in watching it with me.
So I send her a message on FB the day after and ask her if Wednesday (today) was fine.
She doesn't bother to answer for five whole days before 18:00 tonight, Wednesday, and she says "I don't think I can" and asks if we could go next week instead.
She is obviously not interested at all, but I don't even know how to respond to this. I feel awful because I've been waiting for a reply for five days and I've been holding the day off for her. I want to let her know that I think was rude, but I don't want to be rude back.
What can I say to her?
With a simple ok will be fine, is she is not interested it won't matter
Stop beta orbiting her and look for other girls.
>>16680901
Other girls are out of the question. I haven't explained the whole situation, therefore I was only asking what I could answer her.
>>16680896
I'm just afraid of being too polite like I usually am towards her. If I just say ok then it's like nothing has happened and the same will probably happen when I ask her for next week. I kinda want to tell her "forget about it" or something, but that might make me seem like a manipulative prick, and besides, I don't really want her to forget about it either.
Some time ago i read on a pickup forum that if a girl asks, you should always tell her that you have a girlfriend even if you don't, simply because it signals sexual value and will make you a challenge for her. I get the sentiment, but how about when that leads the girl to think negatively of you as a guy that cheats on his girlfriend? When i was out drinking recently, the women at the next table started talking to me, and i didn't correct them when they assumed i had a girl. I decided to play along and wanted to take some pics of them to make my "girlfriend" jealous, and i think i got a more...distant vibe from them after that. What do you guys think?
I think that if you want to signal sexual value, you should be sexually valuable. That means more than being sexually active right this second.
If a woman is interested in you and you say you have a girlfriend and continue to flirt with them, that shows you are disloyal which to majority of women is the biggest turn off.
It shows you're valued but at the same times shows you're not exactly a valuable partner.
Don't play games, don't lie, don't be fake, don't pay attention to ANY rules like that. It sounds like cliche advice, but it's the truth - just be yourself, be in the moment, and actually pay attention to the person in front of you. If you're caught up in your head, trying to remember "rules" and tricks and games and ways to manipulate her into liking you, it's guaranteed that she's not going to like you.
I'm fucking sick of all the suicidal posts on this board so consider this your suicide FAQ. Ask me your questions and I'll tell you all you need to know about your death.
What's a clear and concise way to do it? Step by step and how to practice so I don't screw it up.
If I can't afford a lawyer, how do I fix my will?
I actually posted here a while ago, thanks!
shoe laces somehow OP?
>when your life is so meaningless you don't even get to make your own suicide board on /adv/
How do normal, healthy people ask for attention and affection?
If you are a woman just say you are ugly and post photos that clearly show otherwise.
If you are a man you a pretty much screwed and will only get it from your mother or by getting a wife
>>16680835
I'm gay, so getting a wife really isn't an option, and mom has enough to handle in my sister's whining.
I'm what most of you would call a normie and I just don't crave either. What attention I need I give myself. I live with friends and have a girlfriend and am emotionally satisfied, most times I find myself looking for solitude and time to myself.
So here's the deal. I'll write it in greentext for ease of reading
>last year around new year my friend and room mate died, I knew him for 27 years.
>this new year, my girlfriend and I joined a group of her friends on a trip to the sea
>one of her friends is lesbian
>my girlfriend has bisexual tendencies
>this girl is obviously into my girlfriend, tries flirting with her a lot
>later on I mention this to my girlfriend, kind of jokingly because I'm not worried about it
>she laughs and says there's no chance anything will happen
>skip ahead to new years eve
>everyone's pretty drunk
>It's kind of hard because I have to think back about my buddy, and being drunk I get kind of emotional so I go for a walk on the beach alone and have a little break down
>when I pull myself together I go back to the house, and this chick and my girlfriend are standing outside, pretty close together
>I'm feeling pretty fucked up so I go inside and lay down in bed
>about an hour later, my gf joins and asks if I'm ok
>I ask her about what happened between the two of them
>her first reaction is 'nothing' but after I push a little she admits they kissed
>big alcohol fueled fight ensues
Now, I realize this was just a drunk kiss, but it's got me more fucked up than it should because of the timing of it, because of her initial insurance that nothing was going to happen, and because of her initial denial. Good relationships are based on trust, and when that fails so does the relationship. She's sorry about it, but still doesn't think she did much wrong, even though I extensively explained to her it wasn't JUST about the kiss.
How would you handle this?
>>16680810
i honestly
some girls are so pretty your heart starts to hurt and she is one of those
imagine how lucky that guy must be that has her for himself
Jeez fucking girls man.
It's more common than you think. Had an argument with my ex once because she said she'd snog a girl friend in a bar to get free drinks. Absolutely couldn't understand why this would annoy me. This was also the same girl who was 100% straight but had a relationship with her best girl mate for a few months, scissoring and all.
It's more than likely an attention thing in your case. She was drunk and it felt like a naughty thing to do, a quick thrill. Or there were people watching so they did it to cause a scene.
It's very unlikely she actually fancies her. Girls do all sorts of dumb shit for attention. She knew you'd be mad so she lied, stupid thing to do I know as it's actually worse than the act itself. However if shes genuinely sorry then consider forgiving her, if shes not then you have some stormy seas ahead my friend, selfish girls will crush you hard, especially those you grow to love
I would break up with her.
>just a drunk kiss
How can you "just a" infidelity? There aren't degrees of it. She cheated.
>her initial assurance
Yep, she lied.
>initial denial
Twice.
>She's sorry about it
And I'm sorry when I fuck up too. That doesn't erase the consequences of my mistakes. My guilt is part of the price that I'm supposed to pay. The rest of the price are those consequences.
>doesn't think she did much wrong
That's not what being sorry is.
Simple thread, simple answer. Now go away.
I'll try to keep this as brief as possible:
I'm a 23yo male NEET (in the literal sense) and I have decided that I'll try to either get my life back on track or an hero.
- no qualifications whatsoever aside from a mediocre Abitur (German highschool diploma)
- no income (living with parents, though not in the basement)
I've never posted on /adv/, so I'm just hoping for some general advice or talking to someone in a similar situation. Thanks in advance.
>>16680761
Get a job where you have to be around people. This will improve your social skills and you'll gain confidence from having a steady income. Don't give up, even when it's painful, as pain is what causes us to grow.
>>16680788
Not trying to be an asshole but how do I get a job without any qualifications? I did some english tutoring last year but that payed like 100€/month.
I mean I guess I could work at McDonald's but with that kind of income I can't even pay rent...
>>16680809
Nursing homes and places like that don't require any qualifications. Working with mentally handicapped people, in tech stores, whatever. Be hygienic and practice being authentic and likable in the mirror before you go.
