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How do I get a gf? I have a job but I don't have many friends, and the ones I do have dont like go out and do things so I can't meet girls like that. I don't want to be lonely anymore please help me. :(
Kill yourself there's no hope for a faggot like you.
>>16767500
>>Loose virginity to a hooker - gain confidence
>>Lower standards
>>msg fatties on dating sites for practice
>>when you are smooth as fuck with them then lvl up to chubbies
>>repeat until qt 10/10gf
>>your lvl cap depends on your genetics and personality but if you'r not deformed or retarded you can at least get a 5/10
>>16767500
1.Find something that interests you (for example, faggotry).
2. Google "whatever it is that interests me in my area" (for example google "faggotry in OP's area"
3. Read results, look for groups of people that meet for your interest. (For example "faggots for OP discussion group, team sports groups or club")
4. Go to that and look for women. Chat one up. Repeat process as needed. (For example "hello derpina, I'm new hear, but I sure love faggotry. Can you tell me about this bit of minutia relating to faggotry? Fascinating. Say, I like your orthopedic shoes and lazy eye, they're pretty. Go out with me?")
It works about half the time. The other half derpina already has someone or you're ugly, so you try again. Just be graceful about being rejected, women talk amongst themselves.
My girlfriend is so shy and fragile I don't know how to approach her with new things I want to try sexually. I told her I wanted to give her oral sex one night and she panicked when I was about to slide down under her blanket. Now shes spooked when we have sex and clings to the blanket she wraps herself in for dear life... I just want to experiment more, she gives me head very, very frequently, I don't know why she doesn't want it.
>>16765791
Just take the initiative and fucking do it. You're the man so take what you want.
>My girlfriend is so shy and fragile
could be autism
Date an adult
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
Women who are very sensitive to conflict or intentionally avoid upsetting others: where do you think (or know) that part of your personality came from?
>>16764975
DNA
>>16764975
>>16764981
This. If you're talking about them simply disliking the idea and think that relationships or life should never have conflict, then that's a different story. That likely comes from some stupid fairy tail belief they got when they were a kid.
My boyfriend wants to stick it in my butt so I said I would but only if he let me fuck his butt with a strap-on (this is my fetish) and he refused and said I'm being unfair.
Am I being unfair? I thought it was pretty fair, butt for butt.
>>16764947
dump him and find a real man.
>>16764947
how bout you let him do it once, and then tell him you want to enjoy too.
Imho, try putting fingers with saliva around his back area, once he's comfortable enough, go for it. Also might wanna do it with fingers and toys before.
You're being unfair if you just made it up as an arbitrary price to pay. He's sharing a sexual interest of his with you. It's not a transaction. It's being open with your lover. If you don't want to oblige him then just say so. Otherwise you can consider for yourself whether you're on board for being part of your boyfriend's sexuality. And if pegging really is a legitimate fetish which SOMEHOW didn't become a hot button issue until he brought up one of his, well, talk about it like adults.
I was always mean to my sister & told her to get a life & get some friends cuz she weird & painfully shy. Like a few months ago, we were home alone, I called her ugly, then she went to her room & started crying. So I apologized & told I really think she's the prettiest girl ever, & we hugged. Then she kissed me on the cheek & we did more kissing & eventually were both naked. She told me that I was her 1st. I was like,"LOL obviously, you think I didn't know that." Now we talk to eachother all the time & cuddle. & our mom will never suspect anything since were siblings. She comes into my room almost everynight & sleeps with me. We hang out just the 2 of us all the time now & we respect eachother. We always say we love eachother. But I would never get her pregnant because I'm a girl but even if I wasn't I wouldn't. We know that were gonna have to get different boyfriends & girlfriends eventually, but we enjoy what we have now & will never forget.
BTW I'm 18, shes 16
>>16761365
Boyfriends and girlfriends? Aren't you both girls or did I miss something?
>>16761388
Yeaa we're bisexual or at least I am
>>16761403
So you fucked your own sister. And your asking us why that's weird? Hmmm, were you dropped on your head when you were younger, by any chane? Or is this some kind of new Autism, I don't know about?
Just wondering what everyone's plans are for valentine's day
Ps hope it goes great :)
I have no one to commit to so I'll just be in the gym like usual and that'll be it.
>>16765100
I'll be doing one of three things:
>Sitting at home drinking and playing video games celebrating my 28th valentine's day alone
>Going to a strip club and trying to convince a stripper to sleep with me
>Eat candy until I feel like shit, fap to a cam girl, and passout in a puddle of my own tears
Gosh I can't wait until valentine's!
Studying for an exam the next day. I have a 21st party to go to the day before, too. Probably won't see my boyfriend until the following Friday
Really though why do so many young men have trouble getting gfs and wives? And why is it only young men? We never see articles like this about women.
This is a completely unprecedented problem in human history.
Advances in technology reducing the need for social interaction is probably the reason, or at least plays a part in it.
>>16758240
Possibly over population. The world doesn't seem to need anymore people, job market is reflecting that.
>>16758293
This.
How do you balance avoiding getting raped while still not becoming hostile and paranoid of the entire male sex?
I guess don't put yourself in potentially dangerous situations, make sure you can defend yourself if you ever do get there, and foster healthy relationships with good people of both sexes.
your question is raping me
why did you become the aggressor? literally crying here
>>16765505
By using Reason
Hey /adv/, I'm jobless and i don't have a home anymore. Asking a place to my family is out of the questione, and nobody will rent me a room without a job. starting tomorrow, i have no idea where i will sleep
Its fucking over. I won't be able to stand up again. I've been kicked out from every single parent already
But above everything, i feel so alone for some reason.
