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So, I hesitate to come here, but I'm in a bit of a pickle. I know everyone gets to this point in their lives, but I really have no clue what kind of career I would like to pursue. Sorry if this kind of thing gets posted here a lot. There's a TL;DR at the end.
But the moral of the story is that I currently work a cushy desk job making a decent amount of money. More than I've ever made at a job. But I'm very unhappy. Never mind the fact that I'm introverted as fuck in an outgoing, office-politics environment, but I also feel like I'm going to end...
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Don't become a pilot. It's retardedly expensive, literally costs more than becoming a doctor, and at the end of the day, you're a glorified bus driver. The pay CAN be good, if you get into a decent airline, but honestly you'll be paying off that debt for years and years to come.
>>16657947
So what you're telling OP is to become a doctor?
>>16657935
Engineer or science in general are void of much human interaction compared to other professions.
I was in a similar situation on my other job a year ago, and I also posted on /adv/ about it. It feels like a really weird deja vu.
So I really like this guy from my work. He also really likes me. Or so I thought. We made out at a company Christmas party, and surprisingly, we were both sober. We maintained a flirty/sort of intimate rapport for a while, then I offered to be his booty call - he is recovering from a very bitter divorce, custody fights, money troubles, the whole shebang. I figured the last thing he needs in his life is another harpy to get attached to and...
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You're a slut, and he's not interested in that.
What's the problem?
>>16657941
You sound salty. Like I said, I am interested in having a relationship with him, but I fucked up and thought he wasn't so I offered a no strings attached type of deal. Also, if he wasn't interested in young sluts, he wouldn't be pawing me back then at the party.
>>16657948
Salty about what? Having a wife and a kid?
You gave him the impression of being a slut, offering yourself up for him to use as he wishes "without any strings". This has soured his perception of you. Even though you did it to be nice or whatever, he doesn't consider someone like you partner material after that. Move on.
What's the best trade to learn?
I just want a good paying job I don't mind working hard aslong as I'm rewarded accordingly
>>16657927
Drug trade
firefighting
>>16657927
Auto mechanic is useful, work at a high end dealership.
>considering breaking up with bf
>gonna be extremely hard choice
>been together 5 years
>passion is still kinda there
>but bf's attitude has been declining for like 2 years
>gotten to the point where he constantly puts me down if he's in a bad mood
>especially if I didn't cause it, just takes it out on me
>says...
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>>16657914
Sorry for some of the syntax errors. Was typing teary eyed.
>>16657914
Also, if it makes any difference, I gave her some advice when she was breaking up with a boyfriend.
Hey girl, that's not a pleasant situation you are in at all. Do you have somebody else you could talk to? Your mom? Even a therapist?!
Can you give some more examples of the things your bf did that didn't feel right?
Odd question: how can I make my dick taste better/be more appealing to suck? I know pineapple juice is supposed to make cum taste better but what about the dick itself? My gf really likes going down and I want to make sure I'm doing what I can to make it more pleasant for her. Are there certain soaps I should avoid or something?
Flavored condoms.
Condom+honey or whatever
Degenerate. you live in darkness.
>>16657836
>condoms
>blowjobs
come on man, be serious.
Are all women hard-wired to be bitches and, if so, how does a man have a healthy long-term relationshit...?
The same pattern seems to happen:
>Girl trips about something inappropriate to trip that hard about, gets bitchy, crosses the line
When I try to get rational, shit storm continues. If I let myself get mad, it ends with her crying. If I calmly let her know that shit doesn't fly with me and act accordingly (leave, w/e), it's always "I'm so sorry, I'm such a bitch, I'll change and love you forever"...
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>>16657732
Women are more hardwired to have a long term relationship than men. Since they have to raise the children.
Human relationships aren't easy, the more intimacy, the more complicated they get.
If you want a long-term relationship, you have to choose wisely.
>>16657754
>you have to choose wisely
Felling like I'm going to be alone forever because I've tried. Hard. To pick wife material.
What's your experience with these things? How does your lady act?
>>16657767
similarly. my girl isn't bitchy, but she's irresponsible, generally carefree and has absolutely no drive or ambition. confrontation always ends just like your situation:
>I'm so sorry I'll get my shit together I love you you're right
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Dear /adv/
I'm got this weird psychological problem.
I grew up with a very unstable home life - I was constantly moved between different foster homes and relatives' houses as a child. I never had my own room, I just slept on peoples' floors or couches. Sometimes I was homeless, sleeping in a car or in a park ramada.
As an adult, I lived with roommates for ten years in about the shittiest ghetto apartment imaginable. I never felt safe, I rarely had privacy.
I spent that time saving up, and now I have my own house. However, it doesn't feel like mine.
Sometimes I wake up in the morning and panic. All the empty space and room freaks me out. Sometimes I will sleep in a sleepign bag in the closet, just because it is what I know and it helps with the panic attacks.
"Owning" things like furniture and having a home feels strange to me. I almost feel scared of it, like I can't get attached to staying in my own house because someone or something will come take it all away from me someday. Doing basic cleaning and housework, I feel like an impostor, and guilty for touching things that shouldn't be mine.
Do you guys have any suggestions for how to feel more comfortable in my home? How to become comfortable with things like housework?
google 'oikophobia"
fear of appliances? Not helpful.
also, bump
I'm sorry to hear about your situation, OP.
We are not qualified to diagnose, but this sounds to me like a kind of agoraphobia. How big is your house, and how many people live there? Would you say you've furnished it completely yet?
What do I do now
>>16657715
Ask her if she wants to hang out some other time instead, you wanna hang out
>>16657715
Move on and find someone else
You don't see footballers retire after missing one shot now, do you?
>>16657722
>>16657724
These, OP.
