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Is nofap a bunch of bullshit or legit?
what's nofap???
>>16773180
The act of not fapping for heaps of benefits apparently. Its got a big subreddit that circlejerks about it.
Legit.
Pretty much all women are kinda ridiculous during arguments, right?
I'm probably wrong if I think I'm dating one who's particularly ridiculous during them, right?
No, not all women are like that. I've dated some very calm and rational ones. I've also dated the batshit, legit mental disorder type. There's a range, just like with men. Especially during a high-tension interaction like a fight, rationality can be thrown out the window in otherwise intelligent people.
>>16772479
Some women are not ridiculous during arguments but that's certainly not the norm.
>>16772479
Probably. It's something men just learn to brush off and ignore. Ask your dad about it and he'll have a laugh.
The screaming, the tears, the emotions, and the vicious self-righteousness runs DEEP in that whole sex.
Got a quick question?
Doesn't deserve it owns thread?
Ask a training psychiatrist here.
is it bad that I wat to wipe out the human race for fun?
>>16766897
Nah man, it's a fun thing to daydream about. It would be super tough to get them all, especially those out on remote islands and whatnot
Out of curiosity, what year of residency/internship are you in?
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't. Our answers are not going to help you.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
Girls
Why do you have to be so fucking difficult when it comes to telling the truth? A female friend of mine slowly started talking to me less and less this past week. We would flirt and stuff a lot but when she started being closed off I thought I fucked up or something and was really worried. Comes to find out, she said that she just "needs to balance herself out" and doesn't want to flirt/sex or whatever with guys for a while because she's trying to figure things out. Literally I understand and I respect her wishes. That's All she had to say. And I'm not butthurt over that. Yet I was really worried when she was being closed off from me this past week
Why not just be honest??
>>16768766
>she said that she just "needs to balance herself out" and doesn't want to flirt/sex or whatever with guys for a while because she's trying to figure things out
Because if she talked to you she wouldn't have been doing that?
>>16768776
We are friends. We can be normal friends. Our friendship is more valuable then our flirting.
My husband is a very attractive man, who is used to having sex at least once a day (in our relationship) and when he was single, several times a day with different women on the weekends. Basically he's a very sexually-driven person.
I just had our baby on January 25th. He has been coming home around 8 every night. I don't have a car at the moment and no friends because I'm in a new city. I'm feeling very depressed and lonely at home. Around 7 I just pace the living room frantically, then sit on the couch and cry. I suppose it's post-pregnancy hormones/post-partum depression.
He used to be super busy because he was building a house, but that's done with, and his HVAC company is slow lately because of the weather. When I ask why he's coming home so late he says something like "lots of paper work at the office". In the background I can hear him watching the news on his laptop, something he does at home. He quit smoking when we started dating, and suddenly took it up again a day or two after I gave birth. He's gone back to smoking regularly now.
Why is he coming home so late and smoking again? I'm the one that 100% takes care of baby and diaper changes, etc.
I get very little sleep but still try and make his life easier. This morning I got up at 6:30 to make him breakfast before he left. The other night I surprise attacked him with a blowjob.
I would do this more often but he hasn't asked. Also it's hard to put baby down without her crying.
Is it possible that he doesn't want to be around me because he wants to take his mind off of his horniness? Could smoking have anything to do with that?
It is true that he's always been a workaholic, and has always had a huge sex drive. But before baby, even during my pregnancy he would drive 3 hours to my college town to stay with me every weekend, and we were intimate up until the day my water broke.
>Is it possible that no sex for 6 weeks is really that hard on him, or does it sound like something else?
>>16772299
you just had a kid with this man.
talk to him. tell him what you told us.
ok, few questions.
why in the world did you let crazy stick his dick inside you?
why did you think it was a good idea to marry a whore?
why did you think it was a good idea to have a baby with such a guy?
Before you were pregnant, was he ever an anxious person?
How about during your pregnancy, and how about now?
If he has taken up smoking again, he may be feeling anxious about something.
should I feel bad that my boyfriend cut off some of his friends for me?
before we started dating, he was close with his ex's twin sister, brother, and two of their friends.
we got in a lot of fights about it. the sister seemed disrespectful of our relationship, would ask my bf out to breakfast with her and her mom, say I love you to him, and stuff like that. idk where shes from but that's completely inappropriate.
they act like its innocent beause she has a bf, and says he's "like a brother". fact of the matter is that hes not her brother. and how does my bf's ex even feel about her twin sister being bffs with him? I thought it was wrong for him to be close with them, so I didn't wanna hang with them too and make it worse.
so now like 11 months pass by and he chooses to tell that girl they cant be friends anymore. she told him he deserves someone better than me who "trusts him no matter what" and said I didn't even give them a try (they are his ex's fucking family, sry I never wanna be close w. them. weird) she has no understanding of the situation from my perspective and thinks im just a bad person. the entire situation made my life feel like a soap opera, and i prob would have broke up with him eventually bc it was so stressful to deal with.
since he hung out with her, her brother, and two of their guy friend in a crew, they are all giving him shit for telling her they cant be friends anymore, and its making me feel bad, and I feel like it shouldn't. I kinda feel like they are non-understanding and cant just be happy for my boyfriend. he broke up with his ex two years ago(they were together for a year) and I feel like he should have moved on and distanced himself from them as most people do. the fact that they are making him feel like a bad person & saying he did that girl wrong is really weird to me.
am I unreasonable? I think they are being hard on him, it bothers me because I think theyre trying to make him hate me. insights, advice, opinions?
