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Is she pretty?
Post yourself and I'll tell you if she's prettier than you, since that's what you really want to know.
>>16711467
She's aight, 6.5/10, maybe a 7 if she's got a decent body.
>>16711517
?/10 is she?
>meet girl at class
>super sweet and pretty
>instantly know she is too good for my sorry ass
>we become good friends fast
>I obviously have feelings for her but she is too good for me and has a boyfriend who is miles better than me and is also my friend
>she has to move to another country
>feel completely like shit, even tho I never got my hopes up for anything I feel heartbroken
How do I avoid this happening ever again? I feel like I'm going to fall for countless girls all of them too good for me and this is going to happen over and over again and that's going to be my life
First of all, stop thinking they're too good for you. If you think that, then they are. If you don't think that, then they aren't. Some girls are just not your style, they are never "too good" for you.
>>16711378
>First of all, stop thinking they're too good for you.
Literally this, You aren't doing any justice to yourself by saying that. Unless you're actually a bad person who manipulates people.
>>16711378
I'm a fat nerdy guy who plays mmos and is learning to draw in order to become a cartoonist most girls are too good for me, hell almost every girl is too good for me.
I try to be nice and friendly but that just gets you hurt in the long run but what can I do, I can't alienate an entire gender to protect my feelings
i just dont know. i dont get what im supposed to do with this life. i can spend every waking second working and doing whatever im told by people and thats fine but as a man im expected to both just do as your told soldier and at the same time be the leader and tell people what to do but i have no interest in leading but i dont want to just be the doormat. like there is no half and half no middle ground to me. its either your doing something or you arent. yet ive had experiences of mediocrity and middle grounds all the time which always leaves me unfulfilled. i try to think of doing something with my time here on this rock and yet it all seems futile. if im not the best at something why bother yet becoming the best at anything will take alot more time than just becoming better than average at it. but better than average isnt great. nobody gives a shit if your slightly better guitarist or gamer or what the hell ever. so why bother with anything? i dont see a point in goals long term or short. short term goals are just like good job son you did some small fucking useless thing that should have been done a long time ago
i could be described as a late bloomer to a pathetic level and it gets to a point where its just like its pathetic that you haven't done this already even when you cant even be in control of it entirely. i still dont have a drivers licence at almost 24 years old in 'murica which is obviously sad because EVERYFUCKINGBODY drove their daddys car at 15 and had years of driving to and fro the mall or whatever the fucking normal half rich kids did. yet i never had that. single guardian household so the one car was it, fuck that up and your whole family is donezo. so even now with my job which is almost stable, shit with shit pay but its mindless constant labor and no actual bills because loser living with parent im still scared to fuck things up.
damn bit of a wall there. my b. ill separate this one out better hopefully.
ive almost entirely given up on normal prospects of dating and life because of how twisted my worldview is.
the old tropes of internet atheist, basically misogynistic, conspiracy theoristish type.
like the worlds out to get you but your also to small to give a shit about.
like i find the idea behind insurance to just be purely a scam, but i also get why its a thing and legally forced and binding.
its like you could have money saved for cushioning for any event and oh crashed your car, right heres a few grand to fix your shit done and done, or you could ask someone to take money from you all the time and ask if they might give it back yet they reserve to right to say no you dont get it back oh and were increasing the amount you pay us because you fucked (or got fucked) up.
i get it but i dont want to.
but i need to have a car. not just to work at further places and get around and get shit. but because thats the only acceptable thing.
if i bike everwhere (as i do now) im just some hippie or one of them hardcore cycle to workout kinda people (which im neither, its just cheap as fuck even with a motor and shit)
but thats how id be seen. as just some dude who never grew up. or never got his life together (which to be introspective of it yes i havent im fully aware that im as you would say a man child in that regard)
yet because i havent been challenged into becoming a "man" i have no actual reason to step out of the safety of a bill-less relaxed home-life.
but my body my mind hormones and social pressure drive me to want sex and companionship but the brain above primal instinctual urges to procreate just to do so tell me its really a dumb fucking idea.
specially at this time in my life where i still dont know who i am nor what i want or need, specially from a potential partner.
i dont have any future goals or prospects because why? the worlds not gonna give a shit. im not gonna give a shit. and living any life is going to leave me unfufilled because i am deep down a greedy fuck.
and i know everyone else is too. which is why i dont give to shit like aspca and shit like that even tho i wouldnt want to hurt an animal or see one hurt but i know most of that donation just goes to padding some assholes pockets.
so i just kinda continue doing the same exact things every day. the specifics might change but its all the same.
i dont have hobbys, i just play games cause its easy to do and the moneys already been put in so i dont need to spend 2-5 grand more just to get going with something else.
i want to be more social but at the same time i know im just one of the worst people to be around.
bad breath, terrible half lisp cause by partial dentures, lack of social skills from being outcasted since 4th grade. i didnt take good care of myself growing up and ive paid back against some of that to try to fix it but its not enough.
