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I'm a late bloomer and missed out on a lot of character development in my teens due to depression, abuse resulting in apathy and escape from reality.
How do I catch up? How can I train stuff like conversation, small talk, flirting etc?
I'm unable to keep social contacts around longterm.
get better taste in anime jabroni
>>16725473
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F_Acc35SRG4
>>16725473
I stopped watching anime about three years ago, jabroni
Is it OK to tell the person you're breaking up with "now you know how I felt when my ex dumped me"
This just happened to me after my gf dumped me. This is wrong on so many levels IMO, and it hurts in so many ways. Especially considering that when her ex dumped her, I was there for her, helping her and comforting her before we even started our relationship. I probably knew how she felt more than any other person in the planet.
Maybe I'm being a huge baby and taking it wrong, but to me this is all sorts of fucked. What does /adv/ think?
>>16725203
No. She probably has her next man lined up anyway. You'll be the laughingstock of her friends if you try to be petty like that.
that's an incredibly cruel thing to say if she felt as bad as you do now.
>>16725267
>that's an incredibly cruel thing to say if she felt as bad as you do now
This is the only response you need to give to her, if you even choose to give her one."
Take the high road, be a better person. It may not feel like it now, but you have to trust that your life will be better off not having someone like that in it.
How do I get more matches? Am I just ugly?
Which picture should be my profile pic? Advice from femanons would be appreciated
Don't make every photo a selfie. Show them you have a social life and are active. Get a full body pose in the, but keep your shirt on.
>>16725002
Do you even know how to take a selfie? I dont talk selfies but i understand basic physics of pictures.
When you take photos with light apposing the front of your face by a different angle, shadows get created which are unattractive. So use light facing your face ( not too much ) to reduce shadows.
Also your poses are kinda cringy, try making a normal smile face, as if you're slightly laughing. Also take a photo in an interesting location, such as outside so you don't look like a guy stuck...
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>>16725002
Femanon here
Don't make all of your pictures selfies, especially of yourself pulling faces, it just shows you don't go out and do things or have friends
Assuming those two lines are your bio, it makes you look a bit like a try hard.
Also get a full body shot to show you aren't a manlet
So I'm 21. Average guy in every way. Except I don't really like seeing women in distress. I don't like to see them fight, cry or whatever. I guess my mother had something to with that. I don't really care about other guys because we aren't really supposed to be emotional or all that. But whenever I discuss this stuff online I get called a white knight or with my friends I get called a marshmallow. Some women even get offended at my viewpoint. I just think women are...god, forgive me for this. I know how this'll come out, sort of delicate and need...
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nothing os wrong with that.
fins a gf that likes you to be her strong and protective hero. just don't try to pull this on a "strong independent womyn tat don't need no man".
Chivalry ain't dead. You're just a very massive faggot.
You treat them like little kids with no agency, and men like they are just walking dicks without a heart. If you can't see what's wrong with it, try growing up a bit past that stage.
I find women to be extremely stupid compared to men. For every whenever I see a woman being involved in somethin I just automatically assume a man would do it better in every way. In my life this was confirmed 9/10 times.
Now, I'm not really glad I think this way, but I just can't control it.
When I was thinking about it, I remembered one thing.
Could it be that I consider women dumber more useless than men because I've grown up in a family with an abusive father that always insulted my mother whenever he could?
Protip: men are dumb.
>>16724736
I know that men are dumb, but percentage wise I find men that I get to know more intelligent than the women I get to know
I can tell you as a male engineer that women are surpassing men in STEM these days, easily. The only general problem I have with women are a lot are fast to criticize when there's better ways to solve the problem, and that doesn't really apply to them all.
Has anyone here moved out at a young age? i.e 18?
I'm 18 and have a full time job, I don't have many friends and I don't go out clubbing or drinking at all, I can afford an apartment and think it would force me to grow up and would be beneficial for my gains.
All of my old classmates are going to Uni this year but I dropped out and got a full time job.
What do you think boys?
>>16724579
If you have enough money to afford an apartment that looks like that you're pretty much set
Friends that move out pretty much living pay check to paycheck, keeps pestering me to move out because "independence".
Here I am saving 60% of my paycheck and going travelling every 3 months
do it.
I moved out with 19. it will help you grow up. you will learn how to life on your own. cleaning, cooking, paying bills etc.
you will benefit from it.
How do i embrace my ugliness? Can I still get the interest of others even if I am not very good looking?
bump
really wanting some advice to this, i could use some help
lower your standards
get some confidence
work out
be funny
even a 5/10 gf will seem like a 11/10 when you're in love with her
I am looking for a really good Cologne something that girls will love and go crazy over, it has to be strong enough that when I walk by you can smell the trail of it without me spraying like 9 times.
Anyone have some really good Cologne suggestions? Right now I am using Chrome and it smells nice but it doesn't have a good linger in the air to it
Use an aphrodasiac essential oil blend on your pulse points
i ADORE the smell of terre d'hermes. whoa. it makes my hormones go into overdrive instantly
>>16724310
It is strong though? Like if someone walked by would you be able to smell it in the air for a couple seconds? Or if you walk in a room you smell it
>wake up at 2 am
>cant go back to sleep
So...what would you do?
Turn off your computer.
i usually go to the toilett, get back into bed, try to not move too much and generally calm down again. sometimes i can go back to sleep, sometimes i can't. if i'm still up at 3:30 i get up and do soemthing like reading or some silent clesaning untill i'm ready for bed again.
Jerk it. More than once if I really can't sleep.
