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Help me out with a REALLY tough situation, /adv/. I'm 31, and my wife is 30. We're both doctors, doing alright. We're not rich because we have lots of student debt, but we're managing. Our relationship is GREAT.
Here's the thing. In our 11 years together, we've almost never discussed children. In fact, it's only really come up fairly recently... it's obvious my wife's biological clock is ticking. She says she wants to have a kid. It's not the most important thing to her, but she'd be "heartbroken" if it...
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Do bumps still work? Trying once.
>>16766229
It's a big decision and not for everyone, but if everything is right with your wife and you, I'd consider it. Being a parent changes you, not for the good or bad, but your priorities change.
Maybe try becoming a foster parent of an older child or a mentor. It's easier to disengage from that sort of relationship if you can't handle it.
I need some help. I want to become a true alpha male and be manly in general. I go to the gym, try to wear nice clothes, stand up straight, and these sorts of things, but i feel very fake. Also i suck at talking to people, most of the time they are predictable and boring, and i get this mixture of disinterest and lack of subjects to talk about. It pains me to small talk to people and i don't know what to do about it. I have good body language too, but i find it hard to make eye contact because that, to me, usually implies that i'm going to say something, and that goes back to the problem.
what do i do?
...you have really bizarre priorities if you care about personifying some kind of alpha male bullshit.
Why not just be yourself and work on goals that at least make some sense/
>>16766276
Because i don't want to be weak and lie to myself that i am being the best that i can. I want to be more manly and powerful.
Fake it til you make it.
I tied a noose and stared at it for awhile. It's still hanging there and I'm contemplating whether or not I should do it.
Don't do it. Ending your life is pointless, tragic and terrible.
You could just see a psychiatrist instead. Things can improve -- but you need treatment to even see that, sometimes.
So just get the treatment you need and don't pointlessly commit suicide, pl0x.
How to find a mental health provider: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/mental-illness/in-depth/mental-health-providers/art-20045530
How to find a therapist: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/how-to-find-therapist
Dealing with suicidal thoughts: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/suicide-prevention/suicide-help-dealing-with-your-suicidal-thoughts-and-feelings.htm
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>>16766178
>>16766178
thing is I don't see any reason to go on living, my grades in college are terrible, my gf despises and uses me, i'm lonely, my room is such a mess that it smells and there are bugs everywhere.
I'm just an all around horrible person too.
I don't think those things would save me...
>>16766183
Why don't you sell all your shit and travel the world. Or try psychedelic drugs. If you haven't tried all the options then why kill yourself. You might find happiness and peace somewhere else. If you've tried it all, seen the entire world and still feel like this you can always kill yourself later. But not before you've tried every option first
Halp. I faked sick the last two days and my girlfriend is pissed I didn't message her all day to tell her I stayed home. All I did was play video games and smoke weed and got some chores done. She keeps making it a big issue that I don't call her when I take days off, even if they're last moment. She gets home and first thing is to tell me I hurt her.
I tell her she's controlling me on leash and she tells me this is normal and I'm being a stubborn child.
You sound like a dick and you're lucky your gf hasn't dumped you yet.
Talk to your fucking girlfriend, or another guy will.
This time next year you'll be complaining about how much you miss her.
>>16766028
Maybe my gf's the dick? She doesn't care about what my job is doing to me after I told her I did this from stress. She just cares that I'm not doing what she asked me to do.
It sounds so cliche and autistic, but I don't think I have genuinely felt happy in a while.
I always feel like I'm bullshitting my emotions when I'm around people, even really close friends. I even started going to therapy and I still can't open up to my therapist. It just feels wrong for me, but at the same time I feel like a husk of a human being. Like I'm trying to hide my true self.
What do?
Do you ever tell people that? Like exactly what you wrote, the whole contents of your post right there?
>>16766039
Nope. Ill try but then pussy out and blame myself for being off for being sleep deprived or overloaded with school. It sounds reasonable since I'm a CS major at a competitive school, but the reality is I spend most of my time playing games and then study a little bit before an exam or a homework assignment and end up doing well.
>>16766079
...For being off because of sleep deprivation or being overloaded from school*
>Girlfriend tends to want to be left alone when she's in a bad mood about something
>Whenever this happens I feel crazy anxious because I assume she's mad at me about something (even though she usually isn't)
What do I do about this?
>>16765776
Get a hobby
>>16765789
My hobbies don't take my mind off it.
I just wish she'd communicate what's going on with me better. Sometimes she'll act like somethings off/she's annoyed by me talking to her, then she'll just randomly say "can you just leave me alone" and whenever I ask why or what's going on she'll either ignore me or keep saying "just leave me alone".
>>16765810
She's probably just mad that Jamal came inside her again after she said not to.
Is there an option to "ignore" someone on Facebook without actually blocking them? One of my friends removed me for no apparent reason so I sent her a friend request. When I go back to her page, I only have the option of messaging her now. There isn't a button to cancel or send a friend request. pic unrelated
unfollow
>>16765521
She took me off of her friends list completely.
>>16765498
in your security settings should be something that would help you with that.
To lazy to look into it for you because normiebook is fucking stupid.
What should I do if I hear a QT3.14 I have a crush on doesn't like to date and would rather focus on grades
Tell her a worry-free casual-sex-only relationship is fine too.
I told this to a girl I liked the other day because I was too nervous to ask her out.
I'm probably gonna ask her out soon anyway.
>>16765451
Tell her you can teach her a lot of things that she won't find in her books.
Seriously though, she told you this or are the just gossip?
Hey /adv/ Would it be smart to get a practice girlfriend? i have a lot of 4-5/10 that like me, i've only had one kiss before and i when maybe i find someone that i really like i dont want to fuck it up.
if i did how would i keep it low profile, because i really dont want anyone to know that im dating some one just for practice and i dont want to hurt her feelings either.
what do?
>>16765364
If you're hiding your 'practice girlfriend' then you're not really practising, are you? The point is to get the full girlfriend experience, and you can't get that if you've hidden the existence of your relationship.
>>16765369
good point.
>>16765364
no. if you dont genuinely like someone, dont date them. sure you dont want to fuck it up with someone good, but wouldnt you rather all your first big romantic experiences to be with someone you actually like?
that being siad, how do you expect to get a girl you actually like if you dont like 4s or 5s? the biggest issue here (other than the fact that you're just using people) is that you seem to think there is a manic pixie girl out there who's at least a 7 that will somehow fall in love with...
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