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How should I study? I can't concentrate at all, Even if I manage to force myelf to sit down to study, after half an hour I'm doing something else or my mind starts wandering by itself. I don't know how to stop this. I try but nothing works it just fucking happens, It's going on for a year now. People tell me I need discipline and good habits but how do I acquire that? I can't even start. Any advice? Or links with advice? Or anything? I'm so desperate that I'll even read self-help books I don't know what to do.
(I wish I was like Hermione)
You could try focus enhancing drugs like Ritalin. Either fake symptoms of ADHD and get it legit or buy some off students.
>>16752274
>Drugs are a solution to any problem!
I used to recopy my notes by hand over and over for subjects that merely required memorization.
Overall just keep distractions to a minimum and study in a a different location. Keep trying different things until something works for you.
Is there any external way to know that a guy will make you orgasm or do you absolutely have to shag them to find out?
well lmfao do u need clitoral stimulation to orgasm or can you cum from PIV?
>>16752037
Never gotten off either.
>>16752033
I can make any girl cum using a simple trick
So, I am having a dilemma.
Been single a long time, ask some friends to help me out... They set me up with a fat girl. Friends tell me give her a chance so I go on a date with her. I am not attracted to her at all, she exceeds my weight limit. Trying my best to seem interested, but notice I am not very good at acting as she seems to be visably saddened. Ask her what's wrong, she quietly says"nothing"... She looks almost heartbroken, I feel so bad I try harder to seem invested. Rest of dinner goes by, she's very nice, very nerdy and awkward, but very sweet. Drive to the park, sit under a tree and talk, she gets cold so I wrap her shoulders in my jacket. She now is visably flustered... Blushing. Eventually drive her home, walk her to her door, she gives me her number. I tell her goodnight, she leans in slightly... I hesitate... But end up kissing her... I am not the most experienced kisser but can tell she knows close to nothing based on how awkward it was... We make out for a few minutes, she's huffing... Tell her I should go... And walk to my car.
I haven't called her since but my friends keep telling me about how much she likes me and it makes me feel like a shallow dick... Personality wise she's perfect, but physically she disgusts me... Should I give it another go?
Attraction is important...
What about when she wants sex and you can't get it up?
Better to be honest about it (but not brutal). Let her down gently, say that it's your issue and that you just aren't attracted to her.
Alternatively, tell her that you're gay and that you just didn't want your friends to know.
>>16751922
there's no physical attraction. you will grow to resent her.
you niggas went on a date. conclusion after the date was that she's cool but not attractive. if the girl being attractive is important then this shit ain't going to work.
it doesn't make you a bad guy cause you don't want to date fat chicks. if they want to attract the sort of men they're aiming for then lose some fucking weight.
oh my god no. that wouldn't be fair to her. you'd be dating her out of pity. i'd rather get rejected for being a fat cow than get pity date because i was fat. just end it where the two of you have some dignity, fuck lowering your standards.
I'm pretty sure that I got friendzoned hard on a date tonight and I only realized it after I got home.
This woman I am absolutely in love with told me that she is attracted to me but she likes our friendship too much to take it any further. I told her that nothing has to change, that we can still have fun together but also be in a relationship and she just clammed up for the remaining ten minutes of the ride home.
On my way home I felt good about it, like we had made progress towards being together, but now I'm realizing that she was flat out telling me that it is not going to happen.
Was this as bad as I think it was?
>>16751672
You don't love her. You're infatuated with her.
she hasn't put you in the friend zone she's just turned you down.
Your action next decided if your going to friend zone yourself or cope with it in healthy mature way.
yeah, she tried to let you down easily and you acted like a retard that didn't get the clue.
My sister just had a child and they have yet to name him. Oddly he has a dragon shaped birthmark on his upper right shoulder blade, which looks pretty cool.
My sister wants to name him something that sounds Dragon-esque, but everything she has said sounds stupid.
Do you have any dragon inspired or dragon-esque names /adv/?
>>16751613
Draco is the pleb answer.
