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No food for the next week. Absolutely no money. What do, /adv/?
>>16636874
Food shelf?
Also:
>bumming off friends, maybe offering to do something for them in exchange
>dumpster diving
>drinking hot water to feel more full
Not that it's our business really, but what happened?
>>16636874
Food bank
Ok /adv/, I'm a decent looking guy (I think) and I'm honestly not looking to perv on any girls, but I feel pretty shy messaging them, as I am into arts and obscure/old/classical music (things most teens my age are not into). What should I do? Should I stoop down to their level?
>>16636872
yeah, and i think that you shouldn't think that you're "stooping down" or else your sense of superiority will cause you to alienate yourself and you wont make any real connections
Just curious: what kind of old obscure things are you into? Can you give examples?
Beefheart, Zappa, Early Butthole Surfers (LAT), John Frusciante, Pink Floyd, The Beatles, Cake, Eric Satie, etc.
/adv/ please keep your sperg on a leash thank you
>>16636871
God dammit that faggot again
Am I missing something? What makes you think he came from here?
>>16636880
Because there's this guy that keeps on posting bullshit questions about people's job decisions.
And he apparently is plagued by large amounts of autism.
Did I do something wrong or is she mad that I am not chasing her?
>Go out with a girl who has mutual friends
>Spends the whole night questioning my intentions for doing stuff like giving her my jacket, opening her door, etc..
>Go to drop her off, off to walk her to the door "but anon, I don't want you to walk me to the door". OK, wave goodbye and drive away
A week later she goes on vacation to see her family for the holidays on the opposite side of the country
>text her "you can be my new years date even if you're on the other side of the country"
>she tells me "ewww boys, lol"
>4 1/2 hours later texts me "I should be straightforward, no I will not be your date"
Fast forward a few days
>Text her "look at the new instrument I bought" make small talk, "hope your vacation is going well"
Fast forward 4 or 5 more days
>How was your new years? Hope your vacation is going well
>no response for a few hours
>text her "hey, I just want you to know I know you aren't interested and it's not a big deal, I just think you're cool and am burned out on other people buddy"
>get a text back instantly "blah blah blah just don't like texting you're funny lmao You called me buddy, do I look like a golden retriever"
>text her "what did I do? You seemed really worried about making sure I didn't try anything with you and making sure I know you aren't interested. I was just trying to clear the air, buddy, and say it's not a big deal"
>"yes we're just friends and if you can't respect me and stop wasting my time we won't be friends anymore."
At this point I thought she was joking and I made a joke about her lashing out cause she's in love with me
>She says "Please stop contacting me"
at this point I responded
>I didn't know you were really mad, and I don't know why you're pissed and I don't really care. Best of luck to you."
>Get missed call from girl
>Call her back but I was blocked
What did I do wrong, or is this a girls way of lashing out over me not chasing her?
You shouldn't worry about this stuff. What you're describing just sounds really silly to me.
Just don't engage the whole thing any further.
>>16636852
I'm not planning on talking to her again, more worried about what she says about me to mutual friends and I'm not sure how it sounds to a 3rd party
So before I start, I'm a social person. I can get phone numbers, and I can hold conversations with attractive people. I like to use a lot of humour and roundabout conversation, flying from topic to topic.
My job requires me to be athletic and dress well, so I have confidence in myself and think I look pretty alright.
But when it comes to texting, I suck balls with a bendy straw. Every time I text someone, I don't know how to approach it. Should I be humorous or serious; use proper grammar and punctuation or "lol nuzzle u ;3"? Are there certain times not to use emojis? If a chick is using them every message, should I in response?
This shit gets to the point where when I go on Tinder, I'll get hits from good looking women and I either plan my messages for minutes at a time, don't know how to progress or leave no reply at all. I'm tired of getting my hopes up with hot women and fucking up something I could easily handle in person. I never would have thought flirting through text would be so difficult. I'm missing the days of landlines and phone calls.
Any advice on improving my text/messaging game? If you can afford to help me out, I'd appreciate it. Thank you in advance.
