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How do you go about having a gf when you're poor as fuck? I live with my parents and the house is beat to shit and there's ripped up carpet that doesn't cover the whole floor, my parents painted some of the rooms a rediculous pink color, the windows are all 200 years old and broke to shit, there's water damage everywhere every room is a shitty disaster. What do I do?
>>16670790
Get a job and move the fuck out. I'm the process of that as well.
>>16670790
If you find a girl that is in love with you she won't care.
>>16670825
But it matters to me
So, is it a common theme for women to look at messages and not reply to them in a timely manner, or do women just not care about me? This chick's been off and on FB for the past 9 hours, and hasn't replied. She previously was asking questions and obviously wanted to keep talking, but this pisses me off. I've never had a woman talk to me actively like my guy friends do.
>>16670722
Girls flake on guys all the time. It's happened to everyone. It's whatever just move on, literally stop overthinking it.
>>16670722
she's busy or not interested. Either way you're investing too much energy into it. If she really wants to talk to you, she will. You're wasting time sitting around waiting for a response
If you fill your time with productive activity, you won't notice the lack of responses and you'll be a more interesting person that people will want to talk to.
What'd you actually send her?
I can't get it up, guys. Like, with a girl. Am I broken? Watching porn, boners come easy. With a girl, maybe I'll get hard initially, but then she's grinding on me, and honestly it just kind of hurts my balls because she's got her thigh pressing up in my crotch and I go limp. Then for the next 20 minutes or so I'm trying everything, and my dick is just fucking sleeping there. Honestly this probably ruined a good thing I had going with this girl. Help.
I'm going to try cutting back on alcohol. I'll also be doing kegel exercises more regularly,...
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How often do you whack it to porn?
>>16670728
Maybe once every other day on average. I made a point of not doing it that day, although I did watch porn and I guess "edge" for a bit without cumming. I thought that would help get me in the mood but nope.
>>16670741
1.) Stop watching porn, especially the whack ass commercial porn. But just stop.
2.) Do something active. You'll be surprised the immediate effects it will have on your libido & circulation. Weightlifting, running, rock climbing, stretching, etc.
3.) If a position isn't comfortable for you just tell her. Don't make it awkward, but at the same time don't try to power through physical discomfort.
How do I learn to be a man? More specifically:
How to have a sense of self-respect and dignity.
How to take responsibility for my actions.
How to be a productive worker.
What counts as manners?
Confidence.
The ability to think logically.
A good opinion of myself.
I was raised by a single mother, and she told me what she thought a man is, but as I'm a visual learner and she never showed me these thins in action, they never sunk in.
Also, I need to learn to respect women too. How can I do this if I have the (justifiable) reputation...
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OP make a video of her showing you how a man "takes over" in the bedroom
Look for a good, manly figure. There are tons throughout history. Remember, all men have their flaws. Admire them for their bravery.
Get a manly hobby. Technical guy? Mechanic. Tough? Rugby. Adventurous? Mountain climbing. Everyone should have one good hobby, don't be afraid to dabble in other things. If you have something to focus on, you'll think less about sex.
Want to respect women? Easy. Don't go too far out of your way to help them, be polite and sincere, and for the love of god don't be that guy in a fedora that says M'lady. Remember...
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A man protects and take care of the ones who he likes. Take is as the motto of your life. You want a great movie showing how to be a great man? Watch La vita รจ bella (Life is Beautiful), the 1997 italian movie. The protagonist protect his son against the horrors of a nazi concentration camp. This is a real man.
Just need some thoughts/advice
I fucked a married manager at work. She's not my manager, nor is she involved directly with our department. But still, married and a manager.
She obviously has been neglected physically, and I can tell she's latching on to me. I'm not that attracted to her physically or personally. Also, her husband is actually a really cool dude. It may or may not be a cuckold situation, which ironically I don't support or encourage.
I'd like to get some external perspective on how I should approach this. I don't...
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Tell her husband? Hes going to beat the fuck out of you. Dude....you broke code.
You broke code
>>16670615
Don't tell the husband. Straight up tell her that what happened occurred in the heat of the moment (yes, this implies you think she is hot, this doesn't hurt anyone) but that you respect her and her husband and should discontinue.
If you tell her husband, your job is probably gone, just something to keep in mind.
>>16670623
No, he won't. Even if he was inclined. I grew up pretty rough, and like I said it could reasonably be a cuck situation
>>16670624
Wouldn't lose my job, but that said you're right probably better to talk to her about it. She wants to come over after work tonight.
>be me
>20
>Community college in San Diego
>1.5 years, no friends, rejected, 'lets just be friends talk'
>short[5'7] but otherwise not ugly/above average
>feeling like ill be foreveralone
>just got into University of California, Davis
Do...Do you think it will change over there?
Not unless you make an effort to make things different
If you couldn't make friends in a more lax and friendly atmosphere in community college, what makes you think that you will make any friends in a more serious, rigid intuition in university?
>>16670495
I mean how, I ask people to hang in class, they are always busy and older than me
I join clubs but they meet bi-monthly
I go to events but everyone already has their cliques.
What the fuck can I do differently?
I have no friends except one.
He's lazy, lives off of welfare and won't even spend the 5$ to pay me a visit. He shows no interest in anyone's lives but his own. He shits on other people's opinions or feelings and always expects the exact opposite of what i've listed so far from anyone else.
