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>roommates stole some shit
>go into their room while they're gone
>they have a fucking security camera under the bed
Fuck. What the fuck do I do? I didn't notice until after I looked through their shit
>>16632227
*go into their room while they're gone to look for it
If they stole from you, and you're just taking your own stuff back, then you've done nothing wrong. Why would you live with people who steal from you?
Did you find your stuff in their room? How do you know that they stole from you?
How do I convince my gf to do anal
>>16632226
Me, I live by the rule: better say sorry than ask for permission. Take that as you will.
You become a ninja a sneak it In the back door
Can you do anal?
for love to come into your life, do you:
have to search for it and make it happen?
or
let it come to you?
>>16632169
You should know by now that love is just a short drive away in Flavortown.
>>16632171
>not falling in love every few years
>>16632175
>falling
therein lies my question
is it something you "fall" into?
or is it something you have to look for, say "this is going to happen," and make it a reality?
guy at work calls me "buddy" and it really bothers me. he only calls the men at work buddy, and i'm not even his buddy. he doesn't like me and told me i was no fun to talk to. he's not a bad person though and tries to be nice except for this one thing.
trying not to care but each time he says it i feel annoyed. help.
have you tried not being insane.
>>16632111
Ask him to call you pal, friend.
call him some name that he doesn't like
Then fight him in the parking lot when one of you has had enough.
What is the best way to cook a chicken for a group of people you've never met? Im not sure what any of them likes.
>>16632074
Rosemary chicken or teryyaki chicken. Cook it well, you don't want to kill your guests who trust you to feed them.
>>16632074
Fried. Fucking everyone loves fried chicken.
>>16632074
Grill.
What does a man say to his girlfriend of one week who actively talks to her ex's, spends time with guys she has previously fooled around with, and made out with her best friend, another female, avidly on new years?
>>16632058
Tell her that her behavior is bothering you instead of making a thread on 4chan wasting my bandwidth.
Jesus.
>his girlfriend of one week
does she know she's your girlfriend?
>IMG_5775.png
Is that you? What the fuck is your problem?
Btw this Chris is her ex. Do I just cut my losses?
>Can't decide a major
>wanted to do film at first
>but FUCK that the curriculum was so ugly, and the horror stories i'd heard
>came to realization, dodged bullet
>Wanted to do physics next because it was interesting and it would maybe get me somewhere
>Didn't like the idea of all the school, and search for tenor to research. A bachelors would get me a few good looks on resumes. but not physics
>decided to maybe write programs for physicists and astronomers who needed it
>Switched to Computer Science
>Spent my just my Pre-calculus class thinking about other things I could be doing
>lose motivation from not studying physics
>don't want to go back
>"maybe I can use this all to work on something fun like video games."
>use that to numb the pain for a bit
>girlfriend brings up 3D animation instead
>begin fantasizing about that in class
>"well, it's not exactly film.. and everything is 3D now right?"
>grow more dissatisfied the more I think about it in math class
>ditch final
>glad to be out
>Not sure what I'm really doing though
>google "3D animation" and mostly for profit schools and niche programs come up
>not sure what major I should be taking
>currently taking a transfer path for Fullerton's major Fine Arts: Animation
>uncertain of the future
>uncertain of my path in life
>don't want to waste time taking classes anymore
no matter what path you choose you'll need the basics so don't freak about "taking the wrong class". just focus on learning. even if you decide to be a burger flipper in the end, knowing calculus won't make you any worse or prevent you from being a better burger flipper.
in your spare time try to contact people studying what you want to study, of working where you want to work, and see if that's what you want. if you're still lost just pause your education till you can get your shit together.
>>16632050
But I want to know now, you know?
Like I've got some sort of idea..? I'm kind of decent when it comes to art when I'm winging it, and my gf says with more practice I'd be phenomenal.
I also think 3D animation might be a way for me connecting with Film, which I originally skimped out on.
But I just don't know where to go with it, how I'll end up.
The comforting thing with CS and Physics was, atleast I was pretty much guaranteed a job *somewhere*.
I know it's not going to kill me but it hurts not to know, and it's been driving me mad.
>Start at film
>go through real things people do
>arrive in fantasy land
you fucked up. go back.
>Is 29-year-old femanon
>Been dating a somewhat obese, average-looking guy
>He is nice but kind of boring
>I can financially support myself
>>16632007
Unless you're very attractive and a virgin before you met him you're not settling.
>>16632018
How is this relevant?
>>16632007
>>16632037
What do you want out of this thread? To be told not to settle?
>>16632037
He is saying it's the best you can do, it's pretty relevant, if a bit trollish.
I've been with my gf for just over a year, and I'm starting to feel, well, bored.
she's not my first serious gf, and I know all about the honeymoon period (which was over for us quite a while ago, being at a year together already), and while she is really cool, very nice to me, and such a sweet girl, I have started to notice how boring she is
Other girls I've been with, or been interested in, have really been able to keep me on my toes, and seem to constantly find new ways of surprising me.
