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Came from /b/ to talk about some serious shit (at least for me).
Need advice on how to get my crush's interest, don't know how to catch her attention and rigjt now I feel she only looks at me as "that friend of her friend who once drove her home after the party".
Pic related, her uhmm backpack?
>>16757885
>twig body
>no ass
>that sweater
you can do better anon.
>>16757896
Which is why you can go bold and move on if she's not interested. Easy. I think ?
Inhaling gasoline fumes for about 10 minutes tends to solve all my problems. You should give it a try
How do you defend a communist perspective as a lowly debater? I've already done the "It takes a village to raise a child" BS but I need something more substantial
I don't know about communism per se, but you can point out the severe deficiencies of the current economic model and the systemic failures of the free market. I don't know enough about modern communist thought to offer anything more than that.
What do you guys talk about on dates? Assume the girl is a proper girl (not looking for a hookup)
Do you ask questions about her? How do you prevent it being an interrogation? How do you make the date fun and her want to talk to you more?
Guys and girls input please
>>16757861
Talk about her and what she does.
Tell antidotes.
Talk about yourself and what you do.
Comment on the date.
>>16757870
>Tell antidotes
>antidotes
Just ask what kind of music or movies she likes.
I would go with music though because it's much more personal.
Make sure that you don't talk too much about yourself but let her do most of the talking unless she asks about you (which would also mean she's interested).
Usually that gets a good conversation going.
Good luck.
How do I go about making friends when I have a toxic personality?
No matter where I go or how often I use different usernames in games or forums, I get massive amounts of hate. It's not limited to the internet either, i've been barred from stores and restaurants, i've been kicked out of volunteer activities (most recent was helping clean a homeless shelter), and everyone that i've caught forcing themselves to spend time with me always look so defeated and worn out.
This problem has gotten to me so much that i've started wearing audio recorders on myself to try and figure what I did wrong when shit hits the fan, and even got regular meetings with psychiatrists to figure out whats happening, and when I bring in records of what happens to the psychiatrists office upon his request, he says he can't hear anything wrong.. It literally feels like someones been actively fucking me over my whole life.
I'm at a point where if some miracle doesn't happen soon I wont be able to live a normal life. I'm 26 years old, haven't had a friendship last longer than a few days, and even asking people what i've done wrong gets me nowhere because they just call me an awful person. I feel like im missing a vital part of my brain because neither I nor anyone else seems to be able to put the pieces together to figure out why i'm such a hate-able person.
No, i'm not going to kill myself, dying doesn't solve anything, it just makes the person unaware that things are happening, there is no relief, its not different than going to sleep and never waking up.
Pic kinda related, I feel like that old woman and that my phsychiatrist is the black guy.
>>16757850
Your best bet would be to see a psychologist or something. It sounds like you have quite a complex issue which I'm sure none of us are fully qualified to try and help you with unfortunately.
Good luck mate, I hope you pull through.
>>16757882
P.S you should pay close attention to body language when you're with others (not just their body language but yours too).
seen this bait before
I can't stand school. I got my associate's and I'm working on my bachelor's now (just started this semester) but I can't fucking stand it. I've been fucking around the past 2 weeks and as a result have missed a fuck ton of assignments.
I am very tempted to just drop out and look for a job. I already have a bit of professional work experience (tech job) at a legit company, but I was just there one year. I also have vocational school experience from back in high school (2 years) in network admin and information systems.The thing is, my A.S. is in Social Science and I'm currently working on a Bachelor's in Psych.
What am I gaining by finishing a Bachelor's in Psychology versus quitting and looking for some tech-related job?
I'd really just like to make music for a living, but I feel like that's damn near impossible.
Help, /adv/. I don't know what to do with my life.
>>16757848
Before the STEM brigade arrives, do you have any preference in psych-related jobs? If not, you should drop for at least a year or so.
I'm a psych major too, so I'll try to be of neutral help.
>>16757873
>do you have any preference in psych-related jobs
Not in particular, no. But I really don't know the extent of opportunities out there for a B.S. in Psych.
help
I got laid off last July and I purposely didn't look for work because I was finishing the last semester of my undergrad and took two other 500 level classes to put myself in a good position for grad school.
I have had friends tell me this makes me look lazy and I need to spin it somehow. What do you guys think?
>>16757835
being unemployed for a long period of time does work against you.
but you were in enrolled in school. you can show proof of that if they ever ask for it. it won't count against you.
if you're unemployed and doing fuck all for 6-12+ months then yeah, it's a red flag for recruiters.
>>16757844
The job requires transcripts, so that won't be a problem.
This is probably gonna seem really fucking dumb but bare with me if you will.
Broke up with my first long term girlfriend last year, took some time to do some soul searching and lived a little.
I started thinking of all the things I liked about my ex. She had some serious issues which is why the relationship dissolved but there was quite a bit that I liked about the relationship. First and foremost was the feeling that I could just let loose around her and not worry about offending her. I'm sure it sounds childish but it was actually quite liberating to be able to curse freely and have her do the same. I could essentially just be myself and not worry about anything.
Now, I started seeing another girl a few months ago, and she's great. She's in a much more stable position, emotionally and otherwise than my ex. But I'm not feeling the same level of freedom around her that I was with my ex. I don't know if it's just a matter of time; to be honest I don't remember how long it took for my ex and I to reach that level. But it worries me a bit. Maybe I'm just desperate to get that back and it's clouding my judgment a bit.
Anyway, how do I handle this? Should I just wait and see if I eventually reach this level with the new girl? Do I talk to her about it directly?
fucking bump
hey anons, any advice for a NEET who dropped out of college, went to the loony bin, and is now forced to make a change or get speeneled for the rest of his life?
