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OMG, I'm so wise. Ask me anything.
>>16759904
Waht is the half life of strontium 90?
>>16759904
Explain the Albigensenist Heresy.
>>16759904
How much wood would a woodchuck chuck if a woodchuck would chuck wood?
Do you trust your instincts? Your gut feel? How often are your instincts correct? For me it is almost always, I used to ignore them, think them false and deny them because I was a fedora tier atheist but long ago I changed my mind. Now because of that I am married, but 2 years after starting the relationship with my wife I'm resenting it.
Now my instincts are telling me to separate from my wife and go for a woman at my work who I feel attracted to. What do I do? Is marriage just a word? Now I think getting married was a dumb idea. I think had a bad feeling about it going into it and none of it feels right.
1. Don't shit where you eat, don't fuck where you work.
2. If you keep following your "instincts" as in "i want to put my dick in every qt i see" you'll eventually end up lonely because you get old and the qt's won't.
>>16759945
I don't mean like base instincts but like higher instincts I guess? It's hard to explain. I think more base instincts should be controlled but intuition should be encouraged. Why not fuck where you work? There are two married couples at my work. Granted I don't know if they met *at* work. I have heard of other people who met at work and gotten married and so on.
It's not like this girl is a qt as such, I mean she is not uggo but not conventionally beautiful either (although I find her beautful). I just have this inuition about her. I think maybe I am feeling this way because getting married has made me isolated, I basically don't see any other people except my wife so I have no chance to talk things out and move on. Is that a catch 22?
>>16759958
>Why not fuck where you work?
if it doesn't work out you have to face you ex every fucking day.
>getting married has made me isolated
That's sad. Just talk to your wife damnit. That is the first thing you should do when you feel like this or like something else.
Working shit out together is what marriage stands for.
So this bitch I fuck on the side told me she loves me and wants a chance.
The thing: She fucks about 6 other guys on the side. lol
She's one of those polygamy and amorshit faggots
seriously?
Is she mormon?
So a girl I'm dating kissed with her ex of four years after we broke up. She used coke and confessed they kissed.
She started crying in my arms after she confessed. We've decided to give it a go again but I'm getting unsure if I can do this. She says she has no attraction to him at all and wants me. Seems genuine. Still I think she's a total cunt for meeting up with her ex, who is batshit insane and abused her in the past.
What do?
>>16759746
I think it's petty to be so resentful over a kiss, if that's all that happened. You broke up with her, she thought it was over and was confused and lonely. How is she a total cunt for meeting up with someone after you broke up? Did she break up with you or the other way around?
...Just stay broken up.
You were broken up. That was your fault not hers. But she sounds messed up anyways.
Drop her. Shouldn't even have considered getting back together, let alone ''takng her in your arms'' kissing another dude 4 hours after you break up. ''Seems genuine'' in this case is as genuine as the ''seems legit'' meme. Stop being idiotic and move on. Coke AND kissing an abusive as fuck ex? Enough Red Flag to make Mao consider not shooting up your family for not paying to live.
I'm fat.
What do?
Lose weight or try to gain weight and break the human weight record
Boys loathe fat girls
Someone help please
push-ups and sit-ups
once you start doing them, they become ez and surprisingly effective
can i post someones facebook profile and tell people to spam him?
>>16759712
This! Not your personal army!
/thread
but its the deep web guys
>>16759754
It's not
What's the best way to ask out and date a weeb chick with social anxiety?
tell her you're just a guy who dates women for fun
>>16759637
Say weaboo stuff to her.
One of my coworkers' boyfriends asked her out by learning to say "will you be my girlfriend" in Japanese. She said yes but then schooled him on intimacy in Japanese society and how that probably wouldn't have flown if they were actually Japanese.
I thought it was a cute sentiment though.
>>16759650
#JustAutistThings
I want to quit my shit job and travel the world.
Job pays good (40G's) but I hate it with every bone of sentiment in my body. I wake up everyday before work and wish I could just go back to sleep. My youth is rapidly wasting away in that god, awful fuck-hole.
What should I do? How should I do it?
Do it, faggot
>>16759596
I want to...bad...just don't know how. I have little income and my only incentive is a pipe dream.
...
So... do the people that make threads about killing themselves actually kill themselves /adv/?
lol of course not, they all pussy out
nope
actual suicidal people don't reach out for /adv/
they just do it.
There was this one time when some guy tried it and streamed everything but he didn't die.
