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Is there any hope for a trans woman in the middle of transition who wants to date mostly straight men?
I'm such a person, 20 yrs old (6 months on full-dose hormones) and while I don't pass over half the time I don't look like a "man in a dress," just an androgynous individual. For a while I had almost zero sex drive, but now it has resurfaced. I feel incredibly pessimistic about any prospects for dating guys that aren't chasers. As a corollary question, what tips do you have for a girl that has never dated for flirting/letting someone know...
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Most straight men, especially in conservative areas, won't think of you as a woman.
I'd say your best bet might be (straight or bi) FTMs or bi men honestly. While there are straight men who date trans women without fetishizing, they're vanishingly rare. Sorry.
>>16709409
are you the guy posting about his HIV recently?
Just faced kid, nobody wants you.
Straight men want to fuck woman.
Gay men want to fuck men.
You are left only with the deviants who actually are attracted girls with penis. However for that you actually have to be attractive. If you are not, there's not much to do.
>>16709409
We'll let's see a picture of you cause I'm straight.
but the normal man will disgusted by what you are cause what your doing goes against nature and how do you expect to love someone when you couldn't love yourself.
Why do women do this?
Exact same reason guys do.
>Joy division
>Radiohead
Red flags.
Why do nice guys do this to themselves?
>>16709342
Desperate attempt to gain companionship.
Question to girls:
How do you personally view quiet men?
If you are intrigued by them or mildly attracted etc, does this curiosity always eventually turn to repulsion and the feeling that he is just boring?
If anybody is willing to give some further advice based on the context of my life right now I'd appreciate it. I'm suffering right now and I'm spending hours each day double-guessing myself and the girl I am extremely attracted to.
Thank you.
>>16709106
>How do you personally view quiet men?
dealbreaker
It's more about confidence than how much you talk. If you're all meek about everything and seem unsure of yourself, most woman will hate that and into the friendzone you go.
Not a girl, but here is how it works
Good looking quiet guy
>mysterious, dark, intriguing, brooding, bad boy, has character
Ugly quiet guy
>loser, virgin, is he planning to rape me?? CREEP!!
Why do white guys lust after Asian girls (like me)?
A lot of guys I've met with yellow fever have this idea that asian women are meek and submissive
>>16708795
>that picture
Ugh, I have no idea. That woman looks like a FAS baby.
>>16708795
>>16708815
This. or just because its different from the norm.
3 days ago i was walking home from work and these 4 white guys across the street started to yell racist insults at me, loud enough that could hear them over my headphones and i took one off and I could hear them yelling 'fucking beaner' and 'these fucking spics' I made the mistake of looking over at them across the street then one of them runs across the street and punches me in the face, and brakes my glasses.
the others must have ran across the street and one of them kicked me in the arm before leaving.
unfortunately this has not been the...
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>>16708481
I was born in the US.
Move to a better neighborhood.
>>16708481
You stupid cockmuncher. Shut your fucking mouth.
I'm a celebrity, and no I will not name myself here. I'm tired of this lifestyle. I just want to give up all my life's earnings, and go into hiding and fade out of popularity.
donate your money, move to another country and live in the country side.
What do you even need advice for?
>>16708043
I haven't been in the limelight my entire life. I remember thinking how much I would hate it, but it happened to me, and I just need to know how to acclimate back to being a normal person.
>>16708049
I mustn't reveal anymore, for it would betray my anonymity.
any tips to improve facial aesthetics?
>>16707621
Haircut
learn to smile as your default expression instead of letting your face sit slack - not like, creepy, but just to look like you feel comfortable in your situation
Body language and how you carry yourself will take you further than you think. I realize this is less face related though.
pic related: not how to smile.
6/10
>Looks like a black Bruce Lee
Lucky bastard.
This is long, but it's really something that needs to be addressed. I'm a white male, 22. My gf is indian, almost 22. We have been together for 2 years when the following story took place: Throughout her life, her parents have been bringing her up in the indian culture they follow... Without her even knowing. Essentially, their culture dictates she needs to be in an arranged marriage with an indian male.
In general, her parents have been strict, so she was scared what they might think of her having a bf. Last August, when I secretly went to visit, as I did every...
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[Continued]
Fast forward to a few days ago. Her birthday's coming up and she asked again to come to my area. Instead of saying no, they re-stated the entire 'kicking her out' thing, and followed up by her mum now also not talking to her (except of course to use her discount at the store she works at), as well as both parents giving her angry stares when she enters the room. This sent her once again into a depressed state. Pretty much every week or so since this all went down, she'd get depressed and cry a lot for a few days. It's gotten the point...
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>>16706807
>In general, her parents have been strict, so she was scared what they might think of her having a bf. Last August, when I secretly went to visit, as I did every so often, they caught us holding hands in town. They basically told her she had to decide between me and her family, and if it were me then she was effectively kicked out of the house, once she had enough money to move out. The dad hasn't spoken to her since. I continued to visit in secret such as at christmas to give her a necklace,...