I just finished my turd of a resume, going to a temp agency soon, was thinking of emailing tonight and waiting for a reply.
Going for an admin assistant position. Hope to push papers in a 9-5 eventually, for now trying for a PT. Get back in the swing of things.
go back to college
>>16757851
cant at least for a year, I was put on leave until 2017 to see a shrink and Im poor so I need money to go and money to live.
well I would apply to more places then in the meantime while you wait for a response for the admin assistant position. try to look unto financial aid as well to get you started with school again.
I have a Doctors Appointment in the morning (16 hours from now), and I'm hoping to leave with a Doctors Note to give me time off from school (university). All I've told them is I have a cold over the phone.
I'm basically perfectly healthy right now though. So how would you recommend me getting from 1/27/16 to 2/03/16 excused?
My jobs increased my hours from 24 to 40-50 the past couple weeks since people quit recently. To be honest I'm just stressed out. It's Black History Month in the USA. . . This is the Blackest thing I can do right now to honor my Brothers and Sisters - so please help me out.
I'll be back later then
Holy shit /adv/ice, excuse my shite photoshop skills, and my alpha nature of fucking the system
Guess im 2 hardcore for y'all.
>>16757816
>Doctors Note
>university
This ain't high school buddy, you don't have to go to class.
If you really love your SO how long do you think the appropriate time would be to ask them to marry you. She moved in with me a month ago an we were been together for a few months but we talked about past experiences and what we want from each other so we're very happy together.
I don't think there's a standard 'appropriate' time... my bf and I have been together for two years and I'd feel weird if he asked me to marry him, but I'm also very happy with him. Unfortunately you kinda have to just feel it out on your own.
has to be substantially after the end of the honeymoon phase
>>16757777
77 months.
He rejected me. Now he texted me.
Why does he do that?
Don't worry, same thing happened to me with a girl I met in college. She clearly rejected me, yet still texts me every 3-4 months telling me how much she loves and misses me
yet that is all I ever hear, even when I reply back she doesn't reply back
Some people just like to hold onto people, even if they have no intent of pulling them closer. it's pure selfishness.
>>16757760
He still thinks about you. Aww.
>>16757771
I honestly don't think it's purely cause of attention seeking. He has never been that way. Not his style really.
Is it ethical for an recently turned 21 year old to date an almost 18 year old?
Yes.
I'm dating a 19 year old and I'm 26.
>>16757759
Yes it's fine. Go for it bro.
The golden rule is "half your age + 7", so I would say yes.
Everyone including instructor is an athletic-type fit guy. And then there was me. Socially anxious mtf scared out of my mind and also can't do a single push-up right now
Not sure I'll make it desu :(
>>16757737
Everyone has to start somewhere. Keep going
>>16757737
>mtf
>weight lifting
Shouldn't you be doing the opposite of lifting weights. I mean if you wanna exercise do cardio then.
>>16757768
Have no idea desu. Will be interesting to see if I bulk up. When I started HRT I lost a lot of weight from muscle loss, even though I was lazy and sedentary as a boy. It might be hard to build muscle mass. But everyone says weights is best exercise for health. I want the best health!
I've failed the drivers knowledge test 3 times. Can I get a waiver for mental disability.
>>16757708
yes its called suicide
>>16757714
Quickest method?
>>16757708
you're just a shit driver. get a non- driver ID and buy yourself a rascal scooter. you don't need to pass a driver's test to ride on one of those
>>16757699
Days go by, and school starts again and I meet her again and we act like usual. At the end of our band practice, I wait with her for her train like I usually do. When her train arrives, she says "Ok, see you, dunno when" (or something like that, it's hard to translate perfectly) and looks sincere and almost sad when saying it.
So I immediately thought she were referring to going to the movies with me and that I was the one who had canceled it or something or if I had done anything to make her sad or to make her think that I didn't want to bring her for a date or some shit I dunno, girls can be sensitive, and I know this girl is very sentimental. So I write her another message to ask her if she was interested after all, or if not and she thought it would be weird or something I would like it if she just answered no.
>once again, no answer on message
So I go on to ignore her completely irl to see how she reacts.
>She kinda ignores me back. We don't interact or talk, but she still seems to want my attention, she just doesn't say anything
Is she just being shy at this point?
>>16757707
So I loosen up after a week and start talking to her again like normal. So I finally asked her today in person, since I got the opportunity to talk to her alone. I said to her that I didn't mean to make her uncomfortable by asking her to go to the movie with me. We then talk for a little while and she says a couple of things I take note of.
>Because of a couple of experiences, I shouldn't get close to someone
It was unclear whether she meant that she was afraid she would fall in love, or if she was afraid of falling in love and getting rejected
>I just need some more time
She didn't specify what she needed time for
>She mentioned that she didn't know what I meant when I asked her to go to the movie
So she didn't know if I meant it was a date or just as friends? She didn't specify whether of the two she wanted/didn't want.
She also seemed kind of teary eyed at the end of the conversation.
I have no idea how to interpret this, or what to do now. I'll meet her in school tomorrow. Should I ask her if we can talk more about it or to specify? Is there anything else I can do? Should I just "give her time" whatever that means?
Thank you for reading, anon. It took a lot of time to write and I appreciate any help.
>>16757699
>know her personally
>still using facebook to try and set things up
Use a phone like an adult, faggot. Or better yet, ask her in person. Most girls want to date men, not other girls. Find your nuts, dude.
>>16757725
Did you even read the whole thing? I didn't have her number anyways, so I didn't have much of a choice then
