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How to make a guy be more attracted to you?
I hooked-up with this guy a few times and as I understood he enjoyed it, had sex and all and I started to like him.
I know a think about him that if he gets started bored of girls he just stops replying.
Me and him don't text that often like we used to, but we still do once a day.
I don't want to lose contact with him.
What do /adv/?
Keep setting up dates or just have him over to hang out. Texting is a terribly weak form of communication, it's face to face talking you need.
>>16672726
Talk to someone, within his hearing range about how much you like sucking dick
>>16672726
He used you as cumdumpster; you can try to text him and reach out but I'm 99% sure he doesn't care.
Any tips regarding not falling madly in love with girl that is taken by a friend of mine? I realize the obvious things to do: try to avoid her and date other girls. But I need more.
>>16672648
Side question.. did they disable bumping?
>>16672603
Thats hard, try to notice all her flaws
>>16672603
Just ask your friend to let you watch as they fuck.
How do you guys get girlfriends? I want dead honesty. Past gfs, current gfs, future plans for a gf I wana know everything, and Im going to assume most of you got you're girls in a non alpha way. I'm extremely interested in how youz came across your partners.
>>16672583
First off, stop trying to find the girl you want and start opening for the girl you need. We all want chicks with huge tits, 10/10 faces and so on, but be sure she doesn't bitch all the time, treats you like a walking wallet and disrespects you.
Try to find your second half, someone who'd sell their souls for you. Even when she doesn't look like the girl of your dreams, give her a place in your heart and you'll get it back thousandfold.
My wife was my coworker
Try find a job with mixed employees. Good luck
My first girlfriend just kinda threw herself at me. I knew her sister and she told my first girlfriend that I was taking Spanish. I agreed to tutor her and from there she started pursuing me and asking me out on little dates. I basically ignored her and barely gave her attention because at the time I thought she was really out of my league. Ended up being my girlfriend for about 6 years.
My second "girlfriend" I met at work. I didn't really talk to her much, but when I went to a co-worker's retirement party she came up and bought me shots and was flirting with me pretty hard. After that ended up inviting her to like coffee before we worked and we saw each other for a bit. Turned out she was a huge whore though, so I broke that off.
My current interest I met off Tinder. Which is a pretty lame dating app, but this girl seems legit. We've been talking for weeks, but haven't set up a date yet since she's busy with school.
At least in my experience I've never let woman I'm interested in see me as a friend. I think that's how a lot of guys fuck up. Not to say that can't work, or that I don't have any female friends, I just think it puts in you in a worse spot than if you don't let it get to the "friends" level ever.
>>16672583
I've been in like 3 relationships and had 5 girls I dated for a short time. Most of them were through friends, which I met during birthday parties etc, and the other ones I met through work.
Also, yes, I don't consider myself "alpha". I could probably get girls during clubbing, but I'm not the type to approach girls I don't know at parties. Unless I am really fucking drunk and I can barely remember what happened the next day.
Just a small confident booster, even the best looking guys from my group of friends, which date quite a lot, barely get approached by girls at parties. They are almost always the ones to initiate.
Does anyone else's partner comment on how hot other people are, or am I in a bad situation here?
>>16672576
If it's a celebrity or fictional character then yes, that's normal
Anyone your partner knows in real life is a bit much unless you're both okay with it
Its normal to a very slight extent.
Like IMO saying it once or twice a month about a celebrity is normal
If its all the time or about someone obtainable, fucking run m8
Mine does, but we trust each other and are not monogamous.
Hey, im decided to take pot for the first time.
im gonna do it tomorrow. any advice?
What is the big deal? I smoked it every day lol
Bring snacks.
im just not sure what to expect. what does it feel like?
How do you keep yourself alright when you're in a depression phase? I know how to keep depression away through exercise, productivity and abstinence from drugs, but sometimes I fail and I snort a line or smoke a blunt or drink a bottle, and I fall down again...
I know I'm going to be better in a few days, I just need tips on going through this. I feel awful, lonely, desperate, worthless, my head hurts, I'm on the edge of tears constantly.
I can't even keep my mind straight on the Visual Studio. I can't concentrate on anything, I just want to take those bromazepam pills from my grandma and mix them with a bottle of wine (an hero).
How do you deal with your depression phases?
Travel aimlessly. I hop on a bus and just sleep there, not giving a shit where it goes.
>>16672575
Fuck I gotta try that.
