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The girl who broke my heart a year ago just texted me and told me she misses me. What do I do? I thought I'd moved on and gotten stronger, but the instant I recognized her number I felt red-faced and weak in the knees.
She told me she loved me, and I loved her, but I was such a pushover that she cheated on me and we split ways. I don't know how to respond to this, and it's going to kill me if I don't figure it out.
Tell her to fuck off i know it can be hard, but bitch cheated on you once, she'll do it again.
>>16644320
She never liked you. She wants your 110k car while fucking Chad on the side. Typical Stacey.
>>16644320
Do you think she's any different now?
Would the same thing happen?
Could you handle it if the same thing happened?
So, /adv/ I have a really annoying problem.
I'm 18, virgin and I never had a boyfriend (never even kissed), and I'm actually really fine with that. I won't rush myself sexually and every boy that I liked managed to fuck up really badly with me. But there is a big problem: My Mom.
She won't fucking shut up about me being a lesbian (I'm not) and she keeps saying shit like ''BUT YOU DON'T LIKE MAKE UP'' or ''BUT YOU DON'T TALK TO BOYS''.
I keep telling her that I am NOT a lesbian and that I am...
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Why are you letting it bother you? Just be you girl don't worry about labelling yourself anything.
Post a picture of yourself? Maybe you look like a lesbian. Also why does your mom not like lesbians?
>not trying to be rude
>>16644309
Unfortunally, I live with her and she keeps bugging me abou it.
>''Go talk to that boy, anon''
>points to the most despicable boy in the room
>''Oh, anon, that random stranger grandparent died! Go flirt with him!''
>'Why are you not flirting with him? ARE YOU A LESBIAN?''
>''IT'S OKAY, BUT...
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I know I have a weird facial expression in this picture, but is there something unsettling or off about the way I look?
I have so, so much trouble with girls. Am I just ugly? Be as brutally honest as possible please.
>>16644284
7/10
Just ditch facial hair completely. Cool clothes though.
Maybe you just don't know how to talk to them?
>>16644303
It's possible. I get quite a few dates on OkC and Tinder. If I really try, I can get around a date a week. Sometimes I get lucky and manage to line girls up, yet nothing every comes out of these dates.
I haven't seen a naked woman irl since the age of 17. I'm going on 23 now.
>>16644284
You got style, but I get the sense that that facial expression does you no justice. As far as talking with girls. Don't put them on a pedestal, just realize that females are the same as you: human. No more and no less.
gawd I'm so desperate.
20 y/o here. I hate my breast and got the strange feeling of never pass. ppl even told me I look androgynous and can't tell my gender but well.
I keep getting panic attacks out of nowhere and the feeling I'm an imposter because... I don't know why I have this feeling. But thoughts like "nobody will ever date a trans guy" are running through my head and it makes me SICK.
I feel like tearing apart inside and it hurts.
How to deal with Gender Dysphoria?
What did your breast do to deserve to be hated? I have man boobs and only feel a little dismay.
>>16644250
sorry, I forgot to mention
I'm pre-anything ftm trans. and thanks to rly bad genetics I got huge breasts.
>>16644233
Stop focusing on a potential problem and instead focus on loving yourself for who you are
You're getting so wound up and caught up in the idea of trans that you're giving up the prospect of remaining in your gender already even though you obviously arent comfortable with being trans
I say, stiff upper lip, stand up with pride, tell the world you are what you are and you fucking love yourself and theres nothing anyone or anything can do to change that
Fight it anon. Fight back control of your pride
My girlfriend "dated" a guy a couple years ago who lived in New York. We live in North Carolina. She only met him once and that was after they broke up, but she still texts him daily and snapchats and everything. She told me she was just friends, but the idea that they dated at one time and how he calls her "bae" and things really bothers me. Am I overreacting or do I have a reason?
hey hey u u i dont like ur girlfriend
>>16644229
>ldr text "relationship"
>they only met after they broke up
I wouldnt be worried anon
Any more than you worry about her 5th grade boyfriend stealing her back
Sounds more like this guy is a beta orbiter
>>16644272
He's not ugly though
A family member is using my pc right now. Like the nice brother I am , I let them use it . Here's my issue, I just realized I left TOR open. Yeah....I'm terrified . What's an excuse to get her the hell off of my pc ?
