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Got a ton of homework to do, due tomorrow.
How do I
A. Stay awake
B. Stay motivated
>>16646513
find someone else to do it with and be don't with it asap.
>>16646513
get out of your house and go to your college library maybe.
Also- coffee.
Just don't stop Anon.!!!!!!!!
>Coffee
>Music
>A partner who also has a tin of homework
>Remember this homework HAS to be done
I have a best friend with BPD latched onto me like a leech..
She threatens that if I find a partner/live with a male that she'll kill herself (she's a man-hating lesbian who believes she can't love anyone more than me)
I want to move out of home and study in a city 2hrs away though (Chem degree isn't locally available). And I am offered a room with a guy there. She's not gonna tolerate it. She'll harangue over how I'll fall in love with him or he'll rape me or w/e.
How's the best way to break it to her? I don't want...
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jesus. does she elaborate why she wouldnt tolerate you living with a male?
Women suck at killing themselves, just like the word rape they use it for malicious behaviour. Just more the fuck away. How is it your fault if she decides to kill herself? I mean you don't even get to fuck her, why should you give up your life for hers?
>>16646498
Yes.
She doesn't trust them. Got raped as a kid by different guys for a few years at different times, dad left mum as a baby and doesn't visit her/care for her, in highschool one guy friend broke her trust etc.
Pretty common emotional-disorder story. But on top of this, being non-stop obsessive over me to the point she stays with her unhygeinic trailer trash sister just to stay in the same city as me (I ONLY DO THIS FOR YOU ANON) instead of stay home with her mum..
>>16646505
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if you were friends with a couple, like a guy and a girl, and the guy did something unacceptable (e.g cheated on the girl) would you tell her or try not to interfere?
I wouldn't interfere unless there was some way I could get laid out of the deal. There relationship is definitely some thing that you have no involvement in, and you will lose both of them as friends.
yeah but wouldnt that cause some guilt?
>>16646488
You're implying that cheating is unacceptable. It might be for you, but if it doesn't fuck up their relationship, what do you care? They may never find out.
Is it normal to completely cut contact with guys you were once close to and pretend they don't even exist? I'm pretty inexperienced so I don't know how it is but I'm wondering if this is what people do. I mean don't most people remain friends or even friendly?
if you've lost the thing that keeps you and your friends in touch then i dont think that friendship will last.
you dont cut all contact with them but you lose consistency and the relationship basically falls out. time to look for new friends OP.
>>16646412
I meant more like in the romantic context. Is it normal to pretend the person never existed if you were so close once? I guess I'm wondering if I should work through the hurt feelings or whatever else instead of just plugging my ears and walking away. I've done it two times with guys who hurt me with their uncaring nature. Basically they led me on in a relationship, knowing that it was hard for me to let people in, and then wanted to be "friends" when they got tired of it.
I guess I'm...
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why would you want to stay friends with people who have an "uncaring nature"?
Hey /adv/,
Broke up with my bf a couple days ago. We've been in an LDR for a little over a year (living in different countries), the reason for our break-up being the need for both of us to wait until I'm done with uni. We agreed it's too selfish to ask for such a thing, given I'll need 2 and a half more years to grad from med school.
I believe I love that person, that he is the one, and (at this point) I'm convinced I'll be looking to recover what we had once I'm free to move to his country.
I'm turning to you for...
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LDRs are dumb
How did he take it?
>>16646325
Without getting into the judgement issues of LDR's etc, the only advice I can give is find a distraction. Usually, in the form of a throw away boy, but a distraction none the less.
It seems like /adv/ is infested with trolls, neets, shut-ins, potheads, alcoholics, etc. Should I ask for advice on other websites?
How about you kill yourself instead? That'd be great.
You're going to be ok, OP. You're going to make it.
i agree but there is no surefire way to deal with them. i'm sure your other sources of advice will also have it's flaws. i guess the choice to move out of this thread is still your decision.
Let's talk sexual dysfunction. I was with a super hot girl yesterday and just as we were about to fuck I couldn't get it up. Thing is, i don't fap too often, i don't watch porn, i lift/exercise and have a bretty good diet. I don't understand what went wrong? help famalam
Anxiety
>>16646203
it's not though, i've done this many times before and i'm a confident guy
>>16646204
Sometimes it hits you witheout warning.
However, you arw not a robot. Being tired or stressed is enough
18 y/o fatty here. I started a cardio work out routine last night. What's the best way to ensure that I stick with it?
>>16646182
Do it every day
But my understanding is that lifting weights would be more helpful.
>>16646187
It's couch to 5k. Part of the program is you take breaks like every other day at first. Also, I'm not trying to build muscle (I've got enough of that because of my job), I'm trying to lose fat
>>16646182
You've been fat fuck for a while, and the mentality of fat fuckness is going to be tough to break. You have to change your mindset and your entire lifestyle, forever.
Staying fit takes effort, being a fat fuck doesn't. As long as you force yourself to enjoy the effort, you'll make it. Don't look for reasons to be lazy- in any area of your life.
How do I stop being part of the "ADD-generation"?
I recognize myself too much in this stereotype.
>Meditation
I can't go a minute without getting distracted, frustrated and giving up. In that order...