>>16771428
>I think theyre trying to make him hate me
Have no doubts: That's exactly what they're trying to do.
I'm all for guys and girls being able to be friends with whoever they want while in a relationship - if they trust their partners, this shouldn't be an issue. That said, this is such a fucked up case - she IS his ex TWIN sister, for fuck sake.
Honestly, I don't think you're wrong or should feel bad. It's one thing if you guys were all gathering and having fun together but the fact that she's asking him out for shit like breakfast alone is beyond iffy.
>>16771439
thanks. and yeah, if he had other girl friends, if this group wasn't two siblings (theyre triplets,so its his ex's twin brother and twin sister) I would hang out with them and give it a try.
she tried to make me seem like a bad person for not even trying to be friends with them. I(i did actually hang out w. them once for an hr and they said i was too quiet and made their night awkward )
if I did wanna be close with them &friends, its just like too weird for me to be in a situation like that and im not okay with it.
I just think its wrong that they don't even get the fact that my boyfriends needs to move on, and instead of understanding they are giving him shit. I don't know if they all are, but the sister and brother definitely are. I think that goes to show what kind of people they are.
I feel super bad, but it was ultimately my boyfriends choice In the end. to be honest, I would have broken up with him eventually because again its his ex's twin sister and then her being disrespectful, asking him to breakfast w her mom & saying I love you (which is shit reserved for people youre dating), calling him and all that... its just wayyy too much and not normal.
>>16771450
This sounds particularly nasty:
>they said i was too quiet and made their night awkward
Nevermind the whole sibling situation - these are people that clearly hate your guts and who'd try to exclude you from anything they do.
I mean, there's no telling whether or not you guys could have been friends - awkward as it may be - but the current situation is that they're all assholes when it comes to you especifically and that probably ain't going to change.
Be happy that your boyfriend chose to leave than them for you and - if you really feel bad or think they're giving him shit - say you're sorry by actually explaning how the whole thing made you uncomfortable.
What did this guy do wrong?
What could he possibly had done better in his approach of 500 women and a 0% success rate?
His story makes me want to give up.
>>16770858
and some people do it just once, and with a 100% rate? How is that possible?
>>16770864
"They're rich, female or a super model" is what want to say but I honestly don't know.
Whatever it is, it doesn't seem to come from this numbers game bullshit every friend has told me to believe in.
>>16770858
He could have stopped. Seriously, there is a practical limit to the number of tries one should have and he passed it very early on.
How do you get past trauma? I was assaulted by my boyfriend, and he just keeps escalating his behaviour since he got out of jail. I've had to change my phone number and I've been staying at my parents place, but he just keeps escalating. I don't eat unless I really force myself, I barely sleep. I haven't been going to work.
I've been in contact with victim services, and I'm waiting to hear back from them about counseling, but just what do I do? I've been in contact with either my worker or the police because of something new he's done nearly every day since he got out of jail. I feel like I can't go to work because I need to be around to damage control. I almost made it to work today, but when I was making my lunch I suddenly couldn't stop shaking and even though I tried to calm down I started throwing up.
My worker told me that abusers will do this to try to get a reaction, and it's working. I don't know what to do, and I can't miss any more work. I can't live like this, feeling out of control of my body and mind. What do I do? I don't have any money, I'm trying to wait for the free services I can get. I wish I had someone to talk to.
what exactly are you afraid of?
If its him seeking you out and attacking you then arm yourself.
>>16770552
We share a workplace. Every day it's been something else to report. He posted my phone number to Craigslist soliciting sex, emailed pictures of him slitting his wrists to me and family members. He lied to his family about me threatening to hurt my cat, and more.
I'm scared that he's going to post the addresses of my family, or my address or show up at work and try to take my things since we don't have locked lockers. He's upset and I don't know what else he's capable of. He doesn't act rationally when he's angry.
He doesn't really understand yet that he did something wrong. He thinks that I am just trying to ruin his life.
I LOVE BANANA'S! I CAN'T KEEP IT A SECRET ANYMORE
I had the stuff I needed to get done before I could get ECT started over with today: bloodwork, an EKG and a physical.
I also discovered that the weird lines on my shoulders are stretch marks (I'm a 22 BMI, for fuck's sake) and that I have three probably congenital penile cysts that are benign.
I should see if I can talk to a urologist. Perhaps my insurance will let me get them removed. It's doubtful but it's a thing.
>I'm really excited about ECT but the whole benign penile cysts thing is really annoying
Pretty sure I overdosed on ecstasy a few years ago, was up for three days. Haven't been the same since.