>get off my computer I need to close Tor
>i need to send an email
>i think I forgot to save a file
>let me check something real quick
>>16644194
Holy shit what If shes looked at the browser ? I'm done. I'd be better off killing myself.
>>16644205
>I'd be better off killing myself.
That is unlikely.
How do I get her back, /adv/?
No contact, then reach out in a month or so with an improved version of myself and hope for the best? Everything I read says this is pretty much the only way. Anyone have any anecdotal experiences with NC they'd like to share?
We had been together for 3 years, and she broke up with me on Christmas Eve, ultimately saying she thinks she wants to work on the relationship but not right now, she needs time and space.
I'm at a week of no contact right now with her, and it's getting harder every day despite me actively...
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>>16644016
It really comes down to what you want to do.
On one hand, you shouldn't feel you owe him anything, money doesn't equal love, and if he tries to bring that down on you, he's being shitty and manipulative. It seems there might already be some manipulation on his part already - he arranges things and built his perfect little bubble.
But on the other hand, it seems you really are interested in him still. It seems foolish to throw away a relationship just because you want to hook up with...
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Shameless bump.
>>16644016
>How do I get her back, /adv/?
You don't. I'm sorry, OP, but life is not a rom-com. It's over. Let her go.
Is asking random girl on the street for number considered normal? Or its just some shit creeps do?
>>16643993
Creepy af
I think you need to develop a bit of a relationship beyond random asshole on the street.
>>16643994
Then where are you supposed to get numbers
Can anyone explain why DREEK is so very attractive to such a very large amount of women, supposedly anyway. I don't see what sets him apart other than the fact that he's #teamlightskin#(represent$)
>tall
>mulatto
>has money
really though if he wasn't tall he wouldn't be nearly as popular as he is with women
>Good looking
>Tall
>Succesful
>Sweet beard
>Top level banter master
>Talented
...Im not sure whats so hard to comprehend about him being popular with women anon
Drizzy's my nigga too
>>16644014
A lot of rich tall artists and actors and athletes and stuff out there. You didn't isolate the right variables I'm afraid.
I fucking hate women.
I seriously cannot contain my hatred for them and how they just fuck everything up. Before you start calling me a virgin/loser/autist/neckbeard, whatever I have been with several women and have observed them and their shitty behavior; it never ceases to amaze me how shitty a woman can be even if they are considered "good". I hate how they bitch and moan about equality, yet they still date men who abuse them or STILL EXPECT FUCKING MEN TO PAY ON A FUCKING DATE even though more than enough fucking women are in the workforce. I'm still...
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>>16643982
Blah blah a woman pissed me off and I'm mad so all women suck. Thanks for the story and your thread is totally unique and special.
You're fucking retarded please vacate immediately
>>16643982
Why don't you cry about it?
The game is the game. Play it or don't.
>>16643982
>As a man MOST women want/or at least expect a man to have money, least a car or a place of his own yet, I don't expect that from women AT ALL
To be honest, you can thank the system created by men that made it so women would be less educated, independent and/or financially adept since the olden days for this. It didn't just happen by magic. Things have only recently started to change, after all.
>women don't give a SINGLE SHIT ABOUT MEN and...
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My friend is running a pyramid scheme selling diet pills. Today she sunk to a new low, apart from conning people she signed up a racist!
Please help?
>>16643954
No.
Danielle Kirtley is the name on FB please confront her!
>>16644049
14/88
Have any of you been in a relationship with a significant age gap? What was your experience like? Is there something inherently wrong with dating someone much older/younger or is it just bullshit social stigma? What's the largest age gap you'd accept?
