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help me /adv/
ive been cheating on my gf for months with different girls and i feel pretty terrible about it.
It started when my gf stopped having sex with me for months due to psychological issues. She would turn me down constantly. I felt ugly, resentful, unattractive. We had lots of talks but it took 5 months for things to get back normal. Things are back to normal now. But we still don't have as much sex as I want(I have a high sex drive). I'm also incredibly terrified of commitment and scared of falling too in love with her; this makes me feel a little more comfortable, and deeper down I'm a pathetically lonely person and I have no one in my life except my gf...90% of it is just for human companionship because I have no friends. And she keeps gaining weight. Over 30 lbs. She's 200 lbs right now and she looks like she's getting bigger.
ever since my first who I loved dearly cheated on me I've never been the same or able to trust women. It hurt me immensely and I use this as psychological protection in case my partner does it to me.
>>16720717
>ive been cheating on my gf for months with different girls and i feel pretty terrible about it.
Didn't even have the read the rest. Tell her what you did and then kill yourself. Don't forget to tell her first though, otherwise she'll feel sad after you die.
>>16720720
why would i kill myself
>>16720737
because you're a jerk
Evening /adv/
Posted UCAS last week and I have three firm offers already (all for straight up History).
Manchester
Sheffield
Lancaster
Still waiting to hear from
Bristol
Durham
Only concerns are quality of education and quality of degree. Not remotely interested in "student life".
Any thoughts?
pic unrelated
Bump
I'm in /adv/ right?
>>16720672
>Any thoughts?
bongistan?
is the curry really good there?
Quel surprise
/adv/ is utterly useless
Well done. You're actually worse than /r9k/
Will becoming ripped solve my problems?
>>16720624
No, if you're a socially awkward or a tool before being ripped you'll still be afterwards.
>>16720624
No. Your problems rest in your mind. Even if you were ripped and got lots of girls, you'd crave a stable relationship, and if you had a relationship you'd crave the freedom to be with lots of girls. If you had both, you'd still feel unsatisfied-- perhaps you'd think it all shallow or empty, or you'd find some other areas in your life that is the problem.
Everything in your life is already alright, you just don't realize it yet.
It doesn't fix awkwardness but you might get more looks.
Any other foreveralone guys on here? Any tips on how to deal with this? I would greatly appreciate the advice.
Just focus on your passions hobbies and financial standing. Eventually the visual novel of life will let you know when it's time to make a move on an available girl
>>16720330
Focus on your life and everything'll be alright.
>>16720377
i get what this guy is saying>>16720370
>Eventually the visual novel of life will let you know when it's time to make a move on an available girl
i feel like this guy is making fun of me ;_;
Somewhat of a rant, so here goes.
Sometimes I get so unbelievably frustrated with my girlfriend. Mainly for two reasons, being that she is incredibly lazy about certain things, and because sometimes we are playing and joking around, and then out of nowhere she snaps, because all of a sudden I'm getting out on her nerves.
So firstly I'll describe what I mean by lazy. I'll give you two examples.
>Wake up when my alarm goes off at 9
>See I got a call from my GF at 8:53
>I call her
>She says she was going to get me breakfast, but she is in the drive-thru and already ordered
>I ask her if she can't just add something to her order for me
>She says "Yea but that would be really inconvenient"
>So I tell her that it really wouldn't take that much effort, but if she doesn't want to she doesn't have to
>She gives me the "Oh my GOD, FINE, if you really want me to, but it's just really annoying"
>I tell her to forget about it
Now I know this seems petty, I'm really not upset over the fact that I didn't get breakfast. What I'm upset about is the fact that she offered to do something, redacted the offer, and then didn't want to spend an extra two minutes of her day to do something nice for me.
A similar thing happened the day after that
>She is at work
>asks what we're doing for dinner
>I tell her I'm cooking
>she tells me she wants to help
>she gets off of work
>I ask her if she is ready to cook
>she says she doesn't feel like it
>she asks me why I waited until she got home to cook when I was home all day ( I get off work a few hours before she does)
>I tell her because she wanted to help me cook
>she tells me she no longer feels like it
As an aside, why do women ALWAYS think that they can promise things, and then say "teehee I don't feel like it anymore :(" is a valid excuse to get out of it? I've noticed almost all girls do this.
contd..
Pic is some anon's gf that was posted here
> I say whatever
> She tells me she will do the dishes
> Okay, fair enough
> I cook, towards the end of the meal she asks me if we can do the dishes tomorrow because she is really tired
> I tell her fuck it, I'll do them
> She gets upset and does them by herself because she felt guilty or something
So that's part one. Am I just being a whiny bitch? Is this serious. She does shit like this all the time, but these are the two most recent example that ended in an argument I was able to come up with. But it seems like her whole life revolves around spending the least amount of effort possible. She always waits for me to get up, and then she asks me to bring her food, or a drink. Or whenever it is time for us to leave she always forgets something upstairs and she wants to get it for her.