>Reading
I literally have to read a sentence 3 or 4 times before I get what's actually being said.
Even if I force myself I seriously start to get tired and my eyes get 'droopy'.
Also I'm either playing vidya, browsing 4chin or mindlessly...
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Even though ADD-generation is a thing, that does not mean you may actually have the disorder. Don't let your bias of ADD stand in the way of getting a 'cure'.
just keep doing it until you get used to it. worked for me. keep reminding yourself why you do it. im kind of a facebook addict. that keeps me away. doing good stuff feels good if you know why you do it even though your body is not cooperative. try harder, and dont try doing many things at once to impress people or because stereotypes like books=smart told you to do it. and you probably shouldnt be here
>>16646088
Can't help it, get raised with a lot of sugar in your diet and you have to juggle 8 subjects a day which in turn divides your focus.
>male
>20yrs old
>kinda skinny but not in any shape
I want to start running and exercise, also eat healthier. Problem is, I don't know where to find reliable info about how to do all that properly.
I did try to do situps for 2 months but obviously that's not an allround fitness program.
Everywhere I look on the Internet I see paid gyms or books focusing on specific things.
Do you have tips or a good way, to find out what's the best thing for my body?
For shame. Just a couple boards down we have one dedicated to fitness. Go check it out. Read the sticky. Lurk. And stop doing sit ups.
>>16646045
1) go to /fit/
2) ask questions - get told to read the sticky
3) read the sticky
4) ???
5) PROFIT
Why is my hair so fucking unbearably fluffy and how do I tell it to calm the fuck down, 4channels?
You'd think fluffy hair would be a blessing? Nope. Shit's fucking awful. It's crispy and too fluffy, feels like soft straws of hay, frizzy, wavy, and no matter how much gel/spray I apply it's still acting like a little fucking cunt. I've deep conditioned, poured vinegar on it, even mayonnaise, even olive oil, I've tried going weeks without washing it, nothing works.
My hair is indeed bleached but this happened even before it was.
I...
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>>16646002
'Nother one for ref
We're onto you julia gillard
>>16646009
Op here. 10 point to griffindor.
I really don't know what it is, but i'm pretty much invisible to girls. I think of myself as an alright looking 18 year old male, and just find it so hard for women to even notice me. I go out of my way to talk to them, and all I either get is the cold shoulder or I'm just ignored. whats going on? Is it just me? Help! lol
>>16645976
>go out of your way
How? What do you mean?
>cold shoulder or ignored
Again, how?are you complaining because girls aren't all over your dick, or because they refuse to engage you in any conversation?
I go out of my way as in, they never initiate a conversation with me, ever. Also yes, they almost 100% refuse to engage me in any conversation.
>>16645976
Lurking.
This is me too.
How bad is it to drop out of university? I don't like what I'm studying and I feel it's just a waste of time. Some people are telling me university is supposed to suck and I should just man up and get my degree so I can have a decent job later. I feel like this is just a trap that will lead me into being a wagecuck doing something I don't enjoy. I'm thinking of just moving to the UK and working some jobs, saving up money and trying to get an idea of what I want to do in life.
>>16645969
Hahaha.
>you aren't a special snowflake
>you don't have a dreamjob
>there is nothing in life just waiting for you
>there won't be a sudden rush of happiness when you drop out
You are a failure, repeat this to yourself. Every single half-minded person in this world went to uni and got their diploma, family and enjoyed their life.
You will never amount...
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>>16646390
Thanks for the quality post.
>>16646689
If you wanted someone to comfort you and lie to you maybe you should've went to reddit.com.
How do I tell someone I was "friends with benefits" with to piss off? I was fucking a girl for a few months but she decided to get back with her ex. I don't really care but she still messages all the time and I'm just not into it. I don't want to be mean but I'm sick of pretending to care about all the bullshit she talks to me about. Most of the time it's just about her ex or she's just being a cunt. Which makes her a drag to talk to. I've also known her for a great many years so it's difficult to just cut all ties. If anyone...
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>>16645904
You cant cut her off without being mean. So decide which is more important to you.
>>16645904
Yo either act needy as fuck that dries up pussy or just tell her the truth
Look blah your an ok fuck but your a dumb bitch so have a nice life.
Maybe you still like her? But she is talking to you like a cunt. Does that make sense? Im intrigued
>been happily married to my husband
>we finally decide that it's time to try having a baby
>i just found out i'm pregnant
>husband is a smoker, he's been smoking since his teens
Only now did I think about this. I don't know if I want my child to grow up in a smoking household. Would it be fair for me to raise my concerns about this to him? If he refuses, what should I do? I mean I'll probably have to compromise yeah?
>>16645903
Of course it's fair. Smoking is literally bad for the kid. If he gives a shit he'll be willing to compromise.
>>16645903
You realise smokers can quit right ? What about getting a vape?
As long as he's smart about it (no smoking in the house/car/when holding the baby/pushing the stroller/washing hands often) i would not say a thing. You see, nagging is the way WAY bigger treat to your baby than smoking. Rather grow up
with a dad that smokes than no dad at all. And you know that trying to change somebody is the beginning of the end