I do public speaking shit and I'm asking this in a hope that I can get a better idea of how to differentiate the two to my audience. These are simply general trends I've encountered so I'm working from that as a basis.
>I feel like you're mixing up things. When men speak about loyalty, they mean not cheating on their girlfriend. So yeah, women do consider that an obligation. To me, loyalty just sounds like a looser term for obligation, meaning that a man might more quickly renounce his loyalty, since they don't consider it an obligation? I am a 21 year old female and I seem to agree that loyalty implies obligation. I don't understand where I am wrong?
This anon isn't that far off from what my message is.
What I try to get across is that Loyalty is different from Obligation. As we use the word in modern society obligation usually refers to something you are contractually or otherwise bound to do. Something conditional so to speak. Such as abiding by certain rules at work to keep your job, paying rent so you have somewhere to live, or paying taxes.
Loyalty is pure obligation. Which would be someone doing something without being bound to do so. Things like paying tithes, having someone's back as a friend without expecting anything in return, or even donating because they feel like it. I want to avoid using "pure obligation" if possible since it seems to add to confusion.
Using comparisons such as a patriotic person being drafted for a war vs a non-patriotic person sometimes work but it sucks being so ineffectual at times.
And on top of all that I have more difficulty explaining things to women because of things like what that femanon said. People do shit like that which isn't really a display of loyalty and it ends up distorting what it actually means in the eyes of others.
The anon in this pic gave me some insight, but I'm still at quite a bit of a loss at how to proceed writing this next speech I'll have to give.
>>16759381
Also I have noticed that when people come to me after the session saying they don't understand even if I get an average of the same amount of men and women coming to me the guys seem to get it without me having to go that far into the differences, but the women don't. So I was thinking it might be more of a society based thing and as this anon made clear to me if it IS I have no clue what the reason is. I don't get why a good number of the guys seem to get it so easily either but they oftentimes take the rest of the explanation out of my mouth.
>>16759381
To be honest it seems like you're just mixing up this soup of vague semantics and extended metaphors.
I'm afraid that your audience members who "get it" are probably just filling in the gaps of your vague ideas with their own confirmation bias. Anyone who is actually listening and trying to understand your underlying idea is confused because it sounds thought provoking, but there's not really much substance behind your words.
Oh, it's you again. Mr 'Why Don't Women Know What Loyalty Means Based on Tiny Technicalities and Semantics'
Is having children worth it /adv? Financial stuff and responsibilities don't scare me, I fear bringing a thinking feeling creature into the world with the risk that it will not be happy or will harm others. I'm not sure what to think about this.
>>16759377
you should adopt.
I just don't see the point in making more people when there are ones that need a family. It just seems inefficient.
Kids aren't good for the environment. If you have kids, teach them to understand reality and not fairy tales. Teach them to be strong in a crisis and willing to fight. Teach them that words don't hurt, even though the tongue is mightier than the sword. You have to teach a child if you're going to bring it up in the world. If you're going to be Louis CK's father character in Louie, have a kid. But don't have one just because time is running out, or because it's the next logical thing to do.
>>16759400
Most people want to give birth to their own offspring and take care of it, and not other`s.
>try to sleep
>dad coughs up a lung literally every minute
>hear him sniffling coughing and gurgling shit all night
Is there a way for poorfags to get away from these monsters known as parents?
>>16759339
Its called a job.
>>16759339
They're called earplugs.
>>16759356
>he lives in a rural area where people can get affordable rent
Relationship with my GF of about 16 months has gone cold. We haven't had sex in close to 2 months and I'm always the one who has to initiate it. I tried talking to her about it and she doesn't think there's a problem, it's like trying to communicate with a wall. Also the sex has been super boring for the past 6 months or so. The only real physical contact not initiated by me is pecks and hand-holding. Tried sending her a playful, sexy text this weekend and got met with a deadpan response which ended in an argument.
There's no spark and we talk and hang out like friends. I think I'm gonna break up with her this weekend. Sucks because over the past year we shared a lot together. We were each other's best friends for the entire relationship. But it's making me unhappy and I'm starting to resent her for it so it needs to end I think.
BTW, I'm not so shallow that this is the only issue. We've also had some big fights. And the fact that I can't ever get her to communicate about anything has been a common theme for almost the entire relationship.
She comes from a pretty emotionally abusive home and she has a VERY hectic schedule (works about 50 hours a week, goes to school) so I'm sure these things at least contribute to the problem. Confusing thing is, it wasn't like this at first. I used to be just fine with our sex life but then something changed.