When it comes to that sort of thing she is just so god-damn lazy that I want to slap her shit in sometimes.
Other than that she is really great, but this type of behavior just fucking eats away at me, and leaves me disgusted.
My gf isn't fat, but she really is kind of a lazy slob.
please respond
>>16720264
>What I'm upset about is the fact that she offered to do something, redacted the offer
But she didn't redact it, the offer expired. I wouldn't add anything to the order either, that's a pain in the ass.
The second example, yeah, that's just a shitty thing of her to do.
Been dating girlfriend for a 1.5 years. About 6 months ago she got a birth control implant.
Sex has dropped exponentially. We used to have great sex at least twice a day now it's down to once every 2-3 weeks. I feel like a fucking sex fiend. I'm literally always horny. I jack off like 5 times a day.
I just hate feeling unwanted. She rejects anything sexual. ANYTHING.
She used to love it when I played with her bobs now she doesn't want me to do that or acts like I'm a creeper whenever I grab her them even though she loved it when I randomly grabbed them.
She always has stupid excuses and always seems to go to sleep conveniently when it is the best time for us to have sex.
I kept asking her to tell me what's wrong and why until she yelled at me that she was sexually assaulted when she was little and now she blames us not having sex on me because I asked her what was wrong to the point of her letting out such information about her past.
What in the fuck man. I felt horrible but then I realized the frustration I'm feeling is normal and that I didn't do anything wrong to try to figure out why the person I love so much doesn't even try anymore.
Before the birth control we used to have sex all the time, as mentioned. So why is it that after the implant old repressed memories started to come out?
Someone please help because I'm getting really tired of this. I'm insanely unhappy but I feel horrible for wanting to break up with her over this.
>got a birth control implant
This is where you fucked up. Bad.
What? They used implants like that to sterilize unwanted black Jews in Israel. Those are really bad for your health. Your bone density crashes and you're in constant arthritic pain
Instead of worrying about your penor, maybe you should think about your girlfriend
Kek boobs*
Unrequited love is killing me.
Please help me /adv/
I am a wizard btw.
Same OP. I actually haven't confessed yet but that's because I already know they don't like me. I want to get over it but I can't.
Get over it and find someone else if they don't like you. It's a gigantic waste of time.
I was comfortable with my life. Now I'm a mess.
For example I am at work feeling pretty OK when suddenly I have a terrible outburst of disappointment first thinking of her for a split second and then thinking "what the fuck am I doing here? what's the point in all of these?"
And not to mention those painful waking moments after dreaming of her.
I don't even want advice on how to get a gf or this specific girl for that matter (which has already made it abundantly clear that she's not interested in me).
I just want the pain to stop.
I once read that guys don't actually really like handjobs, because they can do handjobs themselves and they're the experts, so to speak.
Is that true?
(I'd prefer answers from guys who've actually received handjobs.)
And how much less appreciated is than a blowjob, or sex? Like if you'd put in on a 10 scale rating or something.
More is better.
>>16719586
Yeah, but is it like such a disappointment it's not even really worth it?
And does it feel as good as when you do it yourself?
yeah handjobs are pretty much pointless since no one can pull it like you can
its like you masturbating vs a guy using a vibrator on you, sure its nice and all but you're the one with the brain hooked up to that vagina so he can't know what works or what exactly you want as well as you can. All physical intimacy is nice but blowjobs are much better
My boyfriend is my best friend but I don't love him in that way anymore... well, at least I don't think I do. I have infinite care for him but that thing that makes us partners is missing... He feels like just a friend.
I think it all started when I sensed he wasn't attracted to me anymore, so I started to get insecure and shut myself away a little bit.
Lately, I only give/show him the parts of me he can't hurt and so now he has slipped into just a friend tier kind of guy.
If I break up with him, he'll never want to see me again and so I lose my best friend too.
Just to clear things up:
There is no one else.
This is killing me every single day I spend with him.
>demoted to friendzone
>>16719515
Maybe you should stop being unattractive to him so that he'll get passionate again and rekindle the spark. A diet and a haircut and a change of makeup is a good start.
>>16719546
I have no interest in changing my appearance. I am not unattractive to other people or myself so I am not going to change myself for one person lol
He is highly attracted to black girls, I can't change the color of my skin.
Split up with my gf more than two months ago. We don't talk to each other at all, but I still miss her, even after the time. She has an instagram though but it's private, never had an account so I could never follow her. I know it's creepy but sometimes I just go on to her ig even when I know it's private.
Last week I got drunk though and checked her ig and it wasn't private. She deletes a lot of her pics in retrospective but she still had the pic of a gift I gave to her for her birthday (which was a couple weeks before we broke up) with a little heart in the description to it. It wasn't anything fancy like an expensive jewel she would keep in there to look interesting, she wasn't like this. It was just a little gift I bought to her and it made her happy.