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Indian here. There's nothing YOU can do about it except support her if she needs your support. Also I don't quite see what part of what they're doing is supposedly illegal
Are there any girls on here that feel like cumming is a nesessity.
I feel that cumming is a nessssity. So do you think that you can just stop cumming alltogether, or do you need to cum
This helps me understand females
>>16706785
Some girls masterbate 3 times a day so im not sure if they can stop
I don't think I would call cumming a "necessity" to me.
>>16706785
Is it a necessssssssity for you?
>Get out of long-term relationship with porn addict
>Would tell me about all the things that were wrong with me and show me the girls I should look like
>Would break off plans with me to look at porn instead or cam girls (after 3 years of dating)
>In a new relationship
>Porn is terrifying now
I know that basically all dudes look at porn or at least hot girls, but every time I even think about it or see a hint of my boyfriend looking at other girls, I feel like killing myself.
How do I get over this?
How do I become okay with the fact that my boyfriend watches porn?
How do I become comfortable with myself and not feel like I'm a worthless, disgusting, piece of trash who will never please a man?
>>16706527
The reason men look at pornography is the same reason why women would cheat on them. Believe me. I'm trying my best to get past it for the betterment and lie to myself to encourage myself that I've defeated the addiction. Also I'd please her more than her trying to please me.
>>16706536
You are not a worthless, disgusting, piece of trash who will never please a man, period.
>>16706536
>The reason men look at pornography is the same reason why women would cheat on the
I tried my best not to believe this
I would never cheat on my boyfriend, that's deplorable
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I...
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My gf broke up with me 2 days after she talked to her parents about her sexual assault. The confession was very traumatic for her, aand she associates me with it. I've left her alone for the past week, but should I do to get her back?
>be me
>virgin
>in love with girl
>shes slept around a bit
>he amazing loving sex
>suddenly feel dirty and disgusted with her past
>break up
>start sleeping around
>she wants to get back together
Women should I do it. We were like in love but I couldnt get over it so I ended it. She...
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Gonna break up with my girl just because I'm not feeling it anymore. To her it'll come as a big shock as I've kept my inner turmoil about this. How do I deal with her reaction?
How do I successfully prevent myself from losing everything Ive worked for.
Like say for instance I married a homeless woman. If we get a divorce, how do I not have to shell out everything Ive worked for.
Theres some circumstances but theres a girl I love and its about time I started thinking about a family. But she barely has anything and doesnt really make enough to support herself.
While this isnt a problem its just that the thought of losing the things Ive worked towards because a marriage went sours makes me not want to do it.
How do I protect myself against...
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>>16705931
Hire a lawyer you numbskull.
prenuptial agreement.
>>16705935
Exactly
Why do more guys complain about TFW no gf than girls about no bf?
>>16705917
What?
Because even an ugly autistic woman can get a boyfriend.
Girls are the gatekeepers, they biologically don't have to fight for theyr generics to be carried on. Men do
>>16705917
They actually do. It's more socially acceptable to be a single male (bachelor), than to be a single female.
It's just that girls don't visit 4chins.
Male - Work, Study, Lift, Hangout with friends do crazy shit.
Female - Work, Bored, Cry, Rage, Gossip with friends.
Girls might have it easier having casual sex, but trust me they don't enjoy it like Guys do.
They don't feel lovable etc. without a man.
OK /adv/, I need help. I just started dating this girl, and it turns out that she's had sex with not one, not two, but FIVE men before me. I don't think either of us could truly love each other under these circumstances, and I was considering dumping her. Unfortunately, she knows my mother and I don't want her telling my mom that's why I got rid of her. How would I go about doing this?
Unfortunately that's pretty normal nowadays and it's only going to get worse as you age.
>>16705883
Five? That's like nothing.
Good luck finding a woman with a number less than that, they're few and far between now adays
>>16705898
this. you are pretty dumb, but dump her anyways. if you are insistent that mummy musn't know why you broke up with literally the only slut who'd give you a second glance, then lie.
'im sorry bb but we cant be together, its just not working out' is pretty much the most common break up line ever.
when ur mummy asks just say 'WHEN I MARRY A WOMAN I WANT HER TO BE AS PRETTY AND PERFECT AS YOU MUMMY' and then suck her tits.
My fiancée refuses to change her name.
We are, as of yet, actually breaking off the wedding because of this. I will not marry a woman who won't take my name. She says she needs to feel comfortable married for a while first and would consider changing it at a later date.
What do you think?
If you threw a bitchfit about it like that I wouldn't marry you either.
It's not a big deal, man up
>>16704963
When did I say I threw a bitchfit?
I told her that I'm sorry, but I can't see myself marrying a woman who won't take my last name. Marriage is a leap of faith, and I know it can be scary, but it's beautiful and that's the way I see it.
No bitch fit.
