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Based ONLY on the pics, disregarding experience or style. Short haired guy: 5'11" 175lbs.
Long haired guy: 5'9" 165lbs.
>>16723334
nobody gives a fuck
posture elsewhere
Posture what?
>>16723334
I had a bf who was sort of famous for being a great bar fighter. Anyway, he was tall and skinny.
My money's on the taller guy. They always have the edge IF they use it.
( the dude on the bottom is hotter except for that gay-ass long hair. Cut that SHIT off. But I like his chub and Pink Floyd shirt. He's got a great mouth. Would hit even tho I dont' like blondes. )
What's the one thing you'd do every day if money were not an issue?
>>16723247
Eat breakfast.
>>16723247
are you a japanese net cafe refugee?
I would try to live a normal productive routine of learning things I like and spend leisure time doing expensive things like drinking margaritas and smoking premium dutch weed on my yatch in the middle of the egean sea
The same things I do everyday already, because money hasn't been an issue for years now.
Read, cook, drink, work.
Hey /adv/, I know everyone only asks about relationship advice here, but i actually have an upcoming interview with a medical school. Does anyone have any tips or experiences that they could share with me? Thanks.
Morrowind art in exchange.
>>16723091
Wash your shoes.
Convince me I'm going to fall in love again.
I lost not only my best friend but the girl I wanted to marry a couple days ago. The numbness went away, only to be replaced by sadness. I have tears in my eyes when I wake up and go to bed every night. I want to die.
I haven't loved like I love her. I don't know what to do anymore. I don't see other girls the same way. I don't want any other girls. I want her.
>>16722708
Can you elaborate on your situation? Did she die or what?
>>16722708
What happened? Why is she gone?
>>16722733
>>16722737
Broke up
My girlfriend wants a "BDSM lifestyle". I know to the uninformed that sounds like an extremely sexual way to live, but incorperating BDSM ideals into your everyday life has very little to do with sex. To sum up what this means very simply, it means one person is dominate in the couples every day life. It's essentially means I'll be in charge of the relationship.
While I definately have no issue with giving it a try, the idea itself is very confusing and intimidating. How am I supposed to act? What does " taking charge of the relationship" even entail? We don't live together, is this even possible without us living together? Most of the "take charge" stuff in my research had the tendancy to talk about handling finances and upkeep of the house, stuff we don't have to worry about right now.
I'm just looking to get all the confusion cleared up. I would very much appreciate some answers to my questions, and maybe a few specific examples of an "everyday situation" for a couple and how it would be handled in a "normal" situation versus a BDSM relationship situation.
>>16722687
You'll either take to it naturally, or she'll be leaving very soon.
>>16722687
You literally just say hey, we are doing this today. You just tell her what you two are doing and when.
She doesn't just want a "BDSM lifestyle" she wants you to dominate her and take charge of her so she can be a submissive.
You need to go over the reins of this relationship in a conversation with her and a fine toothed comb. Possibly look into the contracting portion if she starts pushing boundaries you have no intrest in.
You ask her about what you can start with and three stoplight safe words.
Who do you break character for? Are you restricting her diet? Are you dishing physical or emotional punishments?
Ya'll have to talk.
How do I impress people more? I'm attractive, a security guard, and I own guns all this combined should make me really cool. What else could I do?
>>16722338
learn how to twerk
>>16722338
Don't be fat
>>16722338
Have you considered a different cammo style?
Argh /adv/ I am so fucking confused and lost.
My boyfriend has been a gambling, drug and porn addict since age 16. He is now 26 and has dropped the gambling and drugs after we met at age 21, but still addicted to the porn to the point of spending upwards of 1k on porn in a week (basically his paycheck). He saw a therapist for 6 months and it didn't help. Our relationship is so badly burnt I just can't cope anymore. We haven't had sex in months and even when we try, his dick is soft. I get so hurt and put off that I just don't even want to go there. I've grown to fucking hate myself, I have put on 10 lbs in the last year because I am eating my emotions away and using comfort food to help me stay positive. I have started a training regime that will help me lose the weight but oh my god, I seriously just would like to fucking die that I got myself into this clusterfuck of a relationship.