i cant just change every single thing about me to fix me. cause then im not me im just whats wanted.
i dont really know what i keep going on for. not in a sad depressed life sucks teenage angst kindof way just in a what the point kind of way.
im not even fucking good at games even tho its the only thing ive ever done. but when pressed for a "hobby" thats the only thing i can even say so people just assume that if thats all you do than you must be good at them and yet im not.
ive been lied to enough by everyone or betrayed in a harsh enough way that i just cant trust people any more.
i dont have a close friend no best friends and i havent been invited to do anything in months when i know people who could almost be friends have done shit and it wouldnt have taken much time to get me to come with them pick me up shit like that.
i just know im not the type to be around people. but every fiber of my being is telling me thats what i want.
except that little nudge in the back of my head reminding me that im not supposed to be with them. i dont quite fit in.
ive never given a shit about anything that i could not just drop tomorrow and be fine. so i cant confide with people of similar interests because i dont have any.
i just sort of exist. and i just dont know how to care. its always said that you just sortof find your interest yet i continue to fail to find it.
i want to believe theres good in people and im to emotionally controllable to deal with most things but then i remember all the fucking fucked up shit that happens to everyone and how the only way to win in life is to fucking step on people piss on them feed parts to your dogs and bury them when your done.
and i just want no god damn part in any of it. i know im greedy and i could be called lazy but i try to be a good worker but at the end of the day i know im just a number with a bunch of other numbers in a faceless billion dollar corporation with more money than it knows what to do with.
bending down to people with virtual money in virtual stocks that mean literally nothing.
A guy I like (at my university) is totally off the grid. Nothing from google, no social media, nothing. Is this a red flag?
This is a troll thread right?
>>16711204
Its a green flag
Holy warriors live forever
>>16711204
Probably. He might be interesting and have some genuinely neat hobbies and experiences, but most likely he's scared, edgy, jaded, and too-cool-for-everyone, making him absolutely alone
>you're married for a couple of years
>relationship between wife getting cold
>forgot computer at work
>use wife's laptop
>get curious and open her history
>see this
advice?
Call my lawyer and start protecting my assets.
Don't mention anything till I get it all sorted.
Maybe even try get a friend to try fuck her and get it all recorded to use as evidence of infidelity.
>>16711203
Talk to her about it. You guys probably aren't communicating enough.
>>16711212
Wont change her mind though.
If shes looking for a way out shes not looking to fix the problem.
How do I ride the local monorail without snapping at the damned Chinese that won't speak English?
This shit grows old really quickly.
>>16711193
Nihao
Are you upset you can't understand what they're saying?
Do you feel like your country's culture is being raped because they are speaking chinese?
Do the sounds just grate on your ears?
Describe why this makes you mad and maybe more like can be shed on this issue
>>16711567
Goddamn rice niggers won't speak fucking English so now I hate the Boomers that let this shit go on for so long. I go to school in Vancouver and I don't even bother talking to other students because it's the most self segregated place on Earth. Pierre Trudeau go to Hell.
Sorry for being such a douch.
>>16711567
Sorry for ranting.
What's the point of living if nobody likes you?
>>16710968
Destroying the happiness of others
>>16710968
Who said there was a point?
But anon, I like you
c:
I am an average looking short dude, and feeling depressed because I know I do not have the looks or the game to sleep with someone like Margot Robbie.
Like, why live when you cannot get a chick like that! I am honestly feeling suicidal!
Is this normal?
Short guys date short girls.
>>16710981
She is waaaay hot to be attracted to someone like me.
>>16710984
Margot Robbie is hot if you don't stare at her for more than 1 minute
You quickly then realize she looks like a frog
I'm 23 and have only been with 2 or 3 guys ever. Whenever it happens I never really expect it, so I never shave or wax or anything, it's just whatever has grown since the last time I shaved/waxed for comfort.
Do guys have a preference of how much hair they want *down there*? I think it'd be nice to know. I'm comfortable with anything but I'm not sure how guys feel about it in general.
>>16710940
like this
http://i.imgur.com/R26Rl.jpg
Virgin here.
The less the better.
>>16710940
it's not a big deal. i mean, i won't sleep with anyone i'm in a committed relationship with so the last thing i care about is pubic hair. that said, when a guy has really long hair or a girl does, bjs/eating out does mean hair gets involved. and for sex, if i had to choose 1 i'd say trimmed or shaved means more skin touching vs hair touching but like i said, i don't sleep with someone i'm not in a serious relationship with and pubic hair is worth 0% of my concern... unless we start having sex regularly and she wants/i want to eat her out a lot. i imagine the same is with a bj, you'd rather suck/lick what you're going after than what you're going after + hair. 1 or 2 times though, who cares.
I don't even care about their size, weight, or physical appearance, I just want a girl who is still mostly sane and genuinely empathetic, kind, and understanding and willing to listen to someone else's point of view and life experiences without criticism. This seems nearly impossible to find.
i would love to know the answer
>>16710696
Date an Asian girl.