I don't know anymore. why my life has always been such a mess. Pic related, its what is left of my life
Please don't let me down.
If you really can't ask family (better be a good reason for that) find out as much as you can about homeless shelters and whatever welfare you might be entitled to where you are. Sorry I don't have more to offer, good luck and stay strong anon.
>>16757590
halfway homes or something similar so you have a bed.
any friends you could bum off of? get a shit-tier job, pay rent, get on your feet.
Just let everything out here. Frustration, sadness, complaints, everything. Just type it all out of your system. No judging.
>>16748778
I don't fucking need this in my life. I don't need these useless feelings. Nothings going to come from this and its really starting to piss me off. She has a boyfriend, I can't just ask her out. Why the hell did I end up falling for someone who's never going to love me back?
FUCK YOU
YOU CAN'T JUST TREAT ME WITH RESPECT TO MY FACE AND THEN GO AND SPREAD SHIT ABOUT ME TO OTHER PEOPLE.
FUCK YOU, YOU TWO FACED ASSWIPE, I WOULD NEVER DO ANYTHING TO YOU. YOU'RE JUST MAKING IT HARD FOR ME TO LIKE YOU.
>>16748778
FUCKING WHORE DONT ACT ALL KEEN ON ME SEVERAL NIGHTS IF YOU HAVE SOMETHING GOING ON WITH ANOTHER DUDE.
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
Is being jewish unattractive?
>>16763013
yes, but the money will compensate for it mr shekelsteinberg
Fellow guys
How do you get over a girl who you really cared about but randomly gave you the cold shoulder and stops talking to you?
When I'm at work I think about her. There isn't much for me to do so my mind always thinks of her. When I'm home I just watch the news all day long which makes it alittle easier. But it's still hard. My mind just feels lost
My girlfriend absolutely refuses to have sex, at all, ever. She said she's ok with me fucking her when she's drunk enough, but by the time she's drunk enough, she's so drunk it's off-putting.
It's been two months and we haven't had sex. What do I do?
why wont she let you fuck her?
>>16761578
I don't know. She just says no.
>>16761581
ask her why and then update
I have a friend whos a nice guy and has all of the nice guy problems.
He hangs out with me and our friends and is kinda like the little brother of the group.
Heres the problem, he can never get a girl. Like ever. When girls come to hang out with us theyre either sitting in everyones lap but his and stroking our ego. Hes also the shortest at 5'7 when we are all 6' and up.
How do I get him to be attractive to girls.
He used to be fat. Like 240lb at 5'7. I forced him to go to the gym with me and workout and after a year or two hes now 160lb. Now the catch is its still not enough to pull woman. Hes just not a fatass and still looks a little chubby but not FAT.
Then he gets his confidence broken all the time. He will setup to confess to a girl and then they mention they like taller guys, or more muscular guys. Or he'll invite a girl to hang out with us (I told him hed have more success if he combined them with the rest of his life) and they latch on to one of us. So he tries not to bring girls he likes around us. Which means we cant help him. Although we did force him to stop chasing 9.5/10s.
At first I just thought that women were at fault because they just use him as an emotional sponge and then date other guys. Hes the guy they look at and tell us we should be sweet like him, but they go for us and not him.
Now Im thinking however the problem is that he comes off as romantic but asexual if that makes sense. Like he doesnt want to fuck girls. Hes not bitter girls are fucking other guys, hes just salty he cant get a girl. I think woman pick up on that. Like when Im alone with a girl I can tease her into stripping but people treat him like a child who would be scarred at any sign of sexuality.
Is this the real problem with nice guys. That they are TOO nice and it removes any sexual tension that could possibly be created.
Pic related. The type of girl he likes (taller than him RIP)
>>16760927
the best you can do is keep pushing him at the gym. thats great progress and soon his body will catch up and he'll be lady-bait.
that being said, maybe try and talk to him directly about the way to pursue women., he seems to be a romantic, but girls dont like that til the relationship is already established. until then he should be more flirty and fun.
i think the best way to do it is to make a distinction between specific actions that make him more of an emotional friend and less of a potential partner.
Its not that hes too nice, which i'm sure hes a polite dude. But he doesnt have any self confidence and also yes, girls can pick up on saltiness and especially the desperation, which a lot of 'nice' guys try to hide with being nice in an effort to get into her pants.
He needs to first have other things in his life besides girls. Does he like to do sports or something? 5"7 is really not a problem. Being a bit chubby isnt that bad. But lack of self worth is. He gets used because he LETS himself get used.
>>16760927
tell the fatty to aim lower.
What advice would you give to your younger self? Be honest.
get some decent clothes and a decent hair cut.
Don't come to 4chan, you'll never leave.
you were right that the others were wrong. wish you'd believe yourself more instead of thinking you're crazy.
How do you know if you're gay or not?
>>16763151
shove a dick in your mouth and see
>>16763164
I'm not ok with oral either way.
Do you find men sexually attractive? Do you find the idea of doing sexual things with men sexually attractive? Can you get off to gay porn or erotica?
And, most importantly, do you like doing sexual things with men?
I literally didn't realize I was bi until I met this guy who I really clicked with, then realized that the gay porn should have been a bit of a hint in the first place.
I was bicurious for a while but this really drove the point home that my same-sex attraction was real and not going away.
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