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how do I stop being so aggressive
I go around all the time bullying people, taking other peoples girls, pushing people into things
sleeping with women and compulsive drinking occupies half my spare time, the other half is dedicated to hating things.
people find me lots of fun, mainly because I'm very outgoing and organize a lot of things, some people like my frankness.
some people just like me telling them what to do.
Sounds like a great life. People like you get everything and people follow you like sheep. I've seen this. I know someone like you, but I don't think he feels bad about himself. Do you really? If so, why? Did something happen that made you regret being this way?
>>16774703
>Do you really? If so, why? Did something happen that made you regret being this way?
Time to weaponize empathy, eh?
Though I admit I find it amusing OP wants us to tell him hot to stop telling people what to do. In away it's probably best not to, any group that desperately willing to be herd wouldn't last long if they scattered. Since OP seems to have a shred of decency he's keeping them safe from far worse influences, at the expense of his peace of mind seemingly...
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>>16774703
it's not like I regret it, honestly I'm often frustrated by the people around me lacking spine and/or taking things personally
but I worry that I might be hurting the people around me though my callousness, or subverting their actual goals
it also brings me into very full on conflict with a range of other people, often those in positions of authority who want to rule by that authority instead of by consensus or expertise
a lot of people take one look at me and think "no good can...
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Why can't I get girls. Still at work, so today doesn't count
>>16774117
Need to rotate image first.
>>16774117
>>16774117
because you're so desperate to get one, they smell your desperation, no girl wants a desperate guy kek
>>16774122
I meant 10/10s specially
Day 1292 without a gf...
>>16773682
Why do you want one?
>>16773688
this
>>16773688
because he wants to talk to and fuck somebody like everyone else, you idiot
How can you tell if you're hearing voices?
I really hate to admit this, and even writing it makes me paranoid someone might try to find out where I live and call the cops/hospital on me. Over the past few months I've had this ongoing problem with feeling like there's "another Me" in the back of my mind, constantly insulting me, making me feel awful, calling me a coward. I mean, is it just my consciousness being critical of me, or am I actually hallucinating?
I remember I once saw a therapist, and she tried to get me to talk aloud about...
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>>16773483
Are you on meds? Anything at all?
Another problem I've had sometimes is just random outbreaks of crying. It's really fucking embarrassing, I'm a grown man but all of a sudden my head gets full of all of these fucked up thoughts and I just start tearing up. It's even happened in public and I run into a bathroom or something to try to hide it.
We have Gender and Relationship Generals, why not a Job General?
>Becoming a wageslave
>Finding and Applying to Jobs
>Interview Advice
>Resume and Cover Letter Advice
>Writing or calling with follow-ups
>Negotiating wages and raises
>Promotions and transfers
>Job stories
I've worked at a Steak n Shake on and off for about 4 years total mostly on service, but I've managed the store before and know how to do everything.... I'm going to a trainer class on Monday and I'm not looking forward to it...
I'm also an army reservist, and have been an EMT and a CO. The last two times I went back to SnS the manager didn't even interview me she just was like "Yes! You can come back!"
I guess you can ask this failed wageslave anything.
I quit my first job as a fast food cashier because they were going to make me move stores into a ghetto part of town. Now I am having a hard time getting a job again. It took me applying to about 50 places before I got that one. I have had two people (brother and boyfriend) saying the got me jobs at these two places but no calls or emails or anything.
Even with experience I can't get a fucking easy ass job. What the fuck.
>>16773394
Same. I worked on campus in an administrative/HR role and I can't find work. Been applying to 3 - 5 jobs per day since i graduated in August and I can count the number of callbacks/interviews I've received on one hand.
I guess I've been operating on the false premise that I am entitled to a job that pays 20 to 30 thousand a year and I can't even find retail or cashier jobs.
I am going to starve
>Been with my BF for 9 years now
>Both turning 26 this year
>Topic of marriage and children is starting to become pressuring
>Personally against marriage, but willing to compromise because he would like it
>Absolutely against having kids, but he wants them
And this is where issues surface.
I am pretty positive that popping kids would be the worst mistake of my life. I've thought about it long and hard,...
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>>16773179
In every single situation like this the people I know either agreed mutually or the relationship ended.
If you're good with kids, what's your problem with motherhood?
>>16773272
inb4 career woman.
if you don't want kids don't have them. Just because you like the dude doesn't mean you'll be happy with him.
Every girl I talk to only wants to come to my place and as soon as I say I can't do that they stop talking to me. Why can't girls just have me over? I can't have girls over because I'm like bottom 1 percent of poverty and I have senile parents
How do you bang girls when you live with parents?
just say you're gonna go on holiday and rent a hotel
>>16773191
That's $100 to hang out ONCE I want a relationship I'm so alone
tell them you're taking care of your senile parents and would rather not
or go out to a bar
how is this a problem
yo guys,
so there is this girl i met at university. shes the first female friend i ever had and i fell deperately in love with her. the sad thing is that i found out that she already has a boyfriend whom she never ever mentioned. we are talking every day with each other and i think we have that special connection, where you can basically talk about anything. im really a beta so i never tried to get flirty or something.
what are the chances she likes me more than a friend or what should i do?