>>16711020
> asian
> empathetic
ahaha
I always feel like such a lecherous piece of shit when talking to women. I work as a research and statistics consultant for a university. Long story short, a senior student came in and asked me some questions about my job. She asked me not job related stuff to. I actually liked talking with her.
The WHOLE time while talking to her, I felt like a creepy piece of shit. Even though we were just talking basic stuff. I enjoyed talking with her, would it be creepy to message her on face book? Do you see anything ethically wrong with me talking to students in a more than friends kind of way or even dating the student body?
I worry about ethics because I consider myself a very ethical person. Help? Like, I don't know how to feel because I like talking to her but I don't want to be ethically incorrect.. I am only 2 years old than her.
FUCK! Why can't I meet women like this WHO DON'T go to fucking school where I work?
When you're attractive.
lift bro
>>16710776
Well the girl I was talking to seemed into me.. Or maybe I am looking at something that isn't there?
>>16710536
>I always feel like such a lecherous piece of shit when talking to women.
That's what makes it creepy. When you're overly self-conscious and it's leaking out. You hesitate more, your body language gets confused and you end up smack damn in the middle of the uncanny valley.
what a man has to do if he's ugly? in order to not die alone and virgin? there is a chance if im ugly as fuck?
>>16710055
Mail or bride from Korea or Thailand if you're poor.
>>16710055
Whores. That's the route I'm taking. I'm sure as shit not going to be the stereotypical man with an ugly wife who gets shit on by her for the rest of his life. Fuck that. I'm gonna bang hot bitches until I'm old and wrinkley
but i want a family
A girl i used to be friends with has become a vegan, and has gradually been getting more aggressive about it recently, wat do? (pic related)
Ignore her?
>>16710025
Ask her out for cheeky nandoes.
>>16710025
Any time she starts on about veganism, ask her important questions about veganism. Like, can she drink pee? What if it's her own pee? Is it vegan to be peed on by someone else? And so on.
Why would anyone study a foreign language that will not be that useful to them? Pretty much everyone in the world uses English as a lingua franca to communicate. Even if you learned something such as German, what are your chances of working in Germany/Austria/Switzerland as a non-EU citizen?
Why the heck would anyone learn a new language as a fun challenge? Why would anyone want to become a polygot? Why would anyone pick a foreign language as one of their majors for their double major program? Why would a Japanese person learn French or a Singaporean person learn Spanish intensively? It is just a waste of time and effort to a learn a language that is not "useful" to you.
Depends where you live. I live in Canada and I am currently learning French (we have two official languages).
If I didn't live in Canadian I'd either learn Arabic or Mandarin or Spanish.
It is interesting though to learn another language and I'd your job is somewhat meaningful it will be advantageous in the long term
>>16708347
Yeah, but how would Korean be useful in the Netherlands? Why would anyone learn a language for fun?
>>16708312
I learned to speak Russian because my ex is Russian and I could talk to her friends/family when we visited.
Since we broke up I use it when I go on holiday in Russia, Belarus and other countries that the population speaks Russian (like Moldova and Ukraine before everything kicked off).
Now I speak Russian when I chat to Russian friends in my town (the Russian community sticks together and has socials so there are quite a few people to talk to) and I curse in Russian instead of saying bad things in English.
Its also funny answering the phone to unknown numbers in Russian.
If you want to learn another language then do it, there are plenty of resources to learn from, also some other reasons to learn another language:
>you are more valuable in customer facing jobs
>you are deemed to be more intelligent
>opens up a whole new group of people to talk to
Granted it helps that there are people you cant talk to, but just because the majority speak English doesn't mean it doesn't help.
If you want to learn one for working in large businesses go for Mandarin or German.
HOW ANONS
>inb4 just bee urself
I'm an embarrassingly small man (5'4)
My dating prospects are fucked because women don't see me as a potential sex partner. They see my like a little kid, because even highschoolers are taller and more manly than me.
I have a fucking squeeky voice like skrillex too so that doesn't help. Even shorter women than me prefer a guy that's taller than me.
It doesn't just stop there either. Male friends don't respect me. I'm not one of the guys I'm just the pipsqueek tag along.
And I've met some cool dudes online that I'd like to go to a 4chan meetup with but I'm afraid of disappointing them. They all think I'm a normal sized human being
Is getting /fit/ the only way? Or is that just a meme?
>>16708223
Is this a troll? Trust me, your height is the least of your issues. Your confidence and self esteem is in the toilet and women pick up on that much faster than they do anything else.
The reason no one respects you is because you don't deserve respect. That's why you don't even respect yourself. You have more power than you think but criticize yourself as worthless when that's not the case. Bruce lee was only 5'7.
>>16708228
>JUST BEEE URSELF ANON
How is one seriously supposed to feel confident when they are emasculated by the mere presence of other taller men?
And if you really try hard at it people think you're "compensating" or have "napoleon syndrome"
