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I recently followed a link dedicated to one of my favorite fetishes. A weird fetish that I have been clean of for like 6 months. I feel like an addict again wanting it every day, even after I just jacked off. I will get disowned if someone catches me with this filth. If anyone knows how to quit weird fetishes, it's 4chan. Any tips to stop this urge?
>>16731560
People don't stay here because they are good at quitting, OP.
>>16731560
What's the fetish?
Dudes turning into hot ladies by magic.
I need to get vomit out of carpet fast, got sick and I live with my parents, they haven't found out yet and I need to clean it up before they do
I also have no carpet cleaner or club soda, I would also like to clean up the smell
>>16731336
Do NOT use bleach
Man this is why you should NEVER get carpet. Carpet is disgusting.
I need help. I'm obsessed with this girl I used to date and I can't get her out of my head ever. It's been years. Therapy hasn't helped, medication hasn't helped. I don't know what to do anymore. It's never going to happen and I know that but I keep sabotaging every chance at a relationship I get because my mind keeps going back to her and for some reason keeps thinking there's a chance.
Help me. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. I've asked on /adv/ before and I've tried everything you guys have suggested.
There's just this crippling thought in my mind that if I don't give up on her I'll get her one day. Every time I start a relationship it always strikes me down at my weakest and tears me apart.
I don't want this anymore /adv/, I really don't. I don't want the rationalizations of why I shouldn't ask a pretty girl for her number or why I shouldn't ask to go on a second date.
I just don't feel happy except in those brief moments where my mind is convince that maybe it'll work out with her.
>>16731306
>>16731271
Have you tried dedicating your life 100% to something new? like becoming the best scientist or best athlete in the fucking world? put all that energy into something new.
>>16731338
Been there done that. I've tried picking up numerous hobbies and dedicating myself to my work.
I learned the guitar (and I'm good at it), I got myself to a very high rating in Dota 2, I spent a few months just doing volunteer work as a software engineer for nonprofits..
I basically did all of those at the same time and it still didn't stop the feelings. I kept pushing forward into my profession and music but it never helped.
What is a definition for millennials better than millennials are confident, connected, and open to change
I don't dislike millennials because I am one and I really believe for the most part we are those things, all well as being the the smartest generation humanity has cultivated. But by better do you mean a definition that's less bias?
>>16731283
I'm required to argue a definition that's is more effective in describing the millennial generation
It can be any definition as long as it's somewhat easy to support
My parents are forcing me to go to my prom.
>I have no friends
>never had gf (I'm not fat or ugly, I'm always just lied to or betrayed. I tried asking)
>never been to dance/party
>everyone is either pompous, a liar, Chad, or plain retarded
What the hell am I supposed to do? People will just wonder why the fuck I'm there alone, and I will think that myself. I was thinking I just sit in a bathroom or closet the whole time, perhaps weasel into a few photos so my parents don't get pissy.
tell them youre going then fuck off to someplace else
Well maybe you have no friends because you have these personality flaws.
A lot of people go stag to a prom. People will not wonder why you are there alone. Go to your prom, try to part with your classmates on friendly terms, eat and drink it up and weasel yourself into as many photos as possible.
Assuming you aren't underage b&, just go somewhere else or use this opportunity to chat with someone and socialize like a normal human bean.
Just don't be one of those pathetic losers who hides in the bathroom and plays their 3ds or some shit.
How do I Tinder? I just want casual sex. What do?
>>16730795
>be attractive
>swipe right
>>16730814
What if I'm average though?
>>16730818
Settle for fatties
So I have this girlfriend. She moved in 2 months ago and things are great. We're both really attracted to each other and have sex constantly. She pays rent and also cleans while I'm at work and makes my breakfast and lunch and gives me blowjobs when I get home. She bakes treats for me like cookies and cobbler and muffins. We talk about getting married and are together every second of the day besides when I'm at work. We haven't been apart since we met.
But last week a guy from her friend group that she hooked up with a few times texted her. I was right there so she knew I saw and ignored it. But I got curious and checked her texts when I got home the next day. Turns out she had texted him back and they made plans to hang out on Friday. The one day he's free before 3(the time I get home). I confront her on it and admit to going through her phone. She says that she didn't tell me cause she knew I'd get upset bit that she just didn't want to be rude and create drama in her friend group. I said fine. But she ended up not hanging out with him Friday. She stayed home and painted all day. I thought she just felt guilty but then I checked her messages again and found out that they didn't hang out because he woke up too late. I checked again on Saturday and she was making plans again asking when he didn't work in the morning. They decided on another day. So today Monday I half confronted her about it and said that I couldn't really trust her. I didn't tell her I went through her messages though and she swore to me that she hadn't talked to him since Friday.