One that I keep thinking of was a girl I knew/dated for a combined total of maybe 6 months, about 2 years ago. Smart, down-to-earth, in-touch in almost a hippy way, but not excessively so, devout Catholic, just a very interesting girl overall. because she was a devout Catholic, I never got any action from her, but I honestly didn't care. On top of that, I didn't masturbate, or really even think about it, for practically the entirety of us being together. And I'm the type to whack it at least once or twice A DAY normally. she just had some kind of magic over me where talking to her and being around her was enough.
now, my current girl, even after a year of being together, I can spend the night at her house, have sex in the morning, head home to do my stuff for the day, and whack it once I get home. the sex is amazing, but I think it's the mental fulfillment that I'm lacking, so I make up for it by masturbating, if that's even a rational way to think of it. there's no mental stimulation, no true desire to make myself better for her sake, no dreaming about this amazing girl or hanging on her every word.
I realize not all girls are like the one I had a while ago, but the fact that I had at least ONE makes me think there are others out there, too.
is it worth giving up the relationship I have to go try and find that again? or is it a fantasy that I won't ever find again?
Yeah, if you're already bored at just over a year, she's not the girl for you.
>>16631983
i suppose the root of my question is:
what makes a successful long-term relationship/marriage?
average amount of work put into someone who is just normal and not exciting to you?
or someone who might be really exciting to you, but stressful because of the excitement?
I feel like the girl I knew was definitely exciting and made me really fulfilled, but rationalized our separation later by telling myself I'd probably get tired of her wanderlust, her always asking questions, her crazy interest in seemingly EVERYTHING...
bumping because I could use some insight
the only thing that keeps me holding on, I suppose, is when she talks to me. if we don't talk for a few hours, and I start getting inside my own head thinking about this stuff, I start to have a crisis where I think "what am I doing, the last girl was so much better, I can do better, why do I have no excitement towards this girl" but then we start talking and I feel fine, even if it's about nothing.
is it just the attention I enjoy? the sex? it is amazing, but then again, I know other girls can be, too. I don't know. there's something about her that always keeps me going back to her, and I'm not sure what it is. i feel like if it's one of the aforementioned things, I can find that anywhere.
is it a red flag if I can't pinpoint what it is I love so much about this girl?
Hey i am so depressed. Tomorrow i am going to check myself into the hospitol. Does anyone know what i should expect.
>>16631922
Supreme boredom and more questions than you want to answer.
>>16631923
They wont let me have things to do
Check in by yourself ?
At the advice of a medical professional?
Do you have insurance?
Does your country offer free medical support? How much research have you done on the hospital?
Is it a psych facility or a general hospital?
Do you have any issues with rules and a set structure?
How are you with speaking in a group?
Hi, This is the first time I post here. Lately I've been severly affected by fear. I always think in the worst possible scenario of almost every situation and I can't avoid it. I already have colitis for being worried all the time. I really can use some advice.
Did a love one of yours die?
>>16631925
No.This whole thing started because I have a 16 year old dog and I feel very afraid and sad when I think of her future death, She is like part of the family and she's been my only companion during the last year. Tonight she was kind of choking after her meal and I just froze by fear. She recovered a few seconds later by herself but I couldn´t help her at all.
I always imagine the worst scenario and Im sick of it.
>>16631989
You're probably going to be sad. That's normal. Being afraid of being sad is not normal.
So i am 20 years old, going on 21 in may and i have not moved a single inch since high school.
I still don't have my drivers license because i cant afford the test and i cant get a ride into town to go sign up in the first place. I live with my mom still, im NEET. we have no income right now and i grew up in serious poverty. Ive tried job hunting but i live in a tar pit of a town of like 1000 people where most are on food stamps. Its hard to actually have any hope for my future. I have no help what so ever, most people my age have had help financially but i am left completely to figure it out on my own and i feel like ill be stuck forever. I cant find a job at all, even if i do i should be building things for a future. if i dont do something fast i will be doomed to be a retail clerk well into old age.
I also want to go to college but i just cant afford it, the loans, transportation to get there, etc etc. plus i dont even know who i am or what any of my interests are i have no idea what i want to do.
Its seriously starting to wither at my sanity, already had a mental breakdown in may over it.
I want to live comfortably and i want to make something of myself but i feel as if the system is rigged. either that or i have become self aware. I live in squalor, in a dirty trailer with my mom who is a hoarder.
Military also isnt an option for me. and im stressed out. ive made no progress.
How the hell do i beat poverty and get out of this white trash town. i dont want my life to be like this forever.
what the hell should i do?, i feel like there is a road block at every turn.
>>16631884
The military is probably a good option for you.
>Military also isnt an option for me. and im stressed out. ive made no progress.
Oh, why?
What's the closest city to you? How far?
How much money do you have right now, exactly?
Do you actually live on foodstamps?
Any other family?
You really are pretty fucked, but there ARE things to do.
Anyway, there are a bunch of actually legit only work companies - one I know of is called "Lionbridge". Basically, you look at google search results and determine how closely they match what a human expects. Google outsources to them. It's shit work and you actually work, and it average to about $5 an hour, but you might want to seriously consider it for your first $1000 to make a move.
There used to also be text services, one was called "KGB" or something, basically you would Wikipedia shit for people. I have no idea what morons used it, but my friend worked there. It might be out of business for now.