I FEEL YOU
>>16636807
Match your syntax to the seriousness of the message. I do this on 4chan with my posts all the time.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vn22q5xU_HQ
I feel very manly and I'm extremely self-conscious about it as a woman who was born as a woman.
>voice low enough that people say it doesn't match how i look
>subconsciously check out other women's tits and asses
>chiseled manjaw
>can't bring myself to be attracted to tall guys
>can't bring myself to be attracted to hairy guys
>strongly dislike it when men are overconfident
>prefer men to be meek and effeminate
>hair on my legs and arms is very dark despite me being blonde
>tend to be the aggressive one in the relationship
My body is the only thing keeping me from thinking I'm some kind of hermaphrodite or whatever they're calling them these days. I have a boyfriend who fits all of my weird preferences so I'm not worried that I'll never find love, I just feel very abnormal. Is there some kind of disorder that describes women who have a masculine mindset? Or am I overthinking things?
>>16636805
You're acting like a man, and your bf like a woman. Swap roles, you'll feel better. And you won't be insecure about it anymore.
>>16636821
But I don't want to be a man. I'm not transgender and neither is my boyfriend. My problem is that I am a very masculine girl that wants to be a cute and feminine girl.
Uh, okay. Apart from your "chiseled manjaw", which, frankly, I'm a little skeptical about -- not an insult, it just sounds like you have some self-image problems -- you just described yourself as a confident, nigh dominant, woman with a low voice (something plenty of people find attractive.) Are you quite sure these are problems?
Reflecting on a near-miss with a really cute coworker, and I question whether I did the right thing. This story honestly makes me feel sad whenever I think of it:
>in relationship with a girl who I'm not 100% happy with, and working hard to build our relationship
>my new coworker ticks off all my boxes and while I'm still in my relationship I secretly harbor a major crush on this coworker
>we spend nearly every morning together and get really comfortable with one another
>we finish each other's sentences, crack the same jokes, and start doing nice things for each other like secretly running out of coffee or leaving notes for each other
>perfect office romance
>we both are "okay" with our respective relationships, but don't talk about our significant others with each other much beyond "oh, they're doing okay, but let's talk about this hilarious thing I know you'll love instead!"
>major office party comes up and it's the first time our significant others are meeting our coworkers
>also first time my work crush and I actually get to hang out
>I meet her bf and he's a cool guy, we get along great and he calls me his "bro" as we drink beers and battle it out in beer pong
>my gf is not impressed with the place or my coworkers, especially my crush
>she leaves early and even though I'm upset she tells me to stay and let her go home
>my coworker tells me this should be a red flag
>around this time her bf disappears
>she starts talking about what a disaster he is
>she's a little drunk as she says it and he overhears
>they have a huge spat in front of everyone, leaving her crying as he runs off to who knows where
>I agree to grab him for her while other coworkers console her
>he tells me "trusts me" and says he just wants some time alone
>>16636782
>I find my crush and we end up talking for what feels like hours as we walk around outside, share a cigarette, and sober up
>she tells me she isn't happy
>her bf puts his hands on her and says mean things to her to boss her around
>she feels distant from him and everyone else, and is now too embarrassed to rejoin the party
>we literally spend the next hour sitting under the stars talking about our relationships, our lives, and what we want
>she gets closer and I put my arm around her
>we end up just getting real quiet, holding each other
>she starts telling me that she knows this is "it" for us, that after tonight we probably won't see each other again because the office changed her position to a different department
>I feel my heart and stomach sink, tell her that that can't be true I will find a way to hang out with her
>she then tells me that she is happy with one thing
>says she knows what she wants now, and it's a relationship with a guy who supports her and makes her feel special, somebody who's stable and can always make her smile
>she then puts her hand in my lap and tells me it's me, and has always been me
>she knows the way I look at her, the way we talk and how we flirt
>she knows I want it too and wants me to say yes so bad
>but she knows I have a gf and although it's not my ideal relationship things seem okay and I shouldn't leave her just because some cute coworker told me to
>I start choking up a little
>I tell her I really like her too, that she's right about everything
>but I can't just leave my gf like that, I can't be "that guy" and what would her bf think?