> girl texts to meet
> we met
> warm kiss from her (not mouth, i knoow)
> entertaning conversations
> lots of laugh
> warm hug when leaving from her (no kiss)
> now, i text her to meet
> response: i'm with my friend (and sadly conversation ends.)
what the fuck did i do? what my next step would be? wait, don't...
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wait and dont freak out. She obv liked you but you're not the only fuckin person on this planet so dont act crazy and just chill
Chill the fuck out, bruh
Wait for the next oportunity to go out with her, and keep up doing the right things.
>>16724058
>>16724067
i know, i have to chill the fuck out. but somehow i'm panicked too much. i guess i really liked her and everything turned into "she's the right one don't lose her" thingy.
still looking my phone to check for an update from her. meh.
Hello, I'm a female and first time poster. I will first tell you about my situation and give up an email if you want to help more. I appreciate everything anyone can do for me.
Anyway, I have been in a relationship with this man for a year and a half now. We have been through hell and back, both at fault for a lot of problems that happened in the past and well, we live together now. We decided to do so because we were ready to move forward and be happy together. But I have been the worst kind of person since we moved in 5 months ago. I am abusive in many ways. In...
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Reminder, if the poster was a man he would be going to jail instead of support group meeting
Yes, I am well aware of that and would take any consequences coming towards me for the things that I've done.
You've conquered the first step, which is to recognize and admit that you have a problem! Bravo! Many people don't make it that far. If you can't seek counseling I would suggest you visit your local library and peruse the self-help section. There are many books about anger management and self control and abuse, etc, etc. Most books like this, I find, will have 2 or 3 good ideas, and the rest is fluff. So pick up 3 or 4 of them.
One of the biggest keys for me was realizing, in the middle of a tantrum, that I was being unreasonable, and then apologizing and...
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Alright, I'll be straight forward. I'm a socially retarded smelly weeaboo girl. I haven't got outside my house in ~2 months, rarely ever shower, and I don't shave my legs. I spend all day home watching anime and staring at the wall. My life is lame and I want to change that. Thing is, I'm really fucking socially retarded it hurts. I can't hold conversations with people, especially when in person. I fear looking retarded. I currently only have 2 online friends but we rarely talk. What can I do to improve my social skills? I don't want to live like this,
Don't you have any regular activities that force social interaction like school or a job? Social skills naturally grow in these situations. If you aren't doing those you should strive to getting there.
...or you could be my waifu.
Get people to talk about themselves when socialising
1. Take pride in your appearance. Take a bath, condition your hair, hell, put on some makeup if you'd like. Dress in a way that gives you confidence and makes you feel attractive.
2. Go out. To the store, to a meet up anything. There are places online where you can arrange to meet groups of people, or if you'd like, just go to the library and try to start up a conversation with a person. Somethin like that. You can't expect to want to do something like this and not step out of your comfort zone.
3. Repeat steps 1 and 2 as much as possible. Isolating...
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My Girlfriend's vagina is too tight and we can't have sex - can anyone give me advice?
We're both virgins, and we've tried 4 or 5 times to have sex now, with no results. The problem is that her vagina is absolutely tiny compared to my penis. I can't even fit the tip in. Every attempt has come after an hour or so of foreplay after which she's sopping wet, but she's still barely wide enough for me to fit a single finger inside.
After googling the problem I was presented with the disorder "vaginismus". My girlfriend seems...
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>>16723792
Start with fingering. That could also be a chance for you to master your finger technique. Do it for like week or two, and try going a tiny bit deeper every time - and after a while she'll be stretched enough to try real sex.
Also, condoms can make sex feel even rougher than normal, so since you're both virgins and there's no risk of STD's, you could try it without condoms and with lots of lube. Just make sure you can pull out on time.
>>16723800
>Virgin
>No Condom
>Pull out in time
Quick question anon how many kids you got?
>>16723800
OP for the sake of humanity don't listen to this guy
As my parents said, "Nobody goes to work because they enjoy it. They have to go to work though as they have bills to pay. How many people actually enjoy working at McDonalds? If they got to leave, they would all leave."
i enjoy my job most of the time
>>16723550
Smart people work at jobs they enjoy.
>>16723550
I work for Woolworths in Australia, both at the Deli and as a Cashier.
I genuinely enjoy it. It's a good environment and the shifts aren't too long and my pay is 24$ an hour, under probation rates. Only problem is I'm not attached to the roster yet, so I only get a call once a week to come in and work shifts, but that should change soon.
It's all about your outlook, son. If you enjoy the people you work with, you enjoy your job. If you enjoy the people you serve/greet/help, you enjoy...
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So, my girlfriend and I are both a little sick. She's one of those people who gets kicked a lot harder with the cold than most.
Is it wrong of me to be slightly annoyed that this is her reasoning for us not seeing each other in 2 weeks? I mean, she spends all day at work around other people, but she can't just stop by for a few minutes and give me a hug? (She'd have to come to me, as our schedules are very different)
I really hate spending this much time away from her. Not to mention, I'm a ridiculously jealous person, so it's pretty easy...
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She's sick and you expect her to take time out of her day, when she's exhausted, to see you, because for some reason you can't go and see her? Okay.
>>16723447
She spends all her time at work because she has to, dude. You know, in order to get paid. I think if it were up to her she'd stay home and sleep and never talk to anyone until she feels better.
Going out of her way to give you a hug probably doesn't fill her up with joy when she's sick. Wait until she gets better; then she'll be more likely to want to hug you.
>>16723447
> take time out of her day to see you
She's my fucking girlfriend. Wouldn't it make sense that of the hundreds of people she comes into contact with every day, she'd want me to be in the bunch?
>>16723447
>some reason you can't go and see her
She has a room mate. I don't. I'm not just going to barge in on them in the middle of the night and annoy the shit out of...
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