The dragon from Peters Dragon was named Elliott
Obvious answer is obvious:
Arrax
Balerion
Meleys
Syrax
So, greentext history time
>be me
>been in love with a girl for a long time
>dated her for 2 months like 3 months ago
>today is her birthday
>she invited me and asked if i could make the reservations and everything
>made the reservations, even get some special gifts because or her birthday
>got in contact with the club and managed to get them to put some birthday music and a congratulations message in the course of the night
>picked her and her friends at home and take them there
>in general, got sure it was a great party
>she ignored me a time during the party
>"well, she maybe just wanna talk with her girls"
>some dude she invited came
>she started dancing with him
>she kissed him
I just left the party and fuck, i feel really bad
Just wanna hear anything you have to say
>>16751493
She sounds like a bitch. Ignore her from now on
Take this as a lesson, brother. Never work for anyone this hard except yourself. But damn, I'd give you a fist bump irl if it'd help
>>16751502
Yes, I gonna do that. I almost send her a message about this, but im restraining from it. It just hurt like a bitch
Guys, I really need help. A friend of mine is being blackmailed.
The gist of it is she had pics of her stolen and now the guy is telling her she needs to pay him and fuck him or he'll publish the photos. She gave me the link he got them from.
I don't know jack about computers, so I don't know if the guy can be tracked or anything.
But how would you guys recommend she goes about this? Should she reply? For obvious reasons, she really doesn't want her photos uploaded. But what is the best way to deal with someone who is blackmailing you? Especially if they are likely from a different country...
>>16751456
She should do what he asks. If she can't afford it do whatever sexual thing he desires. Or, alternatively tell her to meetup with him and just as she's pulling down his pants stab him with a knife and tell the cops he tried to rape her.
But seriously, has anyone here ever dealt with something similar?
>>16751456
You make this too difficult for yourselves.
Two options.
1. Contact the police.
2. Ignore the mother fucker and change the passwords to the shares of the photos or put them some where else.
Now go.
How do I make money online?
What are some good freelance programming sites? Daddy needs a new CPU.
>>16751060
bump
>can program
>can't google for freelance websites
Hmm yeah okay
>>16751062
bump
Ask a drunk psychologist anything. I'll probably get drunker as we go so...fair warning.
Unless its dream analysis, I don't know you well enough for that shit.
>>16750710
Are you as accepting of trans people as you say you are? Like if one comes in to see you, or someone shows up and asks you help getting started with HRT.
Asking as trans girl who feels like therapists never really accept or understand
>>16750710
Psychology is pseudoscience and you're a hack
>>16750718
Thats a complicated question. I work with a lot of trans* patients and I've written a lot of letters. If you'd asked me ten years ago I would have said yes without hesitation. In another ten I'll probably be back to there. As for right now...its the thing of the day and I've worked with more than a few people who thought that transitioning would change all their problems only to discover that it was the same shit with a different body.
That said, I'm a big believer in bodily sovereignty. If you want to transition and you're in treatment, I'll tell you whatever reservations I might have and write you a letter. Its not my place to tell you no. HRT changes a lot of lives for the better. Hell, I do two cycles of SARMs a year to perform the hell out of my masculinity, who am I to judge?
I'm super depressed because every girl I try to pick up rejects and I think it's because of my height which is 5'4. Can a manlet actually get a girl?
It's not because of your height.
>>16750668
THIS
>>16750630
Have you considered approaching the mentally handicapped? They'll appreciate your disability and compassion.
>Met cute girl online
>have everything in common
>She lives with bad family where her mom buys smokes more then food
>One day I go to her house and bring her home with me, so she doesn't live an awful life anymore
>Have 4 amazing years together
>Help gf get a job at where I work, at Walmart
>Everybody at my job likes her
>Get fired a week later over nothing
>Car breaks down as well
>Struggle to get a new job for 6 mouths
>Girl leaves me for someone at the job
>Say she been cheating on me with someone at work
>She leaves me in a hurry, take her clothes and the PS4
>Wants to come back and take most of the Amiibo collection we got together too, and the Wii U
>She brought most of the fun stuff, while my money goes on bills
>And she said, she'll call the cops on me, if I hurt the guy she with now.
She used to be the sweetness girl I knew, and my only friend, but she said he has out grown me, and thinks she too good for me now.
This happen all last mouth too.
But it doesn't end there
>A week after she left, I got hired for a good paying businesses job
>Found a place to sell my old car, and get one hell of a deal, and got a new Camry
Right when my life was going to shit, I finally got some luck.
>Just got a call from my ex a day ago
>She living with bad people and has a nasty cut on her arm because of them
>She sick, and doesn't eat because the guy she was cheating on me with told her she was only for fun, not a girlfriend to him
>Told her all the good things that's happening to me
>and told her I'm keeping all the amiibo and other shit, and if you come near my house, I'll call the cops.