Why don't I just leave? Because we basically fucked everyone and everything off to go live in another state before I knew how bad his addiction was. He is a great guy apart from this addiction. And the cherry on top is that he can get suicidal and depressed when I talk about leaving.
I have an appointment with a therapist next week to help me undo the damage this addiction has done to my self esteem and I have asked him to seek help too.
He has organized a romantic weekend away and I don't want to be anywhere near him. Although I still love him and I care about him, I don't want to do romantic stuff with him and his soft dick.
>>16722329
You know there are other guys in the state you're living now, right?
>>16722329
>Why don't I just leave?
Well, you're going to have to, if you ever want to be happy again. If he only saw one therapist for 6 months, and nothing changed, then he needs to find another until something works. He doesn't get to just quit and pretend that things are still fine.
>And the cherry on top is that he can get suicidal and depressed when I talk about leaving.
Don't talk about it, because that gives him the chance to use your emotions against you. Just do it. When he's not home, slowly start saving away your money and packing your shit up. If you can get family to help you out, by letting you send your stuff to them, even better.
>He has organized a romantic weekend away and I don't want to be anywhere near him. Although I still love him and I care about him, I don't want to do romantic stuff with him and his soft dick.
Tell him how you feel now, as opposed to flipping out on him during the trip, and simply don't go.
>>16722329
>fucked everyone and everything off to go live in another state
Surely you can rebuild those bridges if you try hard enough and blame him for everything.
>he can get suicidal and depressed when I talk about leaving
Not your problem.
>I don't want to be anywhere near him. >Although I still love him and I care about him
Only one of those can be right at a time. You're lying to yourself if you think otherwise.
So my GF is hanging out with two male co workers tonight. It bothers me because usually when I ask her to do something she says no because she says we don't have the money, and when I do manage to go somewhere with her she doesn't dress up or anything. Well today two of her co workers asked her to go out and she instantly said yes and decided to curl her hair and get all dressed up. It does worry me. I'm sitting here with my stomach churning. Idk if i'm overreacting or not. We've been together for 3 years and I'm her first BF.
Do you trust her? Because if so, that's all that matters
>>16722114
Is she dressing up to kiss up to a boss or get a promotion or something?
Compliment her on how she looks and suggest that both you and her could dress up for your next date.
Wait and see, don't do anything stupid right now.
>>16722114
>>16722114
How often does she get dressed up for you?
>have gf
>2.5 years
>every birthday / xmas I go out of my way get her a gift she wants
>she doesn't even have enough money to get me anything I want
>recent xmas
>get her $130 camera
>she gets me a sweater and 2 free posters from her friend
>all I wanted was a poster of my fav movie Blade Runner
I feel like she just fucking doesn't give a flying fuck. She never really listens. She blabs her mouth every time we hangout. talks about all sorts of subjects, when we first started dating she would talk about some guy she would rather be with. Claims he's not a problem is just her thought about him.
IT just feels like she doesn't really want to date me she just wants to get fucked and cuddled.
Whenever I get frustrated and want my space she just cries and says "why do I keep screwing up?"
wtf is wrong with women?
you set expectations that were outside of your reality. you also were the one that went out of your way and expected others to do the same. grow up OP.
>>16722001
my expectations seem reasonable.
>>16722001
this
if you give someone a expensive gift just to get pissed off later because they didn't do the same, then it's better to not give anything
I know I'm going to get a lot of slack for this, but, I cheated on my guy, and I feel like shit.. He claims he still loves me, but I know I do not deserve it in the least bit.
It wasn't physical, but emotional, but what is what made things worse is that I lied to him about it. I lied to him saying that I wasn't cheating or didn't cheat and then one day I just felt so confident that I told him. After that, things have gone downhill for us both, mainly him.
How do I build said trust back?
>>16721920
You don't
...then why is he still with me?
Except for not continuing to violate his trust, the only thing for you to do is wait. Building trust is only something you can do for yourself.
More importantly though, why'd you cheat and why'd you go back to your bf instead? This may not be worth rescuing.