Have you tried literally killing yourself?
Is it still considered pedo if you're genuinely into a girl under the age of 18, not because of her age but because you actually do like her? Not attracted to any other teens or anything ever either. Just her.
>>16672460
No, it's just statutory rape if you bang her.
How old is she? Most purple don't realize that age of consent in most places, including most states in America, is 16.
Also how old are you?
>>16672466
16. I'm 20.
My psychiatrists say that I have bipolar disorder and nothing else, but I feel as though I have schizophrenia instead, and I'm very depressed because of that.
The reason why I think I have schizophrenia is because this diagnosis was made during my first hospitalization (when I was 17 years old), but was scrapped during the follow up, and replaced with the diagnosis of bipolar disorder.
Do you that I'm right to think that I have schizophrenia and be depressed because of it? Or is it just my bipolar disorder manifesting itself?
> I feel as though I have schizophrenia instead, and I'm very depressed because of that.
haha, what? who cares
>>16672419
>who cares
I do. I believe I have it, and it usually leads to a permanent and continuous deterioration of personality and intellect. I wouldn't like to live this kind of life, hence the depression.
>>16672418
>The reason why I think I have schizophrenia is because this diagnosis was made during my first hospitalization
Is this really the only reason you think that, OP?
If so, don't worry about it.
5 years ago I met a guy while travelling. He's from the US, I'm from Europe. He was 23, I was 18.
We "dated" for a week, and it was wonderful, but we agreed that there was no point at being in a LDR with that amount of distance.
We still talk very often. He's awesome and I adore everything about him. We kept things in friendly terms, and nothing sexual happened after that week. I dated other guys, he dated other girls, but we still like each other a lot.
He told me he has a chance to move closer to me. He said he'd do it mostly to be with me. He wants to visit me before that, to see if we still have that connection, and then eventually move here to give us a chance.
Is it worth it, for him? Am I going to ruin his life? There's nothing I want more than dating him, but I feel selfish.
>>16672388
>Is it worth it, for him?
he's a big boy, if he wants to do it and it goes south you're not to blame. he knows what he's doing.
>>16672401
I guess that what I am concerned about is that I wouldn't move there for him.
He thought about it and he's old enough to make his decisions, but I still feel guilty and selfish.
>>16672436
Well, do you think you still want to be with him? If he's willing to just come on a visit, give that a shot and see how you feel?
If the spark is still there, I say go for it. Better to have taken the opportunity than not.
Alright, here goes.
>Was dating a girl for 3 and a half years.
>Gave her everything without being clingy n' shit.
>A month ago, she asked me to bring her her laptop so she could check something out and weird messages popped up while I was carrying it to her.
>"Hey babe, when we seeing again"
>I went fuck it and read into the convo.
>She cheated on me the day before.
>Confronted woman about it, she admitted it.
>Dumped her, don't want her back
Here's where the issue comes in:
I've lost my confidence in myself. In my looks and personality. And I've also lost my sex drive. I'm not a bad looking guy and have had girlfriends throughout my life (am 23 now), but suddenly I'm worried about everything. My Height, my weight, my physique, my dick size and I don't feel attractive or wanted.
TL;DR I got cheated on by long term girlfriend, have lost all confidence, motivation and willpower.
Wat do? How to get over?
Can someone kill all cheaters please? Why the fuck is it so hard for people to be honest. Just break up if you're not happy!
Anyway OP I'm in a similar position and I think we should just get back out there.
>>16672358
Time. It's unfortunately the only correct answer to your question. Right now you're not in a place yet to be able to put all of this in perspective. It will come eventually. But it might well take a year to do it. However, to give you some light at the end of the tunnel: when you do finally get through this phase, you'll be stronger than ever.
>>16672363
>>16672363
Wellp, I was afraid of that. I hope I don't take a whole fucking year to get over this shit, I really don't want any more time wasted on this woman.
I might lose my virginity tonight. What condom should I buy? [spoiler]6 inch dick btw[/spoiler]
Also, general tips for dates and sex would be greatly appreciated.
>>16672355
Trojan or Durex.. doesn't matter .. Just make sure you put it on correctly.
Leave room at the tip. then roll down the head of your penis..
You won't really feel much with a condom.. but don't take it off.
Oh.. it's gonna be great Anon.. that worm soft as silk feeling around your cock.
Make sure you don't go too fast.. be very slow and deliberate and enjoy it.