She lied to me. And then I just checked her messages again 20 minutes ago and she has deleted a good deal of texts between them to make it seem like she hadn't talked to him since Friday.
Now I know I'm also in the wrong for invading her privacy but I can't handle the fact that she lied right to my face.
But also we have such a great time together and she does so much for me I just don't know what to do
>>16730712
I love that shit like this is considered violating privacy. Like you're supposed to sit around and let her lie to you and not snoop. I swear some manlette cuckold wrote the rules to relationships.
Bro, this doesn't look good at all. She's hiding it from you because she doesn't want you to know about it. Why doesn't she want you to know? I'd be real with her and tell her if it happens again she doesnt have a home to return to. Don't put up with lying, that's one thing both males and females are way too lenient on in relationships.
She's going to lie right to your face the MORE you invade her privacy and the MORE you make a big deal out of the whole thing, because that makes you look petty, not the "I got this in control" guy she thinks she has been dating, and not the "I love her for who she is, and I'm just not acting out because of the convenience the relationship brings".
If your girlfriend really liked this guy and wanted a relationship out of this guy, she sounds like the person who would have pursued one with him, and not in a relationship with you at all.
If you believe the guy is the kind of person who would see no problem in inducing her to cheat on you with him because he feels he is "better" than you or because your relationship is objectively one-sided and shit (she does everything for you, all you do in return is yell at her and making her feel bad for an interaction that has nothing on her part), this is something you should reflect on your own and change about yourself.
My advice? If you know when they are going to meet since you went through their phone, arrange a date with her either just before, just after or on the same day and make it known that you have plans to spend actual time paying attention to her in a way that will leave her too exhausted to see him.
>>16730780
I feel like you're one guy singlehandedly making adv a good board again
Basically I think leg wear on women is great. Stockings, thigh-highs etc are all hot to me.
However, I can't seem to convince my gf to wear them. She considers them "granny-ish" for some odd reason.
The worst part is, she said she would wear them, brought them over tonight but when we finally got to having sex she wouldn't wear them. I was so excited as well.
So yeah, any advice?
Do you like real women wearing them, or only animu girls?
>>16730580
wear the yourself
tell her you'll swalllow a living hamster if she won't
call your local iman and tell him that your gf disobeys you
ask your bros for help so they hold her still as you force stockings on her legs
>>16730624
No no, real women too of course.
He broke up with me in 2014.
I've just got dumped and he's engaged.
Hold me, /adv.
>>16730520
Get over it. He obviously did.
>>16730532
I was over it, until my boyfriend dumped me ;_;
>>16730520
My ex was fucking another guy 2 days after we broke up.
Shit hurts op, I know.
how to attract girls and get laid?
>>16730502
Go to a brothel without about five hundred dollars. You'll attract a girl who will have sex with you in exchange for your money.
>>16730502
Shower, shave and go outside everyday to something other than groceries and work.
How do I overcome sexual shame? 22 year old virgin who is apparently good looking (received plenty of passes from girls in the past) but I'm too timid socially and sexually to escalate and have actual sex. Will this go away when I finally lose my Virginity?
>be best friends with a girl
>jokingly troll her for years by asking her out of dates
>bf sees this and gets possessive
>starts trying to pester me and annoy me away
>I back off
>shes determined to hangout with me
>he tries to drive us apart
>succeeds but we make up literally the next day
>shes so heartbroken from losing me for a day she kisses me
>I dont see him as a person anymore after trying to end our friendship so I have no problem sleeping with her
>they break up a month later
How guilt should I feel. I feel nothing for him at all. I havent forgiven him either for what he did. I just feel bad because I enabled my best friend to betray someone even though I dont care about the person she betrayed.
You were honest. He was a dick. Situation fine.
Be there for your friend if she feels bad. Otherwise party.
>>16730307
Don't feel guilty. Based on what youve seen, possessive etc.. he was not a good person. Maybe you gave your friend the vision to see him for what he really is before they proceed further.
>>16730322
Pretty sure this was his first gf. He wasnt a bad person. A bad bf sure. I feel like if he came to me instead of going behind my back and trying to end a friendship I had for years we could have found a middle ground and all been happy.