>she gets serious and then says, "but why are you rubbing my back, anon? why are out here with me, listening and making me the most valuable person to you in this moment? why do you care so much about me if it isn't for this one moment you were hoping I might say I liked you back?"
>>16636787
>I really start choking back tears now
>"I'm so sorry... I want to... I just don't know what the right thing to do is. You're everything I want. I really care about you. I mean it every day when I say you're wonderful or fantastic or hilarious or anything. But I've never done this and I can't just leave my gf like that."
>"Well... she didn't have a problem leaving you, anon. She's not here, but I am."
>"I.. can't..."
>"I understand. You're a good guy. This could be something reallllly good, and I'm excited to have it with you. But I get it. It's scary and uncertain and you hate those things. I do too! You can't just up and leave your gf like that. I couldn't. I'm scared what my bf would think, but here I am..."
>"I'm sorry.. I'm so sorry."
>"It's okay, anon. It really is. I'm glad we had this night together."
>after that, we walked her back to her car, had the longest hug good night, and didn't talk again for months
>she switched jobs and moved out of town during this time
>I ended up shooting her a facebook message at her new job to congratulate her
>she wrote back and thanked me, and said she was glad I was "a gentleman" on that night, even if she meant everything she said
>she wished me the best and, since my letter asked if we could get together sometime, she told me she'd love to
>we set a date to hang out and bring our significant others, since they were both still in the picture
>she blew off the date...
>...and is now engaged to the guy
>my gf dumped me a year later over the phone because she met a coworker who asked her to leave me for him on a complete and total whim
>she accepted
>I didn't find out until 6 weeks later
And my friends, family and therapist all ask why I am so bitter at only 29...
Why did you office throw a banger?
I mean really, beer pong at an office party?
So I need your help in telling me how fucked I am and what I should do.
>Taking an online Computer Science class
>Promptly begins to fail the fuck out of it
>End up 7 weeks behind because I'm lost and understand nothing
>See dudes computer open with all the assignments that need turning in
>Download that kush
>Copy/paste the code and just change the name and some other code
>Turn in all the work that I was behind in
>Good going, getting full credit for assignments
>Accidently forgot to delete the name of the person I copied from
>Teacher sees that it's not my name and puts two and two together
>However I never knew the guy I cheated off of and told her I that we've never been in contact
>Told her my older brother helped me out with the programs
>Made up some bullshit story on how I came up with the name
>Says she's informing her boss to see how to handle this situation further
Now my question is she has no way of proving that I stole the files from him unless I admit to it. I also said that since we've been doing all of the same problems it's not unreasonable to think that our code would be the same. Only thing that I could think of that can prove me guilty is that I used Google Drive to download the files from his computer onto my account and they monitor the web traffic like universities tend to do.
So should I just come clean or keep going with my story?
>same name
>same code
who do you think you are fooling nigga?
You've clearly failed at failing, so you deserve what's coming to you.
Obviously, you can keep lying your ass off - and if you do that, I hope the consequences are terrible.
Well, assuming that he turned in his stuff as well she'll probably put them side by side and see how you pretty much copied it. And even if he didn't she would probably ask him what the fuck happened and then he'd for sure know you copied his shit.
I mean, wow. You really fucked up. You left the guys fucking NAME there!
Let's say you and your S/O were invited to a party. You hang out with your friends for a little. You come back and see your S/O is not around. Somebody tells you they saw your S/O go into a room with another person. You go to said room, they jump up quickly, you couldn't see much because it's dark.
Is it overreacting to think something sexual was going on?
>Separating at a party
>Not serving your girl drinks and keeping her in one place
It's like you want to get cheated on.
>>16636698
Definitely not. I will say that it's silly to ask any of these sorts of questions on /adv/ though, most people here will be willing to tell you ANY kind of suspicious or maybe out of the ordinary behaviour is 100% cheating.
However in this case that does seems weird as fuck and I would suggest you firmly press the issue until you get the truth.
>>16636698
If that really happened then the answer is obvious.