Keep a few condoms near by.. can unwrap it .. put a little lube in the condom then over your dick.. make sure lubricated condom side is out..
Having sex with a girl is 10 times more intense than masturbating.. orgasms are more meaningful and incredible.
>>16672355
And.. after you take it off... tie a not in the condom like balloon and put it in the trash and don't flush it down the toilet. If you are afraid she might steal your cum to get pregnant take it with you and throw away in a dumpster outside.
Trojan or Durex
Don't go with flavoured one on your first time
Make sure you put the condom the right way
Btw, don't put on the wrong hole.
Where can I find people who just don't give a fuck? Like, people with whom you don't have to be walking on eggshells when you're around them.
For example, if you farted in front of them they would just laugh at it with you, and wouldn't act like socially conditioned pretentious bitches and reject you.
Or if you called them a stupid retard, or made politically incorrect jokes, they wouldn't be "offended".
People who don't care about social status, but only care about the fun of interacting with a fellow human being.
Fuck, why do I have to live in a society of dogma and selfish ideals? We're all going to die in the end, and there will be nothing after that as far as I can tell possibly. Just eternal emptiness.
Why not just live a life of fun, without being worried about what status others may give you?
Oh and don't start with the whole "muh I care about how I will be remembered". Soon after your death, nobody will give a fuck about you. And then some time later, the universe, and everything which inhabits it, will cease to exist. And there's no way to escape this fate.
high school
Or you know, you could stop farting in people's faces.
>>16672347
Basically, going through live and not caring about anything is a weakness. Imagine all the good work that wouldn't be done, if people just didn't give a fuck. You're right to a degree, but caring too little is damaging.
>GF came back from holiday trip
>Colder than usual
>I ask her out, says that she'll "tell me later if she can"
>Forgets about it, goes to her best friend house instead, doesn't say anything
>Asks her out again
>"I don't know if I want to, these are the first vacations where I don't rest"
>Tf does that even mean.
GF is now colder, doesn't say "I love you" like she used to. Has time for friends and shit, not for me.
Already asked her if there was something wrong, that if she need help. Says "there's a lot of stuff that keeps me stressed" but doesn't say anything more.
WAT DA FUCK TO DO
Basically, she doesn't give a fuck about you and you're asking what to do?!
Also, you got cucked.
>>16672307
So, I should ignore the situation, don't talk to her and let it sink?
>>16672294
>if she can
she can but cannot get up the guts to tell you she slipped up with some dude she met on holiday
My girlfriend and I of 5 years broke up about a month ago. How the fuck do we get back together?
You don't. Life is not a rom-com. Let her go.
>>16672240
There's always a way, right?
>>16672245
First thing I noticed in OP was you said we. There is only you. You are the actor, she is the object of your actions. Ask yourself how to get her back. It will probably involve displays of manliness.
So me and my ex of seven months broke up. A brief back story goes like.
>meet girl at work
>she has plans to do road construction to make bank for college.
>we get together and plans change to include me.
>she starts staying at my house within like a month.
>see signs she's a slut, never really trust her.
>on the road trip up north for road construction see her texting her ex's
>basically end up chocking her eventually because she wont stop
>I spend the majority of my 1,500 a week on her and our expenses so she can save for college.
>ends up giving her parents about 2k behind my back because they are really poor.
>not too mad because I know they are poor but upset because she didnt tell me and seems like her own parents where using her.
>get back to our home state for her to start college
>I stay in the girls dorm with her for about 3 months.
>our sex life has been going downhill for a ling time
>can't last long/mental block because she told me she is 18 and slept with 9 guys some of them black and also my younger brother before I met her.
>in the end she throws me out
What do guys I still love her but I feel it going away everyday and I dont know how I feel about that. She was the first person I ever loved seriously. It doesn't hurt as much anymore and its not the pain I want to forget it's forgetting about her and all the fun times we had I dont want to forget. It's been about a month of no contact from either of us and I almost sent her a facebook message this morning. So should I just move on or what?
Try to get back with her or try for closure?
>>16672155
Dump that whore, and move on
also my younger brother before I met her.
>Are you for real?
>>16672155
>caring about how many guys she's slept with.
Anon, when you grow older you will realize just how much promiscuous women are. When you're 30 looking for a partner you better believe a woman in her 30's wouldve took the dick from atleast 20-50 different guys, minimum.