Long story short, should i drop him and enjoy a completely friendless life or should i stick to him and continue the only thing you can produvtively talk about - video games - and just accept that i can't expect anything from him. Ever.
>>16670462
Eternal loneliness and solitude or eternal annoyance?
Kinda in a similar position to you. Would love to slit my wrists instead but I have debts and responsibilities.
>>16670462
you should drop him and work on improving yourself so you become a more interesting, more attractive person and make better friends
I would suggest trying to make work friends and or joining a club.
Failing that play Wow or something similar, there are literally guilds where people spend 80% of their time on vent and skype talking and 20% leveling and its sure better than being 100% alone.
im just so stressed right now. I cant eat away my stress because if i eat i feel terrible about myself. I cant masturbate because if I masturbate i feel guilty. I cant play video games because they just make me even more stressed. I cant watch T.V. because stupid shit pisses me off. I just have no outs right now man. I am in such a fucking bad mood all the time, I went to use the restroom and my sister was doing makeup or something in there and needed it for a few minutes, and it eventually went to shouting and me punching the wall i was just so angry.
I just dont know...
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Breathe. Relax. Meditate.
>>16670377
Go for a long run or work out.
How about putting some music on and ligting some freeweights? Or closing your door and doing a bunch of stretches and situps
/adv/ what's your IQ?
141 here.
298. Hows it feel to be borderline retarded, OP?
You won't be getting real answers and IQ tests don't mean anything.
>>16670320
this
>grandma calls me today
>SELAM ALEKUM <name>!
>Don't respond
>Come on, say it back!
>Uh, I'm busy with something, I'll talk to you later, sorry
We said goodbye and I hung up. I'm a Bosnian so this Muslim shite is really hanging over me and I can't escape it. I haven't been a Muslim for over a decade, but they don't know that otherwise there would be a shitstorm.
But...
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>Go from Islam to Sanity to Christianity, the most retarded of the religions
Fuckin really dude?
You fucking answer to an old woman's greeting you pussy.
If you tell them you alienate yourself from your family and risk being disowned. Personally I would tell my parents first and let them give the news to everyone else and you live your life. If they won't talk to you or make a big deal out of it, you have to live with the decision.
Or the easier more comfortable way is to lie and pretend you are muslim.
Neither choice is good but you gotta pick one anon.
I'm so racist that I put both Ben Garrison and /pol/ to shame.
What can I do to change this?
if it matters, I'm a brown 5'10 beaner
Racist to which race anon?
>>16670211
Every one of them.
Jew's, Negroes, Chinese, Japs, Arabs, Europeans, Tartars, Circassians, Meds, Americans. You name them.
>>16670229
Hmmm...I suggest you blow your brains out.
Hey /adv/
I have a legal question. I have a recording where my roommate threatens to go lie to the landlord to get rid of me and he admits he threatened to plant weed in my room.
Assuming I can prove my recording is legal, what should I do to get him in the most legal trouble possible?
I feel like that sort of evidence would be inadmissible in any court of law. Why not go and see a lawyer if you plan to pursue legal action anyway?
Why not just talk to the landlord and tell them what's been going on?
In alot of states in the US it is dismissible in court if you don't have the recorded persons permission
2 years ago I took a 3-day $100 course to join a "spiritual group" (aka religion) called Sukyo Mahikari.
At the time I really was having tremendous problems with hauntings and an illness the doctor's could find no cause for. The group really seemed to be something that would help.
However, I was raised in a Christian environment and I believe in a God and Jesus. Recently, I felt that the practice of Sukyo Mahikari was not compatible with Christianity and was hurting my connection to God.
In fact, I feel that I hurt my relationship with God and that Mahikari...
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>>16670108
What the fuck? Just leave, even if it just means quietly dropping off their radar. They can't make you stay there.
>>16670108
You are aware god isn't real right? That's why you can switch between "god" and Mahikari?
>>16670108
>Sukyo Mahikari.
oh shit, my professor managed to get out of that.
OP the makihari are a cult. Akin with (but perhaps not as damaging) as scientology.
You need to get the hell out.
They're going to try to rope you back in. That's how cults work. You need to find someone on the other side to help pull you through and anchor you. Maybe someone else who has gotten out or a therapist
What is your personal hell?
Dating a MRA/Redpiller/someone from /r9k/. You know the sort
>>16670087
>min wage job
>no friends or gf in or out of work
>supervisor is a prick
>no reasonable way of changing anything
This scares me more than death.
my life
Summary-I want to be interested in girls but their personalities suck.
Details-I know that the above is a bit rude but this is not b8
I've avoided girls and relationships for a while now cus a Underaged relationship can only be so serrious.
Now im 18 im thinking of being in a romantic relationship but so many girl have horridly bad personalitys with princess complexes acting like a child with no common sense.
Is there a specific country or place where you can find a female with a strong decisive personality or and some intelect.
The best...
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no.
now go your own way my son
>>16670056
If the only women you spend time with have bad personalities, the common denominator is you.
Not all women have bad personalities, but all the ones YOU know do - who does that make the issue?
I guarantee you're probably just as big of a pile of shit as they are and I glean this from the way you put the blame on the women around you + look for a magical escape to a new place where all the women are supposed to be better
protip: There are shitty people all over the world, so no there is no "specific...
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>>16670056
Most people are boring as fuck, not just women.