This is what she looks like from two years ago, she looks worst now, with brown hair, and a bunch of ugly make up.
I still don't know how a few people change her from being this sweet girl to the trash from the street.
>>16751644
Do you have a question?
>>16751644
She needed you, she went for you. That's how women think. The other guy was smart, fucked her while you paid for it.
Either you are a man and tell her to fuck off out you're a pussy and take her back.
Or even better, fuck her like he did. Do some booty calls, just go right in and fuck her, then dump that bitch.
>>16751644
She embraced it.
You fell for the "save me" routine. She never really had it in for you, you were just an opportunity.
Once she had some freedom she made the choices she wanted to make and it fucked her over. (As expected).
But you have to remeber she had no real parents, so she was never taught or shown good decision making. People in those situations have to learn things for themselves and make their own values and morals, they cant get taught.
She ended up coming to the wrong conclusions. Thats all.
A shame, but not worth boo hooing over.
Mid-late 20's guy with a girlfriend here.
I am reaching a point of desperation concerning people (including my girlfriend, but mostly other family members) constantly putting pressure on me to get married and have children.
I was just at a family gathering today, and several of my cousins several years older than I am had their little kids running around / generally being little shits.
Of course all the other (now empty nest) adults are cooing, holding the kids, and laughing as the kids smash food into their faces, but all I could feel throughout all this is disgust and despair.
Having a kid sounds terrible since it seems like you basically become a slave to them and lose all of your free time. My mom even said it herself one time years ago "I had my own life at one point, and I gave it all up for you kids."
I'm already going through enough anxiety because I'm going bald, my career isn't turning out very well, I have a constant fear of growing old/dying, and I'm generally poor, but now all anyone can tell me is that I should just give up the remainder of my life so that I can have a kid who'll help put me in a nursing home and bury me.
I barely have enough time to even live my own life, and people with kids look miserable as fuck 24/7.
It sounds like hell.
Does anyone have any advice?
Can anybody talk with me about it?
Thanks.
>>16751049
Psychologist here, I recommend covering yourself in honey and rolling around in sprinkles
looks like you are starting to feel the effects of getting old
you said you are generally poor and barelly has time for yourself
you still have plenty of time to decide if you are going to have a kid or not, so there's really no point in having one right now if you don't think you are prepared or want to
>>16751082
I feel like 'feeling old' in your 20s is disgusting, but I can't stop having anxiety every day about it especially when I'm losing my hair.
And I would never had a kid right now, but I feel like there is this looming deadline in my life that I'm going to hit when I turn ~30 to get married and have kids.
It's the inevitability of it. I either get married and have kids, push it off (which'll endanger the health / wellbeing of any kid I eventually do have), or just wait until my girlfriend's (wife?) eggs are gone forever, and I missed my chance.
I wish I could be 20 forever, getting old sucks dick.
Hey guys.
I'm sort of stuck here. My whole life I tried to make my son into a good man, a man like me, a man that would find riches, honor, and success in his life.
Nothing I did worked. He's been like this since forever- an underachiever. No discipline, no pride.
It's at the point where for a long time, I've felt like he WASNT my son- I remember in 7th grade, he failed out of the advanced math program at his school, I actually DNA tested him because I thought my wife had cheated on me.
Turns out no, he's mine.
What do I do? He's 18 now. I'm about ready to disown him, try to have a new son. I'm only 42.
How do I come to terms with my failure as a parent? Did I fail, or was he just born weak?
I look at him, and I don't see any hint of myself at age 18 when I look at him. If I was 18 and I ran into him, to be honest, I would probably have spat on him and called him a loser.
It breaks my heart every day.
Could you be more specific on what he does that makes you so disappointed in him?
Why don't you focus on your own life?
Have another kid.
you're a stone age fagot
Especially if you are considering to apply.
>>16749890
Why do you guys never put where you're from? I assume you're expecting to be asked some law related questions, and laws are very different from place to place. You're not helping anyone if you don't put it
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>>16749895
Objection
>Roman law is equal in all parts of the globe
I didn't get into any of my unis I applied to
I don't know what to do anymore
>>16749864
Work and wait a year and reaplly, this time in the ones u know ull get accepted in first
>>16749864
Why didn't you get in?
>>16749878
I don't know
>>16749877
Cmon man I can't do that