Here's a question for you /adv/:
Do you prefer traditional values or modern values?
>>16769443
Modern. While I respect those who value traditional, it's just not for me. I don't want kids, get married, or be a provider figure.
Traditional, I'm sick of having a hard time finding a decent woman.
That's a complicated question, and it depends entirely upon what one means by modern and traditional values.
I'm seeing a counselor but don't know what to talk about. She's free from the school and I started seeing her because one of my profs recommended it after saying she hopes none of the students in her class "crack" from the coursework. I'm scared I'll do poorly in the class and also have bad social anxiety. And deal with other stuff like being trans in a shitty red state.
When we spoke before we ended up talking about my social anxiety but I'm not sure if that's the best use of our time together.
>>16769665
Hello vegetables
>>16769680
Hi there Pegasus. I hope you've been well
>>16769700
Sorry for leaving suddenly, my ex was driving me up a wall
I'm doing better, only way to cure social anxiety is to get used to being the center of attention
Is teenage sex good?
I'm in my twenties now and the feeling that I missed out on something that might've been great is painful sometimes.
>>16768947
I'm a 28 year old kissless virgin. You're young. Please stop worrying about this shit.
>>16768947
Teenage sex is great for teenagers, compared to sex between adults its poor.
>>16768947
20 year old speaking here.
Lost virginity at 15/16
blow job was (at the time) one of the best experiences ever.
Sex at 20 is way better
Its not about the age.
It about how good you get at it from past experiences.
Why is there no freedom of speech and expression in college?
>speech class
>presentation day
>everyone has to get up front and do a speech on our chosen subject
>my turn
>take deep breath
>try to concentrate, as to not stutter, talk too fast, and too quietly
>herewego.jpg
>do speech on why rape should be legal
>go into detail of biased sexual market
>iterate that because of shitty standards by women, a lot of good men will be unable to reproduce, letting their genetic lie die in place
>point out that women often choose men who are mere threats to genetic population, and only letting the worst people continue on and fucking over society
>end speech saying that legalizing rape will give the human race a better chance, and letting the right being able to carry on after their deaths, and secure a better future for our children and future descendants
>whew, finally done with speech
>pic related, everyone's face when
>"th-that's nice, anon. thank you." said professor
>feminists and chads giving me the stink eye
>the second class ends, everyone bolts out faster than usual
>get email from dean, asking for "a chat"
>placed on academic probation for speech
>saying it's "creating a hostile environment"
>also says my student status will have to be reviewed by end of semester
>might get expelled by the end of the year
Seriously. I thought college was a place where you can express free and intellectual opinions. What happened?
Because being a student at a college means you are part of their image, they want to make their image look good. They view you as a genetic threat to their population. You should have made your rape speech with a little more liberal logic to throw them off, like explain how minorities are more likely to rape and that they haven't quite conformed to society yet, women should be more understanding and not racist.
Jesus. No common sense with you. You have free speech, you just chose to use it on things that will alienate you. That's an idiotic topic to do a speech on. If it were a debate, that'd be a bit better, but showing you believe rape is okay just made all the guys wanna beat your ass and the girls want to stay away from you because they fear you'll rape them.
That being said, I hope this is bait.
>>16767897
>paying money and going into debt to be brainwashed at a government run progressive liberal indoctrination center.
Best goy!
i really dont know if this question is stupid or not, whatever, roast me. actually please dont... but seriously what are these? ive had them for a long time, and im only 18. please.
ps i know my hair looks bad too so dont roast me for that either
>>16766543
WOW YOUR HAIR REALLY DOES LOOK BAD, I WAS TOTALLY GOING TO COMMENT ON THAT AND NOT THE BAGS UNDER YOUR EYES YOU GOT FROM SLEEP DEPREIVATION
pic 2, several months ago
>>16766545
sleep deprivation. thats what i thought too but, most of the time i sleep pretty normal, i think... i am always tired though... so i dont know. it seems like i usually get at LEAST 8 hours of sleep.
oh, and i forgot to ask. how the FUCK do i get rid of them?
Guy who wants to wait until marriage for sex here.
Do women that think this way even exist? Sure I see them from time to time on TV or the internet, but looking around in real life leads me to the conclusion that these are incredibly rare exceptions, as I have literally never met a woman who saves herself for marriage in real life.
I'm starting to question whether my stance is worth it or if I should just give up and become a male slut while I still can (as this would be better than never having sex at all because of my ""high standard"").
What do you think I should do?
the odds are definetely against you
sex after marriage is a thing of the past, nowadays teenagers are influenced by pop music who talk about sex, promiscuity, etc
it's still possible to find someone who have the same values as you do, but it will be extremely rare imho
you might have to actually pursue a group or a place where people share your views
>>16765710
Not anymore, modern women are absolute trash tier. you have to go out of the country find a woman that's actually good.
>>16765758
>you have to go out of the country find a woman that's actually good.
Fuck this, I planned to move out of my current shithole anyway.
What English speaking country/state do you recommend? Is Texas any good? Will I find traditional Christian qts there?
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