Last night a girl and I were walking around and started looking up at the stars and shit and commenting how pretty the night was, then we both kind of leaned in and made out for a bit. there wasn't any hestitation or pulling away from either of us.
but now I kind of feel like a rapist because, we were the only ones there in the park right then, so if she was uncomfortable she wouldn't be able to scream or get help. She never SEEMED uncomfortable and we talked afterwards normally but I still worry. is what I did rapey?
That is a really weird train of thought, dude.
If she was uncomfortable, she would've said so. You're not expected to be a mind-reader, and spontaneous make-outs are great if everyone is on board. It sounds like she was on board. Don't overthink it.
>>16636599
op
(a) stop being a faggot. women like it when you take charge. she enjoyed it. grow a pair of balls.
(b) after you break up she will say whatever kissing or sex you had together was rape anyway, so you might as well enjoy it.
this is the best advice you're ever going to get. sorry if that hurts someone's feelings, but not really.
I'm with you, OP. This one time I had sex with my girlfriend but there was nobody else at home so in a hypothetical situation I could have beaten her savagely. It's months later and our relationship is still running smooth, but the fear that it's only like that because I raped her so thoroughly she's been silenced into submission is slowly eating away at my mind.
Went on a job interview a week or so ago.
It would be the second time I have applied as I have interviewed with them and had the same outcome. I received a letter saying blah blah thanks for applying but due to the large number or applicants we have decided not to hire you or something. Thing is...idk why...im more than qualified.Not to sound like some ass but from what I saw in the waiting room...I should have been hired, everyone else was so unprofessional...post about times that you should have gotten the job..but didnt.
>>16636530
A lot of times, places only hire because they legally have to, but... a lot of times, they already have a candidate pre-chosen.
>>16636538
insightful ...thanks
>>16636530
Qualification isn't the only reason you get hired. There are a lot of elements, like how you fit with the team. Sometimes that matters more than anything - and you sound a bit arrogant.
>heard from three or more people (including my fucking mom) that my gf seems to not give a fuck about me
>been getting that feeling a lot myself
>New Year's eve, she goes to the countryside with her family
>this was thursday
>no internet signal, so no contact
>leave her two messages these days, one saying I was thinking about her
>comes back today
>gives me an extremely cold shoulder and goes to sleep
>says it's because of "my attitude"
I'll post the conversation below. Please tell me what the fuck I've done.
>>16636510
Just watched that today, and it was shit.
You chose a shitty gf
She thought you were clingy, and she might be right.
/adv/ I need you. For the first time ever. Seriously. I stumbled upon an album while random searching in picasaweb
>album consists of a little girl getting molested
>check the uploader name on facebook
>found only one legit profile with that name
>'murican redneck guy
>texan retard has a daughter.
>album's name is her daughter's name
>holy fucking shit
>underage
>he molests her sleeping daughter
>he takes pictures
>all pictures are sync'd to picasaweb because he's a murrican retard and has no idea that they're uploaded auto if not set otherwise.
>cp everywhere
>daughter has no idea.
>probably only sleeping, not drugged.
Since I'm no moralfag and I'm a broke 30 year old guy, I wanna juice some money out of this situation. I'm not an amerifag just in case anyone asks.
tl;dr: should I blackmail a pedo dad to earn some cash? or just inform the authorities and get a possible small reward?
I can't upload the found pictures because they are definitely cp, so don't even ask. However, there are normal, clothed, sleeping pics of her but I'm not gonna risk it.
This is serious stuff guys.
You are a real piece of shit, man
If you don't report him, someone else will. And when that happens, he'll come clean about you blackmailing him, which is equally illegal. It might even go further than blackmail, since you would have known about it and done nothing. Either report him, or don't, but don't try to use this situation to your advantage because you're not going to win.
>>16636439
what for? finding random public albums? Trust me, if i was a real piece of shit I would ask this on /b/.
>>16636440
makes sense. he's just taken the pics 15-16 days ago so eventually someone will discover them.