What does it mean? Why didn't she delete it if she no longer wants me in her life?
>>16719477
Let her go. Just let it all go. That was from a different time.
>>16719491
Do you think she would deleted it if she hated me? I'm not sure how she even feels about me now.
>>16719503
Does it matter? It's clear that she is done with you. Gotta let her go man. Move forward.
Are asperger people dangerous or can they harm others? Because there is a weird-shy guy in my school and he is always alone, but smiles at me all the time ( I think he is in love with me?)
This scares me somehow and I have seen alot of movies where such people get crazy when rejected. What should I do?
Report him to other people so he finally stops doing this?! Help
I'm sure It still depends on the person, some just hurt themselves & some are crazy fuckers who hurt others.
>>16719404
Best thing is to call him out on it and shame him. Try laughing when he enters a room or something; just do things that make people aware of how uncomfortable he makes them. Hopefully you'll cause him to lose all his self-esteem and he'll go commit suicide. He probably won't turn into a school shooter since most robots don't have the balls to go that far.
>>16719404
What kind of human shit gets mad at someone just trying to be nice? Not everybody has it so easy, some people just want to make friends but can't because they're socially awkward.
I mean you don't have to lead him on or anything, it's not that bad to reject someone as long as you don't do it in a really public or embarrassing way. Don't talk to others behind his back either, that's so childish and fucked up I don't even.
IF he ever makes a move (he probably won't), calmly and politely tell him that you're not interested and don't be a bitch about it. Real life is not a movie. Also fuck you.
Pop quiz time hot Shots
your a girl (or pretend if your not)
were in a singles bar
I nervously walk up to you and engage in some awkward small talk
offer to buy you a drink
what do you do?
Go 'eugh' and walk away, as usual.
>>16719054
>your
>were
dropped
Depends on how you make small talk. Can I get a White Russian?
hey gang
i want to get a black gf, any tips or advice on the finding and seducing of such a woman? i dont really have any experience (or know any), so if theres any key differences or pitfalls from regular girls please feel free to share. i live in cambridge, uk (working, not at the uni)
come on guys i know someone out there has something for me
>>16718770
Black anon here.
You better look somewhat "good looking".
Have a bit of Street in you.. (Not Wigger)
>>16718874
>You better look somewhat "good looking".
>Have a bit of Street in you.. (Not Wigger)
That's one line of thought...
Another is to be educated and have a decent job and some money.
That way, you can get yourself a black girlfriend worth having--one that won't settle for all the losers that so populate the black community.
Long before i met my current wife I once shared a night of passion with a woman in Atlanta. it was ehen i lost my virginity. I still live in Georgia. She moved to california. I recently learned she died in 2003. I sort of feel she should of been buried in Georgia where she is from but when i cotnacted her parents on facebook about it they blocked me and they refuse to talk about it over the phone.
what legal steps can i make to get her exhumed and moved to georgia? theres a nice spot in a local cemetery with a oak trees nearby that i particularly like. i think it is perfect and if i move fast i can secure this spot for her.
bro you need to move
the
fuck
on
>>16718443
this might be the codeine speaking but never will i ever go on /adv/ on friday again.
>>16718443
To start I think you should divorce your wife for being such a raging autistic beta cuck
Then you can cry about it on the internet
Seriously though, why do you care? How do you know she would've wanted to have been buried in Georgia? You're being selfish about a girl that probably stopped thinking about you long ago. Move on anon, holy shit
h-how do i get friends and a gf?
>have a coworker, early 20's
>good looking, funny, fun, has a story for everything
>has tons of friends, every other day he goes to a bar or a party with friends
>has hobbies and interests too
>be me
>ugly, boring, no friends, socially awkward
>don't do anything except stay at home
>no hobbies or ambitions
>aging, late 20's
everyone seems to have an eventful and interesting life. while i just stagnate and sit at home, reading, watching tv shows or browsing 4chan.
how do i even go about changing this?
start going out change you looks (new clothes idk new shoes)go to bars meet other people that are sitting alone and talk to them. talk to people at your work see if they want to go out (eat or watch a movie anything really)
>>16718093
It's a myth of adulthood to have lots of friends. Even coworkers are rarely friends outside of work.
When you get a career going with a family and kids there is little or no spare time for friends.
Of course an early 20s person would seem interesting with a great social life because they are just out of college where they had ready access to easy social opportunities. Don't get discouraged comparing yourself to others like that.
You know when you are out doing mundane errands like getting groceries? Try talking up someone in line instead of being a quiet zombie robot going through the everyday motions of life. Things only seem mundane because you aren't actively engaging your surroundings.
>>16718093
Start a social hobby like a team sport or rock climbing or whatever, just something to do that involves interacting with people. Be friendly and open. Learn names, chat with folks. Invite them out for drinks.
>>16718239
Having kids the real killer. Merely being an adult with a long term relationship and a career doesn't kill friendships, though making a keeping friends as an adult is definitely more effort.
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