Its unlike me to not choose the best path for everyone but I literally feel nothing for him. Maybe hes the first person Ive truly hated before.
sitting in the library I started fantasizing about girls like I usually do. I thought about this one chubby girl and I thought about doing things to her in the elevator. her scent, the type of her panties, her hair, her lips and warm tongue, all of these things that I was imagining got me stiff pretty quickly. however, the moment I started drifting to the actual deed of penetration, I almost immediately lost my hard on.
that's when I realized that while I'm attracted to girls, I'm not actually attracted to pussy. like the thought of making out with a hot girl is 10 times more erotic than the thought of penetrating her.
any other guys like this? I'm worried about my sexual psyche and if it's healthy to be like this. desu I masturbate to tranny porn more than incidentally. hence my concern.
thanks for reading.
>>16730015
Would you say you're the kind of person who wants to be pleased, or the kind of person who wants to please others?
>>16730031
the latter.
>>16730015
I used to be like this back in the day until I made out with girls a few times, it really gets quite old to undress someone and then just not go all the way.
i have a former prisoner at work, apparently he was a bulglar, firestarter and attempted a murder - he got out of the jail after 2 years due to snitching on his accomplices
he spread a lie at work that i'm a thief, i confronted him about it which he denied and then talked shit behind my back that he would do me harm
what do i do with such an individual? can he just say anything and do anything to me?
>>16729741
What country are you in? Just curious about local homicide laws
anyone?
>>16729741
Tell your superiors that he is slandering you and making threats.
Seriously, don't fuck around and pussyfoot on this. Report the problem.
To be likable you must meet some standards, but at the same time you should be yourself
If you want to get a gf you must go to the gym, get a high-paying job, get social hobbies and travel in order to meet her standards, but you always have to be yourself
If you start to change in order to please others you are wrong, but being who you are is also wrong.
Explain this
>>16729644
Where to start...
"Meeting standards" is not the opposite of "being yourself." It's very possible to do both of those things. I mean, do you have such a shitty opinion of yourself that NOT meeting other people's standards is central to your self-identity?
I don't know who told you that people should never change, but that person didn't know what the fuck they were talking about. People change and improve themselves all the time for a whole bunch of reasons, and attracting people is one of them. Nothing is wrong with that.
Changing something fundamental to your personality is a stupid idea. e.g. pretending to be an extrovert when you're actually an introvert. You'll burn yourself out that way and it won't make you happy. But improving yourself, getting an education, being healthy, working hard, trying to create something new? These are things we should all be striving for.
Look at yourself. Would you date you? No? Then why would anyone else?
>>16729644
I don't know what the fuck your pic is trying to say, but I'll do my best with your actual post.
Essentially, the answer is not necessarily to change yourself or just be yourself, but rather to BECOME yourself. In other words, cultivate your good qualities and develop yourself to your higher potential.
You might currently be a fat lonely NEET, but that doesn't mean that's the only kind of person you should be. Nor does it mean you have to throw everything away and master the art of underwater bioguitar engineering to make $700k starting.
You can be true to yourself (whatever that means to you) AND improve yourself.
>>16729673
I've always been changing and i'm always alone it doesn't matter who i am or what i enjoy in the end i'm alone doing something trying to find some sort of happiness but it's just escapism, because i don't any kind of fullfilment
>>16729681
Sounds impossible since i only know my weaknesses
Anyone else have mentally ill family members? It makes you realize why previous generations threw crazy people in a locked room and left them there. They behave like children and expect you to treat them like adults. Thank god I've been tested, I'm sane. I wish just once in a while they'd say, hey, I know I'm fucking crazy so thanks for putting up with me. But they're too proud for that, too proud to admit their brain is broken. Honestly at a certain point they don't deserve understanding, they should just be committed. Some people are just damaged, why go through the farce of them living a 'normal' life at the expense of everyone around them? I guess I'd like some advice but I know the only option is moving away which I'm doing very soon
>>16729632
Having a named disorder isn't an excuse to treat other people like shit. This is a super hard concept for people with mental illness, it seems, since they so often think because they have depression or whatever they can casually disregard the feelings of others. Nah. Fuck that. I tolerate my family members with disorders but only as far as family obligation demands. I feel no need to suffer unduly for their failure to cope with life.
Crazy people don't usually think they're crazy. Doesn't matter if they've been held in an institution, or that a professional told them they have something wrong with them. That's the disorder, they don't understand it. And apparently you don't understand it either.
>>16729799
Can you really be so detached from reality that even the thought that there may be things outside of your perception does not occur to you? I think about the way I appear to others all the time, and I think about behaviors I need to change. I find it hard to believe crazy people lack this capacity, I think they just experience exaggerated emotions and then as I said are too proud to admit they have a problem