So, Where can I report it? Google would only remove the pics probably but would FBI be interested in this? Would they need my testimony and stuff? I'm asking because I don't know how these stuff work in USA.
If you take the time to read this and offer your advice, I will be more grateful than you can imagine.
I am depressed 24/7. I have been diagnosed with clinical depression, anxiety, aspergers, panic attacks and ADHD. I have a huge heart and people offend me all the time. My mental fog/fatigue is so blinding that I fuck up at work and I'll soon get fired. I have no interest in anything and don't enjoy anything. I am already on 7 pills and have been to 3 therapists and no one is helping. This girl messaged me on face book and I am afraid to message her back. I have no idea why, but my therapist says it is negative thoughts. Nothing seems to be going through my head, though. I hate school, too nervous to talk to girls, have trouble making new friends, and have no motivation to succeed. I don't want to be a homeless bum, but it seems I am spiraling to that dark place. I feel like that will be my life. The negativity I feel seems to be too much to face, and people with aspergers tend to have amplified emotions.
>>16636430
You have gotten farther than most people without those conditions. You need to continue to stay the course as hard as it is, eventually the seas will calm down to were you can handle it better. Also, if the girl shows you interest, go for it, it might improve your outlook.
>>16636430
>your life story
And, what do you need advice on?
>>16636445
just how to deal with my shit. It's far from my life story. It's just an explanation of the darkness in my head
My girlfriend and I have been dating for just over a year. About 2 months into our relationship I met her dad. Her parents got divorced when she was really young, her dad never showed up to court to attempt to get custody, so her mom moved about 8 hours away.
From ages 7-14 he never came to visit her, but occasionally her mom would bring her back over the summer to visit.
At age 15 her mom re-married and moved back to the city where she was born, and the city where I currently live. A few years later we meet and start dating.
Despite all this she told me how much she loves her dad, how he is one of her best friends, how he is so important to her and on and on.
So fast forward to the meeting, I go to his house for dinner.
>making sloppy Joe for dinner
>he lives with his GF of a few months and her two daughters
>Try to engage everyone in conversation at dinner
>GF is being friendly make small talk
>one daughter is kinda shy
>other daughter sits right next to me and starts harassing me
>I play along thinking she is 6 or 7 years old
>she asks me to guess who old she is
>I say 7
>turns out she is 12 and her nickname is Tater
>Tater is pretty chill we keep up the bantz
>I try talking to her dad and everything I say he just says "yea" or "okay"
>whatever fuck it.jpg
>keep joking with tater
>she throws a tater tot at me
>jokingly call her stupid
>leave
..contd
Dont really need to read the entire story OP, sounds like you think that she holds her dad in such high regard, and you look at him like a piece of shit...youre afraid hes going to start fucking with your relationship?
>>16636397
Tater sounds charming, wait 6 years.
I ask her how she thinks it went. She says she thinks it went okay. Over the next few months I occasionally see her dad, and I always try to strike up a conversation with him and he still gives me the cold shoulder.
Eventually my girlfriend tells me that her dad thinks I'm an asshole, even though I've always been cordial with him in person.
One day I'm looking through her phone and read her conversation with her dad. He's been calling me a fag, a bitch, a loser, and a douche behind my back. I ask my girlfriend about it and she says that she doesn't know why he thinks that either. I tell her I want to confront him about it, but she asks me to let it go so I do.
A few months later my girlfriend is at her dad's house again telling me that her dad is throwing his dog around and kicking it because it stole some food off the counter. I'm not a huge animal lover, but I think you should respect all creatures. After she leaves I call her dad and tell him that what he did is a pretty fucking sad, especially considering he did it in bunch of kids. I tell him that if I hear about him doing something like that again I won't hesitate to report him. On the phone he is respectful and just says okay, and asks me what I would have done differently. I just tell him that I wouldn't lose my shit and attack a dog in front of my kids. He says okay and hangs up.
A few weeks later he buys my girlfriend a car and says she can have it, but only if she breaks up with me. After a week of pressuring her and causing her all kinds of emotional hell and crying every night she refuses to break up with me so he gives her the car saying "lol only pretending"