I'm a guy. I get jealous when my female friend talks to other guys. We are not in a relationship and never will be. So why do I get this uncomfortable jealous feeling? Is it just impossible for a guy to be friend with a woman and not get possessive? I've had female friends before, but it was always superficial and I didn't care about them much. I want to have a good friendship with this woman but I don't want to deal with emotions that are better left for romantic relationships. Any advice on how to cope?
>>16657551
You're just young and full of hormones
>>16657551
It's normal anon.
A man, that doesn't have TRT, is always going want to fuck female "friends" and when they are around another male, he will feel aggressive because he wants to fight this male and take the female to mate with-
Simple, biological, instinctual feelings.
The only way to avoid this is to just NOT BE FRIENDS WITH WOMEN MORON
It;s that fucking easy
Alternatively, a hideous women because your brain won't register her as a mate
>>16657551
Because you do want to fuck her. If you didn't, you wouldn't care who she talks to or hooks up with. Stop bullshiting yourself.
So I found out that my girlfriend of 2 years is cheating one me. I made a textme account chatted her up, and after sending a fake dick picture she wants to meet. What should I do when I meet up with her?
>>16657477
Fuck her with the light off.
Tell her to meet at Starbucks or somewhere public with a bathroom and as it is close to meeting time text her to sit down at a table because you're in the toilet and will be out shortly. Then come out all alpha "hey slut"
this is actually a fetish of mine I will get into relationships then Savatage then and then when they go to cheat I will flood them with guilt. I will leave and be gone for 2 to 3 weeks they will beg me to come back and they are pretty much my property after that. you have a real chance to strike it rich. having a family member of hers with you is even better preferably her father. do a little tearjerking but not much you don't want to look like a pussy but you definitely want to look like you've been damaged. she is a slut nothing more use her lose her.
My gf of 2 years treats me bad and intentionally mocks me even though i told her the things she does hurt my feelings.
A lot of those things she just right out ignores and tells me im childish and dont have a right to be hurt about.
On top of that she seems to be in a bad mood all the time and gets angry very easily.
I love her a lot but i´m confuse on how to behave myself.
I´m afraid of becoming too weak and eventually getting fucked over by her somehow.
I feel very stressed.
>>16657423
>Hey /adv/, I'll just clearly lay out that I'm in a shitty if not outright abusive relationship and pretend I don't know exactly what you're going to tell me.
>>16657433
This. Dump her OP she doesn't love you and just likes picking on you. When you dump her she'll probably say something really hurtful because she wants you to feel inferior but disregard it and move on
Mocks you about what exactly?
Hey /adv/
I'm planning on travelling to the USA at some point once I turn 21 (20 atm). I was wondering where the best places for me to visit are.
What with me having a British accent which places should I go to where there are a few decent things to do but my accent will still be enough a novelty to American girls to get me attention?
what were you hoping to see?
cities, landmarks, natural treasures?
>>16657373
It's all pretty good here man. Just depends on what type of scenery you like.
Another britbong on a sex tour of the USA.
http://www.vice.com/read/i-went-out-with-british-dudes-who-tour-america-in-search-of-sex
If my wife did coke, dxm, got drunk and drank lots of coffee well pregnant, how fucked is the baby potentially?
We just found out and this is her first missed period, so it's not far into the pregnancy. She will be stopping now that we know, and we'll be seeing a doctor to confirm it's not a false positive/ask more questions about the baby's health (all things considered). Just want some vague idea/other people's experiences til then.
Having an unhealthy start could mean that the baby won't stick to the womb in time for the stable period. Be ready for it to abort itself.
>>16657328
Why were you still on drunks and drink when trying for a child?
>>16657328
Abort and start over, this time without the chemical smorgasbord. Don't take a chance on a potentially fucked up baby.
That's just my lay advice, ask the doctor if you want a better idea of the risk. But I wouldn't chance it.
How are you supposed to ask a girl out ? So I know this girl for about three years now, we graduated so I have not seen her in 6 Months, cause the only time we saw each other was in school. I thought I was over her but then it hit me and I texted, we talked about how long its been since we last chatted and that she was always used to touch my her and so on. Btw iam only 18yo and I had never kissed a girl so I don't really now how this whole thing works. My plan was to chat with her for like a few months and see how things are going and then I would ask her if she want to...
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>>16657238
Chat for a few months? Nigga, you are not interesting enough to keep taking to.
Just ask if she wants to hit up a party, get some booze in her, man up and kiss her. Feel a titty or two, then drop contact for 2 days.
She'll be begging for the dick.
>>16657250
Don't listen to this guy. That's how you pull sluts.
Next time you see her in person tell her how you feel. If she feels the same way she'll be glad you spoke up and tell you. If she doesn't like you that say then there isn't a combination of words in the English languagd that can make her fall for you.
>>16657250
That sounds really rude, to be honest. I don't drink and she either. You know I really love her, I can't put that in words. She means everything to me that's why I thought its good to go slow.
I need the advice of some femanons here
"I love you, I'm just not in love with you anymore"
What the fuck does this mean? Gf of 2 years left me and took our child. We still talk on a daily basis. Im a mess. This is absolutely destroying me.
How do I get her to miss me? How do i get her to fall in love with me again? Im so confused.
>>16657163
She still cares for you a bit, but she's romantically done with you.
All you could really do is give her some space and hope she changes her mind on her own, but you can't force it.
Just let it go and worry about taking care of your kid. Better to have amicable relations with your child's mother than to go fucking it up trying to rekindle a pile of ashes.
>>16657163
That means she's in love with someone else.
>>16657163
She's sick of you because there is no spark anymore. The best thing you can do is give her some distance. She will come back when she realizes how comfortable her life was with you.
Do you think she may have cheated on you? I'm not saying she absolutely did, but one time I told my boyfriend this same excuse when I was interested in someone else
