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Why do people think that men and women, who are romantically unattached and (either party) is attracted to the other sex, can be friends without relationship feelings developing? It makes 0 sense from step 1 to step Z no matter how long I think about it. Women are stereotypical for thinking this and causing (unintentionally, sometimes) orbiters.
Why so gullible, humanity?
Subsequent question: Why do some people prefer or think of friendship as higher than a relationship? A relationship is the purest form of love there is, it takes everything about friendship and adds so many levels to it. It doesn't make any goddamn sense why people see this in this way.
Can anyone explain, refute, or at least give me guidance on what people who think, 1: Opposite genders can be just friends after a sustained time, and/or 2: Friendships are superior to relationships.
Thanks
>>16739665
1. Opposite sexes (gender is a socialist buzzword) can be friends if they're ugly or one thinks the other is ugly
2. Friendships are people you aren't having sex with
>>16739665
>relationship
>love
What century do you think you're in?
>>16739689
>I'm a girl and I go to school
>the people I call my friends don't actively seek to spend time with me
>even when I try to make plans with them they fall apart
>I like a guy and he doesn't answer my texts
>the other guy I liked in the past came close to going on a date with me before dropping me for another girl
>I feel so alone and useless and I want to commit suicide but I'm scared too as well
>life just loves fucking me over and I want out because if I can't even feel anything good or have anything good happen to me
>there's no use in me being here
often the problem is some sort of lack of social skills on your part that is giving other people cues that you don't like them; body language, facial cues, tone of voice, etc. Just smiling more at people should help.
Also, learn to be alone. We're all fundamentally alone and socialization often covers up the 'hollow person' problem a lot of people have; conquer your loneliness and come out the other side a more complete human being.
>>16739195
I smile at literally everyone I see, though. I always ask people how they're going and I join in on conversation. I tell jokes and I share stories, and I always offer help and friendliness to everyone I know.
I don't want to be alone, though. I'm an extroverted person and without other people I feel as though I don't exist.
>>16739181
you sound like a nice person. i am too and where did that have me end up? only 1 friend left at senior year because the ones who were superficial or too busy latching onto the popular kid(s) or groups just treated me like crap and i wasn't willing to put up with it. don't expect to be a good and mature person and make it out of high school with friends. sadly, that's the way it works most of the time. i even saw old friends choose colleges solely to be with or near cool kids, just to explain the extent to which these issues weren't personally having anything to do with me but rather those individuals not being grown up. and i hope it's clear i didn't come to comment to talk to myself because i'm really trying to give you what goes on, and i only know how to through what happened to me. make sure to make lessons from those who don't treat you well and look for their cues so the next time someone shows them you know not to invest yourself. all you can do now is be the good person you are and understand that friends naturally come to people like this, and while it usually takes more time because you won't settle for crappy friends, you end up with ones that last
Long Distance Relationship General Thread
Post advice, stories, experiences and recommendations to your fellow anons!
>>16734431
don't do it.
How did you all meet? I met a QT through Interpals.net, but are are not "in" a relationship yet. On my end tho, it sure feels like it. We fake cuddle a lot. We will both be in bed, and send each other gifs of people cuddling. It's fun. But I don't know how to tell we are "official".
>>16734436
The only way to know is to ask, man. Every relationship requires communication, and it's even more so when it's long distance.
I found out a few days ago that my mom has breast cancer. I've tried calling her a couple times, but she hasn't picked up the phone. I sent her a text last night telling her I loved her and she replied back with the usual, "Thanks, I love you too." I don't know much about breast cancer because I've never really cared about it until now. I don't really know why I'm posting this, either. I just feel sad and scared for my mom and don't know what to do.
>>16739385
lol
>>16739385
The woman just found out she probably has to lose her tits. I imagine that's scary. My grandmother went through the same thing.
My advice is to add a "I want to be here for you however I can mom. Whatever you need, I'm here."
>>16739385
Go visit her.
What do you do when you are in love with someone who hates herself?
My gf is depressed and seems to utterly despise herself.
Take a look at why you love someone that doesn't love themselves. Likely you're as fucked up as her if not worse.
>>16739339
Also known as being female
I think you should ask more virgins on the internet what to do instead of talk to her about it
>>16739349
Pretty much
I don't think of my boyfriend when having sex and cumming.
He's my favorite person in the world, and I love him to death. But whenever I think of him during sex I get all mellow and I don't feel fully turned on.
I'm pretty into the idea of the dom-sub thing, but I know I wouldn't get turned on by it in real life. That's why I don't propose it to my boyfriend.
But that leaves me with the problem of cumming during sex. Whenever we have sex, I do get turned on a bit by the physical stuff, but I don't get mentally turned on. So I imagine hot guys abusing me. And my boyfriend is too sweet to imagine him doing that.
What can I do to get mentally turned on by my boyfriend, and to get aroused enough to cum? Right now it kinda feels like I'm cheating on him...
Find someone who will put you in your place outside and inside the bedroom if you're the kinda gal who needs that. You sound immature, but oh well.