>>16772983
It's very unlikely. People that aren't socially stunted can make friends and bond with people. You're socially stunted, she's not, and she probably thinks you're just a good friend.
You can confess to her, but you're probably just going to make things very awkward (and lose out on a friend). Still, as long as you can deal with rejection and move on, it's in your best interest to get it all out.
>>16772993
sadly, you are right. i was thinking the same way, just needed a 2nd opinion. thanks for that.
gotta move on
>>16772983
> i think we have that special connection.
This is the first thing that go on beta's mind, stop overreacting.
Theres a women's group that meets in my neighborhood, I attend their meetings regularly. One of the members brought a guest to the a group... she was dressed very reserved and looked to be asian american. During discussion time she seemed detached and disengaged the whole time, at one point she opened a laptop and started playing some sort of game. When we began discussing topics about the struggles of overweight women, she still just ignored the discussion and seemed like she didn't want to be there. Her friend kept nudging her to join the discussion but she almost seemed to be annoyed by the whole thing even though the issues we were discussing should have been important to her. When they left I approached her friend and her and asked how they liked the meeting, her friend was excited and happy to see a women's group being started in our town, the girl in question just shrugged and wouldn't say anything until I prodded a little, then she just said "The food was ok" and that was it.
How could she not be interested in these issues? I am sure she had to have struggled with them being a minority, overweight, and a woman. She seemed so disconnected and disinterested... could it have been she was just uncomfortable? her friend is going to try to bring her again, but it won't do any good if we can't reach her... what should the group do to perhaps... ease her in better? or make her more interested?
Other places I have asked for advice told me she is likely ignorant, or doesn't care about the discussion... some people on tumblr said she likely has internalized misogyny... but to be honest, I think she might have just been bored. I don't know... my group needs all the members it can get.
Are you sure it was a woman? Asians all look the same.
It's understandable that you would want to involve her and keep her coming back, but honestly group therapy or support groups aren't for everyone. Without knowing why she was disinterested you can't know what to do.
All you really can do is talk to her like you did. Be polite and nice and hope she gets more involved.
>>16772900
Honestly I understand her position. When I was younger I was much more passionate about it, but now I realize it doesn't matter. People just want to talk without making a difference. They just want to vent.
You don't need the details, all you need to know is that tonight I'm having sexual intercouse with my girlfriend.
It's the first time for the both of us so... any advice?
Any advice at all?
after the first stroke in the v, pull out and put it in her pooper
>>16772727
Fuck off we don't care
It's likely going to be awkward for you and a little painful for her. Keep that in mind and don't approach it like you're in a porno. Take it slow.
Student turned this in what do I even say.
>>16772703
help him build the robot
report to police/nsa/fbi/cia/dea
future school shooter
Keep the spider robot spare parts in a locked cabinet.
Is it racist to only want to marry a white guy if you're black?
yes, very clearly.
however you could argue sexual preferences are an acceptable form of racism. Racism being 'acceptable' trips people up which is why you're confused about it.
>>16772454
nah, it's called common sense.
>>16772454
it is but there's nothing wrong about it
My boyfriend told me his friends (girls) are prettier than me, but I shouldn't worry, because he doesn't choose girlfriends by looks. I feel like he basically called me ugly, plus his friends are actually not pretty at all...His best friend is his ex and he also thinks she looks better. He says there is no reason to be offended. Am I being irrational?
>>16772239
If my boyfriend ever told me another chick was prettier than me, all of my attraction to him would shrivel and die.
>>16772239
what a cock.
>>16772239
>Yo, don't be offended, but - based on looks - I'd rather put my dick in somebody else
What prompted that conversation, anyway? How retarded you've got to be to say that to your SO?
Basically, my girlfriend in college has no friends and nothing she wants to do to get involved with anything or anyone else on campus. All she does is hang out with me in my room and I'm getting tired of not having my own space.
How do I help her get out and live her own life in college instead of following me around like a lost puppy?
>>16772134
Dump her and she'll blossom.
>>16772134
maybe if you weren't always in your room, available to hang out, she would be forced to do other things.
yeah, your gf being a friendless, lazy cunt is the male's fault too.
>>16772142
I'm not always in my room though. I'm out half of the day and when I'm gone too long, she gets mad at me for not being with her.
Also please don't blame me for her problems.
My biological dad wants to meet me. My mom had me when she was 15 and he didn't want to be a father at the time so he left. He reached out to me and wants to get to know me now.
Should I meet with him?
>>16772043
Well, what do you think?
>>16772043
Meet with him, that's your dad yo.
But first punch him in the fucking dick for being a deadbeat asshole.
I would meet him just to call him a dumb faggot.
If you have no desire to you can simply say you're not interested, and that's the end of that.