You need to apply to every single one of these places as a first step. Like tomorrow.
>>16631901
I have a slight record, and i have a history of depression.
Closest major city to me is grand rapdis, which is about 45 minutes to an hour away by car.
I have no money, bank account is empty
All of our food comes from food stamps right now. other than that we are completely without income. my mom likes to burn her own bridges a lot, and its affected me shes not malicious but she also is affraid of going outside or going anywhere at all in the winter, she just wont do it. only people keeping the lights on and rent paid is my grandma, and my moms boyfriend.
My dad is out of the picture, he hates me. so asking him for help is out of the question.
I just feel lost on what to do.
Im scared that if i go to college ill flunk out and ill be surrounded by spoiled kids who no nothing about what struggle is. surrounded by entitled liberalsa and do nothing be nothing but in debt.
But i also know that if i try to get a retail job ill be stuck there a long time and be miserable.
But i cant even get a retail job right now, i have a two going on three year employment gap. and i basically feel like human filth. i feel ashamed to be around anyone because im just such a fucking autistic loser.
everyone tells me is just lack of willpower but ive applied at even the shittiest jobs and not even gotten a single call.
i cant take this anymore, i cant live another year in this trailer park. this life isnt for me. i wish i was middle class
Alright /adv/ I need your help. I can't last for shit during sex. every girl I've been with has been disappointed in me in some way or another. It's really affecting my confidence, and this is my last resort. How do I last longer during sex?
Pic unrelated.
>>16631875
After you cum, just keep fucking. What's so hard about that?
>>16631878
Losing the will to keep going. I go limp almost immediately. Am I screwed?
>>16631875
personally, I really enjoy it when a guy can't hold his shit together very long. It's funny and cute, and also kind of a turn-on. Him being horny he can't help but cum turns ME on, and makes me feel really good. He can always eat me out until I finish if I'm not able to get off during the short time he's fucking me.
I feel like dudes are too hard on themselves when it comes to this- but maybe my thoughts are the typical ones, who knows.
How many dates in do you have to be before just "chilling at home with a movie" is a date?
Ive already done a coffee date, and a movie + meal + drinks date. As much fun as I think it is, shits expensive and its hard to think of good things to take her too. And desu I just really wanna chill and get some alone time with her
Havent seen her in a couple weeks because shes been away for xmas as have I, we've kept texting though and Im seeing her when she comes back on the 11th.
I think shes got exams around then too, so would asking if she just wants to come round mine and watch a movie be totally outta the question? We've already slept together (but havent had sex)
1. Have sex
2. Make her have orgasms.
3. Tell her you just want to stay home and chill.
4. She will do whatever you say as long as you keep giving her orgasms.
If that's what you want to do, I don't see anything wrong with that.
>>16631829
Just ask her.
My mom is addicted to narcotics and alcohol. she had been drinking again and apparently i have a rage problem. but only when it comes to her. she is the only person i have ever completely lost control with. i caught her trying to sneak vodka again and i grabbed her by the throat, screamed in her face, and when she wouldn't give me her purse with the vodka in it i punched her in the chest. later in the day, after everything had calmed down (she had tried to go to the emergency room for withdraw, then after 3 hours signed herself out because she was in so much pain from her rib, which is probably cracked, because of me) we talked a bit, she said something about me moving out because of this, and that i need to see someone for my anger, and that she is afraid of me now.
i feel bad. i dont know what to do. she has terrible health anyway i and just added another problem onto the pile. i dont want to wake up tomorrow, i just want everything to be normal again, i want my god damn life back.
Go to an Al-Anon meeting. Al-Anon is for relatives of alcoholics to find support.
You can't control other people, man, no matter how much you care about them. If it makes you crazy to be around it, you just need to leave. Hopefully she'll choose you over the booze, but it's her choice, not yours.
so sorry to hear that anon. it's not uncommon for people to act violently to their family when they feel that they've been wronged/hurt by the family. it's a subconscious thing but you have to realize that your reaction to your mother is rather clouded by this. you have to stop seeing her as a mother whom you sometimes love and sometimes hate but as a regular human being with a bunch of flaws like the rest of us. she needs help and so do you.
now, because your mother is scared from the incident, i would take a week break from everything and spend time away from her. when things cool down, have a heart to heart with her. tell her you love her but it just triggers something in you when you see her drinking. she will most likely deny that she has problems but this is normal. it's important that you do not criticize her no matter how much you feel like she deserves it because she won't get it and it'll only make things worse. i know you'll get angry and start having urges to lash out at her but try your best not to. the important thing is that you apologize for what you've done. you probably feel that your actions are a bit justified but that is not the case and she could have put you in jail if she wanted to. a lot of men who hit or even kill people feel that they are justified but we know this is often not the case.
afterwards, i would suggest you become a more independent person. i know you love your mom and it would suck to leave her in her state, but you have to distance yourself from her because she's not a good influence. you might actually end up in jail when your rage problems come back in the future and this would probably make you get angrier at your mom. don't let it get to that point. start having control of your life and try not to mind things that are not in your control.