In HS I was in a relationship with this guy, I was 17 he was 24. I was comfortable with it so we're both our parents.
Currently yes. 21 and 29.
>my experience
Interpersonally it's fine, we get along and I like the older dynamic because I love learning. We have a lot of crossover of interests that age doesn't interfere (i.e. interest in the sciences etc)
Nobody so far commented on our age difference. They comment on other things, moderatly unrelated to age though (he's got a solid career in EE and I'm still working at McDonald's doing uni and that makes many of his friends/family uncomfortable)
The other problems I'll list
● more well travelled/experienced than me, so not much is surprising or new to him compared to me.
● Fear that maybe he only subconsciously likes me because I'm 21 and that's like a prime female age or something lol
● His concerns are more advanced in life, i.e. he's already looking into buying a house and I still haven't even moved out of my parents yet!
>something inherently wrong
Nope, just things get complicated with the things listed above. I think if the age gap were any much bigger though then it'd become almost separate generations. I'm lucky I'm technically the cusp on the same generation as him. So I don't believe it's all stigma.
>Largest gap
I thought 3 years either way was the largest gap but here I am now lol....
>>16643921
why are 24 y/o's creeping on 17 y/o's?
your parents must have been either delusional, didn't care, or just plain stupid
I need advice when texting girls. Its just I don't know what to talk about to keep conversation rolling and interesting as it's kind of boring. Any tips of things that I should try when texting?
Talk about other girls. Have them talk about other guys. Gossip about dumb stuff.
There. You're now a conversation master.
>>16643884
I usually keep conversation short - maybe reply once or twice, then stop replying when I get bored. You are more valuable when you are not easily accessible / constantly trying to entertain her. Conversation isn't interesting? Let it die. Initiate again when you have something interesting to share.
>>16643899
This
Do NOT keep the conversation going.
Go do some manly shit and talk to her in real life at that place you told her to meet you at.
You DID tell her to meet you at a place right?
My mom really creeps me out sometimes. Take today for example:
>sleeping in this morning
>mom walks into my room and asks if I want to go on errands with her.
>I'm still half asleep but just alert enough to mutter a few responses.
>I was also able to notice as she was rubbing my arm, her hand made its way to my breast with each stroke. Luckily I was under my covers so by the second stroke I covered my boob with my hand. Mind you, I had a shirt on but this still felt weird.
Later on
>be in the kitchen
>mom is putting away the dishes, I turn to walk away and she pinches my ass.
>she knows I don't like it when she does shit like this.
>I told her to stop and she jokingly replies with "anon, it was only a love pinch!"
I hate it when she jokes around like this, it makes me feel really uncomfortable. Maybe I'm overreacting but it's really weird.
What are your thoughts on this, /adv/?
Your mother has a penis. Accept it. Enjoy it.
But seriously, no way to know if it's a bigger deal without knowing the history. Maybe she just wants to make sure her fine young daughter's not getting fat? Maybe she's a rapacious lesbian? Who knows?
Tits or get the fuck out
is your mom hot
post pics please
it'll help me generate a proper response
Relationship/dating advice
I firmly believe that all men have great potential deep inside of him, the guy you might of seen getting all the girls on in the media or in person, you are that guy, you just need to open your eyes to what's really going on. With discipline and getting a grip/control of your feelings, you will see, EVERYTHING. I've been able to look past women's looks and contol my urges, thinking of the bigger picture instead. If you can do that you're half way home. There's plenty of women on this planet and you'll get your...
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>>16643832
What is the bigger picture to you?
>>16643832
I'm going to replace my couch with her ass.
>I'm 19 she's 17
>13 months
>I would describe her as sweet, gorgeous, funny, intelligent, logical, and my best friend
>she'd say roughly the same except she'd say I can be an asshole sometimes
>see her every day, go on "dates" once or twice a month"
>text every day, but mostly see each other in person
For the past three...
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