>>16738976
>What can I do to get mentally turned on by my boyfriend, and to get aroused enough to cum?
Nothing.
The problem isn't you, it's him, so you're approaching this wrong.
The problem here is you want a REAL man, but you have a boy, so of course he doesn't get you wet, he doesn't make you cum.
You want someone to choke you, bend your fingers back, slap you and call you a whore, someone to make you lick my cum off the floor because I didn't get it all on your face.
Your boyfriend is never going to do that, he doesn't have it in him.
>>16738982
You missed the part about loving him. So I'm not going to look for someone else.
Also: how do I sound immature according to you?
What are the pros and cons of having a sex change?
>>16738779
Pros: it's cool right now
Cons: you will look weird
Con - You mutilate your body.
Pro - You get to feel entitled and call people cis scum.
>>16738791
What if I look weird already? I'm an ugly fuck, might as well be weird ugly fuck.
>>16738793
Nah tumblr's already looped around on that, the genderfluid nonbinary nonsense call the legit transgenders truscum.
>was talking to this grill
>hottest girl I've ever liked, solid 9/10
>sent me good morning texts every day with pictures of her at work
>called me babe, would say have a great day at school, can't wait to talk to you later, etc.
>took her out in a date last weekend, lunch and a movie
>had my arm around her during the movie, she had her hand on my leg
>before dropping her off kissed her, made out in the car for a few
>told me to text her when i got home
>drove home feeling so happy, looking forward to seeing her again.
>texted her saying I'm home and had a great time, and no word from her ever since, like we never even met
>sent her a couple messages on fb the next day, she just read them and ignored them, continues to post attention he hiring statuses about being lonely about 7 times per hour
Fucking hurts, just last week was amazing, just waking up to messages from someone who seemed to care about me, now everything is just ugly and jarring, its hard to go to school and work, I just want to be alone, but being alone is just as bad.
I've been rejected plenty of times where the girl would lose interest and suddenly quit hitting me up, but NEVER anything like this. All the other girls at least had the decency to respond. I would just take the hint and leave them alone because I could tell they were no longer interested. No biggie, I always brushed it off just fine. After all, none of them called me babe or kissed me.
Jesus, women are just RUTHLESS. What am I to do now? My self-esteem is just down the fucking toilet now and I have no desire to meet new chicks, I'm too afraid to, because they'll most likely treat me the same way.
You made out with a hot girl bro, that should boost your self esteem by a lot. She's obviously a cunt if she won't reply, just move onto the next one.
>>16738639
Who cares? Nothing else, no sex, no ordering a pizza and watching movies together, no taking her to the zoo or downtown, all stuff we talked about doing. She probably didn't like me at all, just wanted to see how easy it is for her to get a guy.
>>16738633
She was absolutely bored that day and you were her last resort.
If she contacts you again it's because there is literally nothing else to do or people to talk to.
The sooner you realize this, the easier it will be to just let go.
She's not worth your time.
Trust me I have been through a carbon copy of this situation.
How do you raise your kids in a manner that will make them dependent on you?
I want my son or daughter to be my best friend an always live at or close to home, how do I accomplish this?
Also would it be okay to force barbie play on my son or truck play on my daughter so that they have an appreciation for the opposite gender's toys?
If you plan on raising children like this then you simply shouldn't procreate. End of story
>>16738236
>force children to play with opposite gender toys because muh liberalism
>not understanding how fucking hypocritical this is
you're fucking retarded. don't have children for everyone else's sake.
you can't do that reliably
you can't do that reliably
toys are fun by design, that's super easy. it's actually more work to avoid.
My gf of 2 years thinks I'm boring and that we are not having fun.
What I don't get is that it seems to her, having fun is basically acting silly / doing random things etc
I think I can have fun with friends and colleagues, enjoy bantering and jokes about dumb shit but more in a context where it's a group of friends / group of guys things.
But anyway how can I appear to her to not be boring when it's just the two of us ? She told me times and times again that the issue isn't about *doing* something fun or not, but that we should be able to have fun when we are just talking, like she can casually do with any of her friends
>>16738065
how's the sex?
>>16738076
honestly the sex has always been good and still is, nothing really changed on that
>>16738065
interestingly enough, its only really a 'modern' idea that men and women in a relationship should enjoy similar activities.
every time and culture and place is different right up to the year, but for hte most part, the modern world saw dating as very specific things you do with the opposite sex as part of courtship. marriage really was more of a partnership. you shared a house and watched the save TV, btu that was it. its like being with your family. you dont tell your brother 'hurr durr we dont do enough silly things together for this relationship to work'
and yes, being in a long term marriage is much more like fucking your sister than it is being in a young passionate relationship.
and thats fine, thats all good, the issue is that modern men and women are struggling to find reasons to hang out when they have nothing in common, mostly becuase of theri gender. sure some of the social boundaries have been broken down and men and women CAN share interest.
yet most dont... yet they they want to spend every single waking moment with each other hanging out and cant understand why it isnt as fun as hanging with friends (who are generally made based off of similar interests not how attractive you find each other).
Girlfriend is smoking weed with another dude
Should I be worried? I don't know shit about weed. Does it make you horny? Am I being overprotective by giving a shit about this.
Is she with a whole group of friends, or is she alone with a male friend getting high?
You should just invite yourself along next time, and see how she reacts. Say "hey that sounds like fun, I'm not busy today, mind if I come with you?"
Yes you should be worried, that sleazy fuckbag stoner is putting the moves on your girlfriend by smoking her out.
The only reason anyone ever does that is because they are looking to get some.
Not even friends share weed after a certain point.
Psychedelics are a tool of hippies to induce sexual promiscuity.
>>16737974
With a group. Her, a girl and two other guys
Is this a bedbug?
I killed it while it was crawling on the top of my dresser, which is 2 feet away from my bed.
If it is a bedbug, how can I find the source of the infestation and kill them all?
I remember waking up with random cuts on my arm and there's blood stains on ny sheets I can't account for. I also have bites on my feet and back.
I'm gonna samefag with more photos of the pesky crawler.
Yup you've definitely got bedbugs.
I'm not going to write out a whole guide for getting rid of them, Google can help you with that. Suffice to say, it's going to be a pain in the ass. Sorry anon.
Do I carry bed bug eggs on me if I slept in a bed bug infested bed?
I'm really freaking out here.
I am 22 and happily married. My wife and I are super kinky and we have a lot of fun in bed. We have handcuffs,dildos, anal tail ect
.. however, I've been fantasizing about DPing. I find it extremely hot. But, I do not want my wife to find me less of a man for sharing her. I also feel kind of jealous so I started thinking of a grey area to satisfy my kink and I came to the conclusion that I would like to have a 4 some. 2 guys and 2 girls. The other couple would have to be married or in a really long relationship. The guy and I take turns on Dping each girl.
Reasonable? How do I talk about this with my wife? I don't wanna come off as a cuckold. I was thinking of being in a 3 some behind her back but I know it is wrong and I love my wife.
>tfw I am 22 as well and haven't had sex for almost 7 years
>>16737599
the bigger issue here is that DP is not a very healthy activity. its hot for porno, but not for real life.
etiher you mean double vag penetration, in which case you are literally ruining her vag to accomodate two dicks. or you mean one in the ass and one in the vag, which really has no purpose at all. you cant see or experience it, so its just slightly less gay than double vag (which i find hot dont get me wrong, but really whats your point here)?
>>16737616
One on ass and one on vagina. I just find it really hot and would like to do it at least once in my lifetime
Hey guys. I'm going to give my old friends an absolutely terrifying bad acid trip and hopefully fuck their minds up for a few weeks. Any ideas on how to destroy them?
A few days ago my homies and I were having a trip at one of my friends house, I brought the acid and gave some to all 3 of my friends and my girlfriend. At one point, 2 of my friends left and I was left with the house owner and my girlfriend. My last friend told me and my girlfriend that I had to leave because he was having a bad trip and wanted everyone gone, so I left while peaking on acid and had a very bad trip because my phone died and the streets looked like I was on a different planet, I was tripping way too hard and didn't recognize anything, ended up parking and bad tripping in my car with my girlfriend until I sobered up enough to get home. (This was not our side of town and we were very confused/lost)
Later I found out that my friend invited my other friends back to his house after I left and they had an amazing time without me. I'm also pretty sure that one of my friends stole dmt from me.
My friends don't know that I know about them turning against me, because I heard it from a mutual friend. But this weekend we're all tripping at my house. I'm going to give them way too much free acid, until they're having an intense ass trip, then I'm going to play like, 120 decibel screams on my audio system and then hold them at gunpoint while degrading them and probably making them suck eachothers dicks. My girlfriend is going to put a leak in my friends tire on his car, (without them knowing) and then I'm going to force them to leave and be stranded on the side of the road further down the way.
Can I get away with this? Any tips on how to ruin these people? They have been fucks before, but not to this level of disrespect. It would be pretty fine if I didn't have a bad trip while they were having a good one on the stuff I GAVE them.
Also, I'm giving away all of my acid and not tripping myself, as well as ditching all my paraphernalia and drugs. They'll be the only ones on drugs, so they'll be stuck on the side of the road panicking and if they decide to alert authorities, they'll be in the wrong because im not sketchy or on drugs and I've got no record, as well as being somewhat well off. I haven't communicated these ideas to anyone digitally, or told anyone besides my girlfriend.
>>16737419
You're retarded and this is why they don't want you around
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I am in need of help! I am a young POC girl and I am in love with the Utz Girl. I can't help but buy a bag of Utz chips every time I'm in the grocery store. Sometimes I go in and don't even buy anything, just to look at her sweet sour cream colored skin and her 'ravish me' red dress. My parents do not approve because she is white, what am I supposed to do?? Not being able to have her would burn my heart to a crisp!
No salt in my thread, this is serious!
Got yourself a waifu, do ya?
Why not try suicide.
This is joke, correct?