Couple more facts: I moved to a city 1.5 hours away like 5 months ago for various reasons, so the distance could also have something to do with it. Also, I've explored the possibility that she's cheating, and I'm fairly sure that's not the case.
Are our lives just going in different directions? A big part of me would hate to break up with her, but more and more I feel like it would be the most fair thing for both of us.
Any insight is appreciated.
>>16759250
Sex is like a barometer for how your relationship is going. Once the sex dries up there are generally other problems. If she's not even willing to communicate with your about this it will just get worse and worse. You had a good run, but it's time to ramble on.
>>16759284
How can I do this tactfully? Should it be ASAP or would it be ok to wait until like sunday afternoon when I see her this weekend?
I haven't seen her in a couple weeks and all I can think is I at least want one more night just to hold her.
>>16759303
It's best to do it in person, but don't expect to hold her again. It's supposed to hurt. Just tell her you're not feeling loved, not feeling like a priority. Just be honest that you feel like it's best and you're lives are going different places. don't try and "break it to her easy" because that just confuses people. Don't ry and "be friends" after, because then it's impossible to get over each other. Think of it like a band-aid. The quicker you rip it off, the quicker it's over.
I'd like to start off by saying that this isn't me throwing myself a pity party, it's me actually looking for advice on how to change my life for the better. mu biggest issues in life right now are my inability to get laid, and my complete and utter boredom/lack of motivation in life.
>be me
>19
>7-8/10
>on medication for depression, keeps it at bay for the most part but I've had suicidal thoughts in the past
>hated HS, thought it was insanely boring, serious depression
>Got over my depression, dated a 9/10 awesome girl senior year, she was a junior, was my first GF
>the farthest we got was a HJ
>Broke up with me the summer before college because she couldn't look at me without thinking about how I was going to be off at college with other women in a few months
>Went to college with tons of confidence and energy
>Roommate is insane, picture the most offensive stereotype of a gay black guy, that's him. Hangs gay porn on the walls and his bed is covered in semen stains. Snores EXTREMELY loud. He does annoying shit so I make fun of him and as a result we hate each other
>rest of my floor is the football team, all extremely annoying
>completely isolated on my floor as a result
>I've made ~5 decent friends and many acquaintances, but don't feel super close with any of them. Feel really alone all the time
>Haven't hooked up with anyone, then again haven't met any girls that I really want to fuck here
I'll post the rest as a reply, field too long.
>>16759248
So that's what brings me to my current situation. Because of all the shit I'm dealing with, I've just accepted feeling like shit, and as a result I just feel empty. I don't care about anyone. I'm not socially awkward, but I've grown so apathetic that no one wants to get to know me because they sense my apathy and assume that I don't like them. I try to act nice but it just feels fake and gross to me. I wish I could be nice and warm, but I just feel so empty. Not depressed, just empty. I don't want to do anything. I have to force myself to go to class, and I don't have the energy to do my readings/HW. My weekends consist of me getting insanely drunk and going to parties, even though I hate them, just in an effort to meet new people. The only time I'm truly happy is when I go home to visit my friends.
I honestly don't know what to do. I don't feel depressed, or hate myself, I just feel hollow and dead inside.
the most concerning thing to me here is that youre not taking your academics seriously, if you can't muster the effort to do your work eventually when you get further along in your studies and have to put forward 100% of your effort you wont be able to and you'll start failing classes until you eventually flunk out. It may be time to take a long sober look as to whether college is really for you.
>>16759261
I completely agree. I'm a smart person, I got into a decent school with a massive scholarship, but I get by in HS because it was insanely easy, and I cheated quite a bit. College really isn't for me, it bores the hell out of me and I hate classroom learning but I don't see any other option honestly. I need to make a lot of money to support the lifestyle that I want, and it's unlikely that I'll be able to without a college degree. It sucks, but it's better than the alternative.
>work at a restaurant
>I am liked by all my coworkers
>this one cute girl laughs at my jokes
>shes 21 and i'm 28 though...
>i am still relatively attractive and not neckbeard virgin
how do i make my move bros. i just want to see if she would be open to kissing. i think she likes me a lot as a person/coworker but how do i gauge if she would be ok for a little intimacy?
>shitting where you eat
> girl laughs at my jokes
> she wants the D
Are you okay with working with someone that rejected your advances? Or working with someone that you dated and then broke up with? I'd find it awkward as fuck but if it's okay with you, go for it