Where can I meet a guy to have a relationship with? How do I get a boyfriend? I have no romantic/sexual experience whatsoever and I'm in my 20's, I'm getting increasingly frustrated.
>inb4 "just go to a bar" or "just go on a dating site"
I want an actual relationship with a respectable guy and then to lose my virginity to him. People on dating sites are either too far away from me or only care about sex. Online dating is not popular in my country. Men in bars are only looking for sex.
PS: I have no friends to rely on, am socially awkward and painfully ugly
>>16721915
You now realize relationships are about sex
If you occupy close proximity with someone and aren't having sex its called friendship
Perhaps that's what you desire instead
>>16721915
Go outside to things that interest you or hang out with friends and co-workers more. This widens your social net and provides you with more opportunities to meet someone.
There is no easy answer. Everyone who is in a relationship bumped into their mate somewhere. All you can do is try to bump into more people.
Holy fuck /adv/.. I am getting fucking friend zoned left and fucking right. I am 24 and never had a girlfriend but I have been on a rather low amount of dates I guess.
Anyway, the girl always ends up saying "You are a good guy but I am just not looking for a boyfriend right now." Which is fine.. but the part that gets me is that they tell me not to change.
I have failed time and time again. I have varied my strats as well. I have tried playing it slow and not really showing my feelings for a girl. I have tried playing it quickly and asking them out quickly etc. Same thing happened.
What does it mean? Am I cursed? I am honestly not even salty about it all I guess, I am just pissed that I am trying different things and NOTHING is working.
The only thing I won't do is date a obese woman or a woman with a kid already. Also won't date a stupid woman or vain one.
Anyone have any insight? What the fuck am I doing wrong?
>>16721705
If you're tired of getting friendzoned, STOP BEFRIENDING THEM.
>>16721782
How do I not befriend them if I intend on them being my girl FRIEND?
>>16721927
Bumpity
First time doing LSD, shooting for 200 - 220 mcg. Only problem is, I still live with my parents and they work from home, so I'm hard pressed in finding a place to do it. Any general places you guys go to trip for ~12 hours that works out?
police station maybe?
Wait until it's dark out and go to a park, or for a long walk.
I live in a small town though so if you live somewhere where niggers are going to stab you, don't do this.
Also I would strongly recommend staying home until you're tripping, just so you don't freak out in public if it somehow goes poorly (it won't, LSD is harmless, but I could see it being stressful if there are lots of people around the very first time you start to trip).
>>16721674
Nature. You see that photo? Looks like a good place to trip.
Do it alone. Turn off your phone.
Do it on a day when you wake up, and you feel happy.
If you feel happy when you drop, you will have a life altering, and enjoyable time.
If you feel sad, a nightmare.
LSD is not a drug for sad people. LSD is a drug for happy people.
Married and want a fuck buddy....wat do?
You get a divorce
>>16721144
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ToMhk-z3xyo
Just fuck your wife then, moron.
My life is in shambles
-I'm a virgin and have never had a girlfriend
-I'm nearly 30 and still living at home with my parents
-I've never had a job
-I'm overweight and my health is beginning to fail. I always feel tired
-No degree
-I'm building up debt from tickets and school loans
-I have no hobbies. All I really do with my free time is post on 4chan, play video games and halfass research random shit
I feel like I have no purpose, no direction and no structure to my life. I have no self control and do things that I know to be destructive to my life.
Thing is, I'm really tired of being like this. I want to be a normal person who works hard and is socially competent. I want to date, but I feel like a fish out of water when I try to get close to women. I have no self esteem and am extremely sexually repressed. I feel like I've irreparably damaged my life. Tell me there's a way out of this. How can I begin to put my life together and become a man that can stand on his own two feet.
>>16721062
>I want to be a normal person
Its too late man
>>16721062
All of that on this end too man, except I'm 23, severely underweight, work a shit job, and my debt comes form my mother taking bills and credit cards in my name.
I don't really care about having a girlfriend or anything though, all I really want is a group of friends.
Either way, you're not alone out there man. If anything take some solace in that. The first step in my opinion is professional counseling. They can't fix it for you, but they can help you do it, tell you how, what steps